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YourMain:
Virginity is so overrated it's actually ridiculous.

It is not an overrated thing for ladies that are hoping to get to a caring and sincere man. Because, it goes a long way for a married lady to secure her marriage from other ladies that loves to slander woman that are happily married to a caring, loving and sincere man.

A lady's virginity is one of her strong pillar of having a successful and peaceful marriage.

I am talking from experience.

What would you do if you got this alert today?
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A. Report to EFCC
B. Keep quiet
C. Run out of the country
D. Withdraw it immediately
. ...be sincere

What would you do if you got this alert today?
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Alert:Credit
Acct:2320xxxxxxxx764
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Rmks:COL SAMBO DASUKI (NSA) 28 DEC 15
By: 28-Dec-2015. 15:59:26
Bal: N4,216,549.56
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A. Report to EFCC
B. Keep quiet
C. Run out of the country
D. Withdraw it immediately
. ...be sincere

It is not the best and against God commandment to be committing fornication. That having sex before you are legally married.

A man/woman having sex before marriage does not determine he/she is a husband or wife material. Being a good person as a someone else spouse is about readily of the man or the woman to uphold his or responsibilities.

A man must be ready to uphold his responsibilities as a husband and a father. Likewise, the woman must be ready to uphold her responsibilities as a wife and a mother. She must known she is not to be an object of sexual satisfaction to her husband but a wife. And not a baby producing machine but a mother to her children, having responsibility to train her children in the best of moral upbringing and monitoring of her children education generally. General education, in the sense of moral, home-front responsibilities, schooling and helping the children in understanding what they are been thought.

What a man or a woman wants from a marriage should be the basis of what you use as criteria for searching for a spouse. And what the man and the woman that are coming together as husband and wife want must tally.

Take for instance, a man that want a woman that will uphold and take good care of the home-front responsibilities can't be thinking of a career woman who cares more about making money and and securing her job under another man outside. Likewise, a woman that wants a responsible man should not think of marrying a drunkard even if he has a well paying job, a house and cars.

So, compatibility of wants in marriage between would-be spouse is highly necessary. Years of courtship or pre marital relation and studying of your would-be spouse will not reveal who is a true wife or husband material.

All I can read from your post is a lady that married a man because of worldly things. After she had achieve her goals, she comes to nairaland to get support for devilish thought before she carried out her planned actions.

Please I will advice you not to harm the man and the other wife. If you are not interested in him again, discuss with him and leave him in peace. I am sure I will understand. Since you said he is a religious muslim.

The only mistake I will say he made is marrying you still been of another faith. This is because he ignored the advice of the prophet that says we should married for the sake of religion 1st before any other thing both the party coming together in marriage. By so doing, both will have proper understanding of what they are doing and not being suspicious of any wrong doing. He should have lectured you more about his religion even if you are not ready to be a muslim.

To me, the man have been exhibiting the true teachings of Islam by letting you know everything about his 1st wife and bringing the two of you together to know each other.

If you allow jealousy and bad thought to ruin your life, please exempt the man and the other wife from your bad thought and probably you evil plans.

A true and religious muslim woman would have known that this thought are front shaytan and would have taken measures and seek refuge in Allah from the handy work of shaytan and his promise of destroying marriages.

Please, I will advice you not to harm the man and his other wife if you cannot control your thoughts and stop listening to bad advices from friends. It doesn't pay at all.

What You Don't Know About The Shiites: Dr Jibia's Letter To Buhari As President-Elect

If you are interested to know more about the Shitte Muslim sect, you need to read this article written by Dr Abdussamad Umar Jibia and it was addressed to President Buhari when he was the President-elect

One thing I have learned this night is that we have two Major Muslims sects in Nigeria. Sunnis and Shitte. We have the smaller sects but these two dominate the Muslim population in the land

So read and learn for yourself about the Shitte sect who are currently trending in the news:

Hear the Doctor as he speaks:

Open Letter To Gen. Muhammadu Buhari

Abdussamad Umar Jibia
— May 12, 2015

Your Excellency Sir

Let me start by congratulating you on your well-deserved victory. It is Allah that gives and takes everything including power. He has given it to you. We pray to Him to guide you in the onerous task of restoring the lost values of our country.

