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call him at 12am sharp to wish him a happy bday. be the first. tell him all the sweet nonsense and sing small happy birthday for him too, then pray for him.all in all wateva u do is gona b thru calling cos of the long distance. so spend good time talking on that day. u berra buy credit to top up if u have not done so already. no hurry hurry talk.

i like that

but y u wait make she first ask u nah?

thank God for seeing you through. uhmn that lagos ehn!

That documentary brought back fond memories for me. but i just wonder why china? why would i want to live in china?

oh dear another one has fallen victim. i am sorry madam you are not the first. from time to time they keep coming here to tell us tales of woe. i am pretty sure that man is still very much married and u said it yourself taking care of his wife and children back home. sorry you fell for this. So what you gona do now? You cant keep living in fools paradise.


leilah will be here soon. 

this is so funny jesussssssssssssssssssssss. desperate times calls for desperate measure. who still talk say girl scarce for naija?

I have a guy who I have been in and out with roughly two years but I think or feel his orientation about women is bad. He calls but feels he should not waste too much money on things like calls or gifts. Right now, I asked him about his apartment, but the money is not complete. Should I go ahead to bring part of the money or let him do it on his own. He says its a major factor to our settling down, but he gives me the creep at times.

first things first leave this house matter. how can you possibly still b with someone that gives you the creeps? you want to give him money so hopefully he'd propose and u can marry him then n what? his touch, look,stare sound of voice will keep making u jump. see this chick oh

what a messy situation that would be.

by way of an aside i knew of a family, neighbors whose kids were my friends and still remain till date. when they were young their dad claimed he got the call of God on him to become a missionary.quit his job in journalism moved from northern Nigeria to the south with his family and then the suffering started. he would do NOTHING NOTHING. the wife was the breadwinner training 4children with civil servants salary(mind you not a top civil servant). they suffered. still this man would not do a thing. Attending church reading his bible, and christian literature and arguing about men of God on tv. the one who is fake and real. he lived on the goodwill of any church he found himself in, cos he moved from one church to another since he claimed he was a missionary and was not attached to a particular church. he was not a cheat,violent towards his wife or children,drunk neither did he smoke but was completely useless. he lost the respect of this family up to their last born. his children hawked stuffs on their head to make ends meet to help their mum. in short people really have to be careful all these God told me this and that. Especially pastor has confirmed you are my wife story. people have to be really careful.

of course i wised up and stopped believing his lies nor give him my money. tension naturally built up as a result and the aurguements became more as i told him; enough of those bible quotes and let me for the first time use my head as am a graduate for God sake. that was when it started. the first time he hit me was in 2007. he did it again in 2008 and living in europe, the neigbours heard the shouts and called the police ( we eventually pretended to them it was a mere auguement and they left). but it is 2009 now and he seems to be growing wider.

my dear this is a sad case. i have learnt alot from this tale. it would seem u guys are abroad although i might be wrong. i wish i could tell you not to leave this man,(cos i belong to d school of thought that marriage should be together AS LONG AS HE IS NOT CHEATING AND SLEEPING WIT YOU TO PASS ONE TERRIBLE DISEASE ON YOU OR BEATING YOU) but then violence is now involved and i fear for your safety and that of your children. its a good thing that the religion he claims he is practicing is not making him cheat and drink yet. the once in a year beating is growing worse.my dear can you afford to stay away from this man for sometime.i mean separation. hopefully he might realize and come to his senses during that period and choose to change for the better. on your part, you could keep praying for him and asking God to work on him.cry to God to touch his heart, forgive him and lets see how things go. if he were the breadwinner that would be another thing but now ure d one shouldering most of the economic burden. you wont miss his contribution as it stands. i might be wrong oh but if it were me i wont put up with someone in an abusive relationship. Or alternatively you could just ignore him, you claim u started standing up to him and that was when the hitting started. you could just ignore him and let him wallow in his make believe world to avoid the arguments and hitting while trusting God for a change. The call is yours woman. At the end of the day its ur peace of mind and happiness that counts i beg nor let person kill you sha. Aint worth it oh cos we only got one life to live.

But seriously how much is a washing machine. For a woman of this day and age. is that something too big to buy?

hahaha poster wetin do ur hand nah? but seriously u can afford a washing machine cant u?

this is indeed interesting as long as its true!

PS: That girl must be an angel, a naija babe rejected a new phone (even if na nokia 3310) and had to be begged to collect it? Shocked Shocked Shocked Shocked

HAHAHA 2 FUNNY NAIJA GIRL DON SUFFER

If Nairalanders could say i am a mugun, then i believe i am

u got her a phone not cos she asked for one but cos you wanted to keep in touch with her as often as possible abi?
2months seems like a pretty short time to me but then again na u dey the relationship and na u sabi wetin sweet you
but then again your friends dont have to tell u if ure a mugu and u dont have to look for validation on naira land
be strong my brother when you make decisions, me thinks u are exhibiting a case of low self esteem.

