₦airaland Forum

cap28:
the truth is bitter, Bianca Ojukwu is not a decent woman, you dummies will never learn that these Igbo elites are only out for their own pockets and couldn't give a flying fck about you s.tupid peasants.

You can't make a sane argument without the name-calling?

tete7000:
I have read it. I am sure you are trying to refer me to the part that says Obi could have stayed in APGA and support the president if he wants and that she is still an APGA person despite being an ambassador in PDP government.
However, my own grouse is Bianca being a cynosure of Ojukwu should never have taken any appointment from PDP. It doesn't matter she is still in APGA or not. When you look at the whole thing from the background that the first time Jonathan appointed her as Special Adviser Ojukwu was still on the bed at terminal stage of his life, the whole saga further makes Bianca looks like she doesn't understand the implications of what she did. I will continue to maintain that if anyone would take appointment from PDP, it should never have been Bianca, the widow of Ojukwu. What vow could be stonger than marital vow. Could Ojukwu hale and healthy have permitted her to take the appointment? I doubt.
APGA could nominate another for the position. Once Bianca took appointment and most especially at the critical time she did, she opened a floodgate for everyone else to romance PDP at will. She doesn't posses the moral standing to accuse Obi of treachery. She started the whole process. My own opinion though.

If I am to follow your line of reasoning (which I am not), then Ojukwu also made a grave mistake in accepting that accumulated pension for service in the [Nigerian Army].

Sometimes our assumed ideologies tend to make us cry more than the bereaved.

I saw "amazing Versace shoe collection" and was expecting to see a room full of shoes.

cap28:
Just like her late husband she accepts political appointments from the same people who were responsible for murdering over 3 million of her people, shame on you Bianca and everything you stand for.

Only in a backward country full of ignoramuses can you be taken seriously.

Just take a look at what you are saying.

Who exactly did she receive that political appointment from? You are flying off at tangent.

tete7000:
If she took appointment from PDP, what stop the governor from defecting to the same party where she got appointment? See kettle calling pot black. Hypocrisy.

You didn't read her response.

lukman22:
@Tinyemeka. I knew were d problem is from. I did nt do very in depth research on buying a used truck.so I was financially down after buying and fixing the little faults I could handle with d little money left on me.First,a used truck needs a total overhaul,all the mechanical/moving parts checked( I.e axles,bearings,compressors,gear,springs,crankshaft,piston,rings etc).and also all the used tyer changed. This is because,you dnt knw how d former owner used the truck,whether he is doing proper maintenance as at wen due and how long d tyer hz bn used.had it bn I did this,I would nt HV experience this.

It's not that easy though. It's true when you say total overhaul because one cannot know the issues with the vehicle before the previous owners decided to sell.

My cousin even bought direct tokumbo at Cotonou and was using the truck for intra-city haulage within Abuja. Exactly as you just described. First it started with the body being weak; they had to reinforce it. Then the major one was the engine. It knocked after just 1 month of use. Then the tyres. Infact after buying a truck these days, it's like one must set aside extra funds for the tyres and engine.

But once one has resolved those issues, it should be smooth sailing from there by God's grace. I'm still saving and planning. Hopefully mid-next year.

greaterlove:
Maybe nigeria not qualifying is a blessing in disguise, maybe.

Nigeria did not qualify?

lukman22:
I had a pathetic story on this houlage biz,thou am nt given up yet. I bought a 30ton 10tyer open bucket truck last year ( july 2013).fairly used from Minna,Niger state.the first month after fixing the recommended problems on the truck with total servicing and the driver started work it knocked Engine at benin on there way from Abakaliki to lagos with full load. Was towed to mechanic after handover,d crankshaft were cut from standard to 10 and all d nessacery parts changed .After 3days of running the Engine at the workshop,dey set out for work and it knocked again.so I got angry and bought a direct Belgium Engine and d engine wahala stopped. Then comes the issue of over heating and the truck keep shuttling down to mechanic for correction.wen we had it fixed,the axale starts it own.had it fixed and compressor,power steering starts. After all these,tyer blowout starts. I have a dream of increasing the fleet to 4 b4 Dec 2017. Make una wish me luck oooo

Maybe that's why the Minna people sold off the truck to you?

