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What is peoples obsession with innocence.most every body be "innocence" please let other choose the way they want to live their life.

1)youth
2)power
3)freedom

Na wa for your friend oh how is it the lady's fault?Considering adultery. Ok i hope when she also considers other men he will understand. How can you even marry somebody you are not attracted to.I don't support this dude abeg for any reason he should work on his marriage maybe try to spice things up a little.There is no excuse for adultery.

First off all and i know this is hard she should forget about men for now and focus on being financially independent.Defy those people that are not allowing her to do anything after all she is a grown woman.she should learn a trade if she cannot go back to school.Once she can provide for herself then she can make her own decisions.This staying idle is the worst because even if that man comes back he would not see her as anything.his brothers already look down on her.
Its unfortunate that this is still happening but that is the society we live in.Every child should have the right to education.Change will come and quickly but for now she has to help herself.

Prixus:
biko...tell me what else? don't tell me all those rubbish like friendship, companionship, advice bla bla bla... . all these things are things men and women offer each other. I'm talking of things she can give him but he can't give her back. that's something unique that makes the woman a woman in the relationship.

Cant she give money too or is it only the man that can make money?Anything the man can give so can the woman but you dont see women raping men all in the name of money. pls this argument is stupid if you rape someone be ready to spend years in jail.

Prixus:
pls answer this simple question maturely. what can be equated to a man spending on val, spending on her birthday, taking her out, providing for her every need? what?! the only thing she can give a man is sex and if they are married, children. if she uses her only tool for trade as a weapon I for one won't take it. rubbish!!!

so you think all a women has to offer a man is sex.I pity you.

passionate88:
WTF?! @bolded? Even if the prick don enter the tunnel, (with her consent) and she say 'NO', make I stop? Girls are just confusing...

Let me ask you if you were in the middle of "it" and you suddenly feel unconfortable and you want to stop but a girl refused and forced herself on you how would yo feel afterwards?

buygala:
So after she has raped my pocket, I should now become a Good Samaritan and leave her in God's hands


She raped me... I 'raped' her too.... that's equality before the Law

If she considers her body too sacred for me to violate, then she should also consider my pocket too sacred for her to violate.... that way, no one gets hurt

did she force you to give her money?then y do u want to force her to give you her body. Na wa oo...

buygala:
MAD PEOPLE EVERYWHERE
If you haven't said 'No' to being 'invested in', then you have waived your right to withhold the 'Profit'...... The kpomo is no longer yours to withhold

Do we guys look like the Salvation Army or some other Charitable Organization . ... We are Goddamn Businessmen, who are entitled to profit wherever we invest our 'capital' ..... The only way you can legitimately withhold the puna is if you reject our capital

Bottomline is...... GOD WILL PUNISH ALL THOSE GIRLS WHO USE THEIR PUNA FOR YAHOO YAHOO, AND STOP US FROM REAPING WHERE WE HAVE SOWN!!

Is it the body of a human being you are using to do business? Some times i wonder how people think.What is the small cash or fastfood meal in exchange for the gift of her body.No matter what you give it cannot be equated to sharing herself with you.As far as i am concerned refusing to listen to no because of material things you may have given her is R@PE.

Guys pls a word of advise no matter what no means no.
Even if you have been spending what ever amount it is that you think entitles you to her body.When a woman says no pls respect her wishes.Even if you are married she is your panther not your property and she has the right not to be forced into sex.Even if you are in the middle if it and she says no pls accept no.There is no justification for rape of any kind and if you participate in it God will surly give you what you deserve.

I completely agree with you OP it should be made illegal.

seunoni34:
Feminists - Group of frustrated bitter hearted women who wish they were men

seunoni34-As$hole

Absolutely.Anything sexual done to an individual without the consent of that individual is a crime regardly of whether the person is ur wife,girlfriend etc.The fact that she is your wife does not mean that she is ur slave.u did not buy her and she has a right to say NO.