Dvampire:
like i said before, ALMOST all the ladies that have contributed here are suffering from 'menophobia'

meaning what?

everyone is complete on their own. both male and female at least you decide to be complete on your own
in my opinion you dont have to be married to be complete
what is d defination of this completness sef?
is it wealth, happiness, fufillment, or a husband or wife (whether it is a cheating swine of a man or a lazy nagging woman)

me i see my self as complete in my single state, but part of being fufilled in this life is for me to be married to a good man and have wonderful children i can call family. that is my personal decision
i dont think some people want that, should i now say they are incomplete for that decision they made
what of the priest and revrend sisters who dedicate their lives to God? Are they incomplete?
what of the widows or widowers who decide not to remarry are they suddenly incomplete again.
some of us just keep quoting the bible again and again
was our lord and saviour jesus married? can u dare say he was incomplete by that reason alone?

hahaha here we go again.

Ifedisky:
I'd be in bliss the day you get that RING your fourth finger so richly deserve. Stick with 9ja hun, you won't get lost!

i almost said this. GABBY U MUST MARRY THAT UR BF OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH _{(All this love love talk talk shall not be in vain end of story)}

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Now my fiancee is trying she has always been sturborn of recent[b] but i beat her and prayed hoping that she will change [/b]but she always report me to my family that i do scold her Now she dey mess up when my family talk to her she is hesitate to listen to their advice and i believe is not ordinary BUT SHE IS ALWAYS TELL ME THAT SHE LUV ME

u dare beat her and ure here asking questions. u dey beat fiancee if she become wife wetin u go do. Utter nonsense

Outstrip:
I thnk she might be depressed. So if she wakes up at 1pm every day and you have no house help who is getting your child ready for school

i almost asked myself

this na common sense if i had to pay 50naira for every time i withdraw from MY OWN BANK'S Atm then i'm out of such a bank, coupled wit the money for sms alert and the 10k balance. i wont accept any of that.

m not trying to say what this girl did is right. it was very wrong and she knows it. my own be say its so simple for a girl to forgive a cheating bf/husband/fiancee, but when its a girls turn the offense becomes one that cant be forgiven.

who said the female folks are immune from cheating?

@debosky even though i understand n respect ur opinion, i still stand by my earlier position.
i totally agree she should not have taken him back until he had given good reason for the 2-3 months of no communication (personally i could not have accepted him until he did this although there is the possibility that he may have lied)The reason why she agreed and took him back is not for me to answer.She knows why she did that and d harm has already bin done.I am still of the opinion that  this lady has done nothing wrong. i could go ahead to reply u quote for quote but i have decided not to cos i bliv that would be an exercise in futility. Let each stick by what they believe in.

Whats the name of that movie with Judi Dench and Cate Blanchett? Huh
notes on a sandal

love love love that film. at poster i agree sex with a minor is sex with a minor and both male and female should b treated equally. An elderly person is expected to know better

and now yu av to go bak to wat yu re supposed to av done b4- go to him and apologise or do wat yu ladies do wen yu dnt want to apologise, aftre dat find out wat went dwn gan gan and decide wat to do.

goodness gracious

i find it hard to believe men and even some girls are saying this girl was wrong for going about this thing her way (via facebook)

I see nothing wrong in what she did. This man has cheated before. if you ever dated a cheat and later forgave him and moved on i tell u deep down u will always be weary and alert. Now fast foward, 2-3 months he is incommunicado. One day he gets over himself and comes back (mayb realising his sojourn was not worth it as such). poster forgives yet again and asks ''what happned'' he got nothing to say. I believe she has every right IF STILL DISTURBED to find out what happned. i would do the same and the least i expect of the son of a gun is to be upset after ive found out things like that on FB. he is the one with explanations to give me, and he can later (after explaining the FB matter for me)bring up the issue of ''u should not have gone about it this way'' and then i can apologise. Thats how people should act.

if the man had something to do with this actress girl, then poster is better off without him. A failed relationship is better than a failed marriage.

Diva1:
Even when I ended the message with "Let God be the judge", he replied the same too. That he loved me and I did something like this. I care(d)about this guy for 3yrs, after so much time, effort etc, this is how it turned out to be , the most unusual way? I wanted to tell his mum and sister but i felt it would sound desperate. Have you ever been humiliated and angry but calm at the same time because it's more like shock.

i know i know sometimes its easier said than done. its painful 3years was indeed a long time to invest in a relationship,but look at it now. Girl just do wetin dey ur mind ok.

~Sissy~:
seriously if it was me  i will leave him, he is only angry cox he got caught

Exactly, can u imagine. Another thing please dont exchange words with this actress girl, write on her page or send stuff to her inbox (on facebook)That would be pretty petty and u will be demeaning urself. Inshort i would advise u to delete that ur fake profile. ur mission has bin accomplished. Dont beg him or try to call him let the tables be turned and watch his so called anger fizzle out. he will soon begin to fool himself.