pocohantas:
Stop wasting your money on sachet tomatoes. I don’t know how much it is currently because I don’t use it anymore, though I have about half carton of Gino lying around somewhere.

Buy tomatoes, the round ones, not oblong. The round ones are more colorful. Add it tatashe, if you don’t see big one, the long one would serve. Blend together and steam it.

To cook your stew, slow fry on low heat in oil that covers the tomatoes. Don’t stop till your tomatoes has pores and looks segmented. Same applies to your jollof rice and spag. You won’t have any use for sachet tomatoes.

The colour would depend on the ratio of tomatoes to tatashe and how long you fry.

I don’t use tin tomatoes in my stew and you won’t know. Done with that shii.

I shared my stew recipe with someone HERE, you can check it out and ask for clarifications.

I hope it's not the case that what your food lacks in taste is made up for in look..

Rolly22:
Things like this would make one wonder if Nigeria is selling crude oil or red oil, if not for our greed and Selfishness we would have been competing with countries like Qatar, Saudi Arabia and Dubai.

Dubai is NOT a country! It's merely a city in UAE.

AdaugoChisom:
Donald T.rump is a raci.st nah...ever since he called Nigeria shi.rthole I hat.e him since then.

Was he wrong to have called Nigeria that? Many Nigerians call the country worse names than that. Nigeria is clearly a fantastically corrupt shiit hole country! This is a bitter truth you have to face regardless of the mouth of whom it proceeded from.

Chii59:

Have you ever considered the possibility that
1. A woman can be in a long term relationship (5 years and above) that didn't lead to marriage.
2. A lady may not be lucky with men coming her way, seeing most men are just interested in getting laid and moving on.

Have you?

I'm a guy, but I do share your sentiments: in terms of marriage, women are naturally and socially disadvantaged. Such is life!

A very heartwarming news!

vibre:

We are meant to live forever, we only change from one world to another at death.

What's your proof for this claim?

budaatum
From the tone of your response and the approach of your argument, I can sense it will be difficult to have a productive/educative/meaningful discussion with you. So this may be my last reply to your comment.

I'm not saying a human being is exactly equivalent to the materials (food, water, air) from which he is "biologically manufactured", just as a computer is not exactly the same as the materials (metals, silicon, plastics, alloys etc) it is built from. The fact I'm stating is simply that different food items, water and air are actually the things that somehow got transformed/processed into a human being. This is a basic fact that we don't need to argue about; it's quite undeniable. Every part of your body (including your brain that enables you to perform different amazing cognitive functions) is basically made from the nutrients derived from food, water and air. FYI, the brain is about 75% water!
We are really supposed to be talking about what this fact implies or about what makes it possible etc.

CHoccolaTE:
Nairaland girls should realize that 80 percent of men in the world are misogynistic sociopaths that enjoy causing undue stress and unhappiness in women's lives. From the beginning of time they have done everything in their power to oppress women, for Nigerian males Nairaland is just the only avenue they have to anonymously express their true woman hating natures that's why you see them venting all the innate bitterness and hate they have for the female gender.

I know it might sound very sick and depressing but the overwhelming majority of men are misogynistic sociopaths that hate women by default.

Fighting them back will not change anything, they were born like that, just be aware of the innate irrational hate they have for females and be careful of them because they are dangerous.

Exactly how or why did you come to this conclusion?

budaatum:

I make if this very non-fact that anyone who thinks such a stupid thing must be very stupid,

If they had bothered to fill their head with the ingredient called sense through study to acquire knowledge and develop intelligence they would not possibly be thinking with their amazing well developed brain that the brain inside their head is made from "different food items, water and air that you have consumed" alone.

You obviously didn't think deep enough to clearly grasp the fact I stated. (Or perhaps you simply lack the faculty to think at a level required for a proper comprehension of the fact!).
In any case, let me try to use a simpler analogy to help you get my point: I'm sure you are aware of the range of amazing, mind-blowing functions that a computer/laptop can perform. But when you think about it carefully, you will realize that the amazing laptop is simply a product of diverse materials/elements that are not really amazing themselves (like a laptop is) but which have been intelligently combined to produce something that is highly sophisticated.
Similarly, a human being (and every other living thing) is "built" through the various materials (food, water, air) that he consumes. You didn't start life as a human being. There were eggs in your mother's womb, one of the eggs got fertilized and became a foetus you. The foetus only developed as a result of getting nutrients from the mother (which was obtained from the food the mother ate!).
Eventually when you were born as a human being, you grew and developed from accumulating nutrients from the food you ate, water you drank and air you breathed. Essentially, it is garri, amala, water, air etc that became you (THIS IS UNARGUABLY THE FACT!).

good for him

What is the purpose of this "news"?