You are taking over when the dust is beginning to settle. Boko Haram are on the run. For six years, this group of people has unleashed mayhem on Nigeria, or at least Northern Nigeria. Thousands of people have been killed in cold blood; thousands of others have been displaced. Yet, several thousands of women, girls and boys have been taken as captives. Ordinary Nigerians have found it difficult to figure out the sponsors of Boko Haram due to the nature of their victims who cut across all segments and strata of the Nigerian society. Several conspiracy theories have been expressed, many of which are laughable. Some believe it is the Northern elders who created Boko Haram in order to make the country ‘ungovernable’ for Jonathan. According to another school of thought it is the Igbo who have been exploring ways to launch revenge against the North for what Northerners did to them during the Nigerian civil war. Some say it is you, others say it is Jonathan. There are a few other theories.

Whether or not any, some or all of these theories are correct or incorrect, it is well known that the original members of the group known as Boko Haram or Jama’atu Ahlissunnah Lidda’wati wal Jihad as they call themselves were students of one Muhammadu Yusuf who lived and preached in Maidugri until his death in the hand of the Nigerian Police in 2009. It is also well known that the final episode that led to confrontation between his disciples and security forces was the refusal of his followers to obey simple driving rules like the wearing of helmets by motorcyclists.
However, my reason for writing you this letter is not Boko Haram. It is something worse than Boko Haram. Yes worse. It is a sect more dreadful than Boko Haram that has established itself in all strata of Muslim Ummah in Nigeria. They are in the civil service. They are in business. Their members have deliberately come close to several unsuspecting politicians of note. It is Shia.

As a Muslim, you don’t need someone to tell you about Shia. But for the benefit of those who do not know, I would say the little they need to know. Shia is about the oldest sect in Islam. After the death of Muhammad (peace be upon him) who was both a messenger of Allah and a political leader, the Islamic faith continued to grow under the rightly guided Caliphs. It was during this period that the present day Syria, Iran, Iraq, Egypt and Palestine came under the control of Islam. However, the Jews who were expelled from the city of Madina by the Holy prophet because of their treachery and were watching these developments with agony decided to react by sponsoring some of them to pronounce Islam in order to have the license to cause confusion among Muslims. It was these ‘converts’ under the leadership of one Abdullah bn Saba that succeeded in sponsoring the rebellion against the third Caliph, Othman. They first articulated his shortcomings, amplified and disseminated them around the Caliphate. Thereafter they called for his resignation; when he refused to resign they killed him. The Muslim Ummah chose Ali, a cousin of the Holy Prophet to lead them after Othman, but these very people, who now called themselves Shiat Ali (the sect of Ali) frustrated his efforts to track and punish the killers of Othman. They now made Shia a symbol of love for Ali and other relations of the prophet and hatred for the other caliphs and the rest of the prophet’s companions whom they claimed betrayed the trust of the prophet.

Shia was embraced by Persians because they saw it as an opportunity to distort a religion that destroyed their kingdom and culture. After the Iranian revolution which was led by Shiite scholars, the government of Iran set an agenda to spread Shia to other countries. In Nigeria, this task was to be carried out by one Ibrahim Yakub Elzakzaky. The man Elzakzaky devised several strategies to achieve his mission. First, he banked on the gullibility of some Muslim youth who could easily be misled by slogans like ‘Islamic revolution’, ‘establishment of Islamic state’, ‘total change’, etc. His group, who initially tagged themselves as Muslim brothers (meaning, of course, that other Muslims are not their brothers) organized lectures and several demonstrations in their first phase. In those days in the 1980s he told everyone that he was not a Shiite, his group was not out to promote Shia and that what they wanted was Islam and nothing else. The other methods used by Elzakzaky to introduce Shia to his followers were the same methods that Shiites have used over their long history. One of them is women. Shiites legalize temporary marriage. In Shia it is possible to marry a woman for two hours. Many people find it difficult to understand why young men and women who are supposed to be in school would trek from cities like Kano, Gusau and Katsina to Zaria, spending nights along the way in order to listen to Elzakzaky. This is the secret. It is an open one because the Shiites do not deny they do it. What they may deny is wife swapping, which many people accuse them of doing.