The mad should be sent to jail abeg.Maybe even life

kingthreat:
Madam, many ladies that do runz on the streets of Lagos are not up to 16. Some 14 year old ladies look more sexually matured than 19 year olds. What happened was a mistake brought about by the wife by letting the young girl be a maid in the first place. That is the problem with career women, she no fit do the house work? The man will probably find a wife somewhere, but it will be hard for her to get married again. She should have just forgiven. Nobody is above mistakes. Sexual lust gets the worst out of people especially men.

sexual lust for a 14 year old girl r u hearing yourself and your excuse.She is a child for Gods sake.NO matter how sexually experienced she is or may be the man is animal for that.Put yourself in the father of that child shoes someone you put in charge of that child to act like a father to her and protect is traumatizing the child.If there are children in prostitution they are victims and anyone who patronizes them is a pedophile and a rapist.And stop woman blaming so the man was molesting the housemaid and it is now the woman's fault do you know her from anywhere how to you know that she is a career woman and even if she is that absolutely no excuse for her husbands behavior.I think he should be sent to jail for his crime.

kingthreat:
So because He made a mistake by sleeping with a 14-year old maid, that makes him not God-fearing?
While he was wiping the maid, what was she doing? Perhaps only giving him sex once a week and complaining she's tired when going for longer hours.
Also, why must there be a maid in the house? Is the house too big for her to do all the house chores? Now because, a man slept with someone he was sexually attracted to, he's now a worldly man. Have you ever seen a lion looking at an antelope smilling?

**Nonsense**

Sleeping with a maid you say more like raping a child.He is an animal as far as im concerned.I can't believe that there are people who still make the kind of excuses u are giving.May God help u

see question oh! To be a rich woman of course.why would i want to marry a rich man when i myself can be rich.did they use poverty to swear for me that if given such i choice i would refuse to be rich. Abeg oh!

iamord: The plain sad truth is that black people are intellectually inferior!

not really its just that they let greed push them to make stupid decisions

kulkatty: Then men acting as house husbands, gossiping with their fellow men and beefing each other

Sounds weird

sexist much!! thats not all women do.we go to work and contribute financially to the home as well as men.
to be honest we may even handle the role better than the men self because we generally have better management skills.

Beautiful article i gave her a thumps up.Not like other people that are afraid to say they are feminists.#team feminism and proud.

letsdothis: Children no dey forget thing o. Matter of over 3 mnths now my daughter just run to parlour shouting to my wife mummy mummy i want to tell you something i remember.

I even think say na something serious she just drop the bomb blast. Daddy kiss aunty bimbo.

Chei. I just focus on the arsenal ball i'm watching and pretend i didnt hear anything. Even my wife quiet on the matter since.

The bimbo of 3 mnths ago, my wife's cousin that come and spend a week with us because her company send her to lagos for a course. Even the bimbo self go don forget wetin happen that day.


Plss help. How do i train the girl to behave better next time

May thunder fire u there instead of you to feel guilty that u cheated on your wife and in your matrimonial home in front of your daughter for that matter you r coming here to talk rubbish.I can see that you don't appreciate what u have, when u will lose it ur eye will clear.Imagine oh what message are so sending ur daughter that it is ok for a husband to cheat on his wife? I can see that you are part of the people spreading this untruth.U r irresponsible.

Yes very possible.The fact that he paid bride price does not give him the right to force her she is not his property.

carefreewannabe: What would you do?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wn-dMy6ESzM

the groom is a bastard.this video made me so angry,even if she bite him on purpose so thats reason to slap her,idiot!!! .

People think its so easy to just pick up your life and go and start all over what about her work her friends her family.Those are real issues and the fact that she is concerned about them does not make her a gold digger.

Time and time again the question as to how “serious” an offence is cheating has been asked. In the Nigerian society where a lot of women are not financially capable of adequately providing for themselves and their children without the support of the major breadwinner AKA their husbands, there is little choice in the matter. You hear things like “he is just being a man” and “as long as he provides for me and the kids” or “After all I am the one he comes back home to everyday”.

So let’s ask the question, how serious of an offence is cheating? Is it just “I don’t feel anything for her it was just fun” or “you know it’s you I love, you are my number one” etc. since this is about my opinions I would tell you what is means to me for someone to cheat.

