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Kimoni:
Examples?

Aviation........some sections there.

Kimoni:
Very far...they are no different from girls in other sectors.

I disagree.it will have to be sectors that demand as much time as banking.

Kimoni:
https://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/12/disgusted.gif

I'm not far from the truth.I've got a pool eligible single female bankers who I'm helping search for guys to hook up with.

Amicablesavage,your relationship is on the fringes.
She's still with you probably because she hasn't gotten someone who's ready yet.The moment she finds someone who will commit,she might move on.
You know the way it is with many single female bankers,getting a man to commit but once there's a man who's financially ready and fit for marriage,she will get hooked up sharply.

Focus more on your career like Kimoni and Royalroy advised.If she's yours,it will happen and if it doesn't,there's something better for you out there.

just2okworld:
Happy sallah sir @thorpido,hope you can help this lady get across to TEHN sir?

The Op has to show how serious she is about her case.

@Op,you asking to donate your kidney is rather over the top and I believe you are just being dramatic.You require surgery yet you still want to donate blood and also offer your kidney?Guess you don't understand.

If indeed you require surgery for ovarian cyst,let's have proof of your case(your hospital visits,scan pictures and results etc).There might be something to work out for you.
You could send me a PM if you've got genuine case.

amicableSavage:
pls i need someone to advice me on a personal issue about my relationship

Say what the issue is.

addiction12:
tnx for your consideration. process like what?

If he's ready to cooperate,he should delete all porn videos stored on his phone or laptop.He should make them(phones and laptop)accessible to you so you know what he's up to.That will help curb his activities online.

There are books or educational materials online on breaking addiction to porn.Your hubby should get and read them.If you have access to a sex therapist too,he might need to visit one.

Lastly,try to draw closer to your hubby intimately so you both can explore more.Ask him what he likes and try to work on those areas(there are extremes though so you must be comfortable with certain fantasies).

CrazyQuinn:
you can't stop it or change him, the only way to save your marriage is to love him for who he is and accept his flaws he's flaws might also be use

People break addictions and people do change.You don't have to continue to live with an unacceptable behaviour.

He is addicted to porn.
You need to have a talk with him on the effects which will ultimately lead to cheating.Let him cooperate with you to overcome the addiction.
There are ways to overcome porn addiction and he should be ready to go through the process.

TheArchangel:
yea yada yada

Yea yada yada.You're not grounded in your faith and your knowledge of Jesus Christ is little with more of your knowledge based on denominational doctrines and that is why you've had issues with your own marriage.Moreover,it seems you're not sure of who you married,that's why you're having a change of mind now.

Jesus Christ and the gospel is all there is............the rest is man made.

TheArchangel:
She should do the traditional at the village and the wedding elsewhere.
This shouldn't be an issue at all.
I only wish you won't comeback here to tell us how you didn't know that Catholics and Anglicans have different doctrines and how you are finding it difficult to cope yada yada.....

Yea yada yada.
Get knowledge......and with all thy getting get understanding.

The bible speaks of Jesus Christ,not catholic or anglican.The Op knows she is catholic and knew the boyfriend is anglican before deciding to date him.I'm sure they would have decided on what they both believe.

.......yea yada yada .........

TheArchangel:
In Igbo land, weddings is at the groom's church.

In that case,it will be difficult for the father to give his consent.

@Op,is it compulsory to marry at the village church?Can't the traditional wedding be done in the village and the white wedding elsewhere?

People just trap themselves with unnecessary doctrines.

If a couple want to wed in a church,then they should stay off pre-marital sex.They should stop making it look like the church is the cause of their opting for an abortion.

In most places church weddings are done in the bride's church.I don't think it should be a big deal for your finace to go through the rights of marriage in your church and you guys can decide where you want to go after marriage.

It's a pity nowadays it is not about Christ and His church but about denomination and selfish interests.

The children obviously don't look well taken care of.
Foolish parents perpetuating poverty.Why not just adopt a girl?

Why did you go to his house to rob him in the first place?You still robbed him of his life.

^^^^All the above Op.Just take a step and with time things will begin to fall into place.