There is plenty more on Shiites and their doctrine. What, however, would be of major concern to your Government is their notoriety in dealing with Government and fellow Nigerians. Way back in the 1990s, the Shiites constituted a major threat to the public in Kaduna state. For a period, any Islamic preacher who dared to criticize Ibrahim Elzakzaky or Ayatullahi Khomaini in his preaching was attacked and beaten in his house in the presence of his wife and children. Infuriated by their actions, the Government of Col. Hameed Ali staged a clampdown on them and most of their leaders were arrested and prosecuted. This made them to change their strategy for a while.

The main activities of Shiites are demonstrations which they organize on specific occasions like the Quds and Ashura days. During these demonstrations, they block main roads in cities across the North and intimidate the public including the Police whose permission they do not seek. Last year, this type of event led to a clash between the Army and the sect members leading to the death of several people including three children of Mallam Ibrahim Elzakzaky. In addition, these heretics organize an annual pilgrimage to Zaria for which they trek in large groups from certain points to go and meet their leader. In the process of this long trek, they block major highways and create a lot of havoc for travelers. This is watched by the security agents and nothing is done to stop it.

Like the Boko Haram of Muhammadu Yusuf, the Shiites have no regard for any rule, no matter how harmless it is. For example, after a series of bombings in Kano metropolis, the Government of Kano state banned riding motorcycles after six o clock in the evening and carrying passengers on same. The public complied and defaulters were openly arrested and punished. The only group of people that did not comply were the Shiites. Even when the implementation of the ban was at its peak they rode motorcycles in the night on major roads in Kano sometimes carrying more than one passenger and none of them would be arrested. A friend of mine once stopped and asked the Police why they were not arresting Shiites. The answer was, ‘Ai su yan kungiya ne’, meaning ‘they are members of a group’. The Police was obviously afraid of triggering another crisis, but at the same time giving the impression that some people are above the law.

The Shiites are well connected. Since most of their leaders including Mallam Ibrahim Elzakzaky himself are graduates, it has been easy to fix themselves in all sectors of the economy. Although they publicly condemn the Nigerian political system and do not participate in partisan politics, the group may have been enjoying the support of certain politicians. For example, a former civilian governor of one of the Northern states patronized a Civil Engineering firm controlled by professionals belonging to this group. The group activities were allegedly sponsored by proceeds of the many contracts he awarded to them in addition to whatever little might come from Iran and other wealthy members. Ordinarily there is nothing wrong in that since they are also Nigerians, but the fact that some of those professionals involved were dismissed from public service for alleged breach of peace raised doubts about the action of that governor.

Mallam Ibrahim Elzakzaky lives in affluence even when most of his followers live in abject poverty. Added to these is the large number of guards that accompany him wherever he is going. These guards who are mainly unemployed youth also man illegal checkpoints on roads leading to his house in the Gyallesu quarters of Zaria. In addition to open display of weapons, these guards subject people living in the area, their families and visitors to constant harassments. Even after registering series of complaints to the police and Zaria emirate, nothing has been done to come to the rescue of these innocent Nigerians. Only last week, there was a widely reported clash between Shiite guards and residents of Gyallesu that claimed a number of lives. Yet, there was no response from the Government.

My advice for your Excellency is this. If your promise to tackle insecurity is to be a reality you must cut Shiites down to size. To do that effectively you have to look around you and make sure that no member of this group occupies an important position in your Government. It would be a monumental scandal if Nigerians come to realize that a member of such a lawless group is very close to you and/or holding a key position in your Government. This is regardless of the intellectual prowess of the person. One would then wonder what would be the reaction of your Government when there is a clash between security forces and members of this group. The millions of Nigerians that voted for you do not include Shiites. Nigerian Shiites do not vote unless they engage in taqiyya which is a kind of hypocrisy allowed in their religion whereby a person can pretend to be what he/she is not and act accordingly in order to achieve a goal. Secondly, no member of the public including politicians, traditional or religious leaders must be allowed to use his followers to harass the public. If Mallam Ibrahim Elzakzaky or any other leader wants additional security for himself he should be allowed to employ trained private guards who would not harass his neighbours. Finally, there should be no double standard in dealing with different groups.

