₦airaland Forum

goingape:
you have not invested in MMM but you are writing to MMM telling them suggestions!

the truth shall set you free!

Yes i wrote to them because i support whatever will help Nigerians make good money but unfortunately there is something wrong with the payment module which if corrected will make it sustainable.

eniwhy:
My advice to every Nigerians out there is, don't be gullible to fall for this fraudster's embellishments, Its another strategic way of luring their victims back to their atrocities. You are warned! Money does not fall from sky.

On the contrary, MMM is not scam but Nigerians due to there greediness has made it one.

It is written boldly..."USE ONLY YOUR SPARE MONEY" meaning money you can afford to lose.

I am a n online fx expert and Nigerians are the most greedy set of foreex traders because they put in so much with the hope of performing magic but those i have trained outside the country do this same business without issues.

There is something fundamentally wrong with an average Nigerian investor.

Do you know that if MMM is structured on referral there is no way the system wil crash in a hundred years? But most Nigerians are lazy..they run from referral but will prefer to put down their money and expect some form of magic to happen how pathetic.

Singapore1:
Now this is good news and bad new
which one should i share first?
okay let me share the good news first...

1. there is nothing like fake proof of payment again... cos you will need to proof you have paid with your transaction ID

2. nothing like queuing in the bank again to get help and provide help

3. and if mmm freeze again , nothing like contacting brothe EZE and beg you to give you half of the money ( money sent is untraceable )

4. getting help will be faster than ever ( say maximum 3 hours )

now the bad news


1. there is no way to know WHEN or IF movrodi will run away with your money

2. it is now easy for him to pack all your money and run without any trace

3. efcc , fbi etc... no evidence again

4. if you provide help and the reciever decide to run away.. nothing like freezing his account ..your money is gone


pardon my grammar

I will always say that though i have never invested in this program but you seem to be ignorant about one thing...the system operates on direct payment from member to member so there is no way anybody's money can be stolen.

You send bitcoin directly to one another and everyone has his or her own bitcoin account just like regular bank account.

The way i see mavrod getting paid very well is when hye matches his bitcoin account to someone who wants to give help in huge amount.

I have written a letter to Mavrod and i suggested an option for MMM explaining a new payment module using my knowledge as an e-commerce consultant and i hope he implements the recommendation.

As far as i am concerned, no matter how they come up with new ideas on the present MMM pay plan, it can never ever be sustainable so the best bet is to restructure the pay plan.

firstking01:
You delibrately skipt my mentions cos it's well countering your assertions ba

But you did not articulate your opinion.

.

I guess it's insightful.

PatriotTemidayo:
Being a pro-women is not optional, we all have mothers and Sisters, cousins and nieces. So I don't doubt you being with them 500% . I salute your courage to say the hard facts when you're well aware there'll be confrontations and reactions.

Not just confrontations and reactions but prejudice as many nairaland ladies see me as a potential bad guy for any lady and that is where they missed it totally...

I'm a no holds bar freelancer and the fact that I have never cheated on my lady does not mean I should deny that most guys cheat...too bad truth hurts..too bad.

Ofemini:
Yes, agreed, for me, amongst the many reasons, the most outstanding should be a mutual decision to love as any other cogent reason different from this is temporal and subject to change. I believe the intention of your post is to correct misconceptions and misinformations about relationships culminating in marriage. You did justice by identifying those utopian expectations ladies anticipate. These anomalies are so rampant in our society today that they are gradually becoming the norm and standard. However, there are still exceptions though few but available.
In your submission, you dismissed the expectation of 'true love' as a wishful thinking. You hinged the essence of true love on attraction. This is the point where we diverge. You alledge that my submission is not realistic and practical. Hmmm..... It may be unpopular but they are realistic and equally practicable. As ample testimonies of successful marriages are right here with us. Unions which have lasted more than 50 years even in the midst of difficult circumstances. They could not have endured that long because of what they like about their partner. That is why divorce is on the increase in our own generation due to the prominence of the gospel of love driven by attraction. No wonder; a time comes when the weakness of the other partner, disagreements triuph over whatever you liked initially about the person.
As of old, accompanying attraction was their decision and commitment to their to make sure it works. But in our time, once you observe what you do not like in your partner, they part ways with the illusion of finding a perfect person that they will forever be attracted to. How to identify guys with this strong respect and enormous responsibility of commitment to their marriage is a topic for another day. Thanks &God bless!

