₦airaland Forum

motherfucker:
Madam, not everyone is "wise" or "exposed" it's 2016 and we still have those kind of girls. The isn't really exposed and experienced. She is just 21 and a kid who might be an introvert or one often locked up at home not mingle with people when at home.

There is an above 26 year old lady who is very naive at her age, up to the point of still using "dating" to describe her relationship status when she should be talking of settling down. She is pretty, well mannered with excellent home skills but her naivety is having a better part of her, much to her own detriment and most guys are taking advantage of her.

Some also mentioned that it seems like the OP was deflowered by the man in question, thus her state of mind.

Her case isn't one to be associated with insanity; it's far from it really. It seems this is her first heartbreak and to be honest, it's always the hardest and most painful of all. We all have different way of reacting to our first heart break. In my case, I used to rant up and down and it too me over 3 years to let go. That's life.

I understand what this lady is going through right now but with everything in life, it will heal.

Hmm I get your point tho..my only problem is why is she placing a curse on the guys innocent daughter? Was she the one who told her dad to break someone's heart?smh..

GloriaNinja:
Mr ask ask ask, I will call you Questionnaire, I am not dating any guy, even if I am though, he won't stop me from being a huge wayne fan o

Lol you are already complaining when I av plans of giving you plenty plenty jamb questions?brace yourself jare and get set..funny enough all the questions I asked,you didn't answer even 1

You not dating any guy ke?that's very interesting,but a bit hard to believe tho, start looking for one so that your attention will be diverted from lil Wayne, he even did an interview where he confessed he hated Nigerian girls,especially girls that bear Gloria(true story )..I dn't know what's wrong with that dude sha,too much weed and codine I guess. Anyway sometimes single status could be alot of fun,especially for guys sha..but I am curious how you handle it especially when your friends flaunt their boyfriends and talk about them all the time.

GloriaNinja:
Wayne still got the dreadlocks On and blondie now, well ...I am the first Ninja with dreads and making history is the best, he can't relocate to jupiter, Mars is his damn home. school is fine and u?

:oOhh really?so is that why yours is gold coloured?cos his is blonde?lol smh..does your boyfriend know you are into lil Wayne this much? Rotfl..Mars is his home?according to miss lil ninja shey?so you've given him a home by force , I must tell your boyfriend that you are cheating on him with lil Wayne in your imagination ..just bribe me and I won't tell him again..don't worry I am not too expensive.

Btw Where do you school? So how's your martial arts training going now?you still never get black belt?just ditch them and pay me il teach you better and you'll have a black belt in 2days ;Dno joke I am bad like that.

TrapQueen77:
Balls.. Huge balls


Uummm...wish my crush got balls as huge as that

Lol..why?what do you want to do with huge balls miss? I bet they will even be too big to fit in anyone's mouth let alone in yours ;Dsmh..ladies been biting more than they can chew since the time of eve.

GloriaNinja:
I have been doing okay and you?

Oh I have been ok,the usual up and about. Your dreadlocks tho,I dnt think I av ever heard of ninja with dreadlocks by the way lil Wayne goes on low cut now o,he cut his locks ,and he relocated from Mars to Jupiter,but I have his contact details I am willing to give you if you pay me very well .Lol How's school

GloriaNinja:
From your primary school speech, I observe you don't respect women.

The dude has a crazy reputation so dn't be shocked lol..How have you been miss lil ninja?

Vanquay16:
I don't know about other sections but most of them in romance are cheaper than their underwears

Daymnn..nigga that's some cold ass sh.it right there bro ..hahahahaha total KNOCKOUT

omonighoblessing:
archived

: It's achieved,not archived...still pathetic for a supposed adult female.

LuvU2:
Thank u darl.
That's the world we living in, that's why i dont blame feminists most times. The world was "man-structured" to our disfavour.
I express myself as a woman, i get a negative tag immediately. Lol. Let's see who wins at the end

Lol so you've turned it into a competition now to see who wins in the end?hahahahaha women ehnn na wah o. But you guys win in every other thing now so why won't you chill for us a lil on this one?

JustHere2Observ:
A guy will post a thread on how he can't stand it if his wife gains weight after having kids, will say how women with stretch marks are disgusting and should be cheated on. They post this all the time shaming women and saying they will cheat on her if she lets her body go and he will get support from other guys.
But a lady saying she will cheat on a man who doesn't care for his looks is an olosho? Where is the justice?