Pls what types of goods can you movr from Abakaliki to Lag? Is it steady?

Mass illiteracy.

The danger of having Social Media dictate education.

Yet people wonder why they've remained unemployed.

BankoleNco:
You honestly think I give a rats ass about FP? I am talking about the intricate things of life and here you are telling me about some inconsequential FP shit! What value would it add to me. Not mad at you sorry, just. . . .

Sup? Saw your PM. My reply however was bounced back. Says your Yahoo ID was discontinued or no longer active.

How do we talk?

007gal:
Telling someone who is already depressed to go and find a wife and get married is NOT the solution. This is a psychological health issue and it could just be MID LIFE CRISIS.. yes! I said it... you will be amazed that this does not only happen to men/women in their 40's anymore. It has been proved that more of our 'google generation' are falling into depression early on in their life. That's why you are having this feeling. You feel at this age you should have ticked everything in your 'bucketlist" but the reality is that you have not and that is setting you into this conundrum of emotion.

I was 32 when I felt this.I stopped working 9-5. I took a break. I was tired of everything. I decided I will live life for a year or two. I had savings.. I enrolled in smaller classes for gardening, piano lessons and flower class. It was therapy for me.. I hung out more with good friends and cancelled my long bucket list of MUST ACHIEVE THIS BY THIS AGE. Created simpler ones. I STOPPED BEING HARD ON MY SELF... I set smaller goals and achieved them one step at a time with flexibility. I stopped seeing life as one ball of complication and competition. I went back to work only part time to top up my savings and I got serious in giving my time to others ( my ministry) I did things that made me HAPPY. I got my life back. Lived a simpler life.. and eliminated that invisible bar only me set up for myself.

I do not know what will work best for you. You need to just find out yourself. Do something.. learn a language, take a hobby, develop friendships, learn to understand that success is not about material riches. Live simple and travel to see the world one step at a time.

Sorry this reply is belated.

I didn't read your entire post the first time but now that I have, I see that it TOTALLY does not apply to a man.

I ask you: Those things that you did to tackle your depression (cancel your bucket list, your major goals and targets, assume a laid back life, travel around and have no worries whatsoever); if you see a man who is of marriageable age and did that, what would you make of such man? Do you see him as a man having the ideal manly qualities?

My dear, he would only be postponing the inevitable. He may feel good travelling around and laying about but I assure you that he won't feel that good later.

He should pursue [long term] happiness not the transient one. If he slacks in his targets and goals, he'll marry eventually abi? Even if as you say, it's not now. Who'll feed, educate, provide shelter for the family then?

P.S. I was thinking you were part of all these ultra-feminist, women-power types. Your website says otherwise. Na wa for you O.

coogar:
show no emotions....
let the kids go spend some time with their grannies - then put yourself to task & bring exotic ladies into the house.

different ones per week.

Bro, pls be serious for once.

Agreed. You are good at sarcasm, but the best knows when to draw the line. It's his marriage that is being discussed here. These things you advise him to do, how do you think the couple would fare in the long run? Have you been married before?

@OP, instead of bringing your issues to a public forum mostly populated by juvenile minds, why don't you approach a more matured audience for advice?

If all that you've said is really true (and not a mere prank, although I am inclined to believe you), please take your case to a marriage counsellor. I'll advise that you see the Parish Priest of a Catholic church, even if you aren't a catholic. You'll be attended to. Just ask for the days of their marriage class.

They are very experienced in handling marital issues as these and there are Canons and past cases to help tackle your issue. I believe yours is not an exception.

Madam may not join you at first. Most likely. But go first. Make an effort.

In the meantime, have you really stopped lusting after other women? The future of your marital life depends on that.

I'll also advise that you stop making further comments on this thread.

Thanks.

YankeeJoe:
Helo fellow nairalanders, greetins 2 y'al..

