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Togolese President, Faure Gnassingbé Photo: AFP
Togo ’s parliament has voted a constitutional change allowing President Faure Gnassingbe, whose family has ruled the small West African country since 1967, to run two more terms and potentially remain in power until 2030 .
In 2005 , Gnassingbe succeeded his father , General Gnassingbe Eyadema , who seized power in a coup more than 50 years ago and ruled with an iron fist till his death.
All 90 lawmakers present voted late Wednesday to approve the change . One other lawmaker was absent .
The new law now caps presidents to serving two terms, but also means Gnassingbe can stand for the next two elections , in 2020 and 2025 , as it does not apply retroactively .
“The President of the Republic is elected by universal suffrage… for a term of five years , renewable once ,” the new text of the constitution read , which also made the presidential election a two-round race .
Gnassingbe’s party hold two- thirds of the seats in parliament, but other parties are also close to the president . The main opposition boycotted elections last year .
In Togo , constitutional changes are adopted if four -fifths of lawmakers – 73 or more — vote for it.
Lawmakers also changed the rules for their own mandate , meaning they can now hold their seats for two terms of six years each.
Before, they had a mandate of five years but with an unlimited number of terms.
The opposition opposed the reforms, and last year , demonstrators demanded Gnassingbe step down during dozens of marches .
But the 14 -party opposition coalition refused to take part in December elections , condemning the playing field as skewed , leaving parliament in the hands of Gnassingbe’s party.
Togo becomes the latest in several African nations to change the constitution to extend presidential terms .
Separately , Togo ’s government on Thursday also announced that local council elections will be held on June 30 , the first time elections for the 1 ,527 positions have been held since 1987 .
The mayoral post is appointed directly by the national president.
( AFP )

Umahi rattled as Ebonyi Perm Sec hopefuls fail to recite national anthem
Published May 8, 2019

Governor of Ebonyi State David Umahi
Governor David Umahi of Ebonyi was rattled when several permanent secretary hopefuls in the state failed to recite the national anthem , even as they had no clear idea of the states and their capitals , among other questions they were asked in an interview session on Tuesday .
The News Agency of Nigeria reports that the oral interview, which came after a written test , was supervised by Umahi and his deputy Mr . Kelechi Igwe , who was the chairman of the interview committee .
The interview session was televised live by the state ’s television network and watched by hundreds of people across the state and beyond.
Two of the permanent secretary hopefuls , who are top civil servants , failed to recite the national anthem , while another two could not recite the states in Nigeria and their capitals.
A particular candidate said that the capital of Kwara is Kwara and that capital of Lagos is Lagos ; while another said that the Anambra capital is Anambra .
An amused Umahi jokingly told one of the interviewees to ask her children at home to teach her how to recite the states and their capitals .
The governor noted that two persons each from the 13 Local Government Areas of the state were selected , making them 26 , including three serving permanent secretaries .
“The appointment of new permanent secretaries will be based on their performance in the exercise , as my administration is poised to reform the state ’s civil service .
He noted that only intelligent and resourceful candidates would be selected to assist in re - positioning the civil service .
NAN reports that the candidates , numbering 40 , were given 42 questions to answer five each; and were expected to score not less than 60 per cent .
The Ebonyi civil service had been run without permanent secretaries since the inception of the Umahi administration and the development had elicited diverse speculations , especially from opposition parties in the state .
( NAN )

Part of being a twenty-something means having engagement announcements pop up on your newsfeed constantly. Once you’re a year or two out of college, engagements happen so often that it becomes a normal part of your day to scroll through your social networks and see who’s the latest to put a ring on it. And although we’re now at an age we’re marriage is becoming more normal, it’s still extremely intimidating. Weddings and marriage used to seem like a fun and whimsical topic when I was 18 and it all felt so far off. And even though I know that I do want to get married eventually, it’s become a little more terrifying now that I feel like it’s all around me all the time. Here are 15 reasons why I’m scared to get married someday.

