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streetzdreamz: Y'al should give this family a break,ion think neither of em needs all dis publicity stunt u pulling cuz of a rumoured divorce,u can't imagine d psychological trauma they'd b going tru ryt nw yet u created dis stupid thread with dia pictures on d first page,to make em feel better huh?ion tink so.....v read about teenagers dat cudnt handle derogatory comments online n ended up taking dia own lifes.get a life @op

esmeralda1: Beautiful Girls
See wot divorce is doing, unneccesary publicity.

Nobleval: aww...you mean a pretty lady like you have'nt? Tell me...what are the good traits you'ld like the man of your dream to possess? ?

Forwetinnah: You try,it's global ..have you been watching Telemundo?, well if you haven't please do. Hispanic ladies (married to them or NOT)don't go for just money, they go for your entire ESTATE, nothing is spared. Naija chicks are apprentice next to them

blakky97: Yes- dem too dey beg me money!
I just told her I'm saving my money to build house next year, so if she loves me she should help me realize my dreams and not help me deplete my savings and later run away to a yahoo guy like toyin did to me. (Toyin I hope you are reading this- you know your self!). They make themselves like prostitutes. Parasitic relationship. Is it not their mates that pay school fees for their dudes? Beggy beggy! No self esteem! I need moni! I need moni! Na me be your papa?

Beckybeky: No 3
I like slim guys

farano: Not interested in their body structure....More interested in their pocket structure Make I zoom their pockets sha

SirShymex: I absolutely agree with communication.

However, communication without taking the necessary approach to make amends to whatever the problem is would amount to catch-22 situation - whereby you waste time talking(losing time that should be used for other things) but with everything getting worse by day.

Tallesty1: To be a Pastor you must be devoted to your wife as it is stated in(Titus 1:6; 1 Tim 3:2). Because your marriage illustrates Christ’s love for His church. His bride (Eph. 5:22 ff.). You must love and respect your wife exclusively with your mind, will and emotions and not just your body. A pastor's family is his first flock.


This is a man that will say "pheww" and half of the congregation will fall flat on their belly or back. Why can't he pray God to restore the love and peace in his family?

lemmeknow: many people say it is not of a naija or (in fact) African babe to approach d opposite sex wen it comes to relationship!

But when it comes to a time wen everything u c is him, y do u ladies still relent?

SirShymex: Bruv, is that a picture link?

I'm not on facebook, and I don't really do social media like that apart from forums and blogs where people can be anonymous.

Attach the pic to your post, and post it here. Thanks.

SirShymex: Cheating isn't just about contentment, discipline, high moral standard, and fear of God - it's bigger than that. Once people aren't happy in a space they're in, they will most likely engage in all kind of vices, that's just the way it's.

Not saying there aren't folks out there who just cheat basically because they want to cheat. However, there are also tons of guys out there who just go to other places to find happiness cos their partners are a pain in the ar.se.

Ruffychuks: u can't b eating rice all d time, sometimes u may decide to eat beans. its just natural

baby124: Very stup*id thread. This is what happens when babies get married. As an adult, in order to do the right thing, your woman must ' keep' you. Are you a pet? Did she marry you or you married her. Later you will come and tell us you are the head of one house. ps having a dick does not make you a man. Animals also have it. So may be you need to define yourself better before you come up with senseless stuff like this. Makes you categorize men as senseless babies that only think with an organ. I pity you OP. You will wound yourself with such a dumb mentality. Smh

SirShymex: Er, I'm lost here, Sir.

You asserted that it was because she's curvy. Then you said she made you complete. So, how did she make you complete just because she's curvy, or there were other intangibles/tangibles involved?

Based on the example you cited with electronics, that's settling. I know about settling, and I don't think the topic is in that context. Let's say you have Samsung galaxy s4. And you see a Samsung galaxy s5 which is basically from the same company but offers more in terms of specs. Won't you be tempted to check it out, just to see how it works, especially if the s4 is giving you problems?

SirShymex: So, you never put a ring on it, yeah? And why did she get carried away? Did her friends get into her head, like all these scandalous friends always do?