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

Sex is not necessary in a relationship. However, you have to understand that MOST men will find it quite hard to do without sex in a relationship. A man naturally and normally has a strong sexual urge that is difficult to control. In fact, it is in seeking to satisfy this sexual urge that most men go into relationships in the first place. It takes a strong determination and self-discipline/self-control for a guy to not engage in premarital sex.

Heartbrokengirl:
I have always hated the idea of dating married people, but here I am...the ex-girlfriend of a married man.

It started sometime during the lockdown, I went somewhere to get groceries and ran into this man. Let’s call him Mr X. His smile and sense of humour was the attraction. He was putting on a nice senator material and when I stood for us to leave, he towered above me. I am a 6ft tall lady and ladies with my height can tell the happiness when you meet a taller man.

We started chatting regularly and we were in a competition to give ourselves treats. On our second date which I initiated, I asked his age and he replied 36, he asked mine and I told him. He expressed his doubts and I showed him my drivers license. Started asking many questions about my background and I answered all of them. I asked about him too, including his marital status.

I had just gotten out of a relationship, his father said he wouldn’t marry outside the Catholic church and he started drifting, I had to let him go. It was tough for me, but after months of keeping to myself, my friend encouraged me to go on dates and give another man a chance. I decided to give Mr X a chance.

It was beautiful. We were in a competition to please ourselves, take ourselves out and we both had a healthy sense of humour...chatting was fun!!! Everywhere we went, people stared. We were all over ourselves even in public and till date I wonder how he pulled that off.

One day his office had a party and he asked if I could come, I said yes. Got there and the guys were looking at me with lust, the ladies were looking at me with pity. He said the ladies were jealous of my looks and some of them have been crushing on him. If you see him and see me, you’ll understand why this explanation made little sense.

After the party that day, it was late to go back to my house and his house was farther, so we decided to book a hotel around. That night was our most intimate night. We kissed, he gave me leg massages, a head and said he is ready when I am ready. I was blown away. Could this be real?

I always noticed he would be lost in thoughts whenever we are together and blame it on work. Other times he will start feeling sick and I would have to close earlier to go give him food and drugs. This became a regular occurence until one day…

He had fallen sick as usual. I made him promise to take pain relievers and we should consider going to the hospital. He didn’t do this and I had to make out time within the week to go check on him. He said it is because he was missing me, how sweet!

He didn’t get better, it was obvious something was bothering him. I decided I will take him for lunch so we can talk about it, but he couldn’t wait. That night he said he has something to tell me, he kept apologizing but still couldn’t say it. He asked if he could send a voice note and I told him to go ahead.

At about 3mins into the voice note, I felt my world crumbling. He told me he was married and has been married for almost 10years with kids. His family was not in the country, that is why I never saw traces of them. He said he had been battling with the guilt and was scared to tell me because some other girl left when she found out and the last was with him for money. He knew I would leave and was scared, his best friend told him to give it time, another told him to ghost me but I have been good to him and his conscience won’t let him. Other friends said he should never mention it to me.


When my friend saw him, she told me he was going to hurt me. I asked her how and she said I was too innocent for him. She didn’t say further not to be termed hater, but since he made me happy again...she wished me well.

I kept replaying the audio while he kept asking me to say something. I wondered if he treated his wife the way he treated me. He was such a gentleman. Held my hands when I had to walk in heels, opened the car door for me, checked on me at work, gave me handmade customized gifts...he made them himself. He said his wife is bad and he wants divorce her, lolz. I told him they all say that. I told him how much he has hurt me, but I forgive him and appreciate him telling me when he did.

It has been almost 3months but the pain lingers. I know I will be fine…

Going by a few details you revealed in the narration, the following are my observations:
*I think you fell in love (or perhaps, got infatuated) with the guy too easily/quickly and also showed the love too innocently. (Please note that there is some advantage/benefit in a girl playing too hard to get. So many guys out there are only interested in chopping and going. The urge for sex (usually very strong) is mainly what most guys consciously or subconsciously seek to satisfy when they go into relationships (don't blame us for this; blame nature).
*Your love or infatuation for the guy probably prevented you from taking some red flags/warnings seriously or even made you ignore them altogether.
*The guy truly loved you and cared about you. Seeing that you are a good girl (and the guy most likely being reasonably good himself), he couldn't keep hiding his marital status from you anymore (because of guilty conscience). He took a risk by confessing the truth; he had hoped that you will not leave him because of such truth (probably based on his perception of your love for him). However, I doubt if he really planned to marry you. He just liked you a lot and wanted the relationship to continue while keeping his conscience clear.