You are right once again but can I ask you this?

Can you love or desire a dirty,lazy,abusive adultress?

There is nothing like true love between humans but only from God to man.

Most couples who stay long in marriages will call it love and I agree but in reality it's more of tolerance.

It is that tolerance that many young people lack.

PatriotTemidayo:
Yes my brother and friend, I am a guy. Thanks a million. I love healthy, purposeful and interactive threads, let create more of it. But remember, no one can change things except we, the youth. Are you ready for a paradigm shift??

I do have quite a number of threads for guys but why I focus more on ladies is because they are endangered species in this cruel world of men.

It's like guys can do crazy stuffs and get away with it but it's not the same for ladies so this is why I try to enlighten them on how to better prepare for the cruel challenges out there expecially in the matters of the heart but to them they think I'm against them but on the contrary.. I'm 200% with them.

lilyqueen:
"HARMLESS" THINGS PEOPLE DO THAT LEAD TO ILLICIT SEX


1.Calling everyone dear, dearie, dearest, sweet, sweetie, and all those "harmless" pet names.


2. Calling and allowing the opposite sex to call you sexy, curvy, angel, idol, etc.


3. Pouting your mouth and posting the picture on the social media (You give more focus on the lips).


4. Turning your bum to the camera and posting the picture on the social media. Same for ladies who focus more on the chest region.


5. Hugging, touching and embracing every Tom, Dick and Harry.




6. Allowing the opposite sex give you sexy compliments and secretly or publicly enjoying the compliment e.g. "I like your figure", "You've got kissable lips," "Your moustache makes you look so sexy," "Your height is tripping. I like guys who are muscular and six feet tall."



7. You allowed your EX back into your life.



8. You allow the opposite friend to visit you anyday, anytime.


9. You visit the opposite sex friend anyday, any time.



10. You flirt "harmlessly"with the opposite sex.


11. As a married man/woman, you chat with the opposite sex far into the night

12. You give "harmless" pecks and kisses.


13. Your dates are always done in lonely places.


14. You counsel and pray with the opposite sex in a lonely or dark room.


15. You end up having emotional and physical sexual affair and lose yourself respect for life!


These things look harmless but have very serious implications.

Jesus says "Flee all appearances of evil"! No, you don't wait until that guy/lady ask for sex before you run!


You run at the beginning! Say NO to things that are not proper,

say NO to words that turn you on, say NO to people that makes you feel "hot!"


Avoid situations and environments that encourage sin.



Keep your chastity. Keep your testimony. God bless you. Cheers!

16. Displaying a beautiful picture on your naira land profile page.

So you are also guilty...Don't mind me..nice thread.

Ofemini:
There is no denying the fact that it is impossible to love someone without some level of attraction base on qualities or features of interest. But what i am positing is that it is not a sufficient condition for true love. This is due to the fact that these features are not eternal. Therefore, it is safe to say that when the tides change, the only pillar that reinforces your 'real love' is the choice you have made to do so. I hope you will have a second view at this issue. Thanks!

See friend,you are very very correct but you must understand that there is reality and expectations.

What you wrote is exactly how it ought to be but I write practical stuffs,realistic facts and one of them is that no one can love another without a reason..

Lady39:
Ooooooh Sir Toks....Sir Toks....Sir Toks.....
Did u crash your head into the "brick wall" that's built up around me
U know that's not the........
Well nevermind. I guess that's "your story & you're sticking to it"!

*winks*

Thecassanova:
Nice topic Op, man has a shortlife span. For Eg We lost more able men soldiers to terrorism every year. What should happen to their young widowed wives back at home? And also other women who are in the 30's seriously searching for life partners.

The more we realise the shortage of single men and put doctrines asides the better for us.

