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She did wrong, but why will a man also leave his wife and children to fend for themselves to the extent they are thrown out of their house due to non payment of rent. It must mean they owed for a few months and he didn't do anything to help. I wouldn't be surprised if the guy hasn't abandoned her and the children.

Olunmercy56:
truth to be told, how could a married woman be sleeping with another man? Because of lack of accommodation? I understand her but what is bad is not good, why not somewhere else or beg for help. it's not the end of the world. Now hidden secret is out, how would the husband feel now?

The team will be affected in the interim as the freeze may prevent the sale, and the club has been banned from selling tickets, buying players etc. How long this situation goes on for will determine if the impact will be short, medium or long term.

1stGenAmerican:
An individual who happens to be an oligarch. If yachts and homes owned by oligarchs are being seized then a football club is fair game.

The team won’t be affected by the shift in ownership.

I disagree, this is the right approach. If soldiers are needed it should come from NATO and European countries with the US supporting not the US leading.

The US just spent 20 years in Afghanistan with nothing to show for it, and in 5 or 10 years time no one will remember it Putin that invaded, the narrative will be why did the US go to Ukraine

Russia is a bigger threat to European nations so they should commit and lead and the US support. Even Germany was refusing to criticize until recently trying to placate Putin due to dependence on gas. Didn't the US tell them not to go ahead with Nord Stream 2 a few years ago and they ignored and went ahead with Russia increasing the risk and dependence on Russia and Putin?

Also claiming Kiev will win Russia is delusional, why didn't they take back Crimea that Putin took a few years ago? Why are they so dependent on US and NATO for defense if they are able to beat Russia by themselves as you claim? They can't even fund their military without US aid.

BigTableShaker:
Naso o..

America is a loser.

If Kiev fight with their last blood, then they'll win the monster called Russia

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I'm not sure how you reached the conclusion that most home owners are white and racist, millions and millions use Airbnb every year. This approach of only looking for Nigerians or doing things with Nigerians limits your options and also mitigates the benefits of travelling which is to expose you to other ways of doing things.

I know Nigerians who will travel on "holiday" and just sit in some Nigerian friend or family members house, will not venture anywhere on their own unless the friend takes them. Look on Airbnb, read peoples reviews etc. and pick a place that works. Most of the time you don't even have to meet or see the owner as its all via the app and they send you codes to get the keys or enter the place.

You can also check VRBO, it's a competitor to Airbnb.

bimmyd2000:
Hello Nairalanders, apart from staying in hotels or air bnb's in the US for holidays, duration of 2 weeks to 1-2 months what other alternatives do one have for a good accomodation that can still afford you to cook and all. Do Nigerians in the States let out their apartments or room for shortlets? Does anyone here have good or bad ecperiencea about these and how good is air bnb especially since you are black and most of the home owners are whites (racism) factors. Comments, advises, personal experiences and suggestions are welcome.

If she lives abroad which I think she does, then it's relatively easier to pay for such trips compared to Nigeria where its more for the rich.

You may have to prioritize and give up some things such as buying expensive clothes etc. based on what's important to you. For example a teenager in the UK can work over the summer break and save enough to pay for a trip. Obviously the teenager will be living at home so not paying rent etc. but still the average teenager in Nigeria cannot save up over summer break from school to fund such a trip, it will have to be funded by his/her rich parents.

solochris:
I just feel like repeating this same question asked sometime ago, "who is bankrolling this trip"? But I have decided not to ask again

The brother did him real bad. If the brother was suspended for posting then the message is the crime here is that he posted it but the actual abuse is fine but I get the club will want to prioritize games.

Hope it doesn’t backfire on them in these days of wokeness.

charlsecy:
His brother did the filming and posting. I heard the brother has been suspended by his club.

Not necessarily, an example is this woman who is white was videoed kicking her horse and she was hounded till she was sacked and I believe arrested so it's not because he is black.

He was really stupid in my opinion. He lives in the UK and so must how passionate they are about pets and he not only kicked the cat but posted the video to social media. What was he expecting? Praise and support?

https://news.sky.com/story/primary-school-teacher-sacked-over-video-of-woman-kicking-and-punching-a-horse-12501125

NaijaRoyalty:
This issue is over flogged because a black man is involved

You raise good points. Goodluck with your search, seems you dodged a bullet with her.