I wish I had a direct access to you to give you this advice without making it public. Although I know a few people around you, I am not quite sure that a message sent through them would get to you at this time. And since office-seeking Nigerians have been sending in their CVs, any document dropped in your office, no matter its contents is very likely going to be treated as another CV in disguise.
I wish you Allah’s guidance.

Dr. Abdussamad Umar Jibia
Associate Professor and Head
Department of Mechatronics Engineering
Bayero University Kano
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http://government.leadership.ng/features/432624/open-letter-to-gen-muhammadu-buhari

May be you should tell us what your problems are. You might not really need any soothsayer you are looking for.

Vikky014:
o chim oooo is nt a must to get married in dis time and age ooo

Well to you it is not a must, but to some ladies it is a must. I am talking from personal experience.

When I am still residing in a BQ self contained apartment with my wife and kid, my wife had little or no friends. When she is marketing her goods on fool and going about her product on bike, those ladies rearly buy goods from her.
Now see goes about with her product in an SUV car and they knew the BQ is now a duplex, they are not only buying things from her but making friends with her. From there they were asking her if she will even allow her husband to marry another woman.

So, I caution her to be careful with them, as their agenda is different. So many cases like that that involves singles ladies and the divorced inclusive.

Let me add to the op questions.

6. Ladies can you marry a married man.

I know most ladies will say he'll no to this question. But deep down in Thier heart, if a heavily rich guy that is married seek Thier hand in marriage, they would have said yes ten times before the guy complete the statements: would you marry me?

Looking at it statistically, the ratio of marriageable man to marriageable woman that are still single, the gab is wide. The ratio will be nothing less than 1 to 10. So, for every lady that got married 9 will not be married. So, if ladies decided not to practice polygamy but monogamy, they should not be surprised if at the end of the day some of them could get a man to marry them. Moreover, the ratio gap is increasing by the day.

Onyejiuwaokoh:
We are suffering so many things now; security challenges, economic failure and naira fall. Could all these be chain?sorry change.

If your brother Ebele Azikuwe and his cohort have spent the money meant to buy weapons for the military, the situation of insecurity in the society wouldn't have degenerated to this level. Anumanu (Animal)

Hmmm

manutdrichie:
He is back with propaganda again
This Fashola sef, ok continu

Lagos Ibadan Expressway was not awarded in 2002

I think you find it difficult to comprehend simple English in the post. Please read again and stop vomiting rubbish.

TouchstoneNgr:
Hello,
Thanks for taking your time to interact with us.
1. We use Hdf boards for the carcass of our kitchen cabinets. These type of board has high resistance to water. It's the same material used for marine board ( which is also used in making boats and under water construction)

2. We are located in Abuja. We deliver all around the country. The ongoing project is in Jos, Pleatue state. Location is not a barrier.

3. We do wardrobes, wall partition and panels, doors as well. You can visit our other thread to check out our other projects.
https://www.nairaland.com/2179929/kitchen-cabinets-wardrobes-beds-doors/1

Regards.

Price | Quality | Speed

As per the board you are talking about, is it HDF or MDF.
If the board is HDF, what is the difference between the HDF and the MDF boards

ikechu1278:
Oya let's compare and contrast... Provide proof of Igbo burning mosque in Onitsha starting from last year till this year alone and I'll provide proof of Hausa burning churches from last year to this year alone. And let's see who did it the most. Deal

I think what you should ask yourself is, who is responsible for holding back on achieving your biafra state, the Muslims or the Federal government of Nigeria?
Is your Biafra agitation is a religious inclined one or tribal inclination?

Read what former Chief of Army staff said: IHEJIRIKA WROTE ON HIS FACEBOOK WALL :

FOOLISH IS NOT IGBO!!!
For 6 years our own occupied the offices of Deputy Senate President, Deputy Speaker, SGF, Minister of Finance /Coordinating Minister of the Nigerian Economy, Ministers of Health, Aviation, Labour, Petroleum (by Marriage), Chief of Army Staff etc yet nobody complained that the Igbos got too much of the Federal Power rations neither did your highly placed brethren improve your lot in terms of development!
Other ethnic groups watched carefully and played their politics towards national relevance while we the Igbos got carried away and played politics of the pocket where semi-illiterate money bags charted the cause for us!