Buh looking at the other angle how does doctrines of one man one woman crub the society of single women when clearly the supply of single women clearly exceed the single men around To me it wouldn't be fair allowing these women to remain single for the rest of their lives.

Sometimes I doubt if some doctrines are really inspired that's why I believe when they say "They teach doctrines commanded my men".

Our ancestors never felt this cos most had 3,4 wives and then everything was balance. Our grandma, great grandma married below 20 even has 3rd wife, so it was hard seeing a single lady at 22yrs.

This is so deep.

Very very deep.

Dfinex:
can't u marry a widow? or have they suddenly become leftovers only good enough for married men?

It's not about a single man marrying widow but the question is how many men are single at 40? not forgetting that the dingle ones would readily go for single ladies of younger ages.

Dfinex:
Nna, one man one wife oo......it's already difficult dealing with a partner and u want to make them two.

polygamy comes with so many issues biko...

if u are talking about the widows, are there no widowers or even single men around? or are u saying single men don't or shouldn't marry widows?

Interesting...so a widow at her late 30s or in her 40s should wait for a single guy or find a widower....

Alondra:
I wont encourage a friend to get involved with a married man. If there is one thing i hate most it is Polygamy. The troubles are just too much, There is more to life than 'Marriage'.

But then it is her life, if she wants t o who am I to stop her?.

OK so you would tell her to lock up and remain celibate..

Issorite

Emac34:
it's realistic but not a must cos it depend mostly on the individual

So how will you answer the question I asked?

I can bet this is one thread that will have large viewers but very few contributors because the topic is very deep.

Before you all begin to wonder what I'm up to this time I would like to state clearly that Polygamy is a matter of choice and I'm not promoting polygamy
but i want us to have an unbiased and non hypocritical down to earth discussion about this deep and sensitive one man one wife concept.

Everyday we see series of prewedding pics,we see pics of a happily married lady with her husband and lovely children and we see ladies gush over their significant other not forgetting those who will threaten fire and brimstone if their hubby ever imagine the possibility of a second wife but I want these ladies to wait and think for a minute about that young widow who is faced with the challenges of being a single parent...about that innocent divorcee whose husband against all odds threw her out...about that mature unmarried single mum that keeps meeting unserious unmarried single men and about that unmarried lady who is probably in her 40s and have had series of heart break from callous single men....

Yes we know that the aforementioned set of ladies could still marry a never married single guy but except we want to fool each other we all know that in most cases if single guys have the choice to make,they would mostly go for single ladies with no child rather than a young widow with children,a young divorcee with children or a single mum.

The big question is "Who will marry this set of ladies? I know it will be easy for anyone to quickly say shebi there are widowers, male divorcees with children or even single guys who can still marry them but it is easier to say this if you are not in their shoes.

No matter how hard some people go against polygamy,i strongly believe it is the answer to the prayers of some ladies but what can I say in a world where hypocrisy is a norm? a world where a man of 70 celebrates 40years monogamous wedding anniversary with one lady while keeping other children with different mothers outside the same marriage...and a crazy world where even the young married men who sing the "i love my my wife" lyrics will gladly keep side chics... oh I guess it's OK as long as these men are married to one lady...hmmmmm!

In my opinion I believe the one man one woman concept is flawed for many reasons...and it is a good thing Islam is not against it neither is the bible asides the "advice" given in the bible to General overseers to be husband of one wife.

Conclusively I would leave this topic open for discussion but when next you see a widow with children,a lady divorcee with children or a single mum finding solace in the hands of a married man,before you start judging just wait,close your eyes for a minute and put yourself in their position and ask yourself..."should i continue to wait for single men who hardly want to marry me?, should i remain celibate and continue to burn with passion?, should i just throw caution to the wind and allow different men take advantage of my condition by having flings with me?, or should i gladly allow a married man to have me as a wife as long as he has the finance to take care of his polygamous status?

And if you are a married lady reading this...please before you start lashing out at me,wait till you find yourself in such situations.

I don't know if this makes sense but I leave it open for you all to discuss.

