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Op,try to make peace with your wife.Let your people know about this so some elders can follow you to your wife's place for reconciliation.

You didn't do well by coming back so late as a married man and most likely you didn't even call her on phone.
She provoked you by the continual shouting but next time,enter another room and lock yourself in(if during the day,walk out).There will still be more of this so you better learn to manage it.

Such a sad case.
There should be a law that forbids borrowing for a wedding.
Just cut your coat according to your size.
People will talk but your life will go on.

pweedie:
checked my mail. Can't find any message from you. My mail is jumpes85@gmail.com

Check again,I have re-sent it.

ebyjoyken:
I spend more time with the kids than he does. When we got married, he asked me to live in the village with his mum and sister my parents refused and asked him to get an apartment for me in the city. Which he later did. Since then he hated my family for challenging him.

How do you ladies pick men like this? Don't you date and have an idea what structure you both want to put in place for your marriage?
Why would a husband want to marry a lady and say she will live in the village with his mom and sisters?He feels offended because your family told him no.smh

Anyway,don't let you children be used as pawns in the issues between both of you.
You spend most times with your children so he can't even make them antagonize you.

Hmm,Ibadan is big o.

pweedie:
done. Thanks

Check your mail
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Graxie:
How do you know they are not wanted? How many of the single mom gave the men the option of dropping the kids? Atleast none have said so.

It's obvious from their narratives that they would rather not have anything to do with the children.You can't just drop them with their fathers.
It's better you struggle with them than have them go suffer somewhere else.
Of course in the Western world,you will have them paying alimony.

If it is what she wants,nothing wrong with it as long as she is not getting it through rituals.
She will either find the rich man and marry or keep waiting till rapture.

Blessed.

Winneygirl:
Abuse in marriage...
I'm still trying to understand why/how that keeps happening. As a child of a broken home, I have seen this first hand and it is crazy.
Also, I have seen men who physically abuse their wives, and a number of them come from abusive homes too. Especially where the woman is asked to 'endure' for the sake of her kids.
But are the kids turning out any better?
.
How do we expect children of homes filled with hate, violence, and oppression to build loving homes?
How?
How??

The apple doesn't fall far from the tree.The easiest people for children to model after are the parents.
A child can only go in a different direction
if there is an external influence that is strong like the class teacher or church leader.

If this is real,they must be crazy.
Beg an innocent man to carry a dead body in his car?The guy must be mad to accept.

There was something that attracted her to you before she got pregnant or was it just a booty call?
You were sitting together and laughing at a time,I believe.Something went wrong thereafter.
Did you lose interest in her?Did you stop giving her attention?
I think your wife is frustrated about something.Can you both sit to talk when the atmosphere is right?Can you try to rekindle the flame?

If you try and it doesn't work or your heart is really gone from this relationship,then maybe you both have to go separate ways.
You are married traditionally and if you want to break it,just ask the elders from her place what it takes to annul such.

Leave Ogbanje first.
Two main issues;your health and religious affinity.
If you feel pains on your sides,why don't you run tests to know what the problem really is? Don't just assume.

Have you asked your girlfriend what her family's disposition is towards non-muslims?Will they accept their daughter marrying someone of another faith?

This thread just makes me realise one has to pay attention to the girl child especially when she reaches the age of maturity.One has to have a good relationship and rapport with them and raise in discipline and love.Make God help person too.
The average teenage girl in the words of one of the single mothers here is;

IyaTola:
I was naive and stupid at the same time

Big ups to all the single mothers here.May God shine His face towards you.

Who's behind all these heinous acts?
It takes years of sacrifice to raise a child to that age and then some unscrupulous agents just come to snuff life out of the child and put the family in sorrow.

IAmStrange:
I saw it in my dreams. Imes is coming

As for why I'm the only one, maybe it's because Allaah has decreed that I will have a part to play in his cause or something.

Allaah knows best.

Your moniker says you are strange.Glad you know that already.
You sound like one Atemotum or is it OtumAtem on this Nairaland.
You na dey see many imaginary things.

IAmStrange:
Look, I believe you are advanced in reasoning enough to understand that some people can identify with a name but truly do not practise what that name implies.

We have church of Satan today, don't we? Will it be fair for me to say that that's what Christianity is about; worshipping Satan just because a "church" does So?

So those people who are killing as you said in the name of Salafism may just identify with that name but are extremists

or it's an account that you hears from the media and the same could go do the Saudi Wahabbi propaganda you mentioned.

I don't know much about all that. But I know it could be the work of the media and their stereotypes and false accounts. It's not today they started doing it, is it?

