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RuthieKalu:
Because he went to church for the first time in a while,doesn't necessarily mean he's born again.
Not everyone that goes to church is a Born Again Christain.

If I may ask my lady; what does it mean to be born again?

David160:
Chai

If Femi fani kayode actually tweeted that then i will lose hope on his sanity.

Uppalove:
Effect of associating with negative thinkers.

You guys should just shush!

The tension started since October last year when he was accused of calling the POTUS a slowpoke. His sack has absolutely nothing to do with him coming to Ngeria or shithole country as people call us.

The guy has never been in agreement with Trump and he even said he may be working with Trump for just about a year. Before he came to Nigeria there was a situation where he contradicted the White house on North Korea issue so he knew already that he will be sacked but i respect him for his doggedness and confidence.

https://edition.cnn.com/2017/10/04/politics/tillerson-trump-slowpoke/index.html

ImaIma1:
Thanks for stylishly saying i am dumb.
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You are a typical naija lady.

ImaIma1:
I am not aggressive. Don't worry about me remaining married. That is my business UNCLE.
If it was such a mild slap, what pic did she send to her mum. Didn't the "mild" slap leave a scar?

You need to understand that you cannot advise a woman to stay after being beaten the first time. What if she dies the second time? It should be her choice to stay or leave.

I am calm sir. We don't just agree on this

Now I can see that sometimes one needs to spell things out clearly cos some people find it hard to comprehend the message...now understand this.

It is hard for a man to just wake up to start beating his wife in one day without the signs showing before that day.

When I said raise his hand I was not talking about blue black beating.

It usually starts with a slap,push,or removing of belt which are good enough signs.

I will tell you again..marriage is not theory but practical and if you think you can just leave your marriage because a man abused you verbally then better remain single. That's my point.

igboOSU:
Are you okay?
Do you people even think before typing sometimes?
Me put my mouth for where urine and all sorts of discharges emanates from?

God forbid!

Even if it looks like the cleanest thing I have ever seen, I'll never do it.

Continue enjoying the taste u hear. Nonsense

Lwkmd!

Do you know that the place you refer to as where discharge comes from is cleaner than your mouth

Men who have done it will agree that it tastes somewhat acidic and that is because there is a microflora that GOD has put there to always make it clean.

Asides that It is Self-Cleaning
The vagina keeps itself clean in many ways. Glands in the vagina produce fluid that flows out daily to help get rid of dead cells and other potentially harmful materials (this is discharge).

The folds of the vagina also protect against infection by sticking together to keep as much bad stuff on the outside as possible.

The skin of the vaginal folds also have glands that produce fluid, called sebum, for added protection against infection and even waterproofing.

Sebum can build up and that is perfectly healthy — not an indication of poor hygiene. Vaginas are self-sustaining and should not be washed with soap or douched because it can wash away these protective fluids.

*I know many teenagers and minors are reading this but if you try mouth actio without being married then expect your mouth to swell.*

MhizzAJ:
You are such a romantic partner then
Your wife must be very lucky to have you
She wouldn't be tempted by other men no marra what

That is why I'm very careful to be with any lady cos they find it hard to let go...even my ex run back after her shakara.

I am ultra romantic and I love MouthAction to stupor but I only limit it to that special lady.

igboOSU:
Olóríbu

Give woman mouth action?

GOD FORBID!

MY MOUTH IS SACRED.

BUT IF U LIKE, GIVE ME BJ, NAAT U SABI

Not just any woman...your wife. Almost every woman if not all loves it so don't punish your wife by denying her....

You will love the taste..But as I wrote...to your wife and not just any lady else you are on your own if you use mouth action destroy your destiny.

Tajbol4splend:
Gonna try it someday

Yeah when you get married..

As far as I'm concerned. ..I can eat my wife's snail from morning till night cos I just love the feel so this one counting 9 times is confusing...

My advise to husbands

Eat your wife snail first thing in the morning...if you get back from work, whilst she is cooking,under the shower,when she is eating,even when she is asleep...infact eat it in and out..buy honey and garnish it to add spice.
And don't forget to suck on the snail's bulge with your lips as you savour the fleshy part.


Do this regularly and your wife will always crave for you but she should keep the snail clean always and free of infection.


Thank me latter.

ImaIma1:
Would you slap your friends if they used same language on you? A girl or guy that is your closest friend? Won't you just walk away? Speaking for myself, i won't tolerate it because i would have to be living on edge thinking that he might do it again. And i can't live like that. I am a happy child.

The people that have lost their lives, a part of their bodies or even themselves condoned it after it happened the first time.

Even emotional violence or whatever. You can't use some words on me...i will tell you immediately to take it back. I don't use such hurtful words myself. It destroys.

When i am upset, i am quiet because i cannot take words back and i am very good with words. My words can make you sit down and think about your existence or burst out crying. I am that bad. So i don't see why we cannot control our excesses.