OlujobaSamuel:
Tracing people in the Nigeria informal sector is so tedious and expensive. Asking where a potential employee that I will entrust with money lives or seeking for clarification over a red flag noticed while discussing with her is not wrong.
I once had to fill my spouse details in securing a credit facility from a bank. The name of my Church (specific assembly I worshipped) was also requested for.
In countries you are referring to, there are ways to easily get people's background check without having to ask in person.

While I agree that she doesn't sound ready or a good fit, many of the questions you asked are illegal in other countries and will get you in trouble for discrimination.

Where do you live? what street? are you married? etc. is none of your business. Having said that she also doesn't sound like someone you want to hire so good call.

OlujobaSamuel:
I asked personal questions that I felt are relevant to her ability to perform her tasks while working for me.
I want to believe you are referring to the marriage part of the discussion.
I noticed that she was relatively very young(17-20), putting on a wedding ring and not in her husband's house (according to her, i asked where she was staying before the marriage part came in).
So if she is having her wedding ring on, it means she is still with him, then how will she cope coming to work Monday to Saturday every week without calling me one morning that she is traveling or not available.
I don't have issues with her being married, only one of the attendants working for me is single, others are married with some having kids.

If you don't buy it they will not ship it to you. Supply will ALWAYS follow demand.

shevchenko:
75 percent are from the west

Ok sir I've heard oga medical personnell

Hashabiah:
[s][/s] Oga, I'm a medical personnel and you can't tell me jack about vaccines

Ok you do, well-done for your wisdom.

Even if you say you don't agree with the vaccine asking why are they getting sick after vaccine shows your ignorance of how vaccines work even when you put covid aside.

Hashabiah:
[s][/s] You don't know what you're saying

Vaccination is not supposed to prevent you contracting covid, it is to make the symptoms less serious if you get infected same way the annual flu vaccine does not mean you can't get the flu it just means it reduces the likelihood of you getting seriously sick or dying.

Hashabiah:
This is just rubbish . Why are the vaccinated so afraid of the unvaccinated? Isn't the efficacy of the vaccine suppose to "shield " them from contracting the coronavirus? Mtchwww...the I way I see this , the stage is finally being set for the antichrist to takeover

I get your point, the reason I brought that up is that is essential to him being sponsored. Also there are residency requirements for the father to sponsor him as an immediate relative so if his father moved back to Nigeria five years ago that may be a stumbling block.

The point about being married to his mother or not is also relevant as there will be extra steps required to prove he is his father (proof of legitimization) if out of wedlock as opposed to just submitting a birth and marriage certificate.

Yes I agree he doesn't need to share details here on a public forum, he should go check the requirements for sponsorship to see if he can meet them, and as you said he needs to try to get his father's support.

BigDawsNet:
Relationship with his father is a different thing entirely... We shouldn't really interfere...

Our only advice he asked was how to get the citizenship...

Right now I will advice him to talk to his dad and they can start an immigrant visa process for him ....
I hope and pray his Dad go along with the plan so he can migrate and start a life for himself and his future family

Thanks I didn't see the age 27. I did ask if his dad was a citizen before or after he was born and he said before, but if as you say he is 27 and his father has been a citizen for 20 years then you are right he has to go through the green card route.

This all depends on the relationship he has with his father as he will have to file for him as an immediate relative. I have not seen any indication form his posts that he is in touch with or in good relation with his father if the guy has been a citizen for 20 years and not made any attempt to get him over.

BigDawsNet:
He said his 27
His dad hav been in the US for 20years

I'm not sure but we don't know if his dad got citizenship at 7th year of his arrival in the US...

Let say his dad got citizenship at 10year of arrival in the US...

The dude haz been born already...

All dis would not be necessary if his Dad was a US citizen by birth...but it sounds more like a cititzen by neutralization...

My advice for the guy is to follow the Greencard route...

With his Greencard... In less than 3 years ..he can secure a passport

I think he is eligible for direct citizenship through derivation rather than green card. It would be green card if his dad became a US citizen after he was born not before.

Either way he needs to get documents like his birth corticate, marriage certificate of his parents, proof of his dad's US citizenship etc. and reach out to the embassy for more guidance

BigDawsNet:
The children of a U.S. citizen born abroad can be considered as an "immediate relatives," and therefore eligible for a green card, allowing them to live and work in the United States....

Based on that I think you may either be a US citizen already based on derivation or you may be eligible for citizenship.