Tino86:
A job well done Mr. Toks2008, u are truly an insightful writer. I can't go thru these thread without appreciating you. You honestly sent serious warning shivers down the spines of those against this thread. You could tell from their insultive responds, cos they had to fight their inner cinscience where truth lies.I just hope this thread will go a long way to positively affect the crude telemundu mentality of most women of today. A lot of young purposeful men, with average paid job that willing to settle down are finding it difficult because of influence of social media on women of today. I still appreciate viewers of this thread who supported the op's opinion with constructive arguments and submissions. And to the aggrieved viewers, whom are mostly ladies, I advised you remove sentiments and quest for materialism and read through the thread again and pick some helpful tips and make your love life, an envy of your peers.

I appreciate bro.

WORDWORLD:
It speaks in your writings that you could not be one of such DISEASED SOULS. Truth leads to prosperity and only those who choose a life of SELF RESPONSIBILITY do not tell lies. Keep up the good works.

Thanks bro

God will help us all.

WORDWORLD:
Ladies are more akin to MATERIALISM so one of the factors why the love LIES. To be honest you are doing a great job on NL. Without doubt there are ladies as few as they may be on NL who see you as a teacher and who have gained from your POSITIVE THREADS.

To LOVE LIES is a really terrible DISEASE...............but then do men have to tell lies all because its loved by women!? ALOT OF MEN DO.

That I will never do.. I prefer to tell you the truth and face the consequence rather than tell lies.

mctowel01:
You mad a lot of real talk sense. No telemundo. But you failed to point out a fact that more reasons to "love" someone keep developing as the relationship progresses. I ve personally observed this. Whatever reaons a guy tells the lady at first might not be all in future. Events unfold which give a new dimension to the "love" he has for her. An extreme example is assuming the man discovered that the woman went extra miles to seek funds for medical treatment when he was ill or visit him everyday after an accident despite the inconveniences. It can take various forms also and not necessarily relating to medical care. You can't discover these reasons at the beginning of the relationship. Its perhaps why they say couples are to "grow in love". So, you made sense, but its not really as black and white as you put it.
Cheers

GOD bless you for this..

I was discussing with a naira land friend lady39 about a cousin of mine who traveled to the states and got married to a lady...

This lady was instrumental to the guy's success in correcting a health issue he has lived with for years...the guy still calls me regularly to reaffirm that nothing can ever make him leave that lady...

Just as you wrote,it was the move of that lady that prompted an undying love from my cousin.

People don't just love for a reason...ask anyone who strongly loves another and you will realize that there must have been a compelling reason for that..but many people will just not agree.

WORDWORLD:
OBVIOUSLY TOKS2008'S THREADS ARE MOSTLY, MOSTLY ABOUT HOW LADIES CAN MAKE THE BEST CHOICES IN LIFE ACCORDING TO HIS OWN OPINION. HE SURE HAS ONE OF THE VERY BEST THREADS ON NAIRALAND. HONESTLY!


He is without doubt among the few, making the BEST use of social media an invention that should UNITE MANKIND. Unfortunately its used for bigorty, spreading lies, hate speeches...................Toks has been adding VALUE to HUMMANITY.

Kindly tell me what is it "AGAINST" ladies here?

My brother I honestly sit and meticulously check my threads and I try to see the part that is against women but I just couldn't find one sentence.

I think it's about the genes of ladies..they naturally hate the truth but have great affinity for lies.

I see bafomet (illhminatti) symbol

Mypeople2:
Many of them will even starting complaining about the food before you taste of it . "Sorry o,the rice is plastic,I don't eat pepper that much ,the maggi I used is not the one I am used to.." These ladies prefer men that eat outside.But I know they are all good at cooking"noodles"

Rotflmao! omo I Don laugh tire

megareal:
1. You peel wateryam and cocoyam (easy)

2. Grate them and mix well (slightly difficult )

3. Cut your baby cocoyam leaves into tiny pieces (takes time) or use spinach or potatoes leaves in dry season.

4. Cut your periwinkles with shells, wash them well and layer the bottom of the pot with it. Add some oil too.(easy)

5. Then you proceed to wrap the mix in those tiny cocoyam leaves making sure they are well wrapped. A little quantity at a time. (Back breaking and time consuming)

6.Wash your fish, pound your crayfish, wash and cut your vegetables.

