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make una leave the chick she dey play her game. first mugu to fallllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll

romade:
u r too young to go for a forever relationship, perhaps she is ur unrecognised best friend

uhmnnnnnnnnn , deep in tot.

Oh boy some of your reasons are baseless. you are talking from what happned to your uncle and someone else. your friends case is another story, everyman and his destiny. must every relationship you know of be blood and sweat with over 2years of courtship before marriage? dont get me wrong a quick relationship and marriage is not ideal either but like i said everycase is diffrent.
i know of a couple that met during NYSC and by the end of service year with a good job the young man was ready to go. today they are still married and blessed with kids doing fine
that same girl had friends that have been dating since university, after the NYSC they were still dating preparing to marry
people were shocked at how her's worked out so well for her

leave your friend alone. he is a man let him handle his business himself keep praying for them.

have you seen the movie ''a cry for help?''
have you been to the family session on nairaland and read stuffs from people that are married and are at the point where they seem hooked n cant leave?
have you spoken with family and loved ones on this issue?
Do you know what it means to live a battered life as a wife, maybe with children that the man will never let you take away, no self esteem, no voice to speak
Dr Moji all this things happen before marriage so you can learn
weda u have dated 10years abi you both are virgins becomes irrelevant
good luck

but i told my friend that she is a BIG pretender

why do you say she is a big pretender? what proof do you have?

ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh lawd i nor fit laugh jesus
dont feel bad, it depends on the relationship she has with her mother, if they are very close that might account for it
her mum could advise her about contraception and stuff
it sounds funny to me and its something i didnt bother to do. there was just no need for it but like i said she must be very very close to her mum
i know of someone who didnt say yes to her present boyfriend untill she discussed it with her mother

Relax but thats more responsibility for you in the eyes of her peeps sha. esp if she is still young sort of

dont mind dem african man and the no crying syndrome.


the day they will finally cry it will be for the most stupid thing on earth,

ive never hit him, cos he's given me no reason to do that. ignoring him or taking out the issue with him is just enough

you are dating a childish girl. i dey tell
today in nigeria, even when you read french u can work in bank, anywhere(maybe not as a doc or lawyer )

i just cant. its a choice
nothing wrong with single parents or kids from such homes
i cant just fit for the drama when it comes to my life personally as it relates to marriage
and i know what m talking about

the song is just der to me. not too fantastic. why does he always sing about money?

In nigeria you pay for your dress yourself. well the one i was in, the bride was kind enough to take care of our hair. we did our makeup ourselves and the sandals was a common colour so we all got ours.i declined to be in one that cost close to 20k for a dress i'd most likely wear once that was a no no.

uhmn pharell's look fine sha mabye cos it was pulled down abit.

this video never fails to make me laugh esp when she starts mimicking his naija accent. haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa busted

its always the usual here, I don't see naija man go make tea for his wife

I dont mean on a daily basis, for eg a woman works the same hours as her husband, they both arrive home after dinner she offers him tea and he says yes, no whatever, but when it comes to naija man he will take his own tea and not offer wife any. This is not just me this happens with.

leilah look let me tell you something along this helping thing line by nigerian men. Even nigerian women complain you are not the only person. you should understand these men are wired this way. they grew up this way. Their mother did most of these home things and didnt complain or tell their husband can you help me do this and that . i mean these things are expected from women. today things are gradually changing. some are willing to help but you wont expect him to act like the white man. when they get married tomorrow they will expect the same from their wife wether its a nigerian or foreigner and start becoming uncomfortable when they hear things like he cant help me, he wont do this and that. (i mean these things a white man will do and not blink twice about)

This is where you come in, you make your home and indeed your man. i mean i dont expect to marry a nigerian man that will act all oyiboish for me but i believe with the personality of the man i have, i can suggest where i want to see changes. if you do this lovingly and with respect they will slowly change. you make them the exception to the normal nigerian guy out there. when other women see what this man is doing for his wife, they begin to use him as refrence for their husband. they think he was born that way. nooooooooo its hardwork and patience.



annoyed can help you with your other questions

its always the usual here, I don't see naija man go make tea for his wife!

