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you can also try tutoring in your spare time. Pick a subject you're good in. Try advertising by word of mouth or in the newspaper.

Dont expect too much money initially, though.

why are there some disturbing similarities between Igbo and Indian cultures( eg this caste thing). Was there some cross cultural exchange in ancient times? or can it be traced to the East ( east/central Africa?).

ThiefOfHearts:
Can you stop crying? You're getting my shoes wet.

and so the thread derailment begins, due to inability to answer a simple question.

ThiefOfHearts:
so when someone says they arent kidding, that automatically means they are being totally serious?

News to me.

the psychic mindreaders havent shown up yet.  So people are daft if they dont get his sarcasm? The jail comment was sarcasm too- did you get it?

@ topic:

**** goes to check seun's picture on his profile****

okayyyyy,

soup wey sweet na money cook am.

ThiefOfHearts:
lol debo, berra shut up. You know most of these people are quite daft when it comes to sarcasm

where be your own ila? 

thief, point out the sarcasm in this statement by debosky:

No I am not kidding, I believe it will enhance the beauty and allure of my children

I can't wait till they are old enough to ask them, the same way I wont ask them if they want to be immunised or sent to school, or what names they would like to be called. I will do what I believe is in the best interest of my kids and that is to give them a long lasting cultural connection that will stay with them forever.

If my parents gave them to me and my sisters and we turned out ok, why should I deny my beautiful kids the same opportunity? that would be blatantly unfair.

once again I say YES to tribal marks, I wear mine proudly, so will my children.

anyone putting tribal marks on a young child should fined heavily and thrown in jail.

@ogidiboy

I was in Yoruba land on my last visit to Nigeria and saw a whole bunch of folks with those scary looking marks on there faces, I thought those kinds of barbaric acts were banned a long time ago. Why in God's name would anyone in there right mind subject themselves to much mutiny?

which one is yoruba land?  Na state?

docokwy:
Let us assume for one fleeting moment that OBJ is Igbo (God forbid though). This means that:

1. Igbos were the president and senate president -1999-2003
2.Obasanjos daughter (now an Igbo) is representing the Yoruba in the senate
3. Obasanjo bought up hectares of Yorubaland in Ota and other places
In all of this confusion, Yorubas are the ultimate losers because following the zonal arrangement, it is the zone (eg south west) that rules not an individual (eg OBJ). So the south west has to wait for their turn again, around 40 years from now. I pity them sha.

Igbo Kwenu

I think the major issue here is his looks. The Yoruba themselves are puzzled by his looks.

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by the way, can you post your own recent photograph as well? Or how can you be evaluated?

is there really any ugly woman these days, or just someone that doesnt know how to apply makeup or dress to kill.

however, @ joey, if it really bothers you, avoid her. One man's meat is another man's poison. Dont give the poor woman false hope, abeg. Maybe you're enjoying the attention, and you're saying you yourself are so fine?

A lot of supermodels are not beautiful, but simply have excellent makeup artists.

@laudate

we're on different pages here.

I'm not talking about a child's inheritance rights or anything like that. Inheritance in these instances has to do with customary law, more than anything else. Remember- my point of reference is Igbo/Yoruba marriages.


As Nigerians, culture is very important to us, and culture as defined in Nigeria is directly enforced by tribe. or should I say directly related to tribe. Each tribe even has different major foods and ways of cooking them, for example.  A child of intercultural unions will be exposed to two cultures- one from each parent, to varying degrees. What I was talking about was the common nationalism which defines tribal identity. A person may subscribe to both, but it doesnt mean he/she will be fully accepted by the hardliners of either tribe. There will still be a 'comma' of questionable loyalty, if push comes to shove. A tragic example is the Rwanda genocide, where even children who were half Hutu,with only one tutsi parent, were still murdered by the hutu extremists. An extreme example, and may we never see such in Nigeria. In most cases, cross cultural children dont see anything this extreme, and it also helps if the parents dont allow extremist relations to peddle their tribalism in the home. In cases where the extended family members have a major say in what goes on in a man or woman's home, you'll be surprised at what happens.

