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I don't think you need to be told or see a soothsayer before you know you are on your way to commit suicide.

People have already advice done you on this thread you created. It is left for you to decide whether you want to take the advice or you want to die at age of say 30 or 31 years. There are other women out there that are single and not attached to any guy. Please save you parent the headache of crying for loosing you.

In other to totally clear things, I will advice you to call the guy with the number he called your so called girlfriend if you still have the number. Give the guy a call not using your number. Pretend that you are calling the guy to confirm if the man is her next of kin. That you are about to give her a job to do, but you need to be certain that she will truly do the job well. That she gave you his number in case you needed to confirm some things before the job could be awarded to her.

From there you can use that opportunity to ask question, pretending you are confirming the information she gave you if they are true.

Then you can ask for his name, address, occupation, other phone numbers, his relationship with her. If they are married, you can ask the year of they married, how many kids they have, his in-law's place of residence. If they are not married, you can ask if they are planning to get married, when they planned to get married, how long they been dating each other and other vital information.

Then thank him and inform him that you will get back to him if you have further questions to ask him.

Try and record the conversation with him using Call Recorder apps as your evidence to use to send her packing.

Women like that are very dangerous.

@op, please repost your post in a former of communication between two people discussing.

Thanks

Pidggin:
I am sure they come from polygamous families

Your very wrong about that your conclusion. There my neighbour's son that steal like that. The father has one wife. It is not by monogamy or polygamy. It is about having time with your kids and giving them good morale training.

I am from a polygamous home. Today we are all happy with good job with no one stolen from people before. My father died 1986 when a lot of us are still in both secondary and primary school. His death do not make us to steal from people's house.

I God almighty the glory.

pinkiecutie:
the life of men are evil...
just need a job or something to hold unto..
thanks friend

You don't make such conclusion about all men. As we have evil men, so we have evil women.

Your main problem is that you are a typical Nigerian who believe using his or her certificate to look for a job and be working like a slave only means you are employed.

You need to start thinking out of the box and look for other means of occupying yourself and at the same time earn some money. Not all business requires money to start if you are ready to throw aside your certificate and graduate egoism and get a job that some people might think it is too dirty for them to do.

I can render some advice to you if you have a particular passion about something you think you can make money from.

This is why I prefer women to be their own boss rather than working under someone else.

Back to your request. Your Virginity is one of your strong foundation for your marriage. If you loose it because you do not want to loose your job and because of your financial incapacitation that will not last forever, i bet you will regret it later. You will definitely loose the trust of your would be husband. Never loose it to and err man.

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KIA cars are not made in Nigeria but assembled in Nigeria. We want made in Nigeria where most of the raw materials used in the production of the car are gotten from Nigeria. By so doing, all other industries that car manufacturers depend on can start springing up.

Industries such as hides and skin for car seat leather, cotton for fabric seat, rubber for types, required research institutions, technical training schools, software programming industries, iron and steels, etc.

KIA cars are not made in Nigeria but assembled in Nigeria. We want made in Nigeria where most of the raw materials used in the production of the car are gotten from Nigeria. By so doing, all other industries that car manufacturers depend on can start springing up.

Phema:
OP, you forgot to include;

6. Would you prefer to marry a philandering man, wait till he makes good money, kill him afterwards and inherit all his wealth?

Now, that is an option worth considering.

I want to believe you are from a particular tribe in Nigeria that their women used to kill their husband and take over the wealth. Later they will realise they need a man in their life and they will start to run after another woman's husband in other to satisfy their sexual urge.

Lajet:
I will like to know why Police and Army are not disturbing Sheikh Zakzaky supporters any time the protest but the will not waste time to shoot IPOB members

Because his followers have learnt from their past mistake from blocking the road and not allowing the army a free passage. So, the protest in the mosque and not blocking the road or stay by the road side in one place and do not disturb others.

They do not want to die like fowl just like their fellow shite that misbehaved.

GboyegaD:
I wish them the best of conjugal bliss. His religion permits him to marry as many as he wants.

You are wrong about marrying as many as you want. But a man is permitted to marry up to 4 wives and not more than 4 wives.

Any count more than 4 wives is an adultery.

blueto:
what are you alluding??

- Gas stove is more expensive to procure and install

- It is more dangerous due to the possibility of Gas leakage


Gas method is not a palatable option. Crude oil is found in this nation and we now pay copiously to obtain its products and the president is not able to curb it, rather, he just deteriorated it.

What do you call a “change” of economic progression to economic regression and deprivation?

we can now scrupulously deduce that the “change” slogan was a blueprint to sway pliable and gullible Nigerians.

Its time you become witty and hyperopic!

