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Family › Re: Are Children Really An Achievement?? by tolajay: 11:13am On Dec 14, 2021

What a thought!

So, the only reason you gave birth is so they can run errands for others?

Omo, this country no dey go anywhere with the "quality" of thoughts and ideas I read on this forum. Our development is way beyond political pandering but the quality of minds we have in the citizenry.

ayubaski:
Some of you saying it's not an achievement, if I were your neighbor and you tell me bearing children is not an achievement I will barr my children from running any errands for u

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Family › Re: Are Children Really An Achievement?? by tolajay: 11:11am On Dec 14, 2021

Thanks for the kind words.

Your recognition of value speaks volume of your mental muscle. grin

BTW, I am a HE on a daily course for improvement.

Klass99:
You are overkilling it! This is one of the best comments I have read on this thread and forum today.

Again, the highlights in bold be busting my head like kilode? Who are you? At least tell me if you are male or female. This kind of mindset is too rare and very unique, I like it

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Family › Re: Are Children Really An Achievement?? by tolajay: 11:41pm On Dec 13, 2021

After Thoughts

1. It's grossly irresponsible for anyone to have a child without proper planning (mental, spiritual and financial...) for themselves and the child.

2. Religious people must practice the details of their faith: God is orderly and won't do anything brashly. He that can't take care of his family is worse than an infidel.

3. Birthing without commensurate resources for the children is not suitable and sustainable for the earth. Overpopulation and its attendant effects are real and will continually grow.

4. Children are not a retirement plan. Parents should be the one to leave inheritances for their kids.

5. People aren't poor because they don't have money, rather because of the garbage in their minds. Poor people without money are the ones that justify their birthing spree, because their minds are shallow and unproductive.

Supreme145:
There is this motion that giving birth to children is an achievement in this country...

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Family › Re: Are Children Really An Achievement?? by tolajay: 11:31pm On Dec 13, 2021

Deconstructing age-long notions and traditions is never an easy task.

For centuries, lessons on the "prime value of having children" have been un/consciously imbibed in most people's minds right from infancy. From the family circle to social, academic and religious circles, the teaching remains the same.

Mind you, ours is a system where independent thinking isn't encouraged neither is inquisition, questioning and challenging ideas supported. So most people pace through life sticking to the imbibed notion of living life in a circle: Go to school, get a job, marry, give birth, work-work-work and DIE. No purpose, no impact, no legacy, no value...

Some Christians believe that the bible injunction to "multiply and dominate the earth" means having uncontrolled birth. Well, Abraham never had several children, yet he fulfilled God's purpose of being the father of faith and is referenced in the story of activating God's redemption plan through Jesus.

We need to wipe people's mind on everything they've been thought throughout their lifetime and reinstall model ideas for contemporary living.

I recently asked a newly married friend, why she wants to have a baby and she said she wants to feel the joy of being pregnant and carrying a baby. Honestly, that response got me thinking about the thoughtlessness of many Nigerians on issues of life and future functionality. How do you hinge the future of child to your selfish ephemeral euphoria withoit having the required mental, spiritual, financial capacity to nurture the child to becoming a responsible social being?

We can really do better with our choices as humans. But only informed minds can make informed decisions.

Supreme145:
There is this motion that giving birth to children is an achievement in this country...

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Family › Re: My Wife Is Getting Me Angry by tolajay: 11:00pm On Dec 13, 2021

Ogbeni, you're not a mature and thoughtful human.

How can you slap another human, let alone someone you supposedly love, live with now and in the future?

Apparently, you know and spotlighted a major cause of this whole brouhaha; you've refused to outgrow being a child and "mummy's boy". You're not fit to be married.

Ask yourself this: How would you feel or act if you're the woman and these treatments are melted out to you as a wife?

Per your last quote, marriage is easy and not challenging. The people involved are the ones that difficult, uneasy, immature and challenging like you. That's why you see some marriages working while others aren't, because of the people involved.

jaksmillioniar:
hello room.

I have a problem and it is paining me. I am a matured guy who know what it feels like to be single and maried .

Most People mock me, but I got married.

marriage has challenges it is s not easy.

Travel › Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by tolajay: 12:14am On Dec 12, 2021

abubarakat:
I have used these recently: moneyfex.com, Lemonade, Kyshi, mamatakwas (a Nairalander on this thread)

They each have their pros and cons. Please review them carefully.