I could not find the relevant page for the US embassy in Nigeria, but this should apply in Nigeria as well. You will need to contact the US embassy to confirm:
https://mh.usembassy.gov/u-s-citizen-services/derivative-u-s-citizenship-for-adults/

This site also provides more information on the different nuances and laws that apply based on when you were born, when you turned 18 etc. e.g. If you were 18 years old or younger on or after February 27, 2001 you may actually already be a citizen and will just need to prove you are yourself and other documents to confirm he is your father etc. and you can apply for a passport. Or there may be other steps required depending on which law is applicable based on your age etc.
https://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/acquiring-deriving-citizenship-through-parents

I assume you are in good standing with your dad as you will need his support to prove your relationship. Given he was married to your mom I think it should be easy to do if you have the relevant marriage and birth certificates.

You will also need to be able to prove your dads citizenship so he will need to provide copies of his US passport etc. hence why I asked if you were in good standing with him.

Again I can't find the version for the US embassy in Nigeria but I expect it to be similar aside possibly a few differences but it gives you an idea of the types of documents you will need:
https://d2v9ipibika81v.cloudfront.net/uploads/sites/82/CITIZENSHIP-Derivative-Adult-Checklist-FINAL-JAN2020.pdf

Tbvxl:
Yeah he was already a citizen before I was born.

It depends on when the father became a citizen because he said the firs wife gave birth in the US and his mother is the second wife which suggest the father was already a citizen by the time he was born which would make him a citizen at birth.

otipoju:
Google is your best friend. And you can call the us embassy to ask.

Your dad as a citizen will have to apply for a green card for you. You are not a citizen automatically since you were not born there and he became one by naturalization. He would need to sponsor your green card as an Alien Relative.

https://www.immigrationdirect.com/immigration-articles/us-citizens-parent-sponsoring-child-over-21/

Was your dad a US citizen when you were born or did he become a US citizen after you were born?

If before then yes you might be a citizen, if not then no you will not be a citizen but he may be able to file for you depending on how old you are though it s a fairly long process.

Tbvxl:
Yes! My dad has two wives , but the first wife had all her children in USA and my mum who's the second wife gave birth to me here. Now my mum is no more , but my dad being an American citizen,does that make me one?
I'm currently in my finals getting ready to go for Nysc. My question is him being a citizen, will that give me an advantage of making it easier for me when applying for an American visa? Like would I be given a passport instantly? .
Ps: He is in Nigeria for over 5yrs now and my sisters are over there married and doing fine.
Please enlighten me

So classy and mature, I love this response.

TheSeventeenth:
I don't think he was asking for a toddler's opinion. He has one already.

Chief stop looking at it based on naira and Nigeria, that is minimum wage and her expenses will in CAD not naira.

Anyway I think the OP was shortsighted for moving to the factory jump. the customer care job will have more opportunities for advancement and is less strenuous on the body.

uchaymart:
OP $15 per hour as salary suppose motivate you oo. Malo go oo. Naija don stiff oo. Things hard die

$15 * 12= $180 per day

$180 * 20days=$3,600
$3,600 * #530===#1,908,000

You nailed it with the bolded, they do not have the same hunger as someone who just came from India or Nigeria who is ready to hussle, and tbh I don't blame them since they have a different perspective to life.

According to the hierarchy of needs, when the lower needs like food, water, safety etc. are available then we start to focus on higher needs like self actualization, that is why you will see them decide to take a year off to travel even if means using up all their savings, the experience is worth it to them. That is why they will turn down higher paying jobs for work life balance etc.

Bluetherapy:
Indians nah bandwagon and access to privileged information dey make them seem like Genius.

Someone mentioned a guy solving Java problem without coding Java before! Are you sure he didn't have OOP knowledge from other programming languages? Are you sure he didn't get expo already from senior colleagues?

I happened to have studied with couple of them and I'm yet to meet that genius Indian. Yes they do have access to information and massive support from their community and that's what distinguishes them, plus the excessive competitiveness. Who no go seem like a genius when you know the script or get access to past questions?. Remove the access to privileged information and you will see the true Indian. Don't forget these Indians sef dey hustle student jobs pass some Africans oh while studying.

Last I checked, Indians didn't invent many of the technology we are benefiting from. Just that the younger generations in the western world no get plenty motivation to study to become a Genius.