What you should ask yourself is, do you have any efficient refinery. These product are imported into the country hence the high price.

LPG is cheaper and readily available in the country. Nigeria LNG company in bonny island is producing enough LPG that the company is finding difficult to sell outside the country due to international competition.

Before, in my house I use kerosene and i do spend between 20k to 24k in 3 months. But now I spend less than 9k in 3 months.

It is cheaper and healthier.

Insha Allah, he has just foresee all the problems that will happen to him. The war against all form of corruption shall be won in Nigeria and all corrupt people shall fail in their war against progress of this country.

They shall regret all their actions if they try to fight back.

Amin

MANDELA TO NIGERIA...

“YOU know I am not very happy with Nigeria. I have made that very clear on many occasions. Yes, Nigeria stood by us more than any nation, but you let yourselves down, and Africa and the black race very badly. Your leaders have no respect for their people. They believe that their personal interests are the interests of the people. They take people’s resources and turn it into personal wealth. There is a level of poverty in Nigeria that should be unacceptable. I cannot understand why Nigerians are not more angry than they are.

“What do young Nigerians think about your leaders and their country and Africa? Do you teach them history? Do you have lessons on how your past leaders stood by us and gave us large amounts of money? You know I hear from Angolans and Mozambicans and Zimbabweans how your people opened their hearts and their homes to them. I was in prison then, but we know how your leaders punished western companies who supported Apartheid.

“What about the corruption and the crimes? Your elections are like wars. Now we hear that you cannot be president in Nigeria unless you are Muslim or Christian. Some people tell me your country may break up. Please don’t let it happen.
“Let me tell you what I think you need to do. You should encourage leaders to emerge who will not confuse public office with sources of making personal wealth. Corrupt people do not make good leaders. Then you have to spend a lot of your resources for education.

“Educate children of the poor, so that they can get out of poverty. Poverty does not breed confidence. Only confident people can bring changes. Poor, uneducated people can also bring change, but it will be hijacked by the educated and the wealthy...give young Nigerians good education. Teach them the value of hard work and sacrifice, and discourage them from crimes which are destroying your image as a good people.”

(Excerpts taken from a 2007 interview with Mandela conducted by Dr Hakeem Baba-Ahmed).

peacengine:
More woes for the common man.

More woes for common man who does not know that using LPG, ie gas, is cheaper than using kerosene. It is even more healthier.

It is high time we all start using LPG (that is gas) in our various homes. It is cheaper and readily available in Nigeria.

Before I started using gas in my house, I spent minimum of N18K in three months, but now I spend almost N8K in three months. Thereby reducing my expenses.

Nigeria LNG produces enough LPG that foreign countries are refusing to buy because of high competition in the world market. Let all start using the gas produced by the company so that the ccompany can increase their production, hence increase the number of Nigerians they will be able to employ.

This is the time for us all to rethink and help improve the economy of our dear country.

Because the children have first hand information about the whole truth.

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Thanks

greatiyk4u:
Why dear?

Back in the days as an under G, na so I carry babe enter club, the Local Government chairman for the club just ordered him police orderly to call the babe, na so the man call me settle me with 10k with assorted drinks to leave the babe and go, unfortunately the babe saw that as an advantage and showed no little remorse

So, if you are married to a beautiful lady and you enter a shopping mall for instance, and a rich dude comes in, gives you 10k to sacrifice your wife for him, you will happily give your wife to him.

I think you are very myopic in your sense if reasoning. All what you wrote is a trash.

cyprus000:
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It is understandable for ladies on this forum to rally round your Gf to solicit for "by gone".

But ama advice you lyk a fellow .
Her past is too ugly for comfort, considering that she dumped her allege ex for a guy with higher ballary.

Over looking infidelity is safer than over looking a potential gold digging snitch that will ditch you when things(God forbid) turn awry. This is what your sis is harmlessly trying to make you understand,cos she knows the adverse effect
of negligence of such attrubute.

you are kinda playing with fire.
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OP, i hope you will listen to this guy. The best way to look for a wife is to get someone that knows a lot about her and will sincerely tells you about the woman you want to marry. Marriage is not rice and beans. When you fail to listen someone like your sister that knows much about her, then prepare for the worst in your marriage.

IsaacBuchi:
You shouldn't be stooping so low in morals with the society.... maybe because u ve not been there yet, u need to understand that no man can love you enough and sleep outside... he pretends he cares when u have not caught him but his conscious will never lie to him, he will feel it in his bones....& ur own instinct will tell you ur hubby is not like he has been with you from the start.
I want to believe that sex always goes with emotion whether male or female (only men successful hide them) even if the man doesn't have emotions while having sex outside one day he would be enjoying himself & his emotions would get trapped.
I bet if u suspect ur hubby is cheating or u have this value u'll sneak out ur marriage one day & do ur own & clean mouth.

