₦airaland Forum

annawhite:
dis children sef...dem no dey go where rich couple dey find dem#but d man carry face like person no go let person rest

Are you still looking for one?

WisdomCanada:
I want 8 children too, but I dunno if my wife will object too.. since ure a girl nd u also want 8 children, need I say more?

You need not to say more. You only need to kiss the bride. Lobatan.

StarFlux:
Stuff like this is why Nigeria has overpopulation issues in certain areas. In this day and age having 7 children is a strain on the local community, but also the planet as a whole. Africa needs to stop the massive population growth so people can start living a worthy life. How can we seriously expect an increase in living standards when we have 7 children each and the economy has no chance of catching up with the growth?

Nawa o.. beautiful kids though.

I could see you are still under colonial spell. Population is power and that is why countries like that of the western world are always afraid of countries with high population. And that is why they always create wars in Africa and ensure we have bad government.
Population is power if properly utilize.

China is an example of well utilize population.

Pidggin:
Why are they breeding children like rabbits, without a reasonable means to cater for them, haba

I believe they did not plan for it. Probably thinking of adding a child more to what they have.

Anyway, it is God that provides not our struggle. If you are sincere about taken good care of them and always ask God for His assistance, He will surely come to your aid.

Because of this action of women I refused to take any house help in my house when I am being pressured by my wife and my mother. I fear such helper will be maltreated.

It is of recent I allow a cousin of my wife to come to m6 house for possible assistance. And I warned her that I will send the girl back to her parent if she dear maltreated her.
She must be treated the way she will treat her children. They must jointly do the household work and not leaving the household work for to do only.
She must eat on time and not left hungry.
She must ensure she is always happy.
If she intend to visit her parent, she must not be disturbed or prevented from going. And so on.

I hate people being maltreated.

May be because, not so pretty girls are mostly submissive and obedient to their husband as they are not ready to loose their husband.

While the pretty girls are so proud of their beauty, thereby they become ill-mannered, disrespectful and arrogant. Not willing to be submissive. Because while they are already married, men still run after them.

Moreover, beauty is relative. To some men, the physical appearance is what they attributed as beauty. While some men attributed some special characters as beauty. For instance, some men see only religious beliefs of a lady that brings out good moral character in the lady as beauty. Some men see a lady intellectual capacity as beauty, and so on.

Just as I have commented on Nairaland on several threads that talk about marriage, there for main things men and women looks for in their would be spouse.

1. Physical Beauty,
2. Position of the man or girl or their parents or relatives in the society,
3. The wealth of the man or the woman or their parents,
4. Culture and Religion of the man or the lady. That is how well is the man or lady is practicing his or her culture and religion.

Most light skinned girls are too proud. They believe in their skin completion, that with it they are very attractive and all men will be running after them.

That is why some stupid dark skinned girls go for skin bleaching that will expose them to skin cancer.

EasternLeopard:
He called for violence as you said

But was it implemented.? No

Take it or leave it

Kanu wants to use his blood to awaken the Igbos to bravely face death in their match for Biafra.

Nigeria just made Biafra more popular in the eye of the world.

Sometimes the faster way to kill an issue is to ignore it. That Nigeria failed

You don't need to worry yourself. He will not be killed but he will be kept where people like him belong. While other noises will be ignored until another person like him rises up again. And he or she will be kept where he or she belong. While other noise makers and wailing wailers make their noise, they will be ignored again.

So shall they be treated. Animals.

lookingbuoy:
My friendship with the unemployed one is so unfettered and we goof around a lot. It's like two children playing in the sand, and i kinda like that. She's hoping that I'll ask her out formally, but i don't like her unemployed situation.

My friendship with the independent one is kinda rigid and formal. We talk, gist, go to dinner dates, but hardly joke around. We do joke around sometimes though.

And it seems i want what both of them have: i want the freedom i get with the other lady and the independence i get with the other

Since both have what you want, then marry both of them. Anyway, man is created to be polygamous in nature. That is why it is easy for man to see another woman with some other qualities you need and want to have that too. That is the nature of Man. It can't be denied.

If only women could realize this fact, the idea I could not get a husband or no having someone to marry will not arise.

Now, if you choose one of them, the other will felt her heart been broken.

For me, my advice to you is to go for the first lady you met during your NYSC period. Tell her you want her to have financial freedom, that she should think of what to do that you can support and be successful Thereafter.
You can either set her up a business or she should go back to school to study pharmacy. Thereafter, she can register with pharmaceutical institute to open her own pharmacy shop. Thereafter, she will be financially free and have enough time for her children.

