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wristbangle:
Exactly sir but what if the guy fails to acknowledge her greenlight?

Then the guy no smart.

A lady asking a man for time can be a green light.

A lady asking a guy the time of lecture can be a green light even a lady asking a guy a question in the bus can be a green light and so on.

wristbangle:
When a lady makes the first move, she suppose to be diplomatic in her approach and such move can be approved when she and the guy have known for long albeit him been a dude who is too shy to express his feeling.

Perhaps maybe the lady you are talking about oliviaarims was too forward in her approach and also dressed seductively. There are ways to make your move on a guy to make him come of his shell of shyness and if despite your move he is still not proffering his love to you, just assume he is not in love with you.

If wooing a guy is the first move the op is talking about then that is a big NO. I dont advice any African lady to do that cos its not in our culture but as i wrote before there are subtle signs a lady can show which is never the same as outrightly wooing a guy.

That is called GREEN LIGHT.

Dynamite02:
I pray o! He wants to see the long term target "hammer" now now now and to pay big.
I presented an opportunity to him for a Job with me , and he was like " You fit pay meeee?" .......I said "how much?" He mentioned millionssssss ....I said "continue with your dream "

He is clueless.

Vikky014:

LOL! better talk and stop being timid..Ladies love sexual satisfaction so much but they just keep mum like innocent people.

Dynamite02:
My friend is a "budding entrepreneur", today he's into fish farming at the back of his fathers house,tomorrow he's into yam/plantain farming ,last week he was into real estate in his mind (house agent)....hmm!!!.the list is long. His dream is to move from his fathers house to lekki.

The lady he's interested in wants him to get a job first(he's a 3rd class material,and believes he can't achieve anything with that) or better still get a promising portfolio,not all this jack of all trade thing he's into.
To him she's not supporting his "dry" dream. He's always at home surfing the net,if its to hustle for money to buy data...he's a guru.
I feel sorry for any lady that will settle down with such a man.

Personally I avoid him , whenever we hang out together the next thing is "I beg arrange card for me na....my subscription is out"...... *smh*
Recently he was complaining that his friends are avoiding him because he doesn't have money, in my mind I was like "before nkoor". Besides, I am always busy and choked up...I have to pay my rent but you stay in your fathers house,I have my siblings to care for,you don't...so if you have all the time in the world ,I don't.

That lady wants to settle down with him......,but is love enough? She's been supporting his dreams financially,but for how long?
"Dream" get grade

LWKMD!

I think the guy needs to get his ass right.

Entrepreneurs always have a short term and long term target and the short term must be the type that brings food to the table while the long term is the one they want to be identified with in the long run but most especially the short term must never hinder or conflict with the long run.

This is the mistake many guys make...when you decide to be an entrepreneur you must understand that your family must survive hence the need to get into a busines that will cater for that while still focusing on your long term thing and this is why a lady must be up and doing to augment his efforts.

lil kesh i know,kiss daniel i know but who is rikado banke?

mrphysics:
Observing

Mrphysics you don land here?how was your flight?

"You shall not make for yourself an image in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below.
Exodus 20;4

cruzita:
suddenly picks interest *

lol..trust ladies to like this.

i believe ladies will have something to contrribute to this.

Lalasticlala,ishilove,what do you think?

Chartey:
And yet Toks2008 has another women-bashing thread on the front page. Lalasticlala, Ishilove why do you keep encouraging this thing.


Kudos to emusmith who is doing the honourable opposite. We need more people like him.

Please grow up young man

Ravenwolf:
You started out well but lost traction completely when you stated "Dangote sold sugar and salt in small quantities"

It is quite obvious you have no idea Dangote's first business venture, funded by a loan from his extremely wealthy Uncle was supplying all the Cement used for Festac '77.


Think about that for a second.

At least we know there was a time of humble begining.

emonkey:
If you see Otedola and Dangote on Nairaland , say god punish me and i will answer amen.

Its amazing to me that people like you still reason this way in the 21st century...

It will blow your mind to know the canibal of people who view linda ikeji and nairaland..even the president does.

People do stuffs out of passion not because they are so disposed to doing those stuffs.

Our problem in Nigeria is the fake life we live,the larger than life personality we portray and the empty bragado people who havve no value put on.

I have realized that people who are actually worthless are the ones who usually try to make effizy....do whatever makes you happy irrespective of watever.

I know many jobless people who dont make posts on nairaland until evening just to give a false impression.

For me,my business is 80% online and i can make comments on nairaland any freaking time i feel like. I am too real n down to earth to live a fake lifestyle.

Boeing777pilot:
I'm very sure a lady turned you down because you are budding entrepreneur.

Lol..so you are one of those people who juxtapose write up with the writer..nah that is a dumb thing to do.

I write on facts that usually does not have any affiliations to my person or life and at my age i cant approach teenagers or adolescents who still dwell with Alice in wonder land.