Cheating outside marriage is just a greedy expression of self-love @JuniorPortland

What can you say about some men that sleeps with so many woman almost at the same time. That is keeping multiple women outside his marital home for sexual pleasure?

ststyreal:
Abeg, enough of this husband cheating rubbish and the world clapping in approval of it. For Christ sake, if a man who have vowed before the altar of God and his people to remain faithful to his spouse on their wedding day, now went behind to default in the vow he willingly made before God to his wife, do u think such a man will go unpunished? Huh! You people should stop deceiving your self with a false consolation words like, "man is polygamous in nature or that man is born to cheat or DNA whatever", cos every word spoken must be accounted for, let alone a vow u made before d sanctuary of God' promising to be faithful to your partner. Well, as for me(not my portion though) cos God knows I can't stand a cheating husband, Nitori pe because, my own level of jealousy be like say e pass baba God own. Even though I have told God, that in as much as I remained faithful to my husband, any husband that decides to go unfaithful will always have curses hanged over his life. Enough of this cheating approval, any man who have the intention to cheat on his wife, should make it known to the woman prior to the wedding, if she can cope, fine, if not, she finds her way. Just as any woman marrying a Muslim man should have known the likelihood of the man marrying more wives because of the religion, such scenario is understandable, but not a man, who vowed to be faithful to me before God and his priest and people, now turned back to start cheating on me and u people expect me to swallow it and keep loving him, it is a lie! He will be receiving curses everyday of his life until he desist from such act.

Hello Madam.

I want to believe that the op is not supporting infidelity. But, he is trying to be a realist. And not trying to face the reality of what is happening in our time, is just trying to always be in an unhappy mood all the time.

It is a fact that man is polygamous by nature. That why you will always see in the cause of history that most men, i said most men, will marry more than one wife. And not ready to face that reality is like someone force himself or herself to believe in lies when the truth is steering at him or her. That is the truth.

Having sexual intercourse with a woman that your right hand do not possess (that not married to) is a sin, even in the next of boyfriend and girlfriend and not to talk off being a married man or woman. These are called fornication and adultery respectively.

So, the question is why do Married man commits adultery? I won't use the word cheat as it is not a right word to be used in this context. And to me, the word do not fit into the right words to be used in a relationship.

As I have said earlier, man are polygamous by nature, but women of today will go any length to cause problem in the marital home if the man try to say he want to marry another woman. That is the first problem and where the idea of some men sleeping around with their wives at home. Some men never sleep around before they got married but started that after they are married. Those ones are usually pushed out by their wives, while some are not been satisfied by wives because they are career women and the husband may want to always give her time for her to have enough rest while she complains of the stress at work and the rest.

Some men do go outside their marital home because of what they have been used to before they married. Having multiple girlfriends and having intercourse with them all. Such men cannot be tamed. They will continue with their promiscuous way of life.

To all these act of adultery on the part of these married men, there is solution. If all women who want to be married could accept the true nature of men of being polygamous, must be ready to live by it. If your husband decided to have another wife, you better let him but reminds him of his responsibilities to you and your children. I am not talking about men that want to marry another woman to chase out the one at home. I don't support that. If you refused him not to marry another wife or making it a condition before you married to him, do not get angry if you later finds out he has a wife somewhere or sleeping around with other women.

brunofarad:
This is a wrong one

This singular move will scare away like 50 potential oyibo investors.

Yes you are right. But it will only scare away those corrupt investors that want to rip us off and promote corruption in the country. We don't need investors like that.

That is why, it is time for every Nigerian to be thinking like an entrepreneur and start springing up businesses by ourselves. Most foreign investors always want to rip us off and promote corruption in the land. We should let them know that, any investor with genuine intention should come forth and registered and not just any investor.

Smartsyn:
I don't pray against death, but I pray against untimely death.


They ain't the same.

There is no untimely death. Death is death, be it you are old or young. The time you die is the time that has been assigned to you by God almighty.

INTROVERT:
This issue will bring problem in Nigeria.


My little understanding from reading is that it is a borrowed culture from other parts of the the world particularly the desert areas where "sand and dust storms" are prevalent as a way of protecting the face and body. I beleive that there are appropriate ways a Muslim lady can dress that can cover the body properly (ask Aisha buhari). We should not encourage extremism in the guise of religion.

The wearing of hijab is part of Islam and not an act of extremism. If Aisha Buhari is not using the hijab, that doesn't mean others should not use it.