Anyway, the bold is the reason why you never cheated, not because of her looks. She made you complete. Complemented you. Put a smile on your face. And she was new everything you saw her. The source of your happiness. That's the magic. And I'm talking based on experience here.

You'd get weak, but every time you remembered the source of your happiness, and that woman that made you complete - those other curvy chics weren't worth it...isn't it? Tested vs. fear of the unknown.

Regardless, I get where you're coming from.

SirShymex: My bad. So, you put a ring on it, yeah? - nice!

Anyway, apart from all the curves - does she make you complete?

And how mentally ready were you when you met your queen?

SirShymex: 12 years and you never put a ring on it, no? You're bad mind!
So, you basically run down the mileage on her and never made it official with a ring - that's worse than cheating!
Anyway, if you're being truthful, and you actually only had sex with just the same chic for 12 years, then you're one of a kind. And the chic must have complemented you.
I'm somewhat super-loyal based on how I was raised and being a product of my environment. And I fear that female vengeance, especially when you hurt them. However, certain things are just naturally wired into you mentally as a guy, especially cheating, and looks alone is not enough to overcome the temptations.

SirShymex: At the bold - easier said than done.

For every nice chic out there, there are tons of chics better looking than her.

It's not just about looks, there are other intangibles as well. Coupled with your state of mind, and how mentally ready you're.

Lagbaja01: you failed to establish reasonable points because of your failure to describe/explain into details what you mean by " Self servicing is a rather complex matter"

kulkris: NOW THE SPIRITUAL ASPECT: rememba d holy book says "we can do nothing without d spirit of God" buh pls dnt d 4get, same holy book says "FAITH WITHOUT WORK IS DEAD"(dats y u need d physical aspect of dis write up)....d spiritual aspect of dis cannot be complete witout lettin u knw,dat der r spirits behind dis tin.when u indulge in sexual imm. U pavade way 4 dis spirits into ur life(knwn as spiritual husbands and wives) and when dey cum,ah!dy ruin d life of person(lyk near success syd. and let me put also,they always lyk segregrating dier own ppl,dat is y u see sum ppl jst go 2 a place nd ppl jst hate and isolate them 4 no reason.....(topic 4 anoda day tho),and d op has mentiond d rest).let me conclude by adding"A PRAYERLES CHILD OF GOD IS A POWALESS CHILD OF GOD".....So go to Him in praya(let me add,mid nite praya does d magic),seek His face and ask him to transform u!!!!.....my hand ooo......

kulkris: Reading the previous posts,made me feel lyk crying......jst wonderin how God wil feel in heaven seeing His creation(whom He made 2 give him glory) utter dis kind of tins.......jst have two points: For those hu feel its nt a sin,let me ask....after masturbating,how do u feel? Can u stil walk up to God in prayas dat moment,dnt u feel depressed or heavy inside of u,dīoes ur conscience(dats if it stil alive) not prick u?.....i bet u stay sumtym witout dis act,and u wil spot d difference....secondly,For those hu r aware of its sinful nature,its easy to stop..dey are 2 processes THE PHYSICAL PROCESS AND D SPIRITUAL ASPECT

ugreat: you said u imagined your ex,that is, looking from your mind and lusting with your mind. Not condemning bro, just analysing. Anyway if u think positively about stuffs,get busy and more especially occupy your mind with God, these things are work-overs. God bless you brother

50calibre: Religion not only gives false hope, but imposes impossible standards on its followers.

You're a human being with hormones, why is Christianity pressuring you into suppressing your basal desires? Religion seeks to imprison the average mind, don't engage in pre-marital se*x, don't masturb*ate.... realistically speaking, how feasible is that for a virile young man?

More than 95% of men masturb*te or have masturb*ated in the past, nothing wrong with that, pay no attention to the scare stories, they're nonsense. Addiction is however a problem, as with any form of addiction but once in a while, even married men may choose to whack one out.

Stop imposing crazy standards on yourself, I for one will not be held back from satisfying myself by any means I deem necessary. Even when I'm married i will keep dirty pics of my wife in my suitcases while going on trips, so I can beat off to it when hor*ny