7. The cooking part is now easy and the end result very fulfilling.

Don't know if urs follows the same process though.

Yummy!

tayo4ng:
correct

What is correct?

lalasticlala:
Jollof Rice Afang soup Edikaikong soup

Sorry what state are you from?

TrapQueen77:
Abeeg..
Are u a marriage counselor?

I don't see myself as one.

nikkypearl:
I will be as blunt as i can in addressing these ignorant notions
some Nigerian ladies have towards marriage.
1.Being too careful about her choice of man:

OK I understand you are the type that is so scared of venturing
into marriage so you want to be very careful in choosing that man
you will likely spend your life with..but I'm sorry to be the carrier
of BAD NEWS..."No matter how careful you may be,every marriage
is filled with uncertainties...even if you marry an angel,he could
turn to a demon so just take the risk and be ready to confront any
uncertainty you find else you may remain scared and single for a
very long time.
Infact the more careful you are the greater the possibility of
making a mistake.

2.I want a man who will love me for real

l'm very vast in English language but when it comes to this
sentence,the more I try to understand the more confused I
get..."love you for real" like seriously!
You better get this fact now,if loving you for real means loving you
with your imperfections then i might agree to an extent else...NO
MAN CAN LOVE YOU FOR REAL except that real is substituted for
many things like love you for your curves,intelligence,manners...
..so stop using this ackward sentence and try to develop
something a man can desire you for...no man wants a woman for
nothing.
3.Wanting a made guy or financially OK guy:

i honestly have nothing against this except the fact that being
financially OK is relative and we don't ever get to know the
definition of "being financially ok"
But then I kinda wonder why ladies fail to understand that most
guys in their late 20s and early 30s are still trying to find their feet
which means a lady who wants a made guy is inadventedly saying
she wants a married man or sugar daddy because most made men
in Nigeria are in their mid or late 30s and in their 40s and would
have been married.
However,the few younger ones who are made can not have more
than one girl
Ladies should try to be financially independent so that they can be
disciplined enough to start a life with a guy rather than struggling
with several ladies to be with a "made" guy or ending up as a side
chic of a made guy.

4.I can not suffer with a man because he could dump me latter:

this is one of the dumbest notion many Naija ladies have and
anytime I hear a lady says this I just give her that stupid look of a
looser.
Are you doing any guy a favor by dating him when he is broke?
For Petes sake you have every right to walk away from any affair if
you dim fit and staying with a struggling guy is your choice and
not a favor. ..if he latter becomes rich and he dumps you,just walk
away rather than use those words to blackmail him.

5.My wedding will be the talk of the town:

i totally agree that a grand wedding is the dream of most ladies
and I also share in this dream but the question is this; "Is it a do
or die to have a grand wedding"?
What is wrong in having an intro and registry wedding and latter
plan for the grand one when the funds are there?
Don't be deceived. ..8 out of 10 grand weddings in Nigeria are
sponsored.
I think this is one area many ladies are destroying their lives
because a guy will do you like a wife and enjoy all the wify benefit
while telling you he is not ready for a grand wedding and you will
continue to foolishly play along until he dumps your overused
ass for a younger lady....receive sense biko!


6.GOD has not confirmed him or my Pastor said he is not the
one:
Like seriously! OK get this straight. ..it is good to listen to the
word of GOD or to follow your pastor's advice but hello! when it
comes to choosing a spouse GOD has clearly made it our duty to
look for a spouse and he will gladly give us his favor ...Proverbs
18:22:
"Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour
of the LORD".
The best you can do is to pray to God that a good guy finds you
and when next a prophet or pastor tells you a certain guy is not
for you...simply ask him with humility to tell you who your man
is..his name,house address,complexion....

7.I can't marry a man I have no feelings for:

Your feeling is very important when choosing a man but pray he
also has feelings for you else you will end up in tears no matter
how deep your feelings for him is.
This is a hard nut for many ladies but the sincere fact is that your
feelings is not as important as the guy's feeling towards you.
Getting married to a man may be hinged on your feelings but
staying married to him is primarily dependent on how he feels
towards you.