1. I won’t look the way I look now in 30 years. Or even 20. Or even 10. And neither will my future husband. The person you marry today won’t be the person you’re married to years down the line – physically or mentally or emotionally. Marriage is a gamble. You’re gambling that your love for the person you marry will grow and adapt as your partner grows and adapts. It’s up to you how to handle the change, but it’s still scary nonetheless.

2. I only want to do this once. I understand that divorce is part of reality, and that plenty of people have no other choice, and that sometimes, it’s a necessary part of life. But I want to do everything I can to avoid any possibility of that. I want to be with one person for my whole life. But there’s no guarantee. You can do everything in your power to work on your marriage and make sure it lasts, but there’s no Magic 8 ball that can tell you whether or not your marriage will make it. You just have to take a leap of faith.

3. I can see how easy it can be to get caught up in the excitement of planning a wedding. Weddings are beautiful and happy and loving occasions. I love going to them and I love how they leave you feeling hopeful – like there’s still lots of joy out in the world. But I can see how they can be dangerous. How you can be so caught up in the idea of a perfect wedding and of having the perfect dress and pictures and venue and everything else. I’m sure it can be a slippery slope in terms of becoming obsessed and letting the wedding consume you. I don’t want to get caught up in all of that and forget why I’m doing it in the first place – to celebrate my lifelong commitment to someone else.

4. You have to be selfless. And that’s really, really hard. It’s easy to say the words and remind yourself of them all the time: “Be selfless. Put the other person first. Make it a team effort, not an individual effort.” But actually putting those words into action is the hard part. I understand the concept that marriage means sacrifice. But it scares me to know there are things I’m going to have to do that I won’t want to do, in order to make my marriage work. I know that may mean moving to a new place, or putting his career in front of my own sometimes. Because he’s going to have to do the same for me. I realize that if I’m going to expect him to make adjustments to put me first, I will have to do the same. But knowing that doesn’t make it any easier.

5. You will, at times, have to carry a burden that is not your own. And I worry about how I’ll handle that. Marriage is always about give and take. It’s about balance and sharing the challenges and working together. Sometimes one person is weak and the other person will have to be the one to carry all the strain, and vice versa. I know that when I’m going through something, my future husband will be there to help me carry the load. And I know that when he’s under stress, I will want to do everything I can to help him. I just sometimes worry that my strength will be inadequate.

6. I’m already having trouble figuring out my own career, and my own life. And I know that marriage means handling all that, as well as the life of someone else. Not to mention kids, if you’re eventually going to have them. Sometimes I feel so confused and uncertain about who I am and what I’m doing, that I feel completely overwhelmed and paralyzed. The idea of handling all that while trying to build a new life with someone else is a lot to think about.

7. It’s going to be a challenge every single day. I want it so badly to work, and I know that in the really tough moments, I’m going to have to fight through it instead of giving up. I’ll have to admit when I’m wrong, and hold my ground when I truly believe I’m right. I have to find the right balance of being strong and holding my own, while simultaneously putting another person first and doing everything I can to support them. You can read as many books as you want, but there’s no specific answer key for your marriage. Everybody’s is different. I know the only way to learn how to make it work is just to do it. Ergo, I am scared shitless.

8. I treasure my independence. And I know you can still be independent when you get married. But it’s a very fine and difficult balance to keep, and you have to work at it every day. I think some of the strongest marriages are the ones where both people maintain their independence while still working on a strong partnership, but I worry about how difficult it will be to keep my own life while forming a new one with someone else.

9. I’ve seen what it takes to have a good marriage. I’ve been lucky enough to have an incredible example of a strong marriage from my parents, but it still looks harder than anything else I could imagine. Their relationship is so solid and strong and incredible. But I’ve seen them both make some really, really tough sacrifices for each other in order to get it that way. They had to make a lot of decisions that weren’t easy. They were no-brainers of course, but that doesn’t mean they were easy.