COOLCATS:
There are other millions that started like seun and dangote, where are they today. I am not against being an entrepreneur but it is best to know yourself as socrate said and I qoute " Man know thy self". There are so many ladies that support their spouses in every way in their businesses. I mean financial, emotional and every other input. It is all about compatibility. Someone that really understands you and capability.

There is no need to be on the defensive cos i never faulted the idea of anyman choosing to work a regular 8 to 5 job as long as that is what he wants.My write up is gender specific

emonkey:
[size=16pt]Budding entrepreneurs are the kind of guys you find on Nairaland typing crap from the children's room in their parents' house.. [/size]
Salary earners are too busy to be "online". They have responsibilities such as a bills to pay

You just describe a perfect picture of slavery and you are so so myopiv dear.

May God deliver you from this slavish mindset cos in the real world,smartness pays more than regular jobs...ask facebook founder,otedola,dangote,bill and many more..smh

Swissheart:
......... Toks why would a man claim a woman discouraged him from pursuing his dreams when of cos he has his head intact. Go to the streets... You see women frying stuffs, baking, decorating, events planners even while certified enough to earn salaries but yet they chose to do this things because they want to be employers of Labour, then a grown man will say his girl discouraged him from actualizing his..... Posterity won't forgive such.



Even our holy says..... Can two work together except they agree? Hell no! If your girl refuses to understand or believe in what you are aiming..... End it amicably before she destroys you like Samson. Who knows why she thinks you aren't on track? Whichever way..... we are to complement ourselves. I told someone close how I intend going into production of locust beans(iru) after closing from work........ And he said.... dearest why? You don't need it. I reasoned how much of a lazy fellow he is........ Above all he couldn't stop me. That is how it is.

No one sees your dream better than you......

Its quite apparent that you dont even have a clue of how powerful you are as a lady...

As they say...behind every successful man is a supportive woman...this is a fact cos that same woman has the power to make a man redundant and only the boys will refute this assertion.

The womenfolk should just try to be as financially independent as possible so that at least the man will be given a fair opportunity to harness his dreams to a logical conclusion rather than be forced to shift ground cos he has to take care of a financially dependent wife and the kids if any.

JustKeen:
For every successful Dangote, there are over 500 that tried and failed.

I agree but apparently if you check very well..women are largely responsible for 300cases of failure out of the 500...quote me anywhere

Adaeze003:
I hope I don't sound weird on this one and I hate to be the bearer of bad news but...

Not everyone's vision will become a reality... damn! Hit the damn nail on the head.

Yes, we plan, plan and plan but it doesn't always align in reality like in our heads...

In my opinion(emphasis on the "MY" ) even as you're trying out your different ideas, you should have some plan B that puts food on YOUR table!

For example, I know a software developer who has ideas and has created apps that are on google play but we all know that field is still not fully blown here. So, if he sits at home creating apps all day, he might just go hungry so... he got a blue collar job that at least pays the bills for now while working on his vision!

No1 needs to abandon his/her vision for anyone but you must know that "potential" don't put food on no table.

And heck! If you feel your girl is weighing you down, you leave her and move ahead. Saying stuff like "she made me loose sight of my vision" is just weak abeg... like really weak.

Oh... the last paragraph is on gf/bf basis... if you're married, your wife is only tryna pull you back to reality... you just can't afford to be stuck on a dream you had as a teen when you have babies to feed. unless of course she's the bread winner... and you know what that does to your egos.

Im in the same boat ith you on this and that is why any lady must be ready to be up and doing.

I personally know many big time successful men today whose WIVES were practically THE bread winner at a point in their life but if a lady is the lazy type i guess there will be big time conflict.

Swissheart:
I have spent quality time reading and digesting every of the comments on this thread and without holding back words I am impressed and I have bn enlightened too however I want to cite an example of someone very close to me..... He has bn talking about having a business of his own and how much he loves to be independent, cool idea actually..... But then with a thorough check I realized he doesn't even have an idea of what he wants. This week he is into agriculture, next he has cars on sale...... Always floating that lately I have began to doubt the authenticity of his certificate. Jack of all..... Master of none. The game of success isnt like a toy. It is either you know where you are heading or one get trampled on by the way . No sane girl sees a promising guy who knows what he wants and how he intends getting there, and will want to be a stumbling block.


At some point I felt so uncomfortable that I suggested he finds a job..... And at that point he felt I didn't believe in him, which is not true. Even as a lady.....i do not just sit waiting for an alert that has already bn spent.

Toks as much as I agree with you I also think we have some set of ppl who lack the foresight into what they really want while some as just so lazy.

Interesting read i must say but i guess i understand that guy to a greater extent.

The power of focus is undoubtedly effective but in a country where you still need to get by one way or the order he has no choice but to also try his hands on some other stuffs to compliment but assuming he is an Amercan or briton,trust me,his focus will remain firm cos the social security grants will go a long way to keep jim focused.

I do not encourage jack of all trade n master of none..As a guy you must know what you want n pursue it tenaciously...dont start wat you dont want to be identified with in say 10years from now cos u might be traped in that.