8.Marriage is a beautiful and wonderful institution:

i'm so sorry to tell you another bad news...."marriage is very
turbulent and you will feel like running out"
At the intial stage it will seem like its so beautiful and made in
heaven but that is the initial gragra stage. But when the reality
stage sets in you will come to know the true picture of marriage
but the good news is that you can make yours always beautiful if
you can learn to tolerate, forgive,forgive and forgive because only
two forgivers can make a beautiful marriage.

9.If my husband truly loves me,he will never cheat on me:

I know this issue is over-flogged and many ladies will never agree
to this fact..."YOUR HUSBAND CAN HAVE EYES FOR ONLY YOU AND
IN FACT COMMIT SUICIDE IF YOU LEAVE HIM YET CAN STILL CHEAT
ON YOU"...sounds stupid I guess but that is just the truth..
Just warn your husband that if he must do let him go far far away
from you and must use protection...I always say...only a foolish
lady will hinge her marital happiness on her husband's sexual
faithfulness to her.



10.I want a tall cute rich romantic sexy....
abeg dat kinad man dey for bible
Habba sister just negodu there...only you one...please there is a
difference between real life and Telemundo. .you can not have all
you want in one man and if you think you have then kudos to you.
Many ladies cheat on their hubbies or fiance because they can't
help comparing...
Tade is good in bed but not rich enough...Richard spoils me with
money but very boring in bed and Seun is so caring but.... so you
run to Richard to get money,you remember Tade when you feel
like having a good time and Seun comes to mind if you want to
feel loved..YOU ARE A SORRY CASE.
Just go for a man that has the average qualities and settle
down...no man has it all.
As long as a lady is ready to face these facts then she will
definitely have no problem in her marriage but if you find yourself
totally uncomfortable with one or more of the points listed above,
i will advice you remain single until you are mature enough to
accept them.
#copied and paste# :p


bye

I like the fact that a lady copied and pasted my writeup which was frowned at by many ladies.

dingbang:
she is 28 towards 29 yet unmarried, she has constantly been dating guys who have broken her heart all because of her selfish desires and her mindset on guys being the sole provider . she is hellbent on money and that is the genesis of her problem

Habba!

How sure are u?

Melian:
There's nothing "humbling" in what you've written. Your post is sadistic, peppered with hate at best.

1. You've not addressed anything. The only address you've tendered is directed towards teenagers.

2. You know nothing about love and being loved. Chances are you're from a broken home. Yeah?

3. Still on love. The many contradictions in your post show you dont know what you're saying most of the time. First, you say thinking your man must love you for real is like subjecting yourself to some kind of tunnel vision. Then again you say "This is a hard nut for many ladies but the sincere fact is that your feelings is not as important as the guy's feeling towards you". (pls re-read the bla bla bla that follows). Who's fooling who?

4. On Money and Love. On Men and Women and Relationships. Let's face it, a man would look for the most beautiful woman he can possibly get with his money. And, with her looks, a woman will look for the richest guy she could possibly lay her hands on. It's a two-way street. There's equity. Let's not pretend this isn't the norm and as long as it's acceptable to the people involved, I don't think anyone should make it their own to whine and complain and get jealous. Rather get your butt off nairaland and begin to do twice (better) what you've been doing to make the money.

5. Love. Many have scoffed at the theory of love but for those who believe it's real will find it. If love is your choice, live it. If you're not yet living it your choice then you've been successfully conned.

6. Marriage is beautiful, too beautiful to be true. However, not a smooth sail. This is why we should marry for love cos if ever it becomes turbulent only love helps you stay together. A man in love is a happy man, believe me.

Don't be fooled that my quoting you means I read your comment...in fact I would have gladly done that but was put off by your sarcastic,odoriferous,immature and unwarranted remarks in the very first paragraph.

I just might consider reading if you can repost without hateful words cos it's really a turn off that a youth educated enough to express him or herself is not intelligent enough to discuss opinionated matters without getting heated up and using hateful phrases...smh!