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i smell a rat. who smells it with me? i pray i am very very wrong sha.

how much does a ring cost for God's sake? But then again why buy a ring when to the world you are not married?
you need to talk to this man, first things first, tell your family apologise and all that
move to your own house as soon as you guys save enough money
if you still have something left, it will be nice to go with him to Africa by december so you see the parents and do a small traditional stuff
you can do something later in Australia where your family and friends can see you (every girls dream)
dont sweat it too much babe, take it easy.
if the white wedding means so much to you, you can do it but that means going to Africa will wait, just prioritize these events
you need to tell your parents first, its only reasonable at this stage for someone who really loves you. the deed has been done nothing more to hide.
i hope

Sagamite:
Come on!!!

Another thing I have noticed when women feel comfortable enough with me to tell me a secret about their unfaithfulness, they normally claim not to have gone all the way when I am sure given the position and the advancement they were in, they did.

hahaha . i still have my head in place men. twas just to have a good time in the absence of a loved one. what would i gain by covering up here. its a faceless world bro!

Uhmnnnnnnnnnnnnnn. what a chick. is that the sort of person you want?

I cannot trust any woman who is not without her husband for even just a month. What I have seen of married women who left their husbands for one year to pursue their Masters degree abroad, is really awesome.

Serial and perfect cheaters.

uhmnnnnnnnnn nor be lie ohhhhhhhhhh. you forgot NYSC sef. thats the height. but then again they key word is SOME, SOME WOMEN

Sagamite:
The fact is that, a vast majority of women don't fall in love, they are just in love with someone loving them.

So whoever does it (showing love for them) best is very likely to get laid as long as the condemning society can be kept oblivious.

If I am given consistent access to a married/tied woman, I believe with the right level of persistent flirtatious, naugthy and yet caring pressure, I have no doubt I will bed at least 60% of them because my attention on them will most likely be more intense than their partners.

Women cheat FREQUENTLY but with a small pool of desirable men, most men on the other hand will bang almost anything in skirt.

uhmn you have spoken the truth esp in the highlighted part. i am no saint i had one or two crazy moments with guys apart from my bf, although never going as far as sleeping with any of them. but that na bf/gf level and that was because i wanted to do that at that point in my life. But as a married woman, i doubt if i will ever let that happen to me. its all about permitting something. when you let it, it happens. why would i want that as a married woman? i cant even think like that. its beyond my wildest imagination.God help me.

oh and panadol

purse,phone, mp3 player,handkerchief, biro, diary, a novel(compulsory even if i dont open it that day), pad (compulsory during my period whether i change or not for my peace of mind), lip balm, diary, small bottled water, and shade when its hot.

who still ties wrapper to sleep? as for the boxer m so used to seeing it. what is wrong there again?

where i always felt it was wrong was when guys wear boxers and move around the area. i.e buy something around the corner, wear to fetch water across the road. etc

liked it. loveddddddddd it. made me laff

if they can come up with hot stuffs like this on their own without ppl's video or beat they may make them bigger stars in naija.

If wishes were horses, mind you, she's not my girlfriend, she is just a friend, why would you want me to do all these with her when she is not yet my girlfriend? i am talking about [b]how to change her from being too quiet and boring [/b]just as a friend, you are talking about wrestling with her Undecided

i doubt if you can change something so inherent in someone. something as basic as their personality. you either love it and feel totally comfortable with her personality or take a walk. this same thing you are complaining of another man will have not problem with it. That might just be another man's wifey.

me as a married woman, God forbid.

I'm Australian Born my man is Nigerian born we want to go back to Nigeria this Christmas ,

I suggest when you get to Nigeria later this christmas you guys should do a simple traditional wedding. you should discuss with your husband and tell your family as soon as possible. when you guys have enuf money you can do the wearing gown thing.

Mouth odour mite just be it. . . Analyse ya mouth!

uhmnnnnnnnnn slight possibility as well

top up wots with u and this ex of yours? i keep reading stuffs bout ur ex every now and then. is he not an EX?

sha i'm most likely not gona wish anybody happy birthday even if its staring me straight in the face i.e the face book thing. i do what i feel convinced doing and not even the face book remainders makes me obligated to say happy birthday to someone when i dont see the need. well thats just me sha, i never believed in ''the ex is my good friend thing'' . they are not my enemies either they are just well er EX.

this is probably the way this chick is. there is no fire/spark between both of you. this one most likely nor go work oh. read through some of the recent post in romance and family section. Most of the issues are bothered around people thinking they could change their partners, wife, husband. those things are there so u can learn. just keep her as a friend.

dont you know how to restrict someone at arm's length? once in a while hello, no chatty chatty here and there on face book. calling once in donkey years. shebi you get girl friend now, you should have little or no time for such? soon things will so distant and gradually she will get the message and hopefully would have gone on with her life by then.

tiniyata:
Since u love her so much,Sit her down,tell her 'baby,u have been so wonderful lately,but ur old self made more sense to me.I know we're all humans are we are bound to make mistakes,n i know i must have offended u one way or the other either consciously or in my sub-consciousness,but i say i'm sorry.But if the reason for ur recent change is because u have something botherin u,then i wanna be a part of it.Remember how we started,u've always been all i have n my source of joy,i wouldn't want to let u go cos i would loose a hold of life itself.U're going to kill me emotionally n physically,n i will be ridiculed.I know u're not that bad,but sweetheart,d truth is that i'm scared i'm loosin u,n i dont want to get to that point,whatever it is u want me to do,u just tell me,cos u're one thing i just cant let go in this world,cos u're my wealth here on earth'.

