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FreemanTJ:
To be honest I have no feelings for her. There's no guarantee we would both be happy in the marriage. The other lady may be dramatic but I dont blame her in any way.

For me it's a hard one to be honest.If the feelings are not there as in your case,it will hardly come even if you both take a wkd off to be together.I've seen this play out in many relationships.

You are really the irresponsible guy here You seem not to have a direction.You just want to touch whatever glows.
Before you decide to eventually ditch this marriage,try to fix it.Tell your wife to move in with you.Both of you spend time to try to bond.If after 4months,it is still the same loveless marriage,you had better split.

baby124:
The idea not to live together to her own understanding and what you made your wife believe is because of distance! You never even gave that relationship a chance because you felt *trapped*. I know you did not want that pregnancy or to get married at this time which is the grudge you are carrying against your wife! I advise you to forgive yourself, forgive her and try to make it work. Stop fighting everyone because you are the one that did the gbenshing and put the baby there. So, obviously, you liked her a lot at some point.

One thing that struck me is your girlfriends statement that the child looked like you. Which you then noticed!!! Were you at any point disputing paternity and, was that one of the stories you told madam girlfriend to get in her pants? You are a funny guy. You can bond and fall in love over chess but can’t love your own wife because she tied you down.

Your wife must be an angel to even rate you after all your bullshit behavior. Just look at the lunatic behavior your so called girlfriend displayed after finding out you were married? Compare that with your wife after all you have done to her You sure your girlfriend is really an angel? LOL

I'll disagree with calling her this.The Op consistently denied he was in a relationship (not to even say he was married),led her on and kept having sex with her.The girl has every right to go overboard and she did well without physically harming anyone.

The man should get a good lawyer to fight his case.It's crazy.

Your fiancee Na mumu.Person dey tell goat make e watch over yam?

Op,do you still want to remain a Muslim?
I don't think praying 5 times a day should be such a hard task The prayers don't take up to 10mins.
You just need to push yourself.Whenever he starts to prepare,you join in too.
Issues like this should not start to divide couples.

Op,both of you should go for counseling.
I just feel maturity is what you both need.

Tallesty1:
A tradition here could be a taboo somewhere. Your minor is somebody's major.

Well,we only have the Op's words in this case.

...the family don't like him because he isn't igbo and they are not sure he is financially capable.

Very stupid and myopic reasons.
Does he have a job,his own apartment and can he raise money to fund a wedding?
He must deal in drugs before he can be seen to be financially capable.smh

Tallesty1:
Day 1: Real men don't hit women, they walk away.



Man walks away


Day 2:






Maturity is obviously one of the most abused/misused word in Nigeria.

It is but definitely not in this case.
The Op said,'misunderstanding for a minor reason'. You didn't see that part.

Op,I'm concerned about your health.Have you tried to investigate the reason for your miscarriage?Have you run tests and seen specialists?Have you been making efforts to conceive again?

Don't let your hubby continue to treat you this way.You're not the first or only one to be having challenges conceiving.

Get a support system.I don't know what your foundation is but if you both had a marriage with a spiritual foundation,now is the time to build it up.

Immature man.
If he doesn't come back call his parents.

Mindfulness:
This is a man's belly. Are you kidding?

I hope Op is not trolling.When I saw the picture,that was the first thing I said ........a man's belly.

@Op,this looks like a man's beer belly.Anyway if you claim your story is true,it doesn't look like a protrusion from pregnancy,it just looks bloated, probably from a big bowl of eba.

Pregnancy of less than 2 weeks of missing the period won't show like this.You were right about the test strips giving you negative result.It mostly won't show until about 6 weeks old.It is a blood test that picks it up faster.

harrikoko:
Like seriously I can't think straight again, anytime we are together all I think of is, how the man was striping my wife and she must have been reacting and if the Bleep was more explosive than we use to have

Try to get it off your mind.Think about how you also goofed and how it could have hurt her more if she contracted a disease from you or another woman came with a baby.
You're really surprised your woman could cheat.Women have the same blood in them like men. .By virtue of my profession I get to hear intimate things.I've heard from married women say they see a guy and wish they could get intimate with him.Not that they put it into action but it's how they feel.

Married men listen,WORDS are the most powerful things to a woman(ok maybe after money).Be careful how you say things that may start to affect self-esteem or security.Get wisdom!.Be careful how you say things about her body especially post baby bodies.You can see the length they go and the money a lot of women are spending on cosmetics and body augmentation nowadays.
It may not be the main reason your wife cheated but it played a big role.She needed that self-assurance.

You both have confessed to each other and forgiven.Start to revive your marriage again.Go on dates...spend quality time together.You say your wife is a good woman.Make your marriage work.

It's bulls#it.Just ask her and whatever she says,you take her word for it or choose not to believe.

PIPnator10:
How about respecting peoples decision? Wife says she is retired!
Man, your options are divorce or live with it but wait oh, she tells you to find other means to satisfy yourself and you are still asking questions!
You know what that means? Many men will die to be given that opportunity. Take it and stop whining!

There are no people in a couple.
When two people get married,they sign off their bodies for each other and should only withhold it in cases of sicknesses or fasting.You can't just say you will not sleep with you partner again.

When she said find a means to satisfy yourself,she probably said it out of frustration.Will she be happy if he impregnates another woman and comes home with a second wife?

Must politicians tell lies? Can't they keep shut rather than spill what is in their mouth and pollute the atmosphere?

I suspect it was an accidental death.They probably wanted to hide the baby or some kinda play like that but out of ignorance suffocated the baby.

FRSC sef don spoil.

Op,you don't sound like a serious person to me.Do you just jump around when there is an issue or you try to deal with it?
If you go on like this,you will end up with a scattered family.Your children will never appreciate you and your women will be bitter towards you

Why is he holding her?He sha wan tap current!

How do these people stand at the altar shouting Alleluia and yet they are into such evil as to run a prostitution ring?smh

It's good for the kids.Let them watch TVs where adults can see what they watch.

Heck, what's a six year old doing with make up?

daddytime:
Her eyes go don clear muyennnn...

She go dey full of regrets now.She let herself be consumed by stupid rage.

The car is only covered by artificial turf.Some people are already thinking it has a grass body.

The children don dey crawl sef.....they don old like that?

Harrykaey:
Why don't I believe Ayefele owns the kids

Medical technology has made life easier.He doesn't need to wind his waist

IamPatriotic:
The Referee acted unprofessionally, he shouldn't have given Sun a red card in that circumstances, especially after seeing his reaction to Gomez injury.

Do you know what unprofessionally is?
He got a red for his tackle,not his cries.

Very unnecessary photoshoot.
Na dis generation sha.All for the gram.smh

This your English worry.