₦airaland Forum

TheArchangel:
I am beginning to think that there is a new strain of malaria parasite lurking around Abuja and its environs. Very hard to treat and so debilitating to the sufferer.

Rip ma'am.

The parasites are becoming resistant to drugs and this is why the WHO recommends combination therapy.A lot of people take it for granted but it's still a deadly disease.

Rip Bece.

My senior in secondary school.The guy get hot head.

Whirlwind7 has spoken well.If not that she's your mother,I would have told you to ask her why she couldn't keep her marriage.
You need to woman up and take charge of your life.Let your mom know it's your marriage and you need to li ve your life.She obviously wants to use you to enrich herself but that won't work.

kokoprincess:
Yeah..am alone with the kids

okay,I hope you do work and have some income.You will settle eventually with what you have.Just take things easy for now.Don't let it get to you.You will give the kids what you can afford and with time they will understand that they can't get all they have been getting.

You say he's a good father but a father who is ignoring his kids to get at their mother isn't being good.Don't let him use the kids to manipulate you.

One day she go tire.

She had such an expensive and grand wedding as the governor's daughter,now it's over.

Marriage is not just about an expensive wedding ceremony.

TrapQueen77:
Ofcurz she can't lie to her children for the rest of their lives.. She waits til they can understand the situation...

Exactly.After a while,she will start to understand that daddy might not be coming back soon and the mother can start to break it down in bits to her.

kokoprincess:
Leaving was the hardest decision I ever took...I hav no regrets..I only pray things get better. Sometimes I get frustrated

God will give you the strength,be strong.With time it gets easier.

Are you staying alone with the kids now or you are with a friend or family member?

His trip is good for Nigeria's image.He interacted with the common man,met with the president and jogged on the streets of Nigeria.

Lol.The recession has hit sausage too.

You've done what's best at the moment.Leave a place of abuse.

Tell your daughter her dad is busy.Try to take her out if time permits so she has some fun.

I hope you work and have a source of income.I also hope your place of abode presently is alright.Don't be anxious and don't be in a hurry to change anything.If your hubby makes moves to reconcile,take your time.

......and now his action is going to make the economy harsher for his children.

^^Until the yoke is broken

knuckbuck:
I believe in prayers and that is what I've embarked on since the start of the year. If not for God my wife and her mum would've succeeded since January. Her mother convinced her in 2010 to send money home for business. The whole 2010 every cent my wife made while she worked went to her mother. As a man I thought it's my responsibility to provide and care for home so it didn't matter to me. Mistake! My mother-in-law concluded that my should continue sending her money like that every month. My wife quit her job and went back to further her education only to find out all the money she was sending to her mum was wasted by her mum. You'd think she has learnt her lesson. Fast forward to 2016 and it's started all over. My mother-in-law believes my wife should be sending her as much money like before but does not realise she doesn't work like before. My mother believes I'm the reason the daughter no longer sends her money like before. Illiteracy is a disease.

One thing I don't want you doing now is wasting money on lawyers.If it will end in divorce,it's for the better.

It's a tough one.
The foundation is a faulty one.A lady who doesn't come from a stable home has a question mark on her.I'm not saying any lady who doesn't come from a stable home will be bad but one has to thread carefully and be sure the edges are straightened out first.You need to know who the parents are.

Well,your MIL is obviously diabolical and promiscuous and has a hold on your wife.Try to discus with your lawyer on the chances of getting custody of your kids if you show proof of infidelity and travels for long periods.IF your wife will get custody no matter what,there's nothing you can do.

I don't know how you can wait this out in case the divorce proceedings stall and see if your wife can change or the children grow up a bit before you proceed with divorce.If you can buy time,I believe things can still change.
Prayer works too.

You shouldn't even have allowed it the first time.It's not every sexual practice that one tries out even in marriage especially since it doesn't make you comfortable.

Help your men to see a sex therapist.This is the result of porn.

Do you have a problem with your father/father's last name?

ayusco85:
too much of watching porn is the cause

You're right and porn is readily available on their mobile phones.

Rape.....get caught and face the music.

See traffic.....money matter

They deserve a long jail sentence.Is it idleness or just pure evil that makes young people do all these crimes?

Hypocrites!so jogging on Ikoyi bridge na sub-saharan be dat.

AngryNigerian:
That's what they made you to believe...sorry

By they I want to assume you mean people who do researches on HIV,collate data and counsel people living with HIV?

GossipHeart:
Please, stop quoting me.
Your ignorance is affecting me

I really do hope your ignorance will not affect you.

Ok bye

GossipHeart:
I know you can get HIV through blood transfusion.

You can only get HIV through
Semen (cum)
Pre-seminal fluid (pre-cum)
Rectal fluids
Breast milk

What happens if i pull out when i want to ejaculate ??

Are you serious @bolded?
I'll assume you are genuinely ignorant.When a woman is wet,don't you know the virus can be found in the fluid while you are in and out?

AngryNigerian:
...& infected people's blood is often exposed when barbing...except if the blade is sterilized

It's not every time someone barbs that there is a skin cut.Most barbing salons now sterilise the clippers.

By the way,transmission through barbing is small compared with transmission through sexual intercourse.

missyadorable:
That's not fair
Information about HIV is very sensitive and should be kept private
It's the victim's choice to make his status public

Poor guy!

Well,men and chuku chuku
Some professions promote sexual promiscuity and sports( football) tops the list

Small money,small fame
Their deek start entering every place.
It's a pity.Young bright career ending so fast in such an embarrassing way.

The ladies who keep flocking round them,what are they looking for?chaka chaka?

AngryNigerian:
Very wrong!

Tell me what is right.............with scientific facts.

GossipHeart:
Now, why do people get H.I.V from haircuts ??
I'm waiting for an explanation you will come up with.

Make it entertaining this time

You only get HIV from haircuts if there is a CUT in the skin from an infected blade.The HIV is not in the hair,it's the contact with blood.

GossipHeart:
Now, can you tell me how someone can get H.I.V from having sex, I'm waiting

Na wa for you o.Don't you know HIV virus is found in seminal fluid and in a woman's vaginal fluid.
Sexual transmission remains the commonest form of transmission.

GossipHeart:
Dawg, just grow up.
It's very difficult to get H.I.V from sex, how old are you ??
To get H.I.V, there must be transfusion of blood.

Go read some book

Don't pass wrong information.Most cases of HIV are sexually transmitted.

This is unethical of the club.

tearoses:


The truth is can you never have a list that covers every single area and even if you did, what is the likelihood of getting a partner that fits all the boxes.
Some things you dont even think about until you are married and going through it
He has made no mention of some family illnesses which are common in their families, whereas it is important.
He has mentioned nothing about blood genotype
He has mentioned nothing about how playful he wants a wife to be.
He has mentioned nothing about how flexible and broad-minded her wants his wife to be


In short he can get a woman who satisfies all the points on his list but still have a very unhappy marriage.

Its one thing him marrying Miss Right, but if he is not the Mr Right to his Miss Right (am I making sense) then they both wont be very happy.
He needs to be the right man for the right woman
It all needs to flow or all the qualities will be useless.

Leaving the toilet seat up or leaving wet towels on the bed is super annoying and its not on the list

Hehehe
I guess for him this is just the skeleton.He needs to know there a lot of 'meat' to put on that skeleton.One think that will work well for him is flexibility.The right woman for him may not meet all the requirements yet have good qualities that will make a good wife.