Those who have access to Aso Rock and got fat contracts sustained the lies to hoodwink both Aso Rock Gods and the Igbos. In blind response devoid of any logical reasonings the Igbos put all their fragile eggs in one basket that had lost form and shape to protect them.

As the results of those fatal errors set in the same money miss roads are now fanning the ambers of secession as their next meal ticket bargaining chip while the teaming youth they lure with money and lies risk losing everything including their lives for nothing in the end.

Compare the Igbo TAN money bags and/or failed politicians to the likes of Aliko Dangote, Mike Adenuga, Femi Otedola who are hardly seen or heard playing partisan talk less of ethno-religious politics!

Imagine Dangote gathering the leaders of Northerners in Lagos and imposing political party or candidate in Lagos State politics on them. Such is near impossible!
The Igbos have allowed derogatory pocket politics to puncture their natural nobility as a people!

With men of honour and class like Ebitu Ukaiwe, Emeka Anyaoku, Ndubisi Kanu, Ben Nwabueze and others the Igbos should have no business listening to the likes of Ifeanyi Uba (Capital Oil), Chris Uba etc any time they talk politics!

Foolish is not IGBO!!!

https://web.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=1531825260476271&set=a.1439195186405946.1073741828.100009464353326&type=3

Good day,

1. What is the effect of water on the wooden or so part of your kitchen cabinet installation?

2. Where is your location in Nigeria?

3. Do you install for wardrobe as well?

Idrismusty97:
Both Africa Muslims and Christians are now more holier than the people who brought the religion for them.

Majority are hypocrites not holier.

How much?

Hope it is not one of the accidented cars that was repair and brought to Nigeria?

May I know the VIN NUMBER?

Love is planted into the heart of a man by a woman. And this can only happen when a man and woman are married. Love before marriage in the heart of a man is lust not love. But a woman can Truely love a man before marriage.

So, how is love planted into the heart of a man by a woman? This is first by her good characters. These good characters of her make her submissive to her husband, always trying to please her husband and advising her husband positive. She also her to guard her husband properties and all what is rightly her husband including herself and the children. I am not saying she is a property of her husband, but she does not shear herself with another man.

I will also like to say, it is better for a man to marry a woman that truely loves him than looking a woman he loves. A woman that truely loves a man always tends to be more submissive and caring for the man.

But, for your own case, if your girlfriend truely loves you and not what you have, then go for her.

I cannot advice you to go for the second girl because what you have for her is lust not love. It is always like that for all men.

At this junction, i will advice you to think properly and list what you really want from a woman you want to marry as your wife. You the list as the criteria for the selection of a wife you intend to marry. You need to asked series questions in a matured and indirect way to get answers to your questions. Because, I lady that is desperate and deceptive one will surely want to hide the truth from you.

Cutehector:
Naaah... Bible says do nad be equally yoked with an unbeliever... Hence i cant change my religion...


Religion is very different from denomination pls take note... Hence i cant change christianity to be a muslim, or budhist, or jehovah witness, or eckist, or mormon, or hinduist..

So, Jehovah Witness are not christian again?

prettysolid:
Since I have been saying it,it was assumed I was only being tribalistic. Now we've heard from the horses mouth.
If u also want to know what their women are like, this same woman is a good example ,just read the reply of her brothers to this her statement, then ull get more insight of what their women are like.

They r opening their yansh and I am just here to confirm what I already know and even see if there is a new addition

I think the question you should have asked is: If yoruba boy are what she said they are and her father, a yoruba man, that married her mother, was he the same like what she described yoruba boys to be?

Moreover, if yoruba boys are not good, why as any other tribe of the country or any other men from any part of the world haven't asked her hand in marriage from her parents?

When women have wasted their useful youthful life away, partying around, looking for rich man to marry, they become very desperate. In the process of desperation, they fall into the hands of wrong person. Thereafter, tagging all men as evil.

And there is something that is certain. You can only get the type of person you are. It only means she must also be a gold digger.

