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olabrinks:
This is pure evil. Disgusting

This is only from a medical standpoint.

crackhaus:
I understand all you have typed Thorpido, it's textbook information...but you are a doctor I guess, so I assume you also know that the practicality of performing the procedure on an almost formed foetus isn't just a walk in the park.

For heavens sake, they have to crack the skull and soft bones of the foetus before it can be evacuated through the cervix at this point? This is murder man.
No no no no no, I don't even want to think of it.

Personally, at five months I'd rather risk a 13yr old carrying her pregnancy to full term under careful monitoring and observation, have the baby birthed by caesarean section when its due than letting anyone insert any goddamn equipment in there to mutilate things - too many things can go wrong very fast, even in the hands of QUALIFIED MEDICAL PERSONNEL.

6 months is advanced though so I agree with you it's the extreme.The Op didn't say at the beginning that it was 5months.Well in that case I would have opted to go through with the pregnancy.
This case most likely wasn't handled by a professional at all.They probably went the traditional way.

crackhaus:
You did not even need to add this, any discerning person with common sense ought to have picked up on your claim that her belly was protruding.
Abortion was 100% the more dangerous option for a 13yr old girl, not VVF or the legality of abortion nonsense.

Actually,an abortion could be carried out up to about 24 weeks of pregnancy(that's about 6months).
It depends on what procedure is done.The abortion that is common is done within 13 weeks of pregnancy and that is the one where pills can be used.After 13weeks,a procedure has to be done which is the D&C that is carried out in a hospital.
In some cases,even after 24weeks,a baby can still be removed even though it is not legal and can simply be termed murder.It happens in medical issues where the life of the mother is at risk.
Medically,it is about 11 times RISKIER to die from a pregnancy related issue than an abortion(put being a 13yr old as an added risk).
The key issue here is having QUALIFIED MEDICAL PERSONNEL carry out the procedure in an ideal setting.

She is so short o.Even Frank is talking than her.

May God help her.She needs to work with a psychologist first to sort out some issues.

ResidentSlut:
That’s exactly why being pro abortion is a good thing.
Being pro abortion doesn’t mean that the person supports abortion for every pregnancy. It means one can apply reasoning when needed instead of being blindly conservative about it.

True.

ResidentSlut:
That’s also called being pro abortion.

Abortion should only be used when necessary but not as a birth control method. So if you support it in this type of instance, it means you’re pro abortion.

Lol,there are exceptions.In this case the pregnancy can affect the health of the child.She is at risk of VVF and other issues.

A child shouldn't be having children like Cococandy said so in this case the foetus will be aborted(though I'm not pro-abortion).
As to the Op's story,why do a lot of men handle issues badly?Send the wife away with the child and now the daughter's dead and the marriage probably gone.
The responsibility is for both of you.
Anyway,they say a good child belongs to the father,the bad one belongs to the mother.smh

Some men are beasts.No self control at all.

If the foundation is weak,it's hard to put a lot of things right later.
You have a husband who is ignorant and has character flaws.I really do not know how to advise to make him change now.

You were one of his many 'Facebook girls',I don't know how you can make him drop the rest now.

Anger is a difficult thing to deal with.People who easily get angry are to be avoided as much as possible.Now that you have married one,you need to look for triggers and avoid them.It will make you ignore and overlook many things but that's the only way to maintain peace.

Your health is what matters most to me.Get a good hospital,preferably a good government hospital close by.Go for your ante-natal clinics regularly and do all the tests you are told to.Get a second opinion from a qualified personnel if you are not sure of anything.You have once lost a baby so you need to be well monitored.

The idea of the husband telling a wife to stop work and the woman agreeing to be a dependant wife is what I don't understand.I've seen a few cases where it became very necessary but it shouldn't be a new marriage's first option.When you have your baby and has been nursed to an extent,you better start looking for a job.

Alooone:
I sent you an email sir

Ok

ehiblessing:
Yeah i can't access it too

Is there a way I can reach you then?

undisputedgbola:
Is he suppose to be Senate President for ever?

Isn he not suppose to celebrate his birthday as a normal HUMAN anymore?

Buhari as a private individual in Daura and Buhari as president is not the same.
Being in power makes the difference.

ehiblessing:
Kikikikikikiki i no they do audio love again self

Something is wrong with your email.

