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i think ur bro is under some sort of spell.

ive seen quite a few of them do it. not it at all

He gave me this massage to the extent that I slept off and woke up only to find my full briefed pantis almost folded into half while he is still vigorously massaging my back, I feel disgusted rite now

where did she say he had sex with her? damn that must have been some massage

wonderful wonderful news. she was just too much to be left single

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@touchmeder
Y u go dey give am dat kind advice

its a silly post that required an answer in the same manner. i mean how in love can you be

go after her dear have u not seen the movie original sin by Antonio Banderas, Angelina Jolie. someone may just be manipulating her but yet she loves you still.
lol

i dream of a small wedding. the traditional only the immediate family no drums or dancing outside after the bride price. the white wedding close friends and close family members no mum/dad's friends from fellowship, place of work vice versa. i have my work cut out for me and i know i'd have to meet them halfway.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Call her and ask why she didnt call. Don't know why una like stress [/color]

simples

My God, what did I see? Gbenga is a cute, cool, fine banker by all standard, so I expected somtin to match this, but , I cant even understand it, a much senior colleague in thesame office, 7yrs older, not good looking, and he is so into the whole thing like a drugged child. I was startled, dumbfounded, short of expression, how did this happen? pls guys help me, how can I talk to him? I just dont know how to put it. Maybe I am wrong tho, but it all doesnt add up. I hope he is correct.

you nor go leave them. how do you know she is not a good woman? does your friend act like he is under some kind of influence? then let his family help him there. you cant love him more than his family. keep praying for him if you care so much if its fake with time it will fall apart.

(f)
bringing his "baby mother"(his words, not mine) here and that we, as a family, would help her get on her feet. I had NO IDEA that he was married to her and planned to leave me for her. His own Mom and sister in Nigeria got on the phone with me constantly and convinced me he wasn't with her, she moved on with her life and got a new man to quell any fears of anything like this happening. Little did I know, his family can't stand his wife, so they were hoping that he would leave her alone and be with me.


He now has an apartment on the other side of town with her and has temporary custody of our daughter. Do you know how difficult it was to tell my 6 year old "Sorry baby, Daddy is married"? I am in so much pain right now! And of course, in typical African/Muslim man fashion, he still says he loves me and wants me, and I was stupid enough to let him visit me on several occasions and sex me since this has all happened-and I may be pregnant. I don't know how to move on. I cry every day. I look out the window and expect him to come home any moment to tell me he made a big mistake and he's coming back home. I am so lonely-I miss my Baba.

Everybody around me keeps telling me I'm pretty and young and can still find another man but I didn't want another man-I wanted the one I had-he and my daughter was my family and I had planned to be with him for the rest of my natural life. He left me-a well-educated woman who did everything he ever desired plus made him money-for a woman who doesn't speak, read, or write English and can't even get a job in this country? And I found out that they were together for only 6 years back in Nigeria when we have been together for 8. Out of the kindness of my heart, I signed her up for a ESOL Literacy program so she can at least get the skills she needs to get employment-and do you know she refused? This is who he left me for? Help me God,

your story is a sad one but not totally new to naira land. people come here from time to time to talk of cheating men the foreign women in particular.(shebi you just met someone else here on the thread complaing about the husband even you begin to advise) The men hook up with them mainly for papers and dump their ass in the end. they have kids and a wife at home and all the while they are calculating in their head how their family will join them in the states.

you are right karma will catch up with him, it has already started so sit down and watch. take ur keys from him (he has no business being with them, if he is wasting your time please change your locks), as soon as you become fully settled in your new job ask yourself. do i want custody or my child or do i leave her with him or should it be joint custody?
you are right too, dont deny your daughter the relationship with her father(when she is old enough she will determine right from wrong). on your own part keep your relationship with him on an ''strict father of my daughter level'' aka baby daddy
if you had known as much as you knew then, you'd realize its hard to find a 33year old single african man claiming he has a child back at home and he is not married. very rare. it is also weird you say his family members are in full support of you (i laugh for that part of your story)

life will go on for you, eventually you'd meet another man. you are still young. Remember its not in your position to lament that his wife is an illitrate and that you wonder y he picked her over you. never forget that is his business, they are married, you should respect that too and never sleep with him again. let me make this short and snappy in conclusion, you will loose if you agree to play 2nd fiddle or mistress. He has no right asking you not to cheat on him sef, with time over familiarity like that should never come up. it depends on how you play your card.
it is well. i believe sisterwoman will have alot more to tell you. may God give you strength oh

well no manner of dressing suprises me again God knows. i am yet to see anything that wil make me raise my eye brow since i enter this obodo country.sagging jeans, popping cleavage, buts perking out of jeans, bras showing, short skirts or shorts, u name it, nothing suprises me anymore. so i'd say poster get over it, there's more where that came from

its better you speak to her first like u already intend to do. perhaps she used condom with those guys. some of them might be lucky who knows all in all they need to do the test sha.

i dey fear myself oh i nor want stretch mark for belly or big stomach after the baby. i see alot of women that still have the big tummy after birth it scares me. yes n rather large boobs too with visible nipples. yes and this figure that i cant explain their body just change and not only chicks oh the men pot belly looking rather large. its ok for the men cos the wife is cooking for them (evidence of good living)but its the same nonsense.