My advice for you concerning your future relationship(s) would be this: Do your best to ascertain that any guy you are involved with is who/what he claims to be in ALL areas. Love is good, but do not allow it to hinder you from finding out every truth/fact that matters about your partner so as to prevent avoidable regrets.

[quote author=Anselem9 post=96899001][/quote] What's wrong with the solution?

Anselem9:
We have 3 doctors A B C and 3 madmen X Y Z

The plan is for the doctors to take the madmen from Asaba to Warri via a boat.
All the 3 doctors can drive the boat.only one mad man can drive the boat.
The boat cannot carry more than 2 people per journey.
Anytime the number of madmen is greater than doctors(whether on boat or land),the doctors will be killed.
There is no limit to the number of times the journey can be made to and fro.

How will the doctors transport the madmen to Warri?

Just saw this now!
Taking Z as the madman that can drive the boat.
Trip 1: A takes X to warri. X stays, A brings the boat back to Asaba.
Trip 2: Z takes Y to warri. Y stays with X, Z brings the boat back.
Trip 3: A and B go to Warri. A stays with X, while B takes Y with him back to Asaba.
Trip 4: B and Z go to Warri. Z stays with A, B takes X back to Asaba.
Trip 5: B and C go to Warri. B and C stay with A, Z takes the boat back to Asaba.
Trip 6: Z takes X to Warri. X stays with A, B and C, while Z goes back to Asaba.
Trip 7. Z takes Y to Warri. Everyone is now at Warri. Journey completed.

Please, I will be expecting something after verifying my answer. Thanks.
Polaris bank; 2020 274 729

Aileexa1:
We should start doing it in Nigeria, after five years, no marriage, you go court.
It will save a lot of heartaches

This is a good idea. Are you married, still dating or searching?

Cocao:
I still have at least 23 hours everyday

Which area do you live?

adeolaSexy:
we get at least 18hrs of light in a day here on the island.

Please can I come to stay in your house for some weeks?

Unclesamo:

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says someone that does not believe in the coming of Christ.
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legit Scammer.
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ur prvx posts

Yes, I do not believe in the "coming of Christ" (and many other such religious dogmas!), but I'm really interested in following this shilo program online (for the first time) so that I'll get to know what goes on there. Unfortunately, I'm financially handicapped right now to subscribe for data and I also need some change for other crucial things, which is why I'm asking those God has blessed to assist me. Is there any sin in doing that?
If you can help, I honestly do need some financial assistance (no matter how little) and I will be very grateful. My beliefs or disbeliefs shouldn't be an obstacle ( after all, we cannot all believe the same things, because we cannot see life from the same point of view). Most people born into Christian homes end up believing in Christianity, while those who happen to be born into Muslim families (for no fault of theirs) almost always end up believing that Islam is the right way.

Think about this: every part of you (including your amazing brain!) is made from different food items, water and air that you have consumed. Essentially, garri, rice, amala, oxygen etc are the ingredients/materials that have been processed into YOU! What can you make of this FACT?

Nazgul:
I'll follow them tomorrow online. I obviously can't afford to miss it.

I wish to do the same too. But data is my problem. Please let me know if you feel like helping a brother in need (in any way you can) so I do not miss my turnaround encounters. Thanks

Please I need someone who God has blessed to assist me financially (nothing is too small) so that I can be able to get enough data to follow this program online and also meet other pressing needs. I will be very grateful. Polaris bank; 2020 274 729

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this is unbelievable!

pocohantas:
When I taught, even science students offered Commerce.

Some teachers are just so aggressive. Students are a handful, but when they warm up to you, it makes your work 80% easier.




No jokes. The guys in Science class especially started offering Commerce. They took tests, but didn’t take exams. I had days I flogged them, most times I gave them silent treatment.

What "attracted" the science students to your commerce class?

Grovemaster:


It's a choice and it's left for you to take it or not and not to be abusing him like that..we're all here now but in no distance time lots of us wont be here,just think abt it.

The fact that we won't be here again sooner or later doesn't mean there's somewhere out of this world we are going. The idea that there's someplace beyond this world for us to go to after death to suffer or enjoy is an illusion. This is what you should think about.

therajah:

May God have mercy on you and i pray you realize the truth before its too late.

What's the truth? That's actually what I'm seeking.
Right now, there are different kinds of completely false ideas that are presented as facts or truth.

stagger:


No man comes to God the Father without Jesus Christ. He is not a messenger.

Some of you need to know that name in very clear terms via revelation.

Only a person who is weak in reasoning will believe this nonsense!
Even according to your Bible, many people had relationship with God thousands of years before Jesus came into the world.
The problem with most of you religious folks is that you don't think, you just believe what you're told blindly.

hmm

ok

noted