guy you get am 100%. Even a heart of stone will melt and reconsider if told something like that. sometimes being involved in a relationship for such a long time has such effects.3 years in your case. when you are too used to something there is a tendency to sort of lose touch over time. there are ways of rekindling it back those things you say she used to do. for starters do them yourself and see if she will not reciprocate. also speak to her again. in my case my bf just spoke to me and when he used the words''ure not the way you used to be,i feel like m loosing you that touched me'' i knew he spoke the truth and i tried to make a conscious effort. the change was not immediate but i kept working on it. its alot better now. ure lucky she ws like that in the first place. dont worry she'd get it back. good luck

(which I doubt you do) you have to COMMUNICATE with her or invite her to read your feelings on nairaland to cut your work in half.

i dey tell youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu

He said that married Nigerian men, of his generation, [b]cheat because their wives dont play very well and their feeling is that the women should come with this knowledge.  [/b]I asked why not teach them and his response was that you cant teach a woman how to play very well she has to know this.

i understand this explanation but what i ask too is that the women they are going outside to meet are they not nigerians demselves? i mean you say the wife is frigid and stuffs and you go out and meet women too, the same nigerian girls they yab and say are frigid. somehow these men manage to find the freaky ones. i think a cheat will give any reason for cheating. some just want some new booty something to experiment with apart from the normal wife (who might even be good in bed). i mean is this not the same nairaland i read something like ''how can i be eating one type of soup everyday?''

He also said that it was just known that the men would have women outside and the women just over looked these other women and maintained their home.  He once told me how he told his mother of a woman his father was seeing on the same block and how his mother told him to hush his mouth and tend to his studies. The men were shown by their fathers that cheating is the way of man and the women where shown by their mothers that they should just tolerate.

i mean this thing dey pain meeeeeeeeeee. i knew of a lovely couple we all stayed in d same compound in naija. the wife ws beautiful,modern high fly sort of chick with a wonderful disposition.And she had a kid, but if u see her like who never born. she had a good job they had a perfect life sort of.well i aint in their bedroom so i cant say anything der. but this guy was cheating.cheating and i wonder y in the name of God will someone do this. it is just in his blood.

As the generations progressed they became more and more sexual with their partners and that todays generation is far more sexual than his.  The women now dont talk about sex, but they watch more western movies and music.

it is getting better. slowly and gradually. women are becoming sharper and the average nigerian man is having a change of heart. it gives me hope.

i noticed too and was wondering myself. people make mistakes in spelling and stuffs. well sha

it it not possible to at least create chance for correction say like twice before it can no longer be modified?

U've got 2 start because she ought to know what to do and what nt to do,and pls don't tl her parents,dts nt d best and won't gv d best either,presently,im in luv wt a matured 14-yr old girl but im ashamed 2 tl her just because of her age.

clap for yourself. y wont u be ashamed. how old are you?

as 4 her friends seriously i doubt if u can make her leave dem. At best d most u can expect is a change in her attitude. nothing too much but small change. the friends aint going anytime soon sha. take her out too someone suggested it. lol goodluck

e b like say u don already make ur mind. Na lie oh u must dey dt marriage oh. u must talk 2her. ask her wetin she like for bed do u spend enuf time on fore play. ar they sexual tins she like that u wont even consider hearing? make una talk am oh. that marriage must work in Jesus name.lol

ooh and about aborting the baby that is pure nonsense and you know it. take a chill pill dear. you're worked up too

m so sorry bout this mess i dont even know what to advise. is this not the same girl who came complaining once over sth else in her marriage? he should not have hit you for any reason especially as you are pregnant. i think for a young marriage that man has alot of things on his mind. my guess is that you told him to have his bath in a harsh manner or perhaps rude (although that is no excuse for hitting u). i am afraid if you apologize to him today he might feel he has a license to hit you tomorrow. if it were something apart from hitting though he was wrong i would have said play d matured role and apologize to him. when the whole apology thing is over, please make una sit down. let him speak his mind, cos i think he has alot to say about you and mayb the way things have changed, you go talk your own too and take note of the complaints and try to work around it. this is the early stage of marriage things can be tough but you will go through it. you said he was nice before people dont change over night.

most importantly are you a christian? you berra start praying oh. this ur marriage most work in jesus name.

hey poster this is good news. i knew it would turn out well. i rejoice with you too. and long live your marriage too.

you shall come out of this soon my brother. its true you can not be happy all the time and that she needs to understand. just going through your post was clear enough for me. you need to explain this to her. all you wrote, just sit her down and tell her. She is probably stressed the way you are too, if she is as wonderful as you painted her surely she would understand.All the best you shall get outta this soon.

charminme:
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that settles it

And please dnt use it against her in future

I wish u al the best

my dear u can say that again. thats one of d many things i fear about asking a naija man out or proposing to one. this guy berra be an exception to that rule

charminme:
I love birthdays and i dnt like someone close to me like my boyfriend forgetting
Pls work on it
As for the gift and he is far away.
If u guys are close, i mean really close get 5 or more of your friends those he did not knw
To call him on his day saying ' Happy birthday from ur girfriend'
That cud be suprising and romantic i guess.

i like this one. uhmn m getting nice suggestions cos this na my situation for now too