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You say you love your wife very much so why are you still seeing a side chick?
Do you spend enough time on pre-intimacy?If you get her wet enough she should be able to adapt.I think you are not paying attention to her needs(sexually) and that is why she is complaining.

He wants to push Ronaldo to 4th?

She's probably tired because of preparation and the wedding or maybe she got knocked up and forced to marry the old man and she isn't happy.

Does he want help?
He needs to go to rehab.Depends on where you are.I'm not sure we have that in Nigeria.
You can seek a psychologist's help.

Don't cut him off completely.Put him on a monthly stipend and stick to it
You may need to give him more as the occasion calls for it,like specific projects

Stop giving your dad the impression that you have an endless inflow of cash too.

doggedfighter:
Good you edited . You have been running around this sad thread airing your insensitive and myopic views. You should know better

Let it slide.No use getting into a dogged fight over this.

doggedfighter:
Are you the one that made the chances slimmer?

Do you understand statistics ?

pocohantas:
E better if she no get experience. Make two of them dey decondition together.

That will actually be better.They can fumble and wobble together.

Trutherme:
There's nothing wrong in being a single mother or raised by one, ok.
The man is dead but he is survived by a wife and family on both side.
Lastly, If she was my sister, I'll still be supportive. Actually, there's no law that is upagainst a young widow remarrying.

Nowhere in my post did I indicate that it is wrong being a single mother or that single mothers don't re-marry.
The chances are slimmer,that is the argument.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

True.
When a man waits too long,a part of him becomes emotionless.

Was it arrangee marriage?
Two grown ups can't try to make it work?

LivingSage:
Can't she get married again? Only the dead has no option

Well,I've edited my first comment.
We need to let the bereaved mourn.

LivingSage:
You're very wicked. You don't even pity the dead to have replacement

What of the living?

If the issue is not low testosterone or you are not interested in females,then it is a conditioning problem.
You will need to go through a de-conditioning process.
You will gradually build it up.I hope your wife has some experience.

Mindfulness:
Why are we even discussing it while she has barely begun the mourning process? She is probably still in a state of deep shock. It's somehow insensitive. She will make the right decision and her loved ones will hopefully support her in the way she needs it.

Yeah.

Mindfulness:
Her chances to find love depend on a variety of factors. And a man who won't accept her tragic fate with compassion and her child is not worthy of her.

The woman you mentioned, it was her choice. Hopefully nobody advised her to abort based on fear of not being able to please a Nigerian male.

Well,it's not a straight-forward decision to make for some women in her situation.It may not even be the fear of not finding love again.

Hope you also catch feelings for your books?

Mindfulness:
Maybe she prefers to raise his child. Maybe this child would be her greatest comfort forever more. You don't know this but you know that a woman can find love again even if she has a child from a previous relationship. Even in Nigeria.

It's possible but slimmer chances.
If she decides to keep his child in his memory that would be great.
I know a woman in this same situation,she aborted the pregnancy

Sainttops:
This person is damn wicked. U wan marry his wife ne?



Very unreasonable comment

The wife will have to move on and it is best she is in a good position to re-marry.
How many Nigerian men want single mothers?
I've seen this happen to two people.The other lady aborted the pregnancy.

The statement is unreasonable to you because you are limited in perception of the effects on the woman too.

Trutherme:

May his soul rest in peace.

But why hope his wife never take in, though. You don't have to go there.
What if he was your brother and what if the wife wanted a kid to remember the man she loved?

If the wife wants a kid to remember him by,that would be good.
However,if she indeed is pregnant,then she becomes a single mother.
How many Nigerian men want single mothers?
Honestly,if she was my brother,I'll wish the best for the wife.The man is dead and the living has to get the best too.
You asked what if he was my brother,did you think what if she was your sister?

Donwealth25:
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D prayer shud be to take in so d man legacy remains indelible while she endures looking for anoda man

Hmm,it's not that easy.She becomes a single mother.Getting a man to marry her in that status isn't easy

Rather unfortunate.
Too early to be a widow.
May his family be comforted.



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KIkiofure:
23yrs old

Okay You're matured enough.

KIkiofure:
Ok thanks

Just curious,how old are you?

meobizy:
Hmm.

Oro pesi je,oro di hmm.

I would have advised you to go for a D&C.....but I'm not pro-abortion

You have to brace up for what is ahead of you.I hope you have some financial support to get you through.It's a tough journey as a single mother.

Give your mom hints before you eventually break it to her You won't be the first to find yourself in this situation.You will weather the storm.

By the way,how many weeks since you missed your period.

delzbaba:
Why kill someone after robbing them, some people belong in the zoo

There may have been a struggle so they stabbed her.

These robbers ehn.As much as I do not like jungle justice,the damage these robbers do make them deserve such.
How can you waste a grown up lady like this just for a phone and the little cash she may have?
Condolences to her family.
As for the hospital rejecting her,it's hard to tell without a full story.I thought the IG said you can treat without police report?

Ladyhippolyta88:
But she is currently not married and can answer the equivalent tag for both Ms.

Actually,it is not her marital status per se but the category of contestants the organisers want.
It is supposed to be a competition between 'maidens' and she doesn't fit in.
There are other competitions available out there like Mrs World,Miss BBW etc.that can accommodate other people

They said Miss World and not Mrs World.
There are rules for the competition and that must have been indicated even on the application forms.

IgbosAreOsus:
shut up
you like
A fetus of 2 weeks can never be compared with four weeks

Just read what you wrote in bolded again and ask if it makes sense.
Can you compare 2 with 4?

AwkaetitiBabe:
What about d pregnancy prevention drug she took after meeting the op? It didn't work? And she even tested negative then This Op situation is confusing

Contraceptives fail.