₦airaland Forum

Timelezz:
Due diligence has been jettisoned by the independence/freedom education and religion have handed to us.

Once kids leave home for higher education, they return home with emotional entanglement and a mindset of knowing more than their parents. Kids are so rebellious today they can sabotage their parents' efforts at investigating their prospective Partners. So dating and courtship still hold sway.

And then the church, you won't believe 85% of Nigerian girls ages of 21 to 35 still strut around their spiritual masters and seers inquiring who their marriage partners are. They will never accept for their parents to investigate anyone their pastor or seer has "proclaimed" as their divine partner.

That's how irrational and illogical girls can be. There goes due diligence as you put it.

Parents have been rendered powerless to investigate and have even an advisory role in most marriages of their kids.

Insightful...but it can still be done.

EmperorLee:
Due diligence? Naah, people change. I might have been a player all my life, what if at that moment, I am really ready to settle down ?

Lol! at least she will know the fact and it's up to you to promise her you will change.

COURTSHIP OR DUE DILIGENCE?

When it comes to starting a purposeful affair with a possible marital union we tend to apply caution and we will try to know about the other person hence we say we are in courtship.

But in my opinion I don't see courtship as a prerequisite for choosing a spouse but I would rather go for due diligence.

While courtship is regarded as a period where two people in a romantic affair gets to know each other in order to have a proper understanding of who they are...due diligence can be said to be an outright investigative process to clearly ascertain the persona of someone.

Yes we know that neither of the two guaranty a great marital union,many people could pretend during courtship no matter how long the courtship lasts,but due deligence will reveal a better picture of who that person is.

In fact I believe that the secret to the longevity of our parents marital union is due diligence where the two families of both bride and groom meticulously take time out to know relevant details of the family as well as the person their son or daughter intends to marry.

For me I will go for due deligence rather than the flimsy charade called courtship which is just a means of wasting your time and indulging in endless sexual gratification.

While most Men will choose courtship,I will employ the ladies to go for due diligence on the man they intend to marry to avoid time wasters and baseless courtship that is never a sure pass for a good union.

I don't know if this makes sense.

Happy new year Nairalanders.

Omotayor123:
Toks2008 my brother.. Happy new year.

Motayor glad to have you in 2017...wishing you the best of the year.

Lady39:
I'll e-mail u....cause I would like to speak with u privately with not so many eyes....if that's ok?

Sure I would prefer that but it is better with IMO or Skype...these are great applications ..

my email is o l a t o k u n b o 40 at Gmail dot Com. ..all together but I only put spaces cos of the anti spam bot on nland

Download IMO to your phone and add my number but if u prefer email. .no problem...just that it can be monotonous

Lady39:
Oh I got the number...thanks. I don't use whatsapp.. Any other suggestions?

IMO?

Skype?

Lady39:
Happy New Year to u Mr.Toks2008. I'm sure u will have a very blessed year...

Oh thanks my lady...hope you got the number...looking forward to communicating with you.

FortuneTeller:
Happy New Years to both of you.

https://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/mj-laughing.gif

Lol!

That meme though...

Lady39:
Yes... punished is the word..cause all of the sudden my moniker is all in the "Dating Zone"? Where I don't want it....
Lol!! U know what's so sad here? I had been admiring some of your posts & was gonna actually compliment u on some of them. I thought u were an intelligent person. I don't know u, but I've not been on NL long & was just exploring the site & posting when I found it necessary. I absolutely love to laugh...but this little stunt here is absurd! Are Nigerian women this bold? I'm half Nigerian..but aren't anywhere near this bold! Why do I need an online friend in Nigeria when I can have a flesh-n-blood friend right here in the U.S.? Do u even know why I joined NL? Anxious wouldn't be the word..."flabbergasted" is more like it.
Mrs. FortuneTeller, do u want Mr. Toks2008? Cause u seem to have an admiration for him?

FortuneTeller:
No I don't want him. But I do feel you are the perfect woman for him.

Happy new year my very amiable ladies...wishing you the very best the year has to offer.

BTW lady39 if you don't mind you can add my wattsup number

Happy new year once again.

nery4u:
kindly read my comments very well "....if they seek him with sincere heart (I.e if they are ready to accept his will for their life)" besides God is not an author of confusion!