That's my experience so far and I think as a Nigerians or any nationality, we can always replicate whatever they are doing. It's all about what's motivating you and gives you assurance that what you're studying is worth it.

The reason for the education standards in Nigeria getting poorer by the day isn't farfetched from many things affecting it. At least it wasn't so during the times of our fathers or grandparents. I can count the countless number of times I read with lantern. Abi how will I learn to code like a Genuis when NEPA dey bring light when I suppose dey sleep or data no dey to search the web? Do the vast majority of Indians live in darkness? Them no get access to better internet than Nigeria?

About Nigerians not helping Nigerians abroad. Let's face the fact, we are losing/ have lost our family values thanks to lack of trust and too much juju. How many people mentioning the fact that other Nigerians didn't help them have helped their immediate family members first? So why expect something from a stranger when you can't even help your extended cousins because of one reasons or the others. Yes Nigerians don't help nigerians abroad e dey why. No be same Nigerians dey set their family members or friends up with shady deals and placing cocaine in the luggage of someone that's trying to help them transport it. Or sabotaging people trying to help them.

I am sure we have all heard or know stories of siblings bringing eachother to abroad and things go South through taking eachother businesses and properties? So why are speaking like we lost our values overnight?

All the Nigerians don't help Nigerians gang, if I message you to help me deliver something to my people in Nigeria will you? How many people fit bring that their uncle pikin? No be then we go remember say the man sef no be better person, hin no be Christian, hin no be dis and dat . Story and fake promises go dey come. Nah to use sense do everything. Heck, no be this same Nigerian some parents no want success for their pikin?

About speaking phoney. English no be our papa and mama language afterall. Why not speak so that people wey get the language go understand us and avoid speaking twice. If you no try speak in a tone they understand, mah your loss oh. Many people have complained about not understanding foreign colleagues to me. They often have to say yes to them or have to politely ask them to come again. These people no like anything wey go stress them and it doesn't cost anything to pronounce things the right way for once. Instead of pronouncing them with hindi, ijebu, Anambra or Kaduna accent

In conclusion, let's look inwards and see where we sef no dey perfect and how make changes beginning from our immediate family. Charity begins at home not on Nairaland. If we all truly help our family members I don't think we will be on Nairaland but we know he no dey possible for many things.

Interesting perspective that food/groceries is more than rent. It's usually the other way round with rent/mortgage being the highest monthly expense by far especially as you may need a bigger house for a family of 5.

grafixdon:
Location - Lagos, Nigeria ��
1. House Rent = N30,000 monthly
2. Food/groceries = N120,000 (family of 5)
3. Internet = N12,000
4. Car Gas = N20,000 (2008 Sienna)
5. Kid’s School = N55,000 per kid (3 kids)
6. Miscellaneous = not consistent, sometime N10,000 other time N200, 000 or above


Total =

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Very judgemental for something that was a prank.

funshint:
That's how they generate diseases we've not heard before. See them battling covid with their lifes; then now this. Oyibos are full of mumu people!

https://www.nationalworld.com/news/offbeat/was-a-woman-breastfeeding-a-cat-on-a-plane-viral-tiktok-video-explained-and-is-it-real-3503736

https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPd6LNDGK/

There were multiple parts to the Tik tok video and this is the part where you see that it’s either a stuffed toy cat. I wouldn’t be surprised that the guy who was reporting is in on it, in summary don’t believe everything you see on the internet.

seguno2:
Can you please send the link here. Thanks

The pill does not replace the need for vaccines same as having pills to help when you have the flu doesn’t negate the need to prevent falling sick in the first place with flu shots.

taretoofine:
It's a good one
So they should scrap that vaccine thing

The way people spread false news is alarming.

She is a YouTuber and prankster and it was not a real cat. Look for the full video on YouTube.

funshint:
That's how they generate diseases we've not heard before. See them battling covid with their lifes; then now this. Oyibos are full of mumu people!

If Nigerians are willing and the government able to vaccinate people the short shelf life should not be an issue given there should be enough demand to use it up quickly.

If you look at when vaccines first came available eg in the US there were long lines to get their shots so short shelf life would not be an issue at all as it was used up very quickly.

adedayoa2:
unwillingness of Nigerians, short shelf life of the vaccine.

This sounds more like unwillingness of Nigerians to take the vaccine though it may also be the government did not do a good job distributing it.

Xscape1993:
Nothing surprises me in this government anymore.