I can forgive but i would rather not continue. In all my years of dating, i never had someone abuse me verbally or physically. If i can keep my temper under, i see no reason why u shouldn't too

Aunty calm down...if you apply all these aggression in real live then you may never remain married.


Shits happened in life and more so why are you quoting me wrongly? I wrote that I slapped her mildly on the lap and you are asking me if I can do same to a friend? which kain question be that?

Better calm down Aunty.

tosyne2much:
Well said Toks2008

I don't think there's any justifiable reason whatsoever to beat your wife to pulp.. Any man who derives joy in beating a woman is nothing but an animal. Flee from such a man.

I don't think it's a mistake and such mistake will always repeat itself

No Tosyn,some men have JUSTIFIABLE reasons to beat up their wives but the point is that they must never try it.

I have seen ladies abuse their husbands with unprintable words and I just smh! some ladies are serious evil and can make an angel turn to a demon but nevertheless,no man should raise his hands to strike a woman in any way.

Many ladies know that their men are violent but they will still risk it and I wonder if that is love or desperation.

Some assaults does not require a second chance and I don't need to spell it out but the point is a man who can beat a lady blue black would have at a time in the past slap,push,or hit her not once or twice.

ImaIma1:
I agree. For him to even do it at all shows that it is in him and it is a warning sign that should not be taken for granted.

Spouses annoy each other countless times, it doesn't mean the man has the audacity to hit the woman. Can she also beat him when he annoys her?

I beg to disagree...as I wrote before, there are varying degrees of assault.

I remember the first and last time I lost it and that was after 12years of an affair...

She used a language that was so gross and I slapped her on her lap mildly but because I had never done that before I was like "what just happened"? I immediately begged her and opted to massage the spot with a balm but she was so furious that she took the pics of the spot where I slapped her and sent it to my sis n mum lol!...Apparently she never expected me to react that way and this why I advise ladies to avoid igniting anger cos they don't know how the other person may react.

well she forgave me and even apologized for using those words..

My point is that even angels are not perfect so everyone deserves a second chance.

Ladies also have a big role to play by doing their best to avoid using hurtful words cos some super romantic guys might just get violent if certain lines are crossed by the lady.

912:
This second chance ish is just something people say to excuse bad behaviour. There are some instances where the second chance card can't be used and beating a lady is one of them.
You want to give him second chance so he can kill her right. When a man knows that the lady he claims to love would definitely leave him if he tries that nonsense, he will be more careful and treat her with respect.

Besides how many of their male friends have they beaten up because they made them angry? I'm guessing zero and that's because they will definitely fight back. But because the lady is seen as a weaker person they will gladly lift their hands at the slightest provocation and I say that's unacceptable.

I see your comment as not just hypocritical but unrealistic...

We are all humans and just as someone wrote here...it's not just about physical abuse...you can abuse a lady psychologically, emotionally and so on but I guess those deserve a second chance but physical abuse does not please give me a break dude and be realistic. We all deserve a second chance...even GOD almighty got so angry that he destroyed the humans he created howbeit we mere mortals.

It's common sense that no man or lady should wait to be abused the second time before taking actions and of course there are levels of assault that does not require a second chance.

BluntBoy:
Bad advice because it is liable to mislead. Anyone can lose it, even God (as recorded in the Bible). Yes, it can become a habit but only for those who are predisposed to violence.

There are various forms of spousal abuse and many of us are guilty of it even without knowing. An example of spousal abuse is leaving home because your wife annoyed you and putting her in emotional distress. If everyone acknowledges these examples of spousal abuse, then no one would be qualified to marry.

Insightful...but I still prefer that a man leaves the house rather than kill the woman with beating...

912:
I beg to disagree. Please ladies if a man raises his hand to hit you, RUN. I repeat RUN!!!. It's never a mistake and there is no excuse for that.

Don't ever take it from any man. If he likes let him apologise for 10years don't listen to him. Do not ever think you can change him and do not make excuses for something that is wrong.

There are several ways of dealing with anger and hitting a woman IS NOT one of them.

We all deserve a second chance. No one is perfect.

I hope lalasticlala beams this.

I could not hold back tears after i saw this thread on frontpage...https://www.nairaland.com/4394781/congolese-man-beats-wife-death

If there is one thing I'm most certain about,it is the fact that the signs have always been there but this lady probably ignored them.

Many ladies have been advised to stay with a violent husband for the sake of the children or to avoid what people will say but I see this as a very dangerous advise that may cause the lady her life.

If you are a lady in an affair with a man whether dating or marriage and he raises his hands to hit you and he apologizes please forgive him and assume it's a mistake if that is his very first time but if he does it again please run cos it is a habbit he may never stop.

If he comes back begging and you are not yet married to him please forgive him but don't risk it but if you are already married to him please make him sign an undertaken in any human right center or police station that he will never raise his hands to strike you again.Dont allow foolishness in the name of love make you stay with a violent man cos your life is far worth more than a miserable union.