I read very well and my point remains. ..forget them cos their will will always deter them from following God's will.

Only those that have been severely burnt get to learn from hard experience...

Happy new year.

abbey621:
Learn to read kid, it has everything to do with what you wrote. Women are not more vulnerable to deceit, increase your global exposure then come back and lecture me!

OK daddy methusalah..I have heard you Mr global exposure. ..I wonder how many countries he don waka

All these nairaland children that has no respect for their elders calling me his kid..how old you be?

This is nairaland and not cediland or cefraland...now run off before I decend on you....

abbey621:
Rubbish thread, come overseas and see how the table has turned. More and more women are marrying for the riches and divorcing. So who is deceiving who? The only reason it looks more devastating in Nigeria is because most women still depend solely on their men for survival and society still keeps things balanced towards men.

See as you carry bitterness enta 2017..

The most astonishing fact is that all you wrote has nada to do with the thread at all...

Oya Say after me..."My father my father...every spirit of incorehence in my life...die by fire"

nery4u:
...that's why you need to involve God before taking any step. he can never and will never mislead you once you seek him with sincere heart .

Hahahahaha!

This is the most hilarious comment I have ever read in a long time...did you just put GOD into the matter?

Even God have left these women to be on their own...even in the Garden...Lucifer knows exactly what the lady want to hear and he told her and pakam...she did the forbidden so if EVE who was carefully created by GOD can be that gullible abeg what do you expect from her descendants?

A woman will pray to GOD to send her husband to her and then GOD gives her a struggling guy who could barely feed 3 square meal and she will say this one can't be from GOD and that GOD is not the author of confusion since God knows what She wants and even if she dreams about the guy she will bind and cast him out but when that false guy shows up having the qualities she desires,she tells GOD"THIS must be the man"...abeg why pray to GOD to give you a good husband when you already have the picture of what you want? why bother GOD?

blackprowler:
As an unmarried man in his 40s with experience, I score you 100%. It even pains me many of these girls finally get husbands. The so-called husband crisis is a very small thing compared to what Nigerian girls deserve from their conduct all their lives until they become desperate to be married

It's a really sad situation my brother...sometimes I just blank my mind from ladies entirely because they are the architect of their own misfortune.

I still marvel at why a lady will believe an obvious lie even when they know it is but because they just can't handle the truth...

A lady will ask you...do you really want me and Satan help you to say you are not sure...SHE IS DONE WITH YOU...but that is the truth but rather than her asking questions as to why you are not sure. .she would rather prefer you say "Yes I want you more than anything in the world" and pakam..she believes you because that is exactly what she wants to hear.

As for me...I would rather remain single for life than lie to any lady...if you want a sincere guy then knock on my door but if you want deceit you can check the other door.

carammel:
While Femi increased his age,Odunlade reduced his own.

Femi isn't up to 44years.

Me see dey wonder o ...na I'm be set I

carammel:
While Femi increased his age,Odunlade reduced his own.

Femi isn't up to 44years.

Me see dey wonder o ...na I'm be sey I be small boy for where Femi dey..Mba I no gree

queencalipso:
Yea I noticed.

You contributed greatly to the thread, I'll give that to you. You were actually the reason the thread lasted and pulled the kind of audience it did.

I never thought you'd still be single considering your threads about r/ship and marriage. Referring to your earlier post.

Abeg emulate the op and do the needful

Lol! I have a good reason why I'm still single but in due time I will .

queencalipso:
The original creator of the thread isn't toks2008 but samia "not sure I got the spelling right but toks almost stole the show or should I say he did seeing that you credited it to him..

Happy married life, God bless your union. Mine is loading soon

Lol! I have stated this anomaly in the second page of this thread but then in all honestly I deserve some credence because I actually brought about the new thread title to 30plus......was originally 40plus and I don't think this lovely couple are in their 40s...

I also remember the heated argument with Siama when I further asked her to bring in ladies in their late 20s.

TheSonOfMark:
Courtship/ dating is actually important. Asides love, compatibility is a basic requisite for long-term commitment.

I could seemingly be 'Mr. Nice Guy' while I might be a monster. Continued association templated on the dating/courting platform brings all of the truth to fore. Well, almost all.

I agree but then how many marriages still crash despite the so called courtship?