I will not advise you to marry the second lady. Except you are sure she can bring down her ego. To me you will forever regret not marrying the first lady except you are sure she is going after another man.

Moreover, I don't know why men, these days seek after women that are also be ready made. Whether a lady is rich or not, it is the responsibility of a man as husband to pay the bill of the house. And you should do that based on your capability. If the woman you marry want to add to what you drop at home, so be it. As long as it comes from her heart and not that you force her to do so.

You may be surprised that some women with their fat salary will not be ready to assist you with any bill but demanding more from you.

Why is it that you women love to tell lies to each other. It is too bad of you girls general.

Why been afraid of telling her the truth. If you do not want to her what exactly happen, you should have framed it in such a way that she will not hesitate to go and check her result ASAP.

That shows you are a bad person.

ginawest:
you killed somebody because you caught him having sex with your wife?I wonder how some men reason

That is why we must be realistic in our reasoning . And that is why fornicating and adultery have been forbidden by God. Human are created with jealousy in built in us. We all have to watch our actions and the impact of our actions on others. We all react differently to issues.

This is not to justify the action of the husband that kill the bricklayer, but the truth is we are all beings with jealousy in built in us.

So, let's us all think of the consequences of our actions before taken it.

Harbosede02:
So watz the moral lesson of ur story

Read the last paragraph.

Supported

molas02:
though i do not read d whole post bt i read d heading.....do i hear u said PMB want to increase tariff on electricity? We ve been scam

Read the post first and stop acting ignorantly.

Ufranklin92:
buhari u are mad

Please read the post and see who is really mad. Don't be like those that reads headlines and start making foul comments that did not tally with the news posted.

warrior01:
Hehehe! When the present tariff is much more than the minimum wage, How do they want the workers to survive? With no salaries being paid, no food, blackness gradually enveloping everywhere, deplorable roads, inflation.... Now they want to finally take electricity away from them. how does the APC want the poor masses to even survive? How pathetic. Is this the change they were promised?

Please read the posted. I believe you did not read the post in the first place.

warrior01:
Hehehe! When the present tariff is much more than the minimum wage, How do they want the workers to survive? With no salaries being paid, no food, blackness gradually enveloping everywhere, deplorable roads, inflation.... Now they want to finally take electricity away from them. how does the APC want the poor masses to even survive? How pathetic. Is this the change they were promised?

I hope you read the post properly. Please read again for proper comprehension.

Miranda11:
If na OBJ his tym to is coming. D power sector probe is also goin on so there is no escape for the Ota Boss. Spillin d beans on Dieziani will not save him from being probed as well. We dey watch.

what you don't know is that Atiku is the one in charge of the power project then. He is the one that mismanage the fund. By the time the power probe is completed, it in Atiku that is going to land in jail. That is why OBJ did not want him to be the president of Nigeria. He spoilt baba's power project plans.

Orjioorji:
. you are just an idiot Deziani is also responsible for the chibok scam, poisoning of river in borno. you are a child of hate trying to defend your master senseless slave. a normal Muslim has no brain

You should have only abuse the op and not bring Muslims into your abuse. It only shows the kind of person you are.

Anyway, have you seen this tweet, that was tweeted before the bomb blast. I believe, if you have brain yourself, you the assumption will make sense to you. I am not saying that the former petroleum minister is responsible for the bombings, but we all need to look inward if there are other actors in this boko haram saga instead of blaming Muslims for everything.

What of if the biafran guys are behind the bombings or some other groups or even some politicians?

People marry for four main reasons:

1. Beauty,
2. Wealth,
3. Position, and
4. Religion / Culture.

I see that your reason for your choice of marriage is beauty that can command English language fluently.

A question I will ask you is this: will you still be in love or willing to marry her if something happens to her beauty? If yes then marry your beauty. Else beauty should not be your priority.

Likewise, if your so called well mannered girl change to a not mannered wife when you have married her, will you continue to love her.

What happens during the period of courtship is not real. What is real is the real discussion you both discuss about what you want if you eventually married.

This is where most young people of nowadays made serious mistakes. Instead of discussing issue, they will be assuming and judging based on the characters that is apparent to them.

I will advise you to discuss real issues with your girlfriends and ask questions in an indirect way so that you can Truely get the answers you want.

The beautiful girl may be doing that because she feels she is not married to you yet or she just a dirty and lazy type. While your well mannered girl may be doing so because she want to lure you to marry her or she is the neat type that can't withstand dirty environment.

