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umhum.

you dont say.

you seem like a multiple id moniker.

poster what's the problem.

you dont want to wear socks?


this has got to be one of the silliest comparisons ever?

are you gay?

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Boss cals on d phone & she is "yes sir" til d last second. Hubby cals on d fone & he gets a "yes". She avoids anytin dat wil displease d boss but is care-free wit d hubby. D boss only owes her a salary, d hubby owes her his life. Whom shud be more respected. My friend jus changed dis scenario, now he screams n shouts ordering instructns 2d wife as her boss so 2 get d rep. Cuz when e gave love n undastndn, he got dis-rep.

some of you people sound like you have serious mental issues.

^^how is that person fulani?

i dont get your point.

and yes, i asked the question and stated my reason for doing so.

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Ivynwa:
I am not saying for none to marry or have children because we will di* someday. I'm only making one of us here that was making it sound like only the unmarried and childless experience loneliness realize that that isn't so.

I love children, I have no problem with people having children they can take care of.

being married or single is no guarantee a person wont be lonely.

yes, everybody will die.

so because of that people shouldnt marry or have children?

you and who will rebuild?

rebuild where?

na apa dem dey call una type o!!!

^^true talk.

i think i've heard too many women boast about how they're not interested in marriage, then turn right around and attempt to snatch men who are already in relationships, to believe a lot of bunkum.

i'm strong, independent, dont need a man, dont date that type, etc.

all that vanishes into thin air like magic.

like nollywood sef.

i don tire to address all the flying bombs on this thread sef.

if person say make una get closer to God, una no go gree.

if person say make una live in a God fearing manner, una no go gree.

if person say make una pray [kun fun adura], una no go gree.

na wa.

because i hate listening to love songs with no girl on my mind

must you have somebody on your mind when you listen to love songs?

that's news to me.


or is it an adolescent thing because i seriously cant relate.

Commitmentphobia

Commitmentphobia is often most strongly apparent in romantic life. Generally, commitmentphobic people claim that they are eager to find a lasting romantic attachment and get married, yet they fail to find appropriate partners and maintain longlasting connections. Ironically, in these romantic relationships, the commitmentphobic partner craves what he/she fears most: love and connection. This paradoxical craving for a frightening reality leads to a confusing and destructive pattern of seduction and rejection. The results are emotionally devastating.

The key to understanding commitmentphobia is recognizing that such behavior is rooted in fear—fear of lost options or fear of making poor decisions. The commitmentphobic mind sees decisions as permanent, opening the possibility of being caged or trapped forever with no means of escape. Commitmentphobia is a real disabling fear, that can be manifest in many areas of life, including career, home ownership, or even shoe shopping. This fear can make simple everyday decisions into a tremendous burden.

To assuage their anxieties, many commitmentphobics become fantasy-driven, using their active imaginations to fill in for the lack of emotional security and closeness in their lives. Of course, these fantasies pose additional problems because no potential partner or job can ever live up to the fantasy. Commitmentphobics are also prone to self-destructive behavior, such as walking out on partners or jobs without notice, leaving themselves and the people in their lives in untenable situations.

One potentially misleading aspect of commitmentphobic behavior is that the partner who is actively running away from commitment is the only one with a problem. In fact, commitmentphobic behavior includes "settling" for inappropriate partners, pursuing unattainable partners, and engaging in instant relationship mergers as well as fleeing from what might have appeared to be a stable romance. Any persistent behavior that actively prevents a person from making a commitment or allows a person to make excuses for not having made a commitment can be considered commitmentphobic.

Authors Carter and Sokol handle this circumstance by describing "active" commitmentphobia, which is most strongly characterized by running away from relationships, and "passive" commitmentphobia, which is most strongly characterized by long suffering devotion to an active partner who is running away, longing for a partner who has run away, and fantasy reconciliation scenarios.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fear_of_commitment

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ok, what we need to see now is development in other parts of the southwest IN ADDITION TO lagos.


anybody trying to drag us back into the stone age and reverse the gains of previous years, na im life go reverse into pre-stone age!!!!!!

it's a nigerian or maybe african thing for the most part.

it's actually quite dangerous to start arguing over the inheritance anyway.

youngmonie:
TAKE OUT THE HEAD AND THE BODY IS GONE!!!, SMART MOVE BY PDP (SW), Finish Tinibu in the press and finish ACN as well!!,

that's all!!!!

^^see why you should cease from attacking people who are upwardly mobile [or even not]?

if patience was one of those women who you constantly open threads to complain about on nl, would she bother giving you any contracts now [but would rather award them to your enemy] even if you begged her.

^^of course.

you chop left i chop right.

^^reread my last post, first two sentences.

op what's your point?

you want to invite the japanese over into your hometown as your long lost brothers?

nothing wrong with that if it suits you and yours.

^^true.

Nayah:
I know Tpia but I really want my african brother take their time to considerate some positions which can be different from the "common sense" in Africa

i dont support the epidemic of baby mamas and almajiri-producing absentee fathers either, but it is what it is.

some people simply prefer it that way.

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frigging hilarious.

^^we're cool.

my post wasnt referring to you but rather this op of a person.

^^bro, enough of your doom and gloom, thanks.


face your fellow criminals abeg.

everybody cant have the same life or the same head.


being married is no barrier to adoption or sponsoring underpriviledged kids.

Nayah:
Tpia, well you may recognize his logic is not insane and especially in our (African) society.

he knows what he's seeing, and why he opened the thread.

in african society, marriage isnt seen as an abnormal thing, and neither does it have to be abnormal the way many westernized africans want it to be.

this doesnt mean i'm saying african marriages are perfect however. It's a question of context.

anyway, the poster should find another way in addition to this one, to get his message across to the women who are driving themselves bonkers over other people's men.