However, intertribal unions are one of the few feasible ways forward, in my opinion.

in any case, your observations are right. Your post was very interesting, by the way.

laudate:
Uh?? Bigotry exists everywhere. Some racist white folks who feel they are better than blacks, may show their nasty sides to an African or an African-American, by bullying such a person or placing him on the receiving end of their racist taunts. Bullies exist everywhere too, from the playground to the workplace. It is how the victim deals with it, that counts.

What makes an individual feel he is the "authentic real McCoy", and others are not? A psychological inferiority complex. Such a person tries to compensate for his inner inadequacies by trying to act superior. If inter-ethnic kids are conversant with both ancestral cultures & have a healthy dose of self-esteem, they can deal with any one who tries to put them down.

Finally your second comment is unclear. Pray tell, in what way does an inter-ethnic ancestry, place the children permanently between two worlds? Can you be more explicit? Am not too sure I got the point, you were trying to make.

by real mccoy, I meant those so called full blooded whatever they call themselves, ie as opposed to people who are intertribal. These 110 %  phantoms ( who could be any race, by the way) can be so obnoxious and in-your-face. But like you mentioned, its mostly a cover for their sense of inadequacy.

In my opinion, being inter ethnic places the children permanently between two worlds because they're never fully part of one particular tribe. So most of them cant have the hang ups and blind nationalism that comes with being members of only one group. I read something somewhere that explains what I mean more accurately- when I locate the book, I'll post that particular quote.

I'm not sure if I'm being too clear here.

given the amount of tribalism and bigotry demonstrated by Nigerians of today, I think the country may eventually have another civil war. ie if what I see on Nigerian forums is anything to go by.

the level of prejudice, ignorance and narrowmindedness is appalling.

It shows we've learnt nothing from the past. Anyways, the arms dealers are always ready to supply at a moments notice. Afterall, its all business as usual, for them. And profits all round, as far as they're concerned.

I don't know about this Igbo paternity thing.

OBJ has always looked Ugandan, to me.

(I'm entitled to my personal opinion, please.)

laudate:
In my opinion, kids of inter-ethnic marriages are often more tolerant and able to mix with those from other ethnic groups much more easily. But please note: this is just my own personal view.

yes, most of them generally are, though this might not always be a good thing, especially when they're facing unmitigated bigotry from the so-called " authentic" real mccoys.

It sort of places the children permanently between two worlds. But I really believe intertribal unions can only benefit us in the long run.

I've never ever considered dating someone from my town, because from what I've heard, nearly all of them are related in one way or the other, and some of the older people have the habit of telling you the entire life story of your great grandparents down to how and when your entire clan courted, married and had you. I think such details make for great reading, but I dont need people pushing it down my throat everytime. I got other things to do.

Imani:
1. Really? Why is that so? I wasn't aware Plateau had a high inter-tribal mix. But i hear that Jos is nice.

2. That has been my observation too, especially with our culture of "the father owns the child".

But i think things are changing and people are begining to realise the importance of peaceful co-existence with other tribes and cultures!

it might be more common among Plateau indigenes living in the North.

The child being raised solely in the father's culture is starting to change somewhat, like you observed. might be because people are getting a bit more tolerant. ie the people who marry outside their tribe.
however, there are many who still rigidly hold this view. Pity.

babyosisi:
haitian,AA and Island women are uninhibited.
Some of them can walk down the street holding a man by his abunna to prove they have sole custody.
Nigerian women are not that way yet

I know ashewos are everywhere but how can anyone claim Nigerian men go to them more than other men without talking from experience?

some of the friends I mentioned were African.



but then, who patronizes the brothels in Nigeria? lets be honest, now.

And the campuses too- weekend "employment" and stuff like that?

maybe my eyes were too open, since these things arent strange to my hearing.

babyosisi:
My honest impression is that militia is not a woman.
I am a Nigerian woman and in all my years,I've never come across a woman that talks of sexual escapades with men of all color and creed in such a casual manner,as though she just went to the loo and returned.

Most women have some dignity
Or at least try to preserve the little they have left.
Militia sounds so uninhibited in these sexual tales.
This is unwomanly.

Why would a woman boldly claim that Nigerian men are the greatest ashewo patronisers?
How can one know such details without being a hooker or a John in Nigeria and other localities to figure out where she/he gets the most customers or clients?