dont marry sum1 in a church which is not urs, if they want u to marry their daugther, the wedding should be at ur own church. what happens wen u get married and she refuses to go 2 ur church because after all, u married her in her church so why cant u guys go 2 da church. I dont know why they alwayz use da excuse of being a nite.

huh aint right dear. unless by mutual decision from both parties. the norm is that the man marries in the girls church, thereafter she moves over to the guy's church. thats how its done unless dem don change am again sorry for veering off

ure right again the story get as e be honestly.

hey Mr brown jay i agree with u as well. women should not live off men nor feel guys owe dem a responsiblity of drolling out cash just cos they are dating them but did u read this part of her story?

@ Touch mander, ammamat did he drop you off at your house after the visit?
Nope, he did not go with his car, we pick okada, and almost all the fast food has been close then but even wen we got to the one that was still on, i ask the bike man to stop that i want to pick something, he commanded the bike man to move on, i told him why that am hungry he told the okada man that he should do what he says that his the man.

what sort of man acts like this too when he wont be nice enough to offer her something nor let her stop to get something for herself?

LadyT:
Please dont be mean maybe tell you are sorry but you are married and you [b]were just cheating [/b]or something dont be mean to the poor guy.

uhmnnnnnnnnnnn that sounds nice too. i was cheating and no longer feel comfortable doing this is a good one

He was looking good and attractive in his pix but including in full posture but he is not walking very well as if he bends and again he looks older thank i expected.

i beg nor kill me with laugh ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

just tell him u were disappointed wit his looks,simple as ABC. Cool

damn that would hurt like ,

This is what i would do i'd request for a visit or wait until we see next and tell him plain. ''i am sorry but i dont think this is going to work. ive tried to give it a go but i just dont feel this is what i want. i think you are a nice man and i dont want to play with your emotions. i just dont feel you are the right one for me. sorry if i have lead you on for too long but i dont just feel up to it anymore. i am really sorry''.

i'd stop calling, wont pick his calls, remove him from my messenger and report him as spam or ignore him, i wont reply any sms message and generally just go blank. that should do.

so if u are the type of girl that expects too much of a man? excessive calls(doing little or none urself), gifts,taking you out occassionally and footing the bills, giving you some money from time to time e.t.c
you are most likely to be disappointed by this man.

ammamat did he drop you off at your house after the visit? maybe since he was forming deaf you should have told him to stop at an eatery and buy something small for yourself and eat it in his presence. if you like offer him (i doubt if he would take it sha, shame nor go let am)

honestly that is what i would have done in that situation. you can give him the benefit of doubt and still watch him since you say u just got to know him. they (stingy people) hardly change sha.

too much drama. . .move on!

spot on.

i would say since you want to have a codial relationship with her just tell her what really happned i mean ur cousin. for God sake you said she quit her job and came down and its like nothing ever happned she deserves an explanation especially when you still want to retain ur platonic friendship.

On the other hand if you wanted nothing to do with her again, let the issue and indeed the person go. with time she'd get the fact that you want nothing to do with her.

i think you can although you might have to do alot of apology to so many people thereafter n thats if parents from both side can respect your desire for a small ceremony.

do you like this girl at all?

damn girl see wahala. sha if your boyfriend cant look pass it and stand up for you where his family is then na quater to go be that oh.

Eat out n come in indoors and eat and eat and eat

Barron:
Her parents are not wealth to do, not even her aunt, uncle, relatives. do men mess her and giver money, pls someone tell me how it works. this my girl is always having money.

she be runs girl.
see this guy oh if they ask una for money una go complain if she get the money u go dey fear
seriously sha hope u are using a condom

Early this month, she handed me the list of people she do not want me to associate with and the list of those she did not want to see in the house anymore (my cousins and friends inclusive). She said that they could be a threat to our marriage. Honestly she has her good side which I admire everday. She is a hardworking lady who quickly rise to the top management position in her coy. Her attitude towards my folks and her temper this days is something I cant bear. I have spoken to her on this issue and she has refused to change

what sort of woman is this you want to marry. sounds like a control freak to me. but according to you, you said she was not like this before. Abi is this the stress of marriage preparation? i fear for you sha, person when don dey hand you list.

can you postpone the marriage or . seriously begin to ask ur self questions now oh, can she change before marriage, will she change at all, and CAN YOU COPE.

[b]So it is normal, it is humane and no need to be ashamed for doing so in the presence of a wife or girlfriend or fiancee [/b]or even female competitor.

i agree with the part in bold. i like a guy that is a man in every sense but also has an emotional side to him when the need arises. my bf cried on the last night we saw, before i left nigeria. ive never seen him cry in all the time ive known him, even when terrible things happned to him and his family. first i was shocked (cos i know he always said i dont cry n the last time i did was when i was kind of younger). We were out in the open i think like a hang out area it was at night with some folks around us. i held him in my arms and kissed his tears n was crying too. i know heaven and earth were looking at us but i didnt care. i'd never forget that day in a hurry.

this is sad