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Irresponsible youths.
Ndi Zlatan,ndi Tacha,ndi fans.

Nowenuse:
I'm afraid you have to include the 90s too cos I and my siblings were born in the 90s and I had the same life experience with Piroux as you can see from my comment below.



I am from a middleclass background in an urban area in the 90s, heck even my father was from a middleclass background. His own father treated him the same way while his mother gave him great care, concern and support and I wonder why he had to toe his father's side.

I will be a father shortly and I'm sure I will never toe my father or grandfather's path when it comes to bonding with my children.
Make no mistake, both men (my father & grandfather) were good men and never had children outside wedlock. They loved their families and worked hard for them to meet up financially, but the love, care, concern and affection was never there! This is where the problem lies.

Men should stop giving the silly excuses of working hard to provide for the family hence not having time for their children. Both my mother and grandmother were working too, one was a registered Nurse while the other was a business woman yet they still had time to cater for each and every one of their children's need.

My grandfather showed me and my siblings care and affection when we were young cos he is older and weak and now repented but to me I say it is too late! ..... He should have given that to my Dad and uncles/Aunties cos the stories my Dad tell me about him when he was a young man was even worse than the life my own Dad lived himself when we were children.

Imagine my own Dad now forming very caring grandfather to my own children tomorrow.

I once told my brother's wife that if my father dies today, I may not really cry or feel serious pain. I will only cry when I see my mother's tears cos only her tears can break me.... My inlaw rebuked me as if I said something abominable
Life is a give and take my friend. African fathers should never expect to receive what they never gave.

Such an interesting post.I agree with everything you wrote.
A lot of African fathers have a wrong mentality.They think being emotionally involved with their children makes them less a man.
It's a good thing many of us in this generation are improving on that.

Amumaigwe:
Your perspective as a father perfectly matches mine. I do all these things and much much much more alike. I know that the testimonial will be pleasant.

It sure will.

piroux:
Lol, it's not a big deal though. In a way, the way he is has showed me what i don't want in a husband. The minute i meet a guy who says taking care of children is the woman' sole responsibility, I just smile and shift away kiakia.

I don't need any man calling me evil in the future because he invested money alone while i invested my heart in my children. If we do it together, no parent is ever forgotten. There are children who take care of both children equally because they know that both of them invested in their lives.

If you have been doing all you said above, then you're a good dad. May you not get tired and may you enjoy the fruits of your labour.

The bolded is important.Fathers also ought to be emotionally involved in their children.

Amen to the prayer.

Noblefirstlady:
Why do some men stop their wife from putting on trousers after marriage?
A man will meet a lady that always put on trousers, and he will be OK with it, infact he would love it on her. But immediately after marriage he doesn't want it anymore and he will still be eyeing girls that are wearing trousers outside.
What really is the problem guys?

It has to do with who you are dating or dated.Whoever that is has his issues.
Most times it has to do with religious indoctrination or simply insecurity.

olabrinks:
Mothers love can never compete with a dad. Mothers will always be number one in a child’s life.

Your bolded is not necessarily true except you are using your experience as a yardstick.
I changed my children's diapers,bottle-fed them,woke up in the night to feed them,bathe them,sit with them to do homework and carry them to bed when it's time to sleep.They even choose to sleep beside me.I'm the one they want to ask their questions.
Now tell me why mothers are 'automatically' number one in a child's life.


Piroux,sorry about your dad's experience.Yes,most fathers especially the 70s and 80s fathers were like your dad.Many fathers in this generation are quite different

Arewa1408:
You are talking about a transaction not getting through. Its not even that. Once its fraud. It will surely comeback to haunt and hurt the fraudster.

Year,sure.I'm just saying the fraudster may have been getting through thinking it's cool until that glitch.

Kingjames:
I really want to know the force(s) behind one not satisfying with one hit!


If not, after hitting ones , one can invest that and go back to normal life


Human is insatiable indeed

That's exactly the answer @bolded.
I know a man personally who was into drugs.He had put the money into other businesses,selling cars,furniture etc.
He couldn't stop.Now he's in jail abroad.

Psychos.

Na wa o.Shame no dey again.
Anyway if he add sex with you,just subtract sex.Go school dem no go go,na to dey carry yansh up and down.

Make the boy sef pay for the market wey he price.

No matter how much you think you have hit it big through fraud,there's just that one day that a transaction becomes the trigger to investigations and subsequent arrest.

Not worth it on the long run.Now he's going to have the houses confiscated and go to prison.

He's going to get drunk yet again and a baby will come out of it.

I think the wife should pretend she doesn't know he gets drunk.

So sad.See how those health workers just Pam for side dey look am.
Except for an autopsy,you can't say for sure that it was the food that killed him.

I feel trying to work her into a marriage because she got pregnant will backfire.
Whichever decision you make,make her realise she's likely got a tough road to walk.

Sidben,how are you?
You can talk to me

You didn't know what to expect before choosing the school?

They must be in drama club in school......just acting.

ahnie:
Dockie... pleasant Sunday sir!

Happy sunday to you too.E don tey o.How's you and family?

There's more to it than the clothes.Something is eating her up.
The husband should intelligently seek it out

Are you female or male sef?

What side effects are you having?The only way you can guarantee not contracting the virus is to conclude your PEP regimen.

But why?
You didn't have to quit.

Just can't wrap my head around this.Your own daughter?!Not step-daughter o.

favoritetalk:
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h for hippopotamus.

IF her monthly cycle is regular,she is unlikely to get pregnant.However,in medicine,it is never say never.For EVERY unprotected sex,there is that 'little room' for possibility.

How do you recognise them from the battered faces?Una like graphic pictures too much.



Ah,but God,in the Name of Jesus,I'm not leaving the world like this!

Rest in peace to the dead.

He's a fool!Divorce her and move on with your life.
Now she's going to be sleeping with whoever she wants,'over your dead body'.

If you can afford it,pay the welder to make another line(what I would do).

If you can't,remove the rope and put them up only when you wash.

Why kill yourself?Even if you were culpable,the punishment you will receive will not kill you.
Now you just put your family in sorrow and will make life hard for them.

His name though.. Ninalowo .......money is to be spent.

The children will suffer infantile obesity.Not nice.