You cannot speak ill of all Nigerian men when you claim to be married to one.
My assumption is that you are really one and I've not been wrong too many times on nairaland.

on this- I've had female friends ( not Nigerian though) who do give such details, although I havent really had the breakdown on Nigerian men so far ( until now!).

people married to Nigerians are often the ones who know them best, so they'd probably be well qualified to speak ill or well of them.

and yes, there is thriving ashewo business in many parts of naija, just like the rest of the world.

you people are so funny. Can someone tell me what's so gay about a man crooning love songs to his other half. It shows he's either looking forward to something or remembering something.

with all these male musicians everywhere- does that mean they're all gay? 2face and others are all gay? na wa o.

why is the word romance so scary to some people? As if it means torture.

@ militia:

you dey teach us something for here o!

Imani:
I personally know a few Igbo and Yoruba marriages but then i believe people should be able to marry within  their preferences. I know of Hausa and Yoruba marriages especially when both partners are muslims. The least likely match are Hausa and Igbo marriages. More Research needed

At the end of the day, for all the words and debates people like to engage themselves in, Nigerians are very tribalistic especially the three major groups. Intermarriage is supposed to be a way of bridging gaps between people and promoting unity, however, nigerians are not very united, are they?

some parts of Plateau state also seems to have a high rate of extra-tribal marriage, from what I've seen. I've had some friends with Plateau relatives, in the past.

And yes, at the end of the day, the gap doesnt really seem to have been bridged. In many parts of the country, the children of inter-tribal marriages are raised solely in one culture, mainly ignoring the other part.

very interesting topic.

I know a few Igbo man/Yoruba woman marriages, but they're too few for me to form an opinion yet.

Most of such couples I know of, met in college/university.

The whole issue is probably just cultural, as already mentioned.  Family pressure, cultural preference, and the like.

have you tried seeing a doctor about this?

I found this information on the net:

Persons with hyperhidrosis have overly abundant sweating or perspiration that most of the time negatively alters their activities of daily life. This excessive sweating is sometimes started by stress, emotions, and/or physical strain or exercise. However, this excessive sweating or hyperhidrosis can also occur out of the blue without warning. Persons with palmar (hands and palms) hyperhidrosis have wet, overly moist hands that often interfere with holding items and disrupt activities like work and play. A lot of people with palmar hyperhidrosis feel that it is a difficult social problem, because every time they shake hands or hug, they leave the other person's palm or back very moist, which of course is a sensation most people find unpleasant.

Also, anti perspirants might be helpful.

other forms of treatment:

The first treatment for excessive sweating is usually medical in nature and does not necessarily include hospital operations. There are ointments and salves ( MegaDry Antiperspirant) available that are astringents which have a inclination to dry up the sweat glands. Another treatment is iontopheresis (electrical shock therapy). This usually consists of a light treatment of electrical stimulation, and is commonly applied to the hands. Patients place their hands in a shallow bath which has an electrical current. This treatment tends to "stun" the sweat glands and can decrease the secretion of sweat for periods of 6 hours to one week. One of the most recent treatments proposed is the injection of botulinum toxin (Botox) into the area of excessive sweating. This is a toxin that affects nerve endings and decreases the transmission of the nerve impulses to the sweat glands thus resulting in decreased sweating. It generally requires several injections in the palms or underarms and it remains effective from one to six months. Repeated injections are nearly always required to maintain an adequate level of dryness.



Supplementing the recently mentioned treatments for hyperhidrosis, many medicines have been studied and tried with varying degrees of success with heavy sweating. These include both sedatives (in those patients with stress-induced hyperhidrosis) and medications that affect the nervous system. General doctors, nurses, or interns often start the first phase of the hyperhidrosis treatment. Patients not affected by simple treatment regimens are quite often then pointed to a specialist. This specialist is more then not, a dermatologist or neurologist. For all cases, surgery is only an optoin when the less invasive medical treatments have had no real or significant affect in stemming hyperhidrosis.

quotes are from this site:

http://www.megadry.com/excessive-sweating-info.html#sweaty-palms

doyin13:
I can't believe we are still subsidising spanish soap industry in Nigeria.

I've also heard people from other African countries complain about Nigerian movies dominating the market.

So you feel Nigerian tv stations should air only Nigerian shows? Shouldnt there be a little variety occasionally?

I dont see what the problem is, if people are enjoying the soaps.  If I dont like something, I change the channel.