No woman should disrespect her husband or man in anyway but no man has any reason to raise his hands to beat any woman because it is an act of insanity and any man who does that is a beast that should not live among humans but in the jungle with wild beasts like him.

And same goes for the violent ladies who are fond of destroying items or threatening with knives or dangerous object whenever they are angry...Any man faced with this type of woman should also run as far as he can if she exhibits such act repeatedly.

I hope this makes sense.

Sometimes I just get fed up with how some ladies carry monogamy for head like kilode.

If you are not ready for the possibility of your man marrying a second lady please just remain single...it's that simple.

Monogamy is a choice likewise polygamy but when you try to pin a man down to only you then he will likely dump you and move on to the next lady which is serial monogamy.

One man one woman is a lie that can never be true and any lady who hates what I'm writing now should change her gender.

MONOGAMY is a choice and not all men cheat but no sane woman should leave her marriage cos a man cheats or decides to take another wife.

9 out of 10 men giving the chance will cheat on their wives so why leave your marriage just to be with another man who will likely do what your ex did if not worse.

In my world,a man who marries 3 wives and stay faithful to them is better than a guy with one wife and several mistresses but what does a "misogynist" like me know?

adaksbullet:
Bus toks25394938 his an single boys


While we u be given us relasionshipses advise and u are haved no womans on ur live?

Just ignore the advise..it's that simple.

lalasticlala

MissJoy29:
Yeah I guess something is definitely wrong with me sending mails. For now I'm using my phone for it. A lot of issues with it.

I have tried sending it to you via another channel twice but you weren't fast about it. Are you online now or kinda busy?

I'm online

[quote author=MissJoy29 post=65750155][/quote]I STILL WONDER WHY I HAVE NOT RECIEVED THE MAIL.


mAYBE THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG FROM YOUR END.

ok send to olatokunbo40@gmail.com

if I still cant get it then something is definitely wrong from your side.

MissJoy29:
Seen it?

Are you sure you are sending to the right address?

olakoredeh@gmail.com

Please resend one last time and send a copy to forexrefuge@yahoo.com

Thanks

MissJoy29:
Good evening & happy Sunday.
Did you receive the mail?

I never see am o..Maybe you should resend

As far as i am concerned,there are always three sides of a story...

His side
Her side
The truth

But i always like to hear the first 2 before making judgement or form an opinion.

Omooba77:
Jesus Christ said, Go ye into all the world and preach the Gospel to all nations; baptising them in the name of The Father, of the Son, of the Holy Spirit.
How often do we carry out this task?

I am more of an e-evangelist than offline and to GOD be the glory.

Rapsino:
On a fateful friday i entered a train from a metro station actually heading to Ajman from Dubai. I was in a hurry to get off the train and enter a bus going to my destination and unknown to me my wallet dropped off. It was when I want to get a bus ticket I noticed my wallet was nowhere to be found.
I was mad cos my money and IDs card are all in my wallet. I was helpless cos I am new here and know nobody, the slogan here in Dubai is always "nothing is free in Dubai ". Cut all story short I reached home from a divine helper but without my wallet.
The next morning not feeling happy I logged on to my Facebook account only to find a message asking if I lost my wallet. I replied and that was how I actually got my wallet.
What really happened was that the lady saw my wallet and going through my ID she searched for my name on Facebook and seeing that my pic is the same as my ID pic, she sent me a message to confirm.
I know if I didn't use my real names on Facebook my wallet would have been dead and buried, although the money was not there but my vital IDs and sims are intact.
Mods please share for people to learn. Thanks.

This is why i am 100% transparent in a faceless world because im too clean to start hiding pics or real names..though i have learned something from your experience cos my facebook name is slightly different from my main name not because of anything else but i have not officially changed from Kadiri to Olatokunbo.

Most people who hide identity online are sinister in their ways..quote me anywhere

I was expecting to see an indecent pics but this one weak me...some fathers can be too uptight.

As bizarre as it may sound I think there is something to hold on to here...

According to their law, a woman ought not to be seen alone with a man who is not her husband except of course the man is a family member...

This means she paved way for the act by crossing that line ...

Now coming to the western ideology of rape...a lady can come visiting her BOYFRIEND....dressing almost unclad and even initiate petting but maybe at a stage when the guy is about sliding in she says stop and the guy goes ahead,she can accuse the guy of rape....how insane

So whilst I totally condemn the punishment melted out to the lady, I kinda see why they gave her such.

MissJoy29:
Where is the number?
I can't post it here o.

That's why I asked if you reply pms

Just send it to olakoredeh@gmaul.com and I will add it to my contact n send u a message.

Thanks

MissJoy29:
Thanks a lot Do you reply?

I will add your number to my contact n send you a message.