10. I’ve also seen some really rough marriages. Some from people I’m related to. Some from my friends’ parents. And, of course, the celebrity marriages that are reported on incessantly, that we can’t seem to stop reading about. I’ve seen how a marriage can destroy a person, and take everything out of them. I’ve watched people turn miserable and hopeless. I’ve seen people become shells of themselves. You always think “that won’t be me” but it’s still hard knowing that it’s a possibility and it happens to real people.

11. I want my marriage to be the main priority in my life someday, but I don’t want it to be my life. There are so many things I want to be besides a wife, and I know that I’m going to have to work very hard to make sure those things happen. I know that the only way to make a marriage work is to make sure I don’t get distracted by petty things – money and success and my home and my social status and everything all need to take a backseat to my partner. But it’s also important to me to make sure that in addition to being a wife, I’m a lot of other things: a daughter, a sister, maybe a mom, a friend, a coworker, maybe a boss, a role model, and a lot of other things that contribute to my sense of self.

12. Getting comfortable with someone can be wonderful, but also very, very scary. They know everything about you. The passion is still there, but it doesn’t feel like this all-consuming, head-over-heels, can-barely-breathe-or-think kind of love. It’s more of a solid, dependable, deep, genuine kind of love. Which I know I want. But still, it’s scary to know that once you get married, you will never experience that falling-in-love-with-someone-new thing ever again
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13. It’s not my story anymore. It’s our story. Which, in many ways, is exactly what I want. But after twenty-something years of telling my story, it’s an intimidating thought to know that someone else is going to be a part of it for the rest of my life.

14. I don’t want to screw it up. And when it comes to marriage, there is an abundance of ways you can screw it up.

15. I have to trust someone. I have to count on someone. And they have to count on me. I have to love them at their worst and they have to love me at my worst. We have to stick by each other when things are ugly instead of romantic. We have to trust that we can rely on one another through anything. Which is at once everything I want and simultaneously the scariest thing in the world.

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Hello guys I would be 24 in August. I really want to further my education more. I got my National Diploma in 2016 with Lower credit but I went to hustle instead of furthering more. Now I don't want to go to polytechnic, I want get my degree.

My plan is to go for Msc abroad after getting my degree. I am contemplating on 3 options now.

1. thinking of going to private university in Benin Rep (it's an accredited uni) because of their fast programme.

2. Or do DE to a university in Nigeria.

3. Or forget about getting degree..

Can I go for Masters in America or Europe with a Benin Rep degree? And which university can I go for DE with Lower credit in Nigeria (even a private uni?). Please I am getting depressed on this, I am regretting my late decision but I am the one sponsoring myself so hustle first.
Please I need a serious advice, this is my future..
Am I too old for all these?

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Options

Even after the surgery, Nkechi’s desire to have a child became stronger than ever, but it was obvious she required assistance to achieve that.
One of her close friends referred them to a fertility clinic in Lagos Island.
At the clinic, the couple was presented with alternative options to natural conception.
One of these options was In-vitro Fertilization (IVF) surrogacy – when another woman carries and gives birth to a baby for a couple that cannot have a child on their own because there is an issue with the woman.
The specialists at the clinic carefully explained the details including the pros and cons of surrogacy. After thorough explanation, Nkechi and Emeka settled for this “wonderful sounding surrogacy”. They liked the idea that money would not exchange hands apart from money needed to take care of the woman while carrying the baby. They were also satisfied thatthe intending surrogate had to be a married woman of their own choice that must have delivered a child herself.

‘Rent’ a womb

They were particularly encouraged because Nkechi had an aunt who fitted the role perfectly. Excitedly, they invited the aunt over and Nkechi burst into tears of joy when she agreed to ‘rent’ out her womb to the desperate couple. They wereoverjoyed to have someone willing to do it for them.
All the necessary tests were conducted even to ensure that the ‘rented’ womb and Nkechi’s cycle were compatible. After several tests, Nkechi’s eggs were collected and her husband’s sperms also collected and both fertilised through the IVF process.
After a few days, healthy embryos developed and two were implanted into her aunt’s womb. About three weeks later, a pregnancy test was done and it was positive. Nkechi’s aunt had a very stable pregnancy and, nine months later, a healthy baby girl was born. Nkechi was a mother!