No not every guy will cheat on his wife when her body starts changing after child birth,by the way it's not like guys encourage cheating,we dont because it is wrong but your culture frowns on women cheating on their husbands and that's how it will always be, it's not a court so dn't expect justice dear.

Somethings are just the way they are and can't be changed,its just like saying why is there lifeform on earth and there is none on the moon,where is the justice?

LuvU2:
Love is not the only thing that keeps a marriage Love matters at first but other things wld come to play down the line. Are u a learner?

Hmm no doubt love is never enough for a successful marriage but it counts big time hun..I am a learner pls school me,see her small head there lol.

Makes me wonder what the the world will be like if every woman agrees with this your ideology. Godforbid bad thing,oya come let me pray for you so you can change your mind about cheating.

LuvU2:
Change things for women? lol i er swear u dont know nothing.
Wake up, women are looking elsewhere...

:oReally but I am enjoying my sleep and dn't want to wake up. Hmm your husband must never see this thread o.

Anyway if you marry for genuine love and not money or material things,trust me you'll find it very difficult to cheat. Btw hope you know two can play at that game?

LuvU2:
Helo, its a man's world? wow i am just knowing. U mind showing me where it was stamped? That the world belongs to David Emeka and Kola?

Lol, honey i am free to have my say in this new world where women are becoming more assertive
.
Its no one's world. If there are rules, everyone shd keep them. If there are none stay off my Vg.

If these rules are biased, someone has to straighten them. If feminism can, then well, it should.

But in my my world, i hve a choice. I have desires. If my man fails to meet all, i would peep to see who has the rest. If he doesnt want no peeping, he has to give me his best.

OK maybe you can be the female version of ghandi in Nigeria and change things for women all over..

Sha I am not contesting anything with you (guys never win arguments with women so no bigi ) but if your husband kicks you out for cheating il just hand you a bowl of ice-cream and say sorry but I warned you before and you were forming girl on fire for me..

bicmitchum:
I didn't even have the time to read everything you typed there. I know better than to "adore and worship" anyone. Not a girl, not a god. But trust me, you can't even qualify for this girl. At least, not with your english. If you think I give any fk about who she's fking, you think I'll just stand by and enjoy my eavesdropping on her?
Wake up!

Smh..pathetic, you don't see me creating a thread about my 'supposed girl' getting pregnant for another dude and fvcking two other guys do you?I rest my case. Keep kissing the ground she walks on

LuvU2:
I want my man looking good else i look elsewhere but still stay with him. How am i different from the millions of adulterous men u celebrate everyday.

I'll tell you how you are different,you have a whole in between your legs while they have rods in between theirs. And you don't need to be reminded that you are in a world where there is a clear expectation for females and males,expectations which are not in anyway similar. Weather you like it or not it's a man's world and some things will remain same like FOREVER and if you decide to cheat and you get caught then be rest assured you'd be kicked out,except by some miracle you are allowed to stay..but if your husband cheats he will hardly get kicked out and the chances of the marriage ending is not as hight as when you as female cheats..that's the difference between you and the adulterous men 'we celebrate " .

By the way don't let your mum hear you say this. Lemi ask sef do you consider yourself a feminist? cos you sure sound like a lil feminist wannabe or feminist in the making.

bicmitchum:
Hehe, oh really? Manly? That's the idea that came to you? You have no idea how wrong!

I believe you are a soji dude so you must surely know that when a woman senses that she intimidates you,she will loose respect for you and never take you seriously..and I can bet that she knows how much you adore and worship her..so she won't find you interesting and mysterious,a guy who sees her like a regular girl and doesn't give 2fvcks who she is,is the guy that can and WILL control her ass and keep her locked down because she would be curious why he doesn't worship her the way others do,and that curiosity is what will keep her spell bound..it's not too late sha cos it seems you really like the hoe .

Get rid of that mentality and treat her like a regular lagos girl and watch her crawl after you and dance to your every tune.

LuvU2:
My pills are not eye/ear friendly, unfortunatelly.

Rotfl..who your pills epp?Gerarahiamen....smh..as tiny as you are, you are giving me a tongue?ifa knock your small nose ehnn you'll go and sleep.

