₦airaland Forum

Not even if you gave me a million dollars.

He loves you enough to deal with your crap.

When you realize that it's him that you want, not just the comfort of being in a relationship. When you're cuddling at night and you realize that you wouldn't have anybody else's arms around you but your man. When you see his faults and accept them because his good outweighs the bad. And when you realize that if things shouldn't work out, yes you will move on, but there is only one of him and whoever comes next will never be him. When all this happens, it's obvious that he's the one.

Sirdayor: I noticed that many people enters martial relationship for so many reason,which may range from money, fame,child bearing e.t.c. 'But just thinking which should one consider as the most important reason for getting marry?

Companionship

You know you love someone when it becomes less about how they make you feel and more about appreciating who they are.

mecussey: What of someone you are willing to do everything for, but very aware you can't marry her due to one reason or the other?

Love does necessarily equate to marriage. There's people we've fallen in love with but can't marry because of certain circumstances. It's not everyone we come to love that we can marry.

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]A woman that loves her man...trustyworty...clean and decent....respect the sanction of marriage...exceptional cognitve acumen...true to her identity...and effective personality.

There is nothing physical about a decent woman. It is all charcter and mental.[/quote]Well said.

dopeJemi: I know y'alL must be wondering wah dis z doing in d Romance section, yeah I know it shudnt be here buh I just had 2 put it here because alL mah Fans r here



Now back 2 d topic

I used 2 be a sLim n sexy boy(no 6packs dou) buh over d years I gained some weights, dou I'm nat Looking dat bad, buh I hate it wen peopLe calL me biggie, Fat joe, bla bla bla , wen I'm in a bus, I'm nat comfortable, I can't even stroll around wiv mah shirts off anymore, can't go 2 d swimming pooL nomore☹☹☹


So I'm asking y'alL nau, wah can I do 2 bcom sLim n sexy again, dis time wiv some packs to sweep d ladies n mah ex off dier fυcking feet

I'd appreciate it if d mods leave dis thread here. U can stilL move it 2 d front page sha oh

Zumba class

stellose: e dey pain me oo gagaoo

Miguel "Adorn"

rokiatu: I don't think that is what she wants. Believe it or not, everything she wrote up almost every woman wants that. Just that nobody is perfect and finding all that traits in one man is extremly difficult.

It's difficult because it doesn't exist. Could you do all that if it were turned around?

I call him Baba and he calls me Mama. Other times when I'm being silly I'll call him "my Naija boo boo" and he'll call me ifunanya.

eduson55: CHOOSE ONLY ONE PLS:
What is the first thing you look at before marriage??

. Age
. Character
. Financial status
. Family background
. Education
. Beauty/ Handsomeness
. Other (specify)

Character
Financial status
Education
Family background
Beauty Handsomeness
Age

I'm happy now.

shaybe baby: 1) They possess this misplaced sense of "it is a man's world". When really it belongs to both sexes. Both have their roles to play.
2) He would never see you as an equal regardless of your achievements. Their sole aim is to dominate and have you subservient.
3)Fidelity is a word which is totally foreign to them.
4)Majority have the personlity of a wet dish rag hence the reason why they feel they need to have money before girls will look at them.
5) Totally unimaginative- the art of romance is lost on them and also its subtleties.
6) They are often loud and aggressive. Wherever there is a group of Nigerian men, you can hear them from miles away.
7)They are just crap
They are full of s-h-i-t
9) Most are potential abusers
10) They are generally ugly

I'm sorry you've had these experiences with Nigerian men but you shouldn't categorize all of them. I'm Ghanaian and I'm dating a Nigerian man and he's nothing like what you described. Maybe you're swimming in the wrong pool of fish.

vivian chinaza: Ok. The issue here is not your different background.....rather both of you are very uncompromising. Have a heart to heart chat with him, both of you should find a common ground.........if you can't compromise in a relationship.....I'm sorry you are wasting your time.

I totally agree. A relationship can only last if you both give a little (or a lot) to gain more of each other. You both need to be willing to make compromises on certain issues because you're not going to agree on everything all the time. So the question is, is he worth the compromise to you. How much would you sacrifice to be with him? Would you sacrifice anything at all?

Selfishness.

(Quote) Just consider the above questions and ask yourself if being with him makes you happy or you are happy cus everybody likes him in your society.