Disorders

Janet Audu had a more complicated situation. The 25- year- old school teacher had lost her uterus from recommended hysterectomy due to obstetric disorders during her previous pregnancy. Her only option then to save her life was to remove the uterus. In the process of weighing options presented to her, it was discovered that she had ovarian cancer. Her world came crashing with this latest development.
However, her husband had healthy sperms and doctors explained there is viable solution only that they must have an open mind about the whole process.
Desperate to have their own child, they agreed to abide by the doctor’s advice. Surrogacy was recommended and they heartily embraced it after the doctor’s explanation.
Janet was now faced with providing an egg donor, and another person to provide the womb. Ethically it is not right for a donor to provide both eggs and womb. Luckily for Janet, her 46-year-old mother was still quite healthy.

Her mother was willing to serve as a surrogate uterus while her friend volunteered to donate her eggs. The mothers’menstrual cycles were synchronized with birth control pills so that day one of the mother occurred simultaneously with day one of her friend’s cycles.

Then the friend’s eggs along with her husband’s sperm were used to create two embryos in a culture dish. Both embryos were then placed in the uterus of the mother-to-be who became pregnant with her daughter’s child. Nine months later, she gave birth to her healthy grandchild whom she then immediately handed over to her daughter and son-in-law. So Janet’s mother gave birth to her own grandchild.
Nkechi and Janet have become mothers courtesy of IVF and egg donation.
Available information show that the first gestational surrogacy was in 1985 with a successful case of a woman with no uterusthatwas able to have her own genetic child.

Today, even without uterus, women looking for children can now have their own biological children, thanks to these landmarks.
According to experts, some of the medical conditions that might make surrogacy necessary for a woman include absence or malformation of the womb, recurrent pregnancy loss and repeated IVF implantation failures.

Meanwhile, Nigeria is not left out of this medical revolution. According to the Medical Director/CEO, Nordica Fertility Centre, Lagos, Abuja and Asaba, Dr. Abayomi Ajayi, whose centre carries out surrogacy, the procedure (surrogacy) is an arrangement whereby a woman agrees to carry a pregnancy for a couple. Ajayi explained that there are two types of surrogacy— natural (traditional surrogates) or IVF surrogate mother (gestational surrogate).
“Surrogacy is a situation in which a third party (woman) agrees to carry a pregnancy to term on behalf of an infertile couple. While a natural surrogate mother is genetically related to the child, apart from carrying the child, she has also gone through the procedure of insemination, with the use of her own eggs. On the other hand, an IVF surrogate is not genetically related to the child.
She carries a pregnancy created by the egg and sperm of the commissioning couple. Ideally, the surrogate should be under the age of 38 years, married or in a stable relationship. She should also preferably at least have previous live birth without complications.

The Medical Director stated that a prospective surrogate is thoroughly screened and counselled and such a person should not have medical disorders, such as diabetes or blood group incompatibilities and shouldn’t smoke, drink or abuse drugs.
He explained that the couples requiring IVF surrogacy is usually those in which the woman’s ovaries are producing good quality eggs, but her womb has been damaged or surgically removed. This can occur in stances whereby a woman had uterine cancer, severe haemorrhage for some reasons, or a ruptured womb from previous pregnancy.

Sometimes women who suffer medical problems such as severe diabetes, heart and kidney diseases put themselves at risk if they were to carry a pregnancy to term. But for others, surrogacy may be indicated because there is history of repeated miscarriage, due to some immunological incompatibilities i.e. Rhesus blood group incompatibility between mother and foetus. He said the success rates for traditional surrogacy are approximately 10-20 per cent per cycle if intrauterine insemination is done but with IVF, the chances depend on the age of the surrogate.