Anyway I hope you'll not make a big deal of it if after giving birth and your breasts fall like a deflated balloon,your husband goes to cheat cos you are no longer as good looking as you were when he married you? . But seriously that ideology is not it at all aunty smally.

bicmitchum:
But I like her, I won't lie. You don't find someone like her that easily. She is special in her own way, and of course really intelligent!

Sorry to say but it is this your pathetic attitude that aided her in fu..cking other men who are alot more manly than you..the earlier you get that idea of how special and unique she is out of your mind the better for you..it's people like you that worship women and wash their underwears while one riff raff will be somewhere fu..cKing hell out of her. ..Another Mr nice guy spotted

This O.p na small pikin the worry am,it's your type that follows razz broke boys that expose their boxers sagging their jeans forming swag,better take hints and lessons from fabulocity cos she clearly has what you lack in abundance..fabulocity=wife material. Dumb ideology, dumb thread ..

You are still a child so I am not surprised by your comments and threads,hopefully when you are grown into a lady and you become wise someday, you'll look back and understand why everyone thinks you are naive now

obiorathesubtle:
If that woman can fend for herself, has a brilliant career going on, doesn't depend on the man to buy even a 10naira worth box of matches, she won't think about suicide.. She's prolly a stay-at-home liability, that's why she can't live without the man.. She knows she's about to be broke beyond shiiit!..


The douchebag mama's boy married for the wrong reason.. And I don't blame the woman, he toasted, proposed, said I do n ish.. She prolly thought it was real..My advice, she should get an apartment and live her life, women don't necessarily need to validate themselves with childbirth. This is the 21st century. 21st century women should strive for success, not comfort under a man's roof..

Look at missy elliot, she has never conceived nor given birth to any kid, she prolly has more stack o' cash than Buhari... Lots of women in the United states look up to her as a role model.. The guy will come knocking when he realises himself.



This is not my real advice.

And what exactly do you consider as the right reasons to marry? smh. Just because your reason is not the same as his,doesn't mean he married for the wrong reasons.

One man's food is another man's poison so it's unnecessary insulting the guy because of his choices,he is an adult,it just like insulting a member of redeemed church because he choose that church instead of Christians embassy..you dig?

christinnah:
I know aye!! but the problem is, I'm studying so I'm not going anywhere unless I finish off school...

You're school doesn't run exchange programs with international students?you could do a semester in another country..or during a long holiday you just travel for a week or two,make lots of friends too online..it works magic

Ohh sorry love..maybe you should save some money and do a little travelling,come to Nigeria and meet some friends..go to Asia live a little,life is just one so enjoy it while it lasts sweetheart cheer up ok

Babztemmy:
@freshraymond. Thank you. We dated for only two months. But we knew we liked eachother. The mistake we made was we had no clue it doesn't and by liking. Okay now we both now actually realise we don't understand each other AT ALL. When we argue he reminds me that it was his mum who begged him to stay cause I was pregnant for him but planned pregnancy we both planned it. When we argue he also reminds me of how he wished he never settled down with me. When he is angry like this am his greatest night mare. Sometimes I just want to run away as in far away from him. He HATES me sooo much when he is angry. What keeps me going is he is really nice. He is a very nice guy and that's my encouragement he gives me everything I ask for, interms of finances, and then our sexual life is perfect. BUT the understanding each other aspect is not working. I don't know what else to do

Hmm sorry about this hell you are passing through,but let me ask you a few questions
1. Before you dated for 2months,did you surfer him when he was toasting you?
2. Did you play life so much before he met you?as in how did you guys meet?does he have a bad mental picture of you?like you were a serious runs girl before you guys married?
3. Did you cheat on him in any way? Maybe he found out somehow and didn't mention it to you.

These are the main reasons a man will torment a woman so check yourself,there is no smoke without a fire,he is not mad to be acting like this just like that now,anyway I wish you good luck.

Julester:
Hey,

about a month ago I met this nigerian guy on some flirt app. We started talking on Skype and Whatsapp, and we've had hours of video and text chats ever since. He said I love pretty fast, which confused me a lot, and I told him that he would be delusional if that was the truth, but he did not let go of me. I started falling for him, and now "I love you" has become part of our daily routine.

I started reading a lot about Lagos, his city of residence, and I came across the word "scam", which again both confused and worried me. I even confronted him with that, which first made him break out in laughter, and when I did not let go, he started being all offended.