As far as I'm concerned...I'm the captain of the marital ship and a man knows right from when he sets his eyes on a lady if he could marry her.

The best thing is to do due diligence rather than depend on the facade called courtship.

lalasticlala biko come settle fight o.

joebeckz:
very true, most ladies don't even give a chance for a friendship. my case was different anyway. I didn't participate in that thread again after my eyes caught the lady of my dreams. Lol

Sharp guy..

Nma27:
Well, you could open a similar thread, who knows? I see you walking down d isle next year...

The funniest thing was that siamia opened that thread just about the same minute I was about doing same but my title was "30plus single guys and single ladies in late 20s".

Honestly there comes a time in one's life when you are just tired of dating and running from one Bae to another.

I keep telling people that I'm no game for any rdgberegbe courtship...if I see a lady today who is pleasing to my eyes and responsible. .na marriage straight...No time for flimsy dating that is no guaranty for marital success...it's all about tolerance.

AngelSweetLips:
Ok. I'm done ignoring pm cause 2017 is here

Lezzlie I'm ready when you are

Congratulations op and future Mrs op!

#slide in my DM

I no talk am...these wonderful babes can form brick walls no be small.

Please mellow down next year so that eligible guys can come forward.

joebeckz:
oh Siamia right? I recall now. thanks to u all the same.

Yeah..I was a strong force right from the beginning and I actually made her bring down the age from 40plus to 30plus.

Congratulations once more...I hope I get my own significant other soonest...

There are many wonderful single ladies in their 30s late 20s on naira land but they are just too timid.

SamuelAnyawu:
How did you know she liked your post? Everyone claiming to be a Nairalander so that their Pre-Wedding Pictures can hit the sacred front page


Lalasticlala hope you guys are all warming up for my Pre-Wedding and wedding Photos, it will surely shake Nairaland. Very Pretty Idoma Damsel




Congrats. Happy Married Life

I tot he wrote that he added her on Facebook ....

joebeckz:
it started like a joke on a thread "30 and above" created by toks2008 or so some time last year. I picked interest in this young lady who kept liking my quotes on fb after adding her, she responded nicely. it kept going on and on ,we met and I requested her mothers permission to take her out on a date and a new page in our life began. 11th Feb ,this beautiful union would be sealed. help us pray n celebrate. thanks Toks2008,
Seun
farano
lalasticlala
and the entire nairaland forum members. I found a wife courtesy of NL

Congrats bro and I wish you a happy union and remember that the best marriage is not the one between two compatible people or two romantic people but one between two forgivers.

BTW siamia created that thread.

Olumaeme:
Shut your dirty mouth there, when I say APC, I mean unrealistic lies, we r talking about why Nigerian ladies accept to follow men who lie too much, and I think APC lied to much to win election in 2015, carry your preaching go your father house, dump fool

hahahaha! your frustration no be for here o...all these curses on top which Matta?

Day by day it gets so obvious that most Internet users need psychological evaluation....see insult ...well this is a faceless forum so carry go....

I have opined to Seun to create a questionair for intending nairaland registered members to answer before creating a user ID cos many are m*d but few are roaming the streets...we sure need only same people on nland.

softMarket:
See fine woman!!!


That man will deal with her well well this night!!


she wil tire wrapper and run out of the bedroom, shouting *this man will not kill me*

Most couples sleep on their wedding night cos they are no longer too anxious for sex as they would have had more than enough before wedding proper.

Olumaeme:
The same reason that made Nigerians vote for APC

Seems our youths have no scruples...who told you our problem is APC?

It is quite embarrassing that the youths of today are totally oblivious of the root cause of the economic calamity of the country they live in...this is pathetic. ...

If you like bring JESUS to rule Nigeria and the best he will do is perform a miracle but if you are expecting Buhari to wade a magic stick then you are definitely on a long thing ...

Talk2Bella:
for ur mind

Hmmm I have been seeing your threads for quite some time now and I must say you are doing a nice job and you look dapper too...keep it up...

I don't know if this is insightful enough for lalasticlala to beam on the main page.

TrapQueen77:




Abeeeeg, where are these real boiz now OP?


Let them come here coz one of my new year resolutions is to be officially someone's gf sha

lol!

They are everywhere just that you are looking in another direction.

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