Firstly, it means that they have consciously put you at risk of contracting an STD. Don’t give me that story about condoms like they are 100% safe. I know a lot of people believe this. In fact someone once said to me that she does not know of any responsible men who do not ware condoms to cheat. Responsible and cheat in the same sentence? What is this world becoming? Oh and please let us know when they have condoms for the mouth because a lot of STD’s can be contracted with the mouth.

Secondly, I simply don’t mean that much to you. I wise man once said “do not gamble with what you cannot afford to lose”. You taking a gamble with our relationship and thinking its OK means you can afford to lose us and I really should not be with you.

Lastly, what does that say about you as a person? People a wired in a way that their attitude to one thing is most likely the way they look all other things in life. If you can Cheat in one area of your life why not others? Just saying that cheating can give you an insight about the kind of person you are.
Source:me

We need stricter laws and a less corrupt police force

Daresh: Ok what you are talking about here is an ideal situation and in life there are hardly any ideal situations. Obey and trust the right decisions of her husband. What if the husband is making a wrong decision? And remember in marriage wrong decisions affect the whole family not just one person. Let me cite an example, a friend have to move out of her house because of flooding and her husband decided they will stay with his family. My friend said over her dead body knowing fully well that her husband's people are lay abouts and 6 of his brothers live with their parents in squalid conditions. Instead she borrowed money and paid for another place. Is that a bad wife? Or a mother that was protecting her children from potential abuse as all the "uncles" are jobless and we all know about the idle mind and the devil.

You said a woman's rights are to be loved and not cheated on or abused. Do you know that most women in Nigeria are cheated on or abused by their husbands? I worked in the medical field and I saw countless women given HIV and other STD's by men who are supposed to love them? As a student in UNILAG I encountered numerous married man looking for affairs and I can bet you they won't use condoms.

As for the liberties, do you know that many many men do not want their wives to work? Is that one of the liberties I should not have? A lot of the time this thing of refusing a woman to work is so the man can have absolute power over his wife. Believe me it's not a thing of love as he who controls the purse is the Lord and master. Why would a man take away my earning power? If the man should die, what happens to the family? The wife starts selling roasted corn?

As a woman do I have the liberty to have a night out with my friends? Men go on boys nights out every time do I have that liberty too? As a woman do I have the liberty over my body? Are there nights I can say, I'm not really in the mood to have sex, or do I get raped if I'm not down. Example, a colleague was in the hospital battling cancer, her husband comes in and asks if she's feeling better and she said "a bit". The man proceeds to have forceful sex with a cancer patient on her death bed because she feels "a bit" better. Is that right? Oh she died less than a month later, that's how bad he condition was.

Do I as a woman have the liberty to dress as I please? Do do I always have to wear long mary amaka clothes so my husband is satisfied that no other man can see me?

Dear eighTHREAD, it is only in an ideal situation that a woman can be submissive. But in reality there are very few situations were it works well. As humans, power always seem to get into our heads.

Believe me fight for equality is not against good loving men. It's against tyrants that think women were put on earth to serve them. The one that will tell me to sweep the office because the cleaner is not around and I'm a woman. Or the colleague that will expect me to take minutes just because I'm a woman. Or to serve him first not because he is my husband but because he is a man. Or the one who gave his wife 20 stitches because she took fish from the pot.

There is no ideal situation in life and all men and women were created EQUAL. If you don't like that then by all means marry a submissive woman, but don't try and force all women to be submissive.

Infact im in love with you your post i mean
u really hit the nail on the head

There is no such think as "sleep with" in this scenario the guy is a r@pist because she was too intoxicated to give consent.

MrRhymes101: am not insinuating that women don't have these issues... maybe if u were patient enough to notice that the op's gender indicates M(male) and "her" moniker is also masculine u wouldn't say this

whats wrong if the op is a man.he obviously got this article from somewhere and is just sharing.

holland and that shoe lol

MrRhymes101: MAYBE SHE IS USING HER OGA'S NAIRALAND ACCOUNT lol

Just because u r too sexist to see that women actually have these issues and realize the importance of it does not mean that all men are like u.

one of the best posts i have seen on NL.
this does not just generalize it actually gives u real life scenarios.
All those men in front page commenting u need change.