This thread is created to sample the opinion of Nairalanders on the action taken by a lady that created a thread titled "How I Used What I Had To Get What I Wanted In The University" and suddenly abandon the thread and decided not to continues with her story when the thread had reach page 22.

https://www.nairaland.com/2759256/how-used-what-get-what/22

See her reason for the "walked of thread"

thatsincerechic:
TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN

Now I am tired...
Just as many of you have taken your time to read this story so have i taken my time in writing it. I cannot please you... I am not writing this story to satisfy your sexual urge(this is to those that are only concerned about Bleep)
I started out with a good intention of narrating my story to many out there who are going through what I went.. I wanted them to learn from this.
Now to those who want a summary, this is a story, stories are usually long narratives. Pls have it in mind that as I post comments I also see comments on this thread.. Majority of which are of obscene thoughts and it's a big distraction to me... Now do this
Imagine you were with friends, or should I say students whatever setting you wanted, and you were telling your story and some are throwing one or two sentence which is totally out of order, not what you have in mind because it is not what you experienced. Now how would you feel
To those that say I was running out of lies because I haven't mentioned the part where I had sex, pls bridle your tongue because You can not tell my story for me.
And to those who say they are bored with the story, just as you are bored, I am also bored because I was no longer seeing reasonable comments as I progressed and i am pretty sure that majority of those that tarried along up till this point are those that are eager to read and enjoy the sex scene. Well, I am sorry to disappoint you, I didn't start my story to ENTERTAIN but rather to ENLIGHTEN you on what is going on in our society.
To those saying I was making the stories shorts so i could garner pages, well sorry to say this but I think you are myopic, if you religiously followed from the beginning you would see comments on when I said I was at work.
And to the young man, that asked me why I Did not type everything out in a computer and uploaded all once instead, well you see sir, I started this story after a thought came to my mind, I was so motivated that I decided to register as a member on nairaland because I have always been a visitor on nairaland and this is my first topic on nairaland. I actually thought I could tell it peaceful as it progressed and not to be confused at the long run by many of you who wanted a different story.

Since you are not patient enough to know how I used what i had to get what I wanted.... You would probably never know.

My experiences are my precious moments because they shaped me into what I am today, and I won't have it altered because I want to tell a story on nairaland.

At this junction I drop my pen!

# walks out of thread*******

So, what is your own opinion on the action she took and what advice will you give to her?

You made me to shed tears. Good write up and thanks for sharing.

cococandy:
You took a big risk.
Or maybe I didn't understand your story well.

What type of risk do you expect a career woman always take? They always put their family in a big risk. This one is a near miss in safety terms.

inze:
No email to forward report to

olaitan1st@yahoo.com

Can you post the VIN number?

Please help with this VIN number:4T1BF3EK9AU027304

opehh:
I knew I was still going to get a response like this, so I am not even surprised.
I think of someone I haven't even seen for years? I told you we haven't even spent up to 5 minutes talking before not to talk of me thinking of him in any way,and I would have actually ignored this if not for the thoughts that keep coming to my mind...plus I never said the dream and his commenting on my picture was coincidental.

Anyway,we all are entitled to our freedom of expressions so no problem.

Women!!! You people don't like the truth. Your reply to this fellow shows your true state of mind and what you want to hear from people. Goodluck. Hope you will not regret your action.

Someone ones post this topic on Nairaland. So, I decided to post it again as it is highly educative.

My little thought on HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!

By: JUSTICE PETER

This may not be the best time for me to write on this because of misinterpretations, but I can no longer resist the push.

"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.

Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, maybe there were more men than women then, or there was an adequate corresponding numbers of both genders. I don't think so. Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future.

What am I really trying to say? We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves.

Today, the reverse is the case. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small.

The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity".

Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those things these ladies want, legally (except those involved in Internet fraud); even the number of those in Internet fraud is not enough to match all those searching for already made husbands. If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is.

"A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled."

MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION.

Join in alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.

WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.

Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to God in prayer. God did not just make Eve for making sake; He made her for Adam's need to become complete and fulfilled.

Thanks for the pieces of enlightenment. I hope Nigerians expecially will learn from someone like you. So many of them on Nairaland, only good at abuses and insulting others with different religious beliefs instead of preaching their own believe in the modest way as possible.