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Oluneutral:
This our Africa tradition sha!


As if she's a commodity to be bought!

And the man will still be expected to treat the wife's family well after paying all this o!


Bride price payment should be abolished! I support it!

Until that BS is scrapped, men will never agree to be equal with their wives.

In most cases,the Bride price is usually affordable.The problem is usually not the bride price but the marriage list.

Abasi.

Chickening out is not the first option.You can negotiate.Meet with the family with your own family members and try to reach something reasonable.

The man should have an idea what the tradition is in the first place before going far just to chicken out.

Just one month and you're already developing unnecessary anxiety?
Don't let your mind go in the direction it is going now or else it will further depress your business.....'as a man thinketh..'

Before you go to bed this night,say to yourself,I welcome new clients and they are looking for me.

Hamachi:
Singles drop your fears about marriage and let the married ones clear your doubts.

Me: Cheating and fear of marring my enemy

Why would you marry your enemy?That is why you need to date and study who you want to marry.It's easy to know if you share a common vision and goals as long as you pay attention.
As for the cheating,find the commitment first in you.

Very stupid thing to do.

He's a marriage fraudster.

Seun,you like sports?I thought you were a bookworm.
Serena is still my all-time favorite.

Get a screenshot of the chats or forward it to your phone.
You will need to speak to him about it.You are married to him and there is no reason why you can't look into his phone.Simply tell him this is what you found.
Express your disappointment and tell him in clear terms that you won't tolerate it.
However,you're due in few weeks so I wouldn't want you to be stressed.If you know this might stress you,then hold on a bit till you put to bed.

makydebbie:
Sis, make sure you've concrete evidence before you confront him.

[b]Pen!s holders[/b]can be funny and turn the table around to mak

e themselves look like the victim, you'll be amazed.

Wish you a safe delivery. x

Pen!s holders or pen!s owners?
Women also do the holding and even more.

Mercedes Starr?
She no get better name?

Mymynd4u:
We never settle sef.. Abt to serve n Bro is a hustling tailor.. We just need her to let go of 2 or 3.. One is okay for her to take care.. Just one or two is much okay than 4..

We never even get money sef but when I was in school, I send almost all my allowances of 3k to 5k to her..

I can't be in school and my mother is sick, need money, in debt and I will act unconcerned but it's killing me

Hmmm,the status of your siblings won't help matters.smh
Is there a way to make the mothers of these kids contribute too?Do you have their contacts?

How do people know they have kids somewhere and live unbothered about their welfare?

bukatyne:
I don't get though:

The husband stayed with the daughter for a few months and managed to stay married with the mother for about 16yrs?

Did he marry the daughter just to get to the mom?

I don't think so.I think the mother probably got her eyes on him the moment she met him with the daughter.
She just used 'experience' to snatch and keep him.You know what they say about 'old wine'.

Taking them away may not be a realistic option.
The more realistic option is to come up with a financial plan for her and the children and also have a word with your mother about managing her finances.

The major things will be their schooling expenses and feeding.Have a budget for that and bring every one of your siblings to contribute.Try to make THEIR parents too to make substantial contributions.

This one pass inside life.

You can marry her Op,if you so much love her.

cococandy:
Yes

Thanks

bukatyne:
Meaning?

Tell us.

I think it means something like 'spoilt world'.Abi Cococandy?

Uwa mmebi q

You have to be hardened to do this kind of thing.Beat her to death and then throw the body from that height. Abasi mbok!

That someone impregnates another is no reason to force them to marry.I wonder why people keep forcing marriages.

Death by hanging is what he deserves.

Na the arrest good for am.Now he can enjoy himself in jail.

If you don't want to get pregnant,then you take responsibility.You go on family planning and not wait for your husband to cum or not.

Go to the hospital and get yourself checked out to ensure all is well.

You initiated the violence by hitting the phone off your husband but he acted foolishly by beating you.You need to have a family meeting to sort this out.

Abuse has started in your home and only grace will put a stop to it.I hope it doesn't continue so you can have a peaceful home.

She must have delivered those babies herself or with the assistance of a quack nurse.
She should have given them up for adoption rather than throw them away.Shame!

Me: Secondly, apologizing to them teaches them a valuable lesson; to accept responsibility when they are wrong and to learn to apologize when they’re wrong.

That's all.

Lactite ko,galactite ni.Op is a clown.
You must be one of those writing for soft porn magazines.

Unfortunately,when people are hurt,you don't know the extent to which they can go to express their anger and sometimes seek revenge.
Your cousin SHOULD never have lied.
About getting his visa back,I doubt.

EditorsPalace:
Thanks so much.

Pls here is the full sentence: kindly translate:

O koni ore ofe lati sin labe eniyan pepepe.

You do not have the grace to serve under people of little importance.

Pepepe means 'in bits' or 'in small measures'.It could also mean 'shiver' like when the weather is cold.

You can bleach their skin if they turn out dark.




Well,I was just being sarcastic.If she has good qualities you desire in a woman,marry her.Yes,your children may turn out dark(maybe not all if you have fair people in your extended family) but what is more important is having healthy children.

Wish you the best Op.
If and when you meet him,you will need to date and that means spending time together.....getting to know each other.
I hope you will make out time from your 'busy schedule'.

Evil people. Why murder him?
The assailants will be smoked out soon to face the law.

What of the mother?

If you can locate his friends,elders in the family,pastors or respectable neighbors,then they can get to talk about the issue with him
He needs to calm down and figure out the best thing for this situation.