Freeda08,it is almost impossible for a man with your husband's character to hide it while you were dating except it was a long distance relationship.
I partly blame you for accepting to marry him.You mean you didn't spend time in his house to see him do his own cleaning?You didn't visit his parent's house to have an idea how they were raised(with his siblings)?You didn't study his parents?
When you have conversations,you didn't notice his pride?

I'm afraid you have to cope with your husband except you want to leave the marriage.He really won't change.

He would have done it with so much fanfare if he was Senate president.

It could go back to normal or may be slightly different.It depends on some factors like having a tear during delivery,your body type etc.
Just get back to doing Kegel's exercises and in a couple of weeks,you will be fine.

If however,it doesn't feel exactly like before,(some don't)don't kill yourself.Just hope you have a content husband.

The most practical thing would be to move with him when his job moves him out of town too.It however depends on what you do and for how long he will be away.

You can't really change a cheat.He has to decide he wants to stop.You either decide you will keep staying with him this way or leave.

Jasen1:
See you that hand shake

Nothing dey dia.Una too dey read meaning to everything.

Too much money in football.
They still get gifted cars despite the huge amount of money they earn.

You won't be the first to feel like that.
You like the female sexual organs right?

Op,Na you dey ask question,na you dey answer am.

Why are you like this?
If you story is true,you should indeed give your life to Christ.
Poverty is no reason for you to just be so morally deficient.
Please stay far away from family members as much as you can.

dannyla:
Hmmmm,
My mom was deflowered by a rapist and all she ever asked of me was to get married as a virgin. Till today, she doesn't know that I was raped too. She once told me she will die a sad woman if I don't keep her request. My father died when I was a girl. My mother sold her clothes to raise us.
If I leave, he'll tell her I'm not a virgin anymore and she will never have that peace she has now. I can't watch my mum suffer for something she didn't do. My mum once used to be hypertensive. What if it comes back due to shock? My aunt used to mock my mom over the rape before our very eyes and my mum simply told her that one wasn't her fault but her children will marry honourably. My mother's pride is the reason I let the rapist walk free. This man knows and will tell everyone.

I'm not yet strong enough to relocate us very far away or foot any drastic bill. That's a major reason I've been tolerating. The advise from those around me doesn't help eit ather. That's why I seek public opinion

Forget about what he may say.
Being a virgin or non-virgin is not a crime.
What is important is for you to find a man who accepts you for who you are and marry HONOURABLY.

dannyla:
Lol, I'm in my house, come and beat me

Okay,as you no wan hear word.

Op,where do you stay?I need to beat you join too(Na joke o).

On a serious note,do you need anyone to tell you this relationship of yours is toxic and will never amount to anything good?
Leave emotions aside and break off completely.
Do not entertain fear that your are ageing and no suitor yet.Just do well,be nice to people,be neat,wear a smile and pray.
Your right man will come.

He loves me to a fault.. (in Helen Paul's voice)smh. Na love be dat or he is simply possessive.

Op,try to make peace with your wife.Let your people know about this so some elders can follow you to your wife's place for reconciliation.

You didn't do well by coming back so late as a married man and most likely you didn't even call her on phone.
She provoked you by the continual shouting but next time,enter another room and lock yourself in(if during the day,walk out).There will still be more of this so you better learn to manage it.

Such a sad case.
There should be a law that forbids borrowing for a wedding.
Just cut your coat according to your size.
People will talk but your life will go on.

pweedie:
checked my mail. Can't find any message from you. My mail is jumpes85@gmail.com

Check again,I have re-sent it.

ebyjoyken:
I spend more time with the kids than he does. When we got married, he asked me to live in the village with his mum and sister my parents refused and asked him to get an apartment for me in the city. Which he later did. Since then he hated my family for challenging him.

How do you ladies pick men like this? Don't you date and have an idea what structure you both want to put in place for your marriage?
Why would a husband want to marry a lady and say she will live in the village with his mom and sisters?He feels offended because your family told him no.smh

Anyway,don't let you children be used as pawns in the issues between both of you.
You spend most times with your children so he can't even make them antagonize you.

Hmm,Ibadan is big o.

pweedie:
done. Thanks

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