Travel › Re: Uk Student Visa/tier 4 Pbs - Your Questions Answered Part 6 by tolajay: 5:52pm On Nov 28, 2021

Thanks.

I used someone's USD debit card but it wasn't successful.

Hence, the outlook for an alternative.

Afmaag123:
Why not open a dom account, request for dollar card and buy FX from black market to facilitate the payment??

Jobs/Vacancies › Re: Is Your Salary Enough In This Economy?, Get In Here Let's Discuss by tolajay: 4:13pm On Nov 04, 2021

The world has changed. Education and work would no longer be the same forever.

Nigerians are not only competing for limited local resources but also global limitations. But it's better to go global than stay local.

Way forward: train your mind. Shun excuses, discipline yourself. Acquire skills and play global.

If you want to earn more and live about the Nigerian realities, then, think and act global.

We're in a new era; traditional schooling and working systems are obsolete. The industrial age is inefficient. Tech and the quest for skills is disrupting our present and future.

As it stands, Nigeria is in a race to its bottom. No developmental agenda, poor human capital, weak systems and institutions and more importantly, an army of "anyhow" citizens.

One can live above these traps by being conscious and clear about oneself, developing capacity, character and consistency.

Errrm...Make I chop, I dey come.

Travel › Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by tolajay: 1:52pm On Nov 02, 2021

Good afternoon, house.

May I ask which of these cities has fairly good cost of living: Bournemouth and Poole, both in Dorset?

Thanks

Car Talk › Re: Maintenance Tips For Honda Cars by tolajay: 7:43am On Oct 27, 2021

Aliu - Mechanic- 08029741950

Just before Iyana Ejigbo, by Grooming Centre.

[quote author=yomyte post=107062611][/quote]

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Travel › Re: Nigerian Nurses And Midwives With The Dream Of Working Abroad Let's Meet Here. by tolajay: 2:03pm On Oct 25, 2021

Okay.

Doing it on a laptop is better.

Honestly, i wasn't redirected to MindHub. Everything was done on PearsonVue's website.

After selecting the exam, I got to the part that says choose a test centre, where I inputed home address after which the closest centres to my address will popped up.

Then i proceeded to the payment page.

Best wishes.

quivah:
Im certain I didn't miss a step but i will go back and check..maybe on laptop.

I'm trying to pay for CBTexams. I'm trying to pay for the voucher on mindhub and on mindhub, I haven't seen where to chose the local testing company.. the stage I am right now requires I pay for the voucher...yet I'm asked to input a company's name but I am lost.
I will starg the process again...maybe I made an error somewhere.

Travel › Re: Nigerian Nurses And Midwives With The Dream Of Working Abroad Let's Meet Here. by tolajay: 12:00pm On Oct 25, 2021

Really?

The accent isn't that bad. He's probably from Ghana.

Hope you scaled your IELTS listening test. grin

quivah:
I won't lie by saying I didn't hear 80% of what he was saying lol. Had to go to the xomment to catch up. Is he from Nogeria?

Travel › Re: Nigerian Nurses And Midwives With The Dream Of Working Abroad Let's Meet Here. by tolajay: 11:59am On Oct 25, 2021

I think you've missed a step.

You're suppose to choose a local testing company.

MindHub requires a voucher, which i presume you don't have.

I really can't vividly remember the process again but you need to choose an exam centre that is close to you here in Nigeria. then you'll see their contact details.

Wait sef, is it NMC UK verification/registration you want to pay for OR CBT exams?

quivah:
Yeah, I got here via mindhub. But what I am confused on is the company box. I don't know what I should out there.

Car Talk › Re: Maintenance Tips For Honda Cars by tolajay: 11:45am On Oct 25, 2021

I know a guy around Iyana Ejigbo by Grooming Centre.

Just to be sure: do you need a mechanic or a gear specialist?

yomyte:
Can I get a good mechanic to work on Honda civic 05 gear? I noticed the gear fluid leak recently. I stay around ikotun.

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Travel › Re: Nigerian Nurses And Midwives With The Dream Of Working Abroad Let's Meet Here. by tolajay: 11:42am On Oct 25, 2021

From my research, the test isn't totally different from the previous one, just a little addition.