Thanks for the challenge, I need to be really honest with myself and answer that question. I guess only time will reveal the answer.

mashnino: I love the fact that you believe in him very much..

Staying with him is a risk and leaving him is also a risk

So any which way you go pray that it benefits both of you.

You know..He could finally be that man you always dreamed of, after following him

from scratch, and then the shocker of your life will happen. He'd plan on dumping you

for another girl that didn't even know how you guys struggle. That's a situation you know.

I am not saying he is gonna do it nor am i saying it for you to feel discouraged but..

hope for the best and et ready for the worst..

but just stick with him and be careful and helpful too..

I do think about that sometimes and honestly that does frighten me. But we both came from families where our fathers had nothing but their wives stood by them and helped them start up from scratch. So just watching how my mom has been by my dad motivates me to be there for him, and I just pray that how his mother stood by his dad will be an example to him. But all the same I don't know what the future holds so I guess all I can do is take if a day at a time and leave it to God.

Syncan: @OP,It doesn't look like you're under any pressure from the guy in question,as a matter of fact you didn't tell us if he wants to commit with you. You said"...and we have been speaking since...", so all these thoughts are simply going on in your head in anticipation of him wanting to take it to the next level right? Except otherwise,he might not just be into commitment until he finds his footing,...he is naija afterall..., if you're under pressure from others (interested males), then Its time to chat with your guy seriously, clear the air about your feelings and i believe it will be revealing. If he seriously wants you to stay, then you've just described a rare gem. Grab with two hands!

Last month he told me that he wanted me to stay with him for the long term but to understand that he's starting from scratch so if I can handle it hopefully when things work out we can get married. I love him, I really do. Sometimes the path of least resistance does seem easier because my family knows about him and so do my friends and they all want to meet him but I want to wait till he has a little more going for himself. And I'm not sure if me wanting that is shallow of me.

When there's nothing else to talk about.

Okay so I will try to make this as simple and short as I possibly can. I’ve been in a relationship with this wonderful man for about nine months now. He’s Nigerian and he’s 26 and I’m Ghanaian and I’m 22.

Well, I met him through a friend one day at church; we talked and exchanged numbers and having been talking ever since.

Now in order to understand my situation I’ll tell you a bit about him, he has a BSc degree in engineering from Asia and is currently working on getting his Master’s in computer science.

However, when I first met him he was living in a motel and working at a restaurant because as you know, foreign degrees can only take you so far in America, and he is supporting himself on his own. So in spite of that obstacle he worked hard, and saved some money to move into an apartment and has just started his Master’s degree program.

When I first met him, I won’t lie, I didn’t want to commit to the relationship or get too serious because I kept thinking about the fact that he wasn’t yet settled and it would be very hard bringing him into my community but I gave it a chance because I tend to be friends with people that others probably won’t notice or that are different in some way.

So I got to know him and he’s the most patient, calmest, and loving man I’ve ever met. He’s not perfect but he is who he is and I love him for it. We’ve both been talking about making our relationship long term, like working towards marriage when we’re done with our Master’s. But it may take him a bit longer to get settled down because he is depending on himself to start his life, whereas, I’m blessed to have my parent’s umbrella of security over my head.

Plus I’ve lived in the US all my life so I have easier access to certain job opportunities whereas he’s an immigrant. I’ve asked people for advice and they say that I should wait until he builds himself up before committing to him in a serious relationship, but I think that isn’t fair.

I know being with a man as he builds himself up from scratch isn’t an easy thing, but I love him enough to try. Honestly, I wish I could bring him home and introduce him to friends and family but right now isn’t the right time because if you know how African parents are, what am I going to tell my parents, “well he doesn’t have a real job or a car yet, but he has a degree and is working towards it.” You know they won’t be accepting of that.

They would want to see the finished product. But I believe that when you watch someone start from scratch and grow into their potential, you’re relationship will be much more fulfilling as you look back at where you guys started.

So I want to know, in this situation should I commit to him or let him go and focus on guys that are already ready to settle or almost ready. I do love my boyfriend; don’t get me wrong. When it’s just us in our own little world nothing matters and I don’t care about the fact that he doesn’t have much because I know that he’s working towards it, but it’s when I bring him into my world that I’m reminded of our differences.

So what should I do? And please be respectful with your responses. Thanks.