.....baby steps.

mukhtara446:
let me tell you something, i once had in islam even if its rape someone rape you are at first you fight it tgen you star to enjoy it you have committed a zina ypu have to fight it from tge beginning to end to stand as rape but Allah knows best

Yea,Allah knows best.
The problem is this burden of proof.If these four witnesses come forward,then it's their word against the woman's word.It's obvious from the sharia law,whose position is favoured more.

Like you say,Allah knows best.

mukhtara446:
firstly if a woman accused of adultery she dont have to provide witness those that accused her are the one's to provide and failure to do that have their punishment and all most witnesses require are three. woman said she didn't commit zina and no one has proved, that's between her and her creator. but if she is pregnant that means she had sexual intercourse, she is the one to be asked if she is accused whether its sensually or not and those that accused her most provide witnesses to proved her wrong hope you understand my writing

what if four people show up as witnesses and their words agree,it means she stands accused,isn't it?

mukhtara446:
mention any law in shari'a court that don't favour the woman if you know eny

Zina- The law that states that if a pregnant unmarried woman is accused of adultery,she must provide four witnesses as proof that she didn't have consensual intercourse.

The all white doesn't kill it,IMO.Cream colour or some other colour works better for bridesmaids.

So much cleavage baring.

ZuzuMan:
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THEN YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT SHARIA ....

GO AND SEEK KNOWLADGE ABOUT CHILD CUSTODY UNDER SHARIA LAW .

The sharia law that says if a pregnant woman is accused of adultery,she must prove her innocence with four witnesses?Abeggii

That's a big sacrifice but well worth it.

Beremx:
it might favor her because her father is a well known man and a billionaire

Well in that case,both families will exert their influence.
The problem is the laws of the sharia court itself doesn't really favour the woman.

Sharia court that won't favour the woman.

Helpmate....you both work together to build your home.
The husband doesn't Lord it over his wife and the wife doesn't turn a rebel.

Love is sacrificial and you both need to yield for each other.

Florblu:
And you have to call my comment "Stupid"?
Be civil

You're talking about being civil when you choose not to use your brain and in f00lishness make a comment that is an insult.

Florblu:
Can't find where she mentioned the guy is Yoruba. Make sure your brain is in the right frequency whenever you wanna address a public issue like this. #Shalom

Next time before you quote me,especially if you want to insult,make sure you read through previous comments before you make stupiid statements.

She edited her original post and that is why it doesn't appear any longer.I quoted the person below to show you it appeared there before.

bennyrazz:
why did you have to write "Yoruba deemon" and include no offense when you actually intended the offense. I can relate to reasons why he did not deem you fit to be his wife. This may just be part of the reasons. Coming from a responsible home doesn't make you responsible. Responsibility is a personal decision. I'm not scolding you but you are certainly going to leave with this scar if you abort for the rest of your life. You would have killed a full humanbeing. Now you pregnant with no hubby, that's bring shame to your family and stigma to yourself. You can pray to God to make you lose the pregnancy or get your mother involved while you chase after who got you pregnant. Marrying him though doesn't guarantee a happy marriage cuz he might not be happy with you. From the look of things, you were not a baby, how you got pregnant shows your carelessness. You engage in premarital sex and you get caught in the hook. I wish you luck sha cuz your only saving grace now is if you loose the pregnancy naturally, if not, welcome to the world of single mothers.

deymoh:
This was captioned at Dele Momodu's wedding in 1992...

Rest in peace Late Chief Abdul-Ganiyu Oyesola Fawehinmi and Late Sir Shina Peters.

http://www.9jacodedgist.com/2016/09/dele-momodu-late-gani-fawehinmi-sir.html
cc: lalasticlala, OAM4J, Mynd44

Which one be late sir Shina Peters?

Many have spoken well.

Op,you just need to get a grip on yourself.You say you re both church workers and yet you co-habit with a male?How do you intend to have a non-sexual relationship together?

He simply abused you with his act but seems you still have feelings for him.You need to improve on your self-esteem and set standards for yourself.

Commit yourself more to your studies and other extra-curricular activities.Grow up some more before getting into relationships again.