You can check this out:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKzLYBUxXf8

It has sample questions and insight on the new structure.

Best!

loriaidah:
Please who has written the new CBT recently? Kindly share your experience please and what to expect please

Travel › Re: Nigerian Nurses And Midwives With The Dream Of Working Abroad Let's Meet Here. by tolajay: 11:38am On Oct 25, 2021

Hey!

Not sure how you got to this page but confirm that you got here from PearsonVue's website.

If that's the case, then use the same details on the billing card as the shipping info.

Yes, you can use a U.S. card for payment or call the centre directly so you can pay in Naira and they'll book you.

Hope that helps.

quivah:
Hi guys. Please I am trying to book my cbt exam but I am stuck here.
What company name am I required to put?
My place of work?

Sorry if it sounds stupid, but the payment isn't refundable so I'm just trying to be careful plus no answer came up on Google regarding this question. Please, help.
Secondly, can I use another person's credit card(USA) to make payment?

Cc browncheeks

Travel › Re: Nigerian Nurses And Midwives With The Dream Of Working Abroad Let's Meet Here. by tolajay: 1:13pm On Oct 08, 2021

Register on www.trac.jobs, nhs.jobs.com, indeed.uk and be applying.

Ensure you read the job description and person specification before applying.

Customise your supporting information to reflect the required skills in the job details.

Note: Quality counts above quantity when applying for jobs. Do your research well.

Best wishes.

GirlieforJesus:
Pls, anyone with links for current recruitment of nurses in UK should kindly share with me pls. I don't know how to go about it again ooo

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Travel › Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 2) by tolajay: 6:12pm On Oct 06, 2021

Greetings Elders.

Is there anyone here living or working in Dorset?

I just got a employment offer but my estimation of the cost of living and accommodation seem quite high.

Would like to have first hand experiences, compared to the generic reviews online.

If you have or currently live/work in Dorset, kindly share your experience on working as a Nurse about to start a family.

Thank you.

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Politics › Flashback: The Morning After Nigeria's Independence by tolajay(op): 9:36am On Oct 02, 2021

Opening poser:

Why did Nigeria's freedom fighters demanded independence in 1960?

What was their vision for the country?

Is this the Nigeria they fought to relinquish its control from British?

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Freedom is sweet but it comes at a prize and with utter responsibilities.

1 October 1960 heralded joy and jubilation for the amalgamated North and South protectorate of the Niger area - Nigeria became independent from its colonial handlers, Britain.

It's been 61 years down the road of self-governance and internal-control, but is Nigeria better off on this track compared to the growth trajectory of the pre and neo-colonial phase?

Can you imagine the mood and mode of Nigerians on 2 October 1960, the morning after the independence announcement?

I did a reversed mental journey to capture the mood and mode of Nigerians on the said date, and all I see is the widespread scenery of pomp, celebration and ceremonies to bask in the euphoria of emancipation. Only a few Nigerians thought about the real task of nation building and the future.

There was little or no thought, vision, plan, documentation on how to develop the country. Most key actors were engrossed with the quest for power, prosperity and public influence, neglecting the country's future to fate and divinity.

The result of their short term thinking and festive mentality is here with us. For over six decades, successive governments have failed to deliver value. Citizens' trust is low, civic engagement and spaces shrink. The country continues to go down the road to nowhere. Why? Because the foundation was/is faulty.

From the on-set, values and ethics have no place in our personal and national lives. The ills and dynfunctionality we see in Nigeria today, didn't start today but decades back, perhaps prior to independence, but 1 October 1960 presented the opportunity to rebuild better but we missed it and we are all a victim of that pivotal miss.

While the 1960 error is already established with apparent negative impact, this is the time for us (YOU and ME) to rethink and redirect our personal, family, communal and national lives towards building not just a good NOW but a better FUTURE. What we do or don't will count for and against us in the nearest future, especially, on generations to come.

We need to understand that our little actions count. We need to do the right things even when we feel like doing otherwise. We need to think of the impact of our actions and inactions on our neighbour and more importantly, the next generation.

Ask yourself, are you laying a solid foundation and building right for the future? Would you be happy to expereince the Nigeria you're building or contributing now, if you could live forever?