God has created man with choice. Your choice will determine your final abode in the Hereafter. God almighty have created Paradise and hellfire, and He has send several messengers to deliver His messages to mankind. The messages of path to paradise and path to hellfire. But we have the choice to make and decide what we want. No compulsion in religion.

The use of hijab is clearly stated in the Quran and it is not a culture of the Arab as a result of desert sand. And if it is as a result of sand, why is it for the women and not the men using it as well.

So, being obedient to God commandments is never an act of extremism in Islam. It will only be an act of extremism if you that is using it want to force others that choose not to make the choice of using the hijab. Because, in religion of Islam and it is clearly stated in the Quran, there is no compulsion in the matter of the religion . You can not force others to practice what you are practicing. The choice is yours and not others. If Aisha Buhari decided not to follow the commandments of God as stated in the Quran, the choice is hers. She is not the mentor or yardstick to follow in ones practice of the religion of Islam.

The paradise has been created. It will be filled with human that made the right choice and heed to God's warns by following the commandments of God.

The hellfire as well has been created. It will also be fill with humans that made the wrong choice and chose not to heed to God's warning.

You will decide where you belong through the choice you made.

SirJeffry:
And so? Why the fuss? Since those that perpetrate the act of suicide bombings hide under the cover of hijab, soldiers removing them isn't a bad but precautionary measure.

From your logical reasoning, the FG should ban wearing of police uniform and army uniform because some disgruntled elements in the society used the uniform to rob others and also used by politicians to kill their fellow opposition.

looseweight:
Women this, women that!!!

Ki lo de gan?

Because, for this world to be moving forward positively, the woman must be upright, up doing and own up to the duty of nation building.

As the adage says, train a girl child, be sure you have trained a nation.

Women have a lot to contribute to the society through their moral uprightness.

What do you expect? With the rate at which men are been raped psychologically by women with their mode of dressings now is to alarming.

Men by their nature are turned on sexually by seeing the tight dresses and short skirts that is showcasing the shape and sensitive curves from the woman. While, women are moved by physical torch and sensitive words from man.

That is one of the problems we will be facing when we don't consider the consequences of action in the name of freedom of expression.

Good day @drell.

I think the problem with you and your wife is lack of proper communication. The two of you should learn to talk more and as well encourage your wife to learn to discuss what she wants from you instead of her resulting to fighting all the time.

Most women communicate in sign language. For instant, if you wife just make her hair, she may want you to comment on it; it may be her dressing she want you to comment on or she may even need your attention in bed. If you fail to respond, this may lead to unnecessary or avoidable quarrel between the two of you.

So, you yourself needs to learn to read her signs and make good comments about it.

Some woman will be feeling unimportant if you fail to acknowledge their gesture. That is body signs and others. If it is sexual that she needs, you should be ready to give her anytime, even if you are tired. Even if it requires her been on top satisfying herself. Some woman turn on sexually with the presence of their spouse at home.

More importantly, good communication and discussion of issues with ones partner goes a long way to avert quarrel between spouse. Stay more with your wife than hanging out with friends and neighbours and the two of you becomes a progressive couple.

Moreover, in addition to issue of sex, learn to satisfy your wife anytime you both meet. Some men will finish and reach their sexual urge in 5 to 15 minutes while the wife has not even started to enjoy herself. So, learn to take your wife to near climax during intercourse before you the husband even start and not the reverse. At least spending minimum of 45 to 60 minutes during intercourse will keep her fulfilled for few days.

On the issue of beating your wife and then you both go into sex. I will not support any man beating his wife. You need to learn to start sex in a peaceful way. Anytime she loose her temper, instead of beating her, you can bring her to yourself and have a prolonged kiss. The two of you feel each other. In the process, you can start to encourage her to always discuss the issue with you instead of using abusive language. We are all human. You can't know what she is thinking if she did not express herself.

Finally, let her realise you are both husband and wife. And you are for each other. If she needs sex, she should demand it from you. And you as well must respond to her call.

I will also advise the two of you to see a marriage counsellor.

I hope this will help save your marriage from crashing

ronald4lif:
I can stand that and would gladly so. I don't know if I'm just being prejudicial but from the one virgin experience I had I can't be bothered anymore.

She weeped profusely and made me to pledge unrealistic vows and that moment ruined everything we had as all my action was perceived to be heartless coz I've had my way. And the constant reminder of how someone gave me their pride and 'womanhood' scares the hell out that me.

Perhaps others have had better experience but mine isn't some ketchup in a drumstick.

I hope all vigin ladies who prefer a relationship that will end in marriage will learn a lesson from a post from a guy like this.