The fertility expert noted that due to some complications and the fact that the baby will have DNA of the surrogate when the surrogate’s eggs are used added that people now prefer IVF surrogacy.
“Surrogacy can be recommended to a woman who does not have a uterus or lost it from child birth. Also surrogacy can be an option for women that had badly performed fibroid removal, repeated abortions, including medical conditions such as severe hypertension and heart disease”.

On whether the baby could get attached to the surrogate, Ajayi said: “If the arrangement is well done it is not likely to happen and when it happens the court may be the last option because there must be a surrogacy contract before the process. She cannot return to say she wants to have the baby back. We just had one delivered recently.

“For IVF surrogacy, live birth rates are in the range of 35-40 per cent per cycle. “Surrogacy is a treatment of last resort in most places all over the world this is much more so in our environment. Proper legal and medical precautions should be taken at every step of the process.”

Who needs it?

Surrogacy may be appropriate if you have a medical condition that makes it impossible or dangerous to get pregnant and to give birth.

Success rates

It is quite difficult to determine a success rates for surrogacy, as many factors are relevant, including the surrogate’s ability to get pregnant, the age of the egg donor (if involved), the success of procedures such as IUI and IVF, the quality of gamete provided by the commissioning couple.
The age of the woman who provides the egg is the most important factor that affects chances of pregnancy.

Risks

The risks associated with surrogacy depend on the type of surrogacy undertaken. Generally, the risks associated with full surrogacy are similar to those for IVF.
There is also a risk of transferring HIV and hepatitis, and so screening of everyone involved in surrogacy involving IUI is recommended, and required in surrogacy arrangements involving IVF.
If a registered donor at a licensed clinic is used, the donor will automatically be screened.

Legal issues

Surrogacy involves complicated legal issues and it is recommended that couples seek their own legal advice before making any decisions. It is important to know that surrogacy arrangements are unenforceable.
It is also advisable to receive counselling before starting the surrogacy process, to help think about all the questions involved.

‘RENT A WOMB’: Women who make babies without uterus

Time was when women without wombs died childless. Today, the story is different, thanks to advancements in medicine. There are many mothers having biological children without wombs. This is made possible courtesy of Assisted Reproductive Technology, ART.

Twenty –eight year-old Nkechi Obi is intelligent, beautiful and hardworking. She studied economics and graduated with first class honours. As a young and attractive lady, she was the dream of every man but settled for Emeka Nmeso, an engineer.
Nkechi has a younger sister, Nkiru, while Emeka is an only child. The couple are from well-to-do families. They are comfortable and live in a mansion, and are in love. They have the world at their feet and are the pride of their families.
Nkechi and Emeka were engaged few months after they met at a wedding. They soon tied the nuptial knot. Their wedding was the town for weeks. Both had agreed they were going to have many children to make up for the few their parents had.
Emeka used to joke that he would not let Nkechi rest until she bore him six children. Three by three (three boys and three girls), he used to say. Nkechi was even more adventurous. She had her mind set on eight children – five boys and three girls. She actually prayed to have a set of twins first. So they moved in as husband and wife and enthusiastically settled down to build their expected large family.
The first few months of marriage were the most enchanting of Nkechi’s life. Emeka was the perfect husband. He was romantic, caring and loving to a fault. He spoiled Nkechi with gifts and attention. He told her she was his queen and treated her like one.
After six months of conjugal bliss, Nkechi took in, but, after a few weeks, began to bleed. She was admitted into hospital and placed on permanent bed rest, but the bleeding worsened and, despite all efforts, she lost the pregnancy. She and Emeka were devasted, but that was not the end of trouble for the couple.
For no reason that she could understand, Nkechi discovered she was still bleeding after the pregnancy loss. There were times the bleeding got so bad, she felt very weak and could not leave home. She stopped going to work and was forced to stay in bed permanently, only making frequent trips to the lavatory. She returned to hospital and had to undergo surgery after being transfused a couple of times without success.
When the doctor announced the final diagnosis after series of tests and examinations, it was a bombshell. Nkechi really did not understand what the problem was, but all she could make out of the diagnosis was that her uterus had been damaged during the failed pregnancy and the only way to stop the continuous bleeding was to remove the uterus.
She consulted other specialists and went through all kinds of tests, but the same recommendation came up. Her uterus was damaged beyond repair and needed to be removed(hysterectomy).
Nkechi found it very difficult to accept that her uterus was damaged. She had been hoping so much to have children, and hadn’t done anything bad to her uterus, so how come it was so damaged? What happened, she asked continuously?
She cried and screamed and rejectedthe verdict, but her husband persuaded her after they were made to understand she could still have babies even without a womb.
After some time, she finally agreed to have the surgery done. It was successful. She became a woman without a womb.