Let's not be overwhelmed or distracted by the moment. Let's live with the future insight.

Think About The Future!

Business › Re: Come And Learn New Tricks That Cashed Me Over $400 On Fiverr In 5weeks. FREE!! by tolajay: 1:05pm On Oct 01, 2021

Hello,

Are you still offering the website traffic service?

homebase:
Follow this pictorial guide to set up Azure. https:///O5ut2Z ( nairaland is disabling the link, i have attached it below this message )

I followed the guide when i was first setting up mine, even the second one i set up
because i had forgotten some steps.

PS:

1. Before you begin at step 1 make sure you already open hotmail or outlook email account

2. When you get to step 5 to select VM site, only select the first package ( 1 Core with 3.5GB Ram ). The one
with $104.16. I think their free offer only covers that package but at end they will give $200 for 30 days.

3. The details of your Debit card must march the one with the bank

4. Location, i always select WE ( West Europe )

5. Follow the guide to step 6 and stop there.

PPS:

I just remember this, if you are having error or difficulty on one browser change to another
one it happens to me when i was opening my second Azure.

Politics › Re: Banks In South-East Comply With IPOB Directive, Bring Down Nigerian Flags by tolajay: 10:10pm On Sep 30, 2021

IPOB is over playing itself.

They've no sustained agenda for self-actualisation.

Independence offered on a platter of blood can't be productive.

Has IPOB ever held a consultation with lawmakers and federal government officials from the East?

High-level consultations with crystal clear mandate will be more effective as against this streetwise approach.

In the meantime, my deepest sympathy to all Easteners.

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Travel › Re: Nigerian Nurses And Midwives With The Dream Of Working Abroad Let's Meet Here. by tolajay: 10:04am On Sep 22, 2021

Thanks for this.

Pearlyfaze:
[ quote author=tolajay post=106016999]Hello Guys,

Does anyone has a more direct contact or info on how to get a job faster.

Seems TracJob is quite a long process.

Most of the applications have not been responded to or just unsuccessful.

Would appreciate your responses.

This the little trick I used for my wife's application and it worked. I search the hospital or Carehome she is interested in, get their HR or managers email address through their website. Then send a sweet cold email to them with Personal Supporting information, cv, IELTS, CBT and screen shots of NMC portal.

Literature › Re: Business Analyst Course by tolajay: 11:27pm On Sep 21, 2021

Are you aware that this is a Nigerian forum?

Do you want Nigerians to travel to India for Business Analyst Course?

Is the course available online?

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Travel › Re: Nigerian Nurses And Midwives With The Dream Of Working Abroad Let's Meet Here. by tolajay: 10:05pm On Sep 20, 2021

Hello Guys,

Does anyone has a more direct contact or info on how to get a job faster.

Seems TracJob is quite a long process.

Most of the applications have not been responded to or just unsuccessful.

Would appreciate your responses.

Travel › Re: Nigerian Nurses And Midwives With The Dream Of Working Abroad Let's Meet Here. by tolajay: 6:52pm On Sep 09, 2021

Yeah!

She's been off the radar...Best wishes to her.

How has it been with you? Hope you're in the UK now.

I probably missed your updates. Cheerios!

Iruosonobrugwhe:
where is @Barbiee....... we miss her oo

Travel › Re: Nigerian Nurses And Midwives With The Dream Of Working Abroad Let's Meet Here. by tolajay: 7:39pm On Sep 06, 2021

It costs 3-5k in Alagbon, Lagos.

zagorakis:
Please who knows how much it costs to get a police clearance form/certificate and the process involved..

Technology Market › Re: Genuine Microsoft Windows/office/exchange Activation Keys by tolajay: 7:37pm On Sep 06, 2021

Hi,

I see you tried sending me mail.

I dont have access to that account. Let's chat here.

Yinksdavid:
All Microsoft windows OS/ office products/ windows server/SharePoint designer/Microsoft project plan/Windows data center/Visual Studio/Dynamics CRM/Exchange server activation keys are all available available.

Business › Re: ➜ ➜ ➜Currency/E-currency Market Deals 2020 ➜ ➜ ➜ by tolajay: 11:25am On Aug 30, 2021

Thanks.

It was sorted long time back.

Sewgon79:
Send me whatapp (08063920026)

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