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What a generation!
How come scientists haven't told us the grey matter in the brain is shrinking?

They call them indomie generation but I think there should be another word for them.
A social misfit is their celebrity.

Mindfulness:
If he only released pre-ejaculatory fluid, it would not be possible to check it. In this case, he didn't lie and she had no chance of knowing.

Well,some guys wait till the first spurt before they pull out and think they didn't release inside.The thing is as long as there is a release,one has to take extra precaution.

Ishilove:
And that's how we know she is inexperienced.

She must be.She should have even checked herself in the bathroom to confirm.

olabrinks:
This is not about who is right or wrong, I’m simply correcting your statement that the responsibility of falling pregnant falls solely on the woman. Of course we know that the man can simply walk away if he wants, because biology doesn’t allow a man to carry the pregnancy. How can a woman leave her pregnancy, when she’s carrying it everywhere she goes? Biologically she’s unable to do that na, c’mon we are not kids here. This doesn’t negate the fact that both adults were equally responsible for producing that child during conception. And there’s nothing rare about getting pregnant with condoms, birth control pills, postinor or using all methods of contraception. My husband and I still got pregnant using two methods of contraception. Are we now going to say it’s solely my fault for getting pregnant, when both of us decided to lay down which we knew had consequences? and It happens on a daily basis. Like I said, man made products can not defeat nature. If you have sex, you can get pregnant no matter what. And that’s what I’m simply correcting you on. The only way a woman can prevent herself from getting pregnant wholeheartedly is by abstinence, and In that sense your argument would be more valid. You would be surprised how many women have gone through abortions, after failed methods of contraceptions. It’s more common that you think.

Sorry,just curious and for preventive purposes,what two methods of contraception failed you?

Ifyy25:
Take it easy dear, I feel your pain...I wonder what goes through the minds of men sometimes, upon you kept on asking him

That's why I tell ladies to take responsibility for their sex life.You can't leave it for the man.Men DON'T get pregnant.
If you have unprotected sex,the chances of pregnancy is very high.Any lady with a bit of experience too can tell if a guy came or not.

You say you love your wife very much so why are you still seeing a side chick?
Do you spend enough time on pre-intimacy?If you get her wet enough she should be able to adapt.I think you are not paying attention to her needs(sexually) and that is why she is complaining.

He wants to push Ronaldo to 4th?

She's probably tired because of preparation and the wedding or maybe she got knocked up and forced to marry the old man and she isn't happy.

Does he want help?
He needs to go to rehab.Depends on where you are.I'm not sure we have that in Nigeria.
You can seek a psychologist's help.

Don't cut him off completely.Put him on a monthly stipend and stick to it
You may need to give him more as the occasion calls for it,like specific projects

Stop giving your dad the impression that you have an endless inflow of cash too.

doggedfighter:
Good you edited . You have been running around this sad thread airing your insensitive and myopic views. You should know better

Let it slide.No use getting into a dogged fight over this.

doggedfighter:
Are you the one that made the chances slimmer?

Do you understand statistics ?

pocohantas:
E better if she no get experience. Make two of them dey decondition together.

That will actually be better.They can fumble and wobble together.

Trutherme:
There's nothing wrong in being a single mother or raised by one, ok.
The man is dead but he is survived by a wife and family on both side.
Lastly, If she was my sister, I'll still be supportive. Actually, there's no law that is upagainst a young widow remarrying.

Nowhere in my post did I indicate that it is wrong being a single mother or that single mothers don't re-marry.
The chances are slimmer,that is the argument.

RisenPhoenix:
When you wait too long before you marry, you get comfortable in the self-centred bachelor lifestyle. Any wife after that will be seen as an intruder in your home, eating your food and destroying your appliances. It won't last before you vex pack the 'guest' commot.

True.
When a man waits too long,a part of him becomes emotionless.

Was it arrangee marriage?
Two grown ups can't try to make it work?

LivingSage:
Can't she get married again? Only the dead has no option

Well,I've edited my first comment.
We need to let the bereaved mourn.

LivingSage:
You're very wicked. You don't even pity the dead to have replacement

What of the living?

If the issue is not low testosterone or you are not interested in females,then it is a conditioning problem.
You will need to go through a de-conditioning process.
You will gradually build it up.I hope your wife has some experience.

Mindfulness:
Why are we even discussing it while she has barely begun the mourning process? She is probably still in a state of deep shock. It's somehow insensitive. She will make the right decision and her loved ones will hopefully support her in the way she needs it.

Yeah.

Mindfulness:
Her chances to find love depend on a variety of factors. And a man who won't accept her tragic fate with compassion and her child is not worthy of her.

The woman you mentioned, it was her choice. Hopefully nobody advised her to abort based on fear of not being able to please a Nigerian male.

Well,it's not a straight-forward decision to make for some women in her situation.It may not even be the fear of not finding love again.

Hope you also catch feelings for your books?

Mindfulness:
Maybe she prefers to raise his child. Maybe this child would be her greatest comfort forever more. You don't know this but you know that a woman can find love again even if she has a child from a previous relationship. Even in Nigeria.

It's possible but slimmer chances.
If she decides to keep his child in his memory that would be great.
I know a woman in this same situation,she aborted the pregnancy

Sainttops:
This person is damn wicked. U wan marry his wife ne?



Very unreasonable comment

The wife will have to move on and it is best she is in a good position to re-marry.
How many Nigerian men want single mothers?
I've seen this happen to two people.The other lady aborted the pregnancy.

The statement is unreasonable to you because you are limited in perception of the effects on the woman too.

Trutherme:

May his soul rest in peace.

But why hope his wife never take in, though. You don't have to go there.
What if he was your brother and what if the wife wanted a kid to remember the man she loved?

If the wife wants a kid to remember him by,that would be good.
However,if she indeed is pregnant,then she becomes a single mother.
How many Nigerian men want single mothers?
Honestly,if she was my brother,I'll wish the best for the wife.The man is dead and the living has to get the best too.
You asked what if he was my brother,did you think what if she was your sister?

Donwealth25:
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D prayer shud be to take in so d man legacy remains indelible while she endures looking for anoda man

Hmm,it's not that easy.She becomes a single mother.Getting a man to marry her in that status isn't easy

Rather unfortunate.
Too early to be a widow.
May his family be comforted.



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KIkiofure:
23yrs old

Okay You're matured enough.

KIkiofure:
Ok thanks

Just curious,how old are you?

meobizy:
Hmm.

Oro pesi je,oro di hmm.

I would have advised you to go for a D&C.....but I'm not pro-abortion

You have to brace up for what is ahead of you.I hope you have some financial support to get you through.It's a tough journey as a single mother.

Give your mom hints before you eventually break it to her You won't be the first to find yourself in this situation.You will weather the storm.

By the way,how many weeks since you missed your period.