But what I am sure of is, if a man possesses something greater than a woman, the likelihood of the woman being 100% submissive is high. So, I can't advice to take any of them yet but to do you own home work first.

How will you do that?
Highlights what you actually want from a wife first and ask real questions in an indirect way to get the right answers to your questions. You might be surprised that both are far from being a wife material.

Goodluck.

Diamondqueen:
yes, i think i can. But even if i can't and anything bad happens, i'll learn from it. Thanks a lot for your concern.

If you got pregnated and dumped there after by your boyfriend and your parent decided to not to sent you to school again so as to be able to take care of your bastard child. I hope that will be a good lesson that you will love to learn from?

I think you have made up your mind, why seeking for advice.

What I am 100% sure of is that most girls don't learn from other people's mistake, until they fell into the same trap. And the evil committed my women always comes running after them.

I can only wish you the best of the bad luck that will a raise from the decision you are about to make.

crisycent:
Make una leave the young pûssy for us na.

How many young puzzy have you married already?

SeverusSnape:
Even the educated and influential among them are not spared from this backward mentality.

Anyways, Happy Married Life.

And there is no backwardness in having s*x with so many ladies by educated people abi?

Your comment shows how mentally backward and sick you are.

Which one is the best? Marrying woman and taking good care of them and not breaking their hearts by fornicating with them and dump them or just marrying 4 wives and not more than 4 as stated in the religion.

Have you asked yourself why men after still seek for other women after being married to one? Men are polygamous by nature. In other not to offend God almighty, the religion God has permitted the marriage of not more than four wives.

Have you ever also wondered why some women listing after married men as well? They want men that are willing to Truely married them and not men that want to take advantage of them, being desperate at times, in seeking a mentality stable men that will Truely marry them and be ready to take responsibility that comes with marriage.

So, try to think before commenting and not be sentimental religiously.

wellmax:
I had previously worked for a few years in PHC before this present job. From day one it was terrible, you can't just please my boss. I will soon learn that no one stays in my position for more than 6 months. They all resigned out of frustration. I'm at that point too now, and I intend to tender my resignation on Monday.

I need advice on a short, concise and apt resignation letter

If you want my job, I can give you link to the company

A lot of guys have supplied you with advices. Some good and some bad advices.

Yo me, you have not given us what are the exact things your boss are not please with. Most times, the problem may not be from your boss but you yourself. Most Nigerians complain of their boss when they are busy doing things irrelevant to what they are asked to do.

I will advice you to know what your boss needed from you to do. If you are not clear about what he wants, ask questions to get clearer understanding of what he wants. I believe you are behaving like typical Nigerians that panics and shaking when confronted by the boss or very afraid to discuss real with their boss.

I remember when still in school as undergraduate. Students do complain about a particular lecturer. But i realised that the lecturer is not the problem but the students themselves, who want to pass the test and exams without studying and go extra miles in their studies.

I am not here to tell you not to resign your job nor keep your job. I believe you will be able to learn from people who have resigned their job without going to another and no second plan if unable to get a job.

Music is music secular or not. I think that is the message the pastor wanted to pass to his church.

All music are all instrument of Satan.

MISSCONGENIALITY:
It seems teenage girls now disvirgin themselves cos men of all age keep looking for virgins to f:ck even when they themselves are not virgins r exonorated all the time.


Guys if u are not a virgin, don't go looking for one cos u are the ones who deceive them, disvirgin and go away looking for other virgins.

Evil men are always looking for virgin girls to deflower because they new the evil they are doing and planning.

Such evil men are friends of Satan, carrying out Satan's orders. Satan knew that the more there are deflower girls, the more there will be distrust in marriage, The more divorce, the more single parenting that will not have time to educate the children about life. The more the crime in the society.

Today, there are a lot of crime in the society, but no one knows the root cause or the Genesis of the crimes being committed.

Girls Loosing their virginity before they are married is one of the root cause of our societal problem.

tosyne2much:
Abstinence pressure always highly mounted on ladies. While it is minimally mounted on guys



Lord have mercy

Because girls are always at the receiving end. If a man has lost his virginity, no one can tell. But for girls, it is obvious.

Men usually lost trust for girls that have lost their virginity before marriage. That is why girls needs to keep their virginity until they are happily married.

munchfani:
ABEGI!!

I see that the truth is bitter. Abi

nikkiking:
I swear i didn't read the news.......





But i know their tribes .



They've never disappointed me .

My blother, odikwa no easy.