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My husband does not care if I prosper or not as long as he is prospering. He is not interested in anything that gives me comfort, he'd rather watch me suffer. And when I accuse him he calls me ungrateful. The only thing he does his feed me. He does not clothes me and would not even ask me for sex. I am the one that always initiate sex. And I am tired. I need counseling. How do I get out of this?

Marley125:
leaving in the morning & coming back in the evening is not enough for her to be sent out of the house most times our African parents are quite harsh everything is not done with power they're other ways. Your father failed completely as a father simple

leetech:
Drop you digits let's talk please

Good evening ma,

I am currently a 400L student in a federal university and I’m currently at home due to the unending strike. I don’t know what to do with my life I’m broke, I’m 24 never had a girlfriend not that I’m bad looking I get green light from ladies but I’m always of the opinion that a broke guy shouldn’t be in love so I always look away.

So I’m a cool and reserved guy for has mastered the act of programming mobile applications development using flutter and dart and I’ve been on this for more than a year and I have been looking for a job here and there but couldn’t find any.

No money, no love life, no job .... I will be glad if anyone of your followers can recommend any job openings

Being too independent or educated isn't a crime nor is it my fault. its painful sometimes when I realise men don't want to have anything to do with me all because of that,

One even said he would feel threatened if ever we get married because I would be bringing more to the table than him,

Another said he won't even stress himself to work because he knows he can't compete with me,

Another said I will become arrogant when we get married because once a woman is too educated she becomes another thing.

Is it a crime to be independent, educated and well to do?

My Younger Sister Has Been A Thorn To The Family, she Is Just 16 but Is Completely Lost In The World. She Moves With Different Boys and Has Gotten Involved In Sexual Activities Mostly Yahoo Boy. I No Longer See A Sister But A Slut


Personally, I Dont Care If She Lives Or Dies but I Feel For My Mother Who Recieves All The Blames from My Father. My Father Had Sent Her Out Of The House On Various Ocassions but She Is Highly Disobedient, my Mother Will Beg And She Will Be Pardoned but Will Repeat it Countless times.


I Had Come Across Her Chat With Guys Concerning Sex they Would Have. I Feel Ashamed to Look At Her As A Sister

Just Of Recent My Father Chased Her Out Of The House After She Left the House since Morning Without telling Him and Returned At Evening... He Told Her To Come Pack Her Things And Leave, but She Had Already Left, he Pack all Her Clothes And Burnt them at About 10pm Yesterday, and Saying He Never Wants To See Her Again in His House.

Is This The Solution?

Blackman101:
Great topic i wish we can get pension and have a value input

Why I Do Not Want To Have Babies After Two Years Of Marriage ?

I am a 38 years old woman. I got married to my husband when I was 36. I was not really into marriage. So I was not the desperate type. Even when my family,friends,everyone was pestering me about marriage,I didn’t care cos I was happy,living my life,happy and fulfilled.

By God’s grace,I am an accomplished woman. I have a thriving career. I have a house of my own and I have a masters while I am pursuing my PHD. I gave in to marriage when I met my husband through a friend that set up the match making. My husband,let us call him John,was and still is,a real estate developer. He is a divorcee but he doesn’t have any child from his ex wife.

I grew to like him and when he proposed,I agreed to marry him. Unfortunately,I didn’t get to meet his people until our marriage ceremonies. Both of us are adults and we didn’t think it was a big deal. John is over 40 years. But soon after my wedding,my mother in-law began to show herself. It was obvious that she didn’t like me. This makes me even suspect that she was the reason behind the first marriage crashing. Even though my husband said,it crashed cos they realized that they were not compatible. They quarreled a lot until they divorced.

Well, this woman came to visit us shortly after our marriage and refused to leave even after one month. I didn’t mind but for her constant nagging. She complains that I am not a homely wife. That I love my career more than my home. She would curse me and call me names. I was horrified but I tried to keep my cool. When I told my husband,he brushed it aside and asked me to be the bigger person by ignoring the mother.

Eventually she left but anytime she calls,she insults me and says that I should be thinking of having a baby instead of focusing so much on my career. That was when I told her to mind her business and stop calling me. That didn’t go well with her and she told her son who told me I shouldn’t cut off his mom.

Well,I ignored them both until my mother in law made a statement in a text message she sent me a few months ago. After calling me useless and all sorts of name in the text,she then goes to say that if I ever have a child,she would take the child and ensure that her son drives me away. That statement made me go crazy. I called her and told her off. That caused a serious problem between me and my husband . Who as usual,instead of correcting his mom and defending me,goes the way of saying:be the bigger person….I am fed up of his behavior.

He says,in their culture,a child does not confront a parent!…I think that is BS!. His attitude is giving me serious cause of worry. Much as I would like to have a child,I have serious hesitation with bringing a child into a home like this. So,I have not been actively trying for a baby. Its been two years. Everyone is getting impatient that I am yet to be pregnant. But as for me,I am not bothered. I am not even trying to have a baby.This is not the type of home to raise a child.

My mother says I should have a child cos the child will bring peace. But with my husband’s mother’s threat,I am not so sure. Coupled with my husband’s inability to address the issue. My husband does not know that I am on protection. And I am not about to go off protection until I am sure of the situation.


But I am writing cos I need your advise.If you were in my shoes,what would you do? I would like to have a child someday cos I love children but I am not sure of the future of this marriage. Having a child in an unhappy or broken home is not my idea. My mother keeps crying every day that my ‘biological clock’ is ticking. That I am being paranoid and selfish. Of course,she is thinking of her grandchildren more than my happiness.

I am exhausted. What should I do? should I have a baby or wait?…or maybe I should even start thinking of ending this marriage?…clearly,the man I call my husband cares more about his mother than he cares about me

SNEFF:
is that why you used her name as your moniker ?

missidy:
It is not me o, abeg. Why would I be asking few weeks to my wedding and not during the talking stage!

rukz:
After elevating my hope you shattered it into pieces.

I met this girl sometime last year in school, we had issues in keke where in I asked her to drop down from the keke that I already paid for charter after that incident, I loved her. I asked her out and she told me she was engaged and getting married, but I persisted. I made her come to my house, and we had s**.

According to her was that her intentions was to sleep with me and then leave being that it must be what I wanted, I had to let her know I needed her heart. It took a while but she eventually did love me ( or so I thought). I got to find out that her supposed engaged partner, she hasn't even met the guy for real, they met on Facebook and now they only talk on whatsapp but she loves him .

This girl lives in with me, I get pissed when the guy calls her.. she tells the guy she loves him and then come back to me to tell me the same.

Few days ago, we had issues again because of this and she called me selfish, that I don't care about the feelings of the guy and that I knew from the beginning. I love this girl deeply, and she says she loves me too, most of her sisters knows me but her feel she is lying to me. I feel she doesn't love me and I should let her go ..

She has explicitly said she can't stop talking to this guy and I should have a heart attack if I want to, that I should take the relationship step by step, and I'm ime wtf,

What do I do? I'm confused. Should I let her go or keep her around knowing fully well she's gonna leave. Its very clear to me that she will leave although she says she's not so sure about that .
Lol, she tells this guy that she's dreams about him daily on whatsapp and yet Come back to sleep with Me.

I need help...I'm losing myself for a girl

TheKrakon:
Omor make Ieave this place for the ones when dey rear human beings. We we prefer to rear money and properties.

Revolution2022:
Shey na hotel you snap that pix in your profile?