Pls i got an experience i wud gladly luv 2 share wit u & seek ur positive advice..

I met ds gal i loved so dearly in 2006 on her bck frm skul. @1st sight, i developed a strong feelin 2 wards her ( i dnt mean infatuation, lets any man persecute me), we got along as frnds n along d line, i made my intentions knwn 2 her but she turned me down. She claimed bn ok wit me jus being a frnd 2her.

I felt d pains bt learnt hw 2 deal wit it while i continue my life wit sm1 else...
In 2013, she started showin emotional feelins 2wards wit d intention of bn in a serious n committed relationship wit me...

She came up wit d claim dat her ex did nt luv her like she wntd hence,
she quited d relationship ( na me be d maga wey go blve dat kind cock n bul story abi? Or na me go cum luv u pass nw afta dos nigas don finish wrk?)


Truth is, her ex(s) ve al used n dumped her bt nw she has rememba me (2 her she feels am a spare tire; God 4bid!!)..

She's up wit d claim dat we were both 2 young & inexperienced 2 date bck then.. Dat she alwz luvd n cherished me...

My qstn is: y wud a lady frnd-zone a guy dat sincerely luvd her bt afta wards go bck 2 him afta bn mesmerized by oda rouged guys?

Guys, pls, wat do u tink abt ds?

Ask your present babe for advice.
NLders abi no bi so?

O Lord! O Lord!!

Please let this be a photoshop.

007gal:
Telling someone who is already depressed to go and find a wife and get married is NOT the solution. This is a psychological health issue and it could just be MID LIFE CRISIS.. yes! I said it... you will be amazed that this does not only happen to men/women in their 40's anymore. It has been proved that more of our 'google generation' are falling into depression early on in their life. That's why you are having this feeling. You feel at this age you should have ticked everything in your 'bucketlist" but the reality is that you have not and that is setting you into this conundrum of emotion.

I was 32 when I felt this.I stopped working 9-5. I took a break. I was tired of everything. I decided I will live life for a year or two. I had savings.. I enrolled in smaller classes for gardening, piano lessons and flower class. It was therapy for me.. I hung out more with good friends and cancelled my long bucket list of MUST ACHIEVE THIS BY THIS AGE. Created simpler ones. I STOPPED BEING HARD ON MY SELF... I set smaller goals and achieved them one step at a time with flexibility. I stopped seeing life as one ball of complication and competition. I went back to work only part time to top up my savings and I got serious in giving my time to others ( my ministry) I did things that made me HAPPY. I got my life back. Lived a simpler life.. and eliminated that invisible bar only me set up for myself.

I do not know what will work best for you. You need to just find out yourself. Do something.. learn a language, take a hobby, develop friendships, learn to understand that success is not about material riches. Live simple and travel to see the world one step at a time.

'Start a serious relationship and get married.'
That was just one sentence out of my entire post. I advised on other things he should do.

Acidosis:
Lol

The way people are posting these figures, one would assume the posters and all Nigerian graduates make these figures monthly.

Biko, you don't have to work for GTB to make N200k. A tailor (a nairalander) made approximately N680k in 3 weeks here in Lagos. He didn't even do any advert. Someone only saw a wear he made for a client and the man loved it. The following week, someone called from London and asked him to make about 30 units of aso ebi.


All the same sha, the salary figures here look cool.

How many times has your NL friend repeated that 680k in 3 wks contract this year?

Onegai:
It wasn't about business rival, since last year, several writers I know complained that Linda Ikeji was stealing their content without crediting them. It wasn't that she was sharing common gist, she would lift passages they wrote, pictures they shot and post it on her blog and MAKE MONEY OFF THEIR HARDWORK. Without giving them a kobo (she could have afforded to). Please she should stop calling haters and God, abeg, it's only in Nigeria people who steal will call on the Lord's name when caught.

Imagine if I showed up and picked up your paycheck end of this month, all because I am more popular in the company than you, will you be smiling?

***Deep sigh***
Both blogs of yours barely have one post per month and almost always start with an apology for not posting on time. What content are you talking about?