But all in all i beliv our ladies should really try to encourage our men so that we will have more employer of labour rather than the oversaturated job seekers.

Vikky014:
HMMMM nt about IGBO OOO. IT IS JST THE MINDSET

Sure i know but it also runs in the blood..

bronzegoddess:
Why e dey hard for man to fine

lmao!

o:


Truth is bitter. Some guys end up underachieving because of the fear transfered to them by girlfriends and wives.

Corporate jobs and promotions are limited; entrepreneurial opportunities are not. Ladies, let that man take the risk. Support him and be proud of his small achievements.



Cc: Lalasticlala, Seun.

This is something our ladies must really ponder over.

Vikky014:
LOL AM SAYING MY HONEST TRUTH OOO. I HV SPIRITUAL DAD. FINANCIAL DAD AND BIOLOGICAL DAD. I LEARN FROM THREE OF THEM.

Yes it is good for a lady to b a salary earner. bt as for vikky i will also hv a plan of minding my business even if am a salary earner. cos salary earner hardly buy an asset they mostly buy liabilities any time their salary increases bt as a business oriented person u invest ur money and wait for the profit bfore buying luxuries.

iGBO KWENU!

Vikky014:
TOKS2008 This ur thread reminds me of a book i read Rich Dad and Poor Dad by Robert .T.Kiyosaki. DT book really shaped my thought about being a salary earner. It even made me to strt learning many skills. before i was having this mindset of working after school bt nw i know better
It is only fear that keeps most people working as a salary earner. The fear of not paying their bills, the fear of not having enof money and the fear of starting over. but being an entrepreneur enables one to avoid one of LIFE BIGGEST TRAPS WHICH IS SALARY

As a lady i will go for any man that will mind his own business even if he is a salary earner. He shld jst hv a plan of being an entrepreneur after few yrs of earning the salary

so in other words i prefer a promising entrepreneur to a salary earner... Salary is a curse to me..

Are you sure you mean all you wrote or could it be wishful comments?

In my own view i believe things should balance up meaning a lady could be a salary earner while she allows her man to pursue his busines to a conclusive end irrespective of the outcome.

But the truth be told,the blame should be on the Nigerian economy cos indeed we as Nigerians are slaves in our own country...a country that does not support young minds to be enterprising and creative and this is why many of our ladies frown at settling with a struggling budding entrepreneur.

In the western world,we can see how the country pays the unemployed enough money monthly to cater for their tummy and this is why they have the opportunity to relax and think straight thereby coming out with great inventions.

In Nigeria an individual will have to weigh the options of eating sand while building his business plan or taking up a job and once he gets that job, he is enslaved for the best part of his active years.

So even if a man decides to be an entrepreneur the question is what will the family eat while he is still working his way up? Should he ratrher remain unmarried and without a lady in his life?

So trust me,Nigeria is the greatest witch hunting us as citizens.

madridguy:
Since our judiciary system is as corrupt as NPF, I think PMB his in better position to take over till there is a better reform in our legal sector. Era of looting Billion and buy the legal system with just 3 Million is over, Lucky Igbinedion case is a clear example. Make both Dasuki and Kanu enjoy small for inside Inbox.

I dont know about nnamdi kano but dansuli must remain in detention

hAPPY NEW YEAR FRIENDS.

Exploit200:
I know some op will come to challenge this prophecy

Apostle sulieman prophecies undoubtedly has the highest accuracy but then as i wrote some prophecies can be altered if people make adequate adjustments.

tomakint:
If all eventually come to pass, then God had spoken through him but if not......foul foul foul.....FOUL!

Prophecies either good or bad can be influenced by the action or inaction of the individual involved so its not mandatory forr it to come to pass.

Omotayor123:
Happy new year

Happy new year tayo and every nairalander.
God bless us all.

ronald4lif:
Thanks for the compliment. I'm thanking coz you find my posture as an isolation. I pride myself as an isolationist in approaching issues, and not the bandwagon brigade. I might be wrong, could be right. However, I need a robust antithesis to prove me where I'm wrong and missing the point and I'd gladly accept it. We're all here to learn and uproot our negative views to life even as we cultivate new ones.

Your last statement is an admission that you're not ready to entertain opposing views and it is really sad. Anyway, cheers mate and happy new year in advance.

Kai..oyinbo po..you go soon write dictionary...happy new year bro

charismatic1:
In the real sense, i concur with this write up because it is basically reality,the commonest trend in this contemporary days, however, there are some exceptional cases.
It will sound offensive for some people, especially ladies in some latter part of the category but truly this is a close fact except you're in denial.
But note, whatever or wherever you fall,remember,with God all things are possible.Just pray/ask,be patient and stedfast,God will surely answer.
I've seen exceptional cases, and there are still more that'll still happen.

Happy new year everyone.

Definitely there are and will always be exceptional cases.What i wrote holds true not in all but most cases.