hahaha make tea ke. ohhhhhhhhhhhh leilah u nor go kill me with laff

, the suffer too much. let me not even get started.

i love the naija thing in our way of life. i love being able to speak in a way and remember some naija things with people that understand how i feel n what i am talking about. but my country has failed me, failed me so so much. i dont even know what to say but i still love nigeria i guess. there is no place like nigeria. so in a way i guess i cherish nigeria but in other ways i feel bad bout my country too

she was Hot on that day and you were her pawn. yes she used you.


uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh this feels good for a change

@sweetpain why not open a topic with help on your nigerian boyfriend? personally i think your urge to please and do everthing right is scary.
i hope its a two way thing.

Annoyed have you gone on your trip to make things work?
Have you spoken with your wife yet? why do u keep dodging this particular question but complaing more n more

Rehana2 your contribution was worth it. u are another exception to a working marriage with a Nigerian man. lol

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I dunno about you guys,

I come a single father and just me home. I had a crush on this girl, as far back as i can remember. when i turned 11 she was 10, i asked her to be my girl. Being innocent kids she agreed, a year later we were having sex in her mom's house.

Now we were 15 & 14, a dreadful day we returned from school went in her bedroom and had sex. Well my mistake was after sex i should have left but fell a sleep, that same evening her mom caught us in her bed, buck ass naked, a sleep.

OMFG was she mad, she called my dad and asked him to pick me up and told him what had happen. This was the first time my dad even knew i had a girlfriend. he came to her house grabbed me by the ear and got royally pissed off. while i sat in the car he went inside to talk to her mom, to this day i have no clue what was said.

After that day my relationship with this girl was either in school or through her friends taking her to the mall. we would sneak in the mall's restroom and have sex.

Six months had passed like this and one day in the mall i caught my dad and her mom walking around holding hands. I was shocked!!! they didn't see me so i ran back to my girlfriend's and told her what i saw. we never confronted our parents. And let the day, and months pass cause when our parents were out we were together, we were kids we didn't know any better.

I still remember that day my dad took me to my girlfriend's house and after a very very quiet dinner. they told us they were getting married!!!
They never knew that me and my girlfriend were still having sex and were in love. Ohh we argued with our parents but to no avail. we never told them about us though, fear i guess.

Four months later they got married and started living at our house.

Me and my girlfriend/step sister, we stopped having sex, and we both fell in a state of confused depression. we weren't sure how to handle this.

Almost a year had passed and we had finally started being normal around each other, going to school, got new girl friend and she a boy friend.

Ahh!! i remember a fine summer day it was. Sun was shinning, no clouds in the sky, every now and then a cool breeze will follow, birds singing. I was in the pool having a relaxing "float" and my step sister joined me.

We were talking in general about school, boys, girls, friends, etc, then we finally talked about us, what we had what we were doing back then, during this she would say something pause look at me i would say something pause and look at her. We got real uncomfortable, she jumped of her float and ran back in the den saying that she had to go to the bathroom. she had no idea i followed her. I told her that we should talk about it so that we aren't so uncomfortable alone around each other, then she turned around and told me that she still thinks about us, she misses the intimacy we shared and she still loves me.

During my shocked stare she reached over and kissed me, i had many many many emotions running through me, but what conquered all was the feeling of relieve and i just grabbed her and kissed her like finding a long lost love returned. we had sex in the den and it was good, really good. manly cause we took our time in having sex not rush it. we had sex all through high school.

we both got accepted into the same college far away from our home. we both live together and love each other. we have talked about marriage, kids, a family.

we both have coped with our situation by saying that our parents were selfish in not considering that the first time they met we were caught having sex.

So by your def. we don't care if people call us incest or whatever, we are not blood related, never have been.

Are you for real? this is an amazing story. Are you nigerian or maybe an african by any chance (just curious)

i pray earnestly for both and i believe i will be content with it.
ive given myself a limit if say i dont get a particular sex after that, i will adopt (personally if it were up to me). i got nothing against adoption but i nor trust that man e nor go gree
so i guess we'd stay that way. happily for me cos its God that gives children and he knows best

@poster my dear why did u do this to urself. look now