Linda Ikeji eats and breathes blogging. It's everyday.

adegwurulez:
Is this anual or monthly? cos most of these bankers around look broke

It's supposed to be a conservative profession.
Live prudently.

Seun:
Send a mail to Linda Ikeji. She may be interested.

True that.

Izunwa:
What's funny about this if I may ask

I doubt if he actually meant to put that smiley. Probably a combination of ( and D.

BankoleNco:
Hey guys,
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'd go ahead and post here as it is related to health (depression).
Well, I don't want to bore you with long sermon-esque writings, so I'd skip the fancy stuff and go straight
to the point. I'd be turning 30 mid next year and its really eating me up! I feel depressed and old! Its been
giving me sleepless nights and middle of the night insomnia I wake up 4.00 am for no reason nowadays
and just stare at the ceiling lost in thought and scared as hell with thoughts of being in the twilight of my youth,
knowing I'd have to get married pretty soon, just 10 years away from 40, no more clubbing, no more spontaneous
Saturday drives. The worst part is I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development and didn't have
time to indulge in some most of the activities attached to youthful exuberance.Its paid off, yes! But, I AM DEPRESSED right now!
Did any of you guys currently 30 and above experience same? Would really help if someone said something. *sigh*

Brother, we share the same age down to a few days. May born.
Same thing happened to me severally. Not yet 30 and I already felt old. My colleague would look at me strange.

Get into a serious relationship and get married. Then focus on major targets, life goals. Determine things that give you satisfaction. They are there if you search deep enough. And pursue them. It'll take your mind off those 'mid-life blues'.

You are probably a melancholic like me. I never had any girlfriend till I was 28, didn't party in school or at home and everyone kept yabbing me that my wife danced far more better than me at our trad and wedding. But I can't come and go and come and kill myself.

Like I said, find things to divert your attention and give you joy (not alcohol, parties or p0rn) and long term happiness and pursue your life goals. Forget missed runs and old age and all the things associated with them
They'll come when they'll come. Enjoy your life and hope for a good future now. Your depression is supposed to be a phase. It'll pass with time. Cheers bro.

Ermm...
Which category would I place this dude under?

CityNG:
So I had a brainstorm today to save money, instead of paying the driving school to yeah the Wife to drive I would teach her myself.

15 minutes later we have both decided that it's probably better for our marriage to have a neutral party be the teacher

My life flashed before my eyes like 10 times.

So how did your Spouses learn how to drive?

My brother, same thing happened to me o. Coupled with a burnt clutch disc to complete the equation.

3rd party teacher biko. Let him collect the mental trauma. Afterall, he's being paid for it.

This is the only pic I liked.

Did mine too Sat, Oct 4th.

Jupiter!
Got it from my Agric Sci teacher in 1998 cos of the size of my head. I was busy copying Geography notes then and Jupiter was the first thing he saw when he looked into my book and was about yabbing me.

People still call me that to this day.

ElekeNtioba: I'm still at d 'awaiting husband' stage.

Same bus.

johnjay4u2u: ''Emancipate yourself from mental slavery''- Bob Marley

Got the bronze. TTC. I'm getting there.

Fighting for a worthless FTC position; is that not slavery in itself?

philantoxx: her ugliness is legendary

Big lie!!!

No 6. Works for me all the time.
'Baby I ri kwala ihe taa?'

dabriggs: No they float in water. Partly submerged in water.

I will post some personal photos and some from the internet of the Sedco Semi Sub Express Rig which I have worked with for a short time. Sedco express is owned by Transocean. Very clean and nice rig.

Your Sedco semi sub is relatively new.

dabriggs: No they float in water. Partly submerged in water.

I will post some personal photos and some from the internet of the Sedco Semi Sub Express Rig which I have worked with for a short time. Sedco express is owned by Transocean. Very clean and nice rig.

Yeah I eventually did a Wiki search on it. It had always amazed me how super-structures of such tonnage could float in water, till I saw pics of their ballast size compared to the rest of the structures (deck, etc).

Amazing!