He told me that he just finished schooling, but isn't able to find a job that would make him enough money to make a living, so he told me that he's supported by his family.

He never asked me for money. And he wanted me to come visit, but I told him that that would be too dangerous for me, and that he should visit me first here in Germany.

So that's the plan now. He told me that he will borrow the money for his ticket from people he knows as soon as he's able to show them his visa.

Yet, I read that many Nigerian/ African guys are only dating abroad that way they can live a better life.

I can't and I don't wanna believe that everything he told me so far is a lie.

What does this whole thing sound like to you guys?

Thanks for reading.

Hmm you have to be very careful though but he might just be one of the good guys,since he has not asked you for money yet then I don't think there is any reason to be worried..let him come and meet you in Germany or you come down to Nigeria but make your own plans for hotel accommodation etc..goodluck tho

sexxydiva:
The only way to enjoy your time here on nairaland is to be independent of any group, be on your own!!

Exactly miss..tell them pls.. And as for the o.p, I was starting to think he was talking sense when he was giving advice about leaving the group of mad people, not until he started canvassing the dude to join his own league of dumb slaves,smh..Buffoons everywhere.

Laveda:
Nope, lol I clubbing and drinking aint really my thing, happens once in a while here in school..

There are resons I don't update again sha, thesee peeps are taking my life seriously thank theirs so lemme give them space... About haters lol dunno for them sha.. Really don't care who likes or hate me I have all the love I want from real pals..

Happy sunday, hope you went to church?

Really? Stop lying joor before I bite that mouth you using to lie lol..are you serious you hardly club and take alcohol? hmm interesting, alot of people have another impression of you aspa all the plenty plenty laveeda gist on romance section I guess things are truly not always as they appear or seem to be.

But seriously tho I tot you were the party kinda babe ..dn't get me wrong there's nothing wrong in having a lil fun now and then but just shouldn't be overdone. Hmm and I was already thinking you'd take me somewhere nice for drinks when next I visit ph ,when the time comes it has to fall into your once in a while moment thing o .

Hmm you were probably mixing with the wrong crowed cos they had a lot of dirt on you,so they definitely where people you once considered friends,but ohh well life goes on,we learn everyday of our lives what doesn't kill you makes you stronger,rise from the Ashes like a phoenix .

Yeah I went to church..came back with a headache tho,I guess the plenty shouting and holly noise is responsible for it but church was good. Btw what church do you attend miss?

Rotfl..is this guy for real?this dude will give Mr kock a run for his money..hahahahaha can't deal,this guy must be acting and speaking like this intentionally cos I can't believe people like these exist abeg..The dude beats Mr kock,mama G and oon.ila all combined..hilarious modafucker

Laveda:
Lol I'll try sha, updating these days aint easy been too lazy for that guess my life has been a bit “boring”

Thanks for reading even tho I feel what I put there wouldn't make sense to anyone except me

Asa for my personal text, didn't know its catchy might change it.

Lazy?lol side effects of too much fun (hangover)..I use to live and work in ph so I know the town is a lot of fun,which means you shouldn't be talking of boredom. Plus you are a student and a female now,just ping one of those boys that love flexing in school,those toasting you tho (it's easier with the toasters)or better still holla friends who are working class,I bet they'll be happy to unwind over the weekend aspa they had to work all through the week.

What you wrote as interesting and entertaining as it is,made sense too,reason is people can relate to all your experiences and it's down to earth

Hmm your personal text is deep,I know the number of haters you have here almost equals the number of your fans but you still keep your head up,that got my attention,I wasn't really much of a fan before the personal message you know,but you seem like a lil sweetheart after all. Anyway it's weekend so party easy,il not tell you sorry again o if you have another hangover

Laveda:
Lol you went there...
Thanks I'm better now.

Lol yeah I did go there...well twasnt my fault,your profile message should be held responsible for that ,interesting read regardless.

Keep it updated and start handing out soda and popcorn to anyone who goes in for a read,starting with me ..You can spike the soda sha with a little of that thing you got a hangover from so that il be alot more relaxed while reading the epistle,dn't worry it'll be our little naughty secret I won't tell

Laveda:
I'm okay

I hope you're well recovered from the hangover tho? ..only you got beat by rain and still went clubbing that landed you in bed sick with a hangover in the morning..lol smh you stubborn small o