As for why does he have enemies, I also believe your reasoning s advanced enough to understand that the call of truth will surely have enemies. Did Jesus not have His enemies at his time? He has enemies simply because he was guiding people away from the deviant sects they were upon to the true islam.

Jesus never guided anybody to Islam I understand it is one of the feel good statements propagated in Islam.
Everyone needs that feel good though.

Siralgebra04:
U don't need any imaginary spirit to interprete d verse to u, it is very logical. Jesus said he can't do anything on his own i.e he follows d order of a superior (God).

Let me quickly give u a silencer. The verses where Jesus is termed Messenger of God and Prophet. That will settle everything because a messenger does not have power to be a saviour.

Escapist as usual.smh

Siralgebra04:
Jesus doesn't have d power to give u abundant life. God gives. Talk to ur God directly. See below...
I can of my own self do nothing, as I hear I judge and my judgement is just; because I seek not my own will, but the will of the Father which has sent me (John 5:30)

I still have more o. If u quote me again, i will silence u with numerous verses where Jesus is called messenger of God and prophet.

I'm laughing at you.How come you ignored the scripture I gave you?Why don't you start by explaining what it means?


By the way,there is something interesting in the scripture you gave @ bolded
Jesus said,.....'i judge and my judgement is just'.... Jesus called himself a judge and spoke of his(my) judgment.Meditate on that.Light comes to your spirit.

Aruu.

Siralgebra04:
Lol... U need to improve. Now let's set d record straight. The abundant life dat u mentioned actually prompted d word 'Illogical' dat i said. How does believing in Christ brings about abundant life? Does Christ have d power to give one abundant life. Defend ur claim with bible verse and I will break ur mouth with another verse.

John 10:28, KJV: "And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand."

Siralgebra04:
Lol... U want to start d argument u don't have d mental capability to finish. Holy Quran dat we believe in states it dat we should believe in d existence of all prophets and messengers of God (Jesus inclusive). All abundant life u are saying are illogical. We follow what our book teaches us not what ur book teaches, so keep ur abundance.

The book of Buddha teaches something.Anyone can follow what ANY book teaches.It's not about what some book teaches.it is about TRUTH.
The Quran says 'knowledge is with the people of the book'.That means something deep.
Jesus said,ye speak that ye know of but we speak that which we know.....

Talking about illogical,some people don't believe in the existence of God you say you believe in.They say it is 'illogical'.
When you brand anything illogical,shine the light on even what you believe.TRUTH has nothing to do with 'logical'.

By the way what do you mean by 'u don't have the mental capability to finish'?You know me?Or you're feeling like some god who knows everybody?.......I laugh at human foolishness.

saraki2019:
Christ was a mislim

The one you know was not the one that IS.
Christ has nothing to do with Islam.

Cajal:
..but he has Christ in his life also
in fact his faith is failed without believing in Christ.. the Messiah

No,he DOESN'T!
Everyone who has Christ IN his life believes and follows him.Christ had a type of life called Zoe which is interpreted 'abundant life's or 'eternal life'.No Muslim has it.
To say I know North Korea or believe North Korea is not the SAME as i inbibe the virtues,culture and belief system of North Korea.

Siralgebra04:
U don't seem to be intelligent. Every muslim believes in Christ. In fact his faith is failed without believing in Christ.. the Messiah.

Don't believe an illusion.Get perfect knowledge.

What a shame.

bigtt76:
Why is this one still disgracing himself because of few thousand dollars?

Man must wack.Those few thousands of dollars are some million nairas.

Noel1:
He also lost to Wladmir on points.

Yes but he gave him a good fight then.

dominique:
He should have hung his gloves a long time ago. All the disgrace he suffered in the hands of the Klitschko brothers is enough sign that boxing is no longer his calling

He put up a good fight against Wladimir in his prime but only suffered against Vitali.

Chubhie:
I wasn't entertained watching the bout.

It happens,the main aim was for him to win.He really couldn't afford to lose again.

Are you not fully married?Happy wedding anniversary then.
Una don come with tradoversary,next na propoversary.smh

Chubhie:
I rated Ruiz a better boxer than AJ from that yesterday game. How do people pay such fees to go watch someone dancing around for most of the night? Same frustration a football fan would feel when teams sacrifice the beautiful game in the cover of some mumbo jumbo tactics.

AJ's legs were already shaking at some point. He knew he stood no chance if he actually came out to fight. This is akin to counter attacking strategy in football mostly used by weaker teams.

This strategy exposes AJ as weak not smart.

It is called strategy.The end game is what matters and he won.
If he had gone ahead to just throw in punches like you wanted to see and get a knock out,you would have seen punches that you wanted but he would have LOST and what would be his gain?

anochuko01:
thats because hes the richest

Not necessarily.He just picked the handsome genes.