Second-term denial: Ambode to miss out on Abuja mansion.

Governor Akinwunmi Ambode of Lagos State will be the first governor in Lagos State since 2007 to miss out on a mansion in Abuja after leaving office , SUNDAY PUNCH ’s investigation has revealed .
The Public Office Holder ( Payment of Pension) Law No 11 official Gazette of Lagos State , 2007 states that former governors of Lagos State are entitled to a house in Lagos and Abuja in any location of their choice .
However , the law adds that any governor who does not serve for two consecutive terms , will only be entitled to a house in Abuja .
Section 2 states , “One residential house each for the governor and the deputy governor at any location of their choice in Lagos State and one residential house in the Federal Capital Territory for the governor on two consecutive terms .”
Following his loss to Babajide Sanwo -Olu at the All Progressives Congress governorship primary in October, Ambode will not be returning to the Alausa Governor ’s Office on May 29 , 2019 .
The state government has built houses for former governors of the state in Lagos and Abuja in line with the law .
A house was bought for Asiwaju Bola Tinubu in Ikoyi and the Asokoro area of Abuja next to the Lagos State Governor ’s Lodge.
Although no actual figure was placed on how much the houses procured would cost , our correspondent learnt that to build or buy houses for former governors of Lagos would cost between N 500 m and N 1bn .
For instance , the construction of a “section ” of the house of the immediate past Deputy Governor , Adejoke Orelope - Adefulire , on 15 Cameron Drive , Ikoyi , costs the state N 329 ,929 ,551 , according to the Lagos State budget of 2014, which was obtained by SUNDAY PUNCH .
However , Ambode will be entitled to other fringe benefits which comprise a house in any location in Lagos State , six brand new cars every three years , 100 per cent of the basic salary of the serving governor , ( N 7 .7 m per annum) free health care for himself and members of his family .

The law also says a former governor will be entitled to furniture allowance , which is 300 per cent of their annual basic salary ( N 23 .3 m ); house maintenance allowance , which is 10 per cent of basic salary ( N778 , 296 ); utility allowance , which is 20 per cent of the salary ( N1 .5 m ) and car maintenance allowance , which is 30 per cent of the annual basic salary ( N2 .3 m ) .
Other benefits include entertainment allowance , which is 10 per cent of the basic salary ( N778 , 296 ) and a personal assistant , who will earn 25 per cent of the governor ’s annual basic salary ( N1 .9 m ) .
The law adds that a former governor is entitled to domestic workers comprising a cook , a steward , a gardener and others whose appointments are pensionable .
A former governor will be entitled to eight policemen and two officials of the Department of State Services for life , according to the Lagos law .
However , any governor of the state will miss out on all the goodies if he is removed from office by the Lagos State House of Assembly.
Ambode , on Monday , formally endorsed Sanwo -Olu and his deputy, Dr Obafemi Hamzat, as the Lagos State ’s APC standard bearers for the 2019 governorship election .
He urged those still aggrieved with the fallout of the primaries of the party to follow his example , and accept the party ’s supremacy.
Speaking with our correspondent on the telephone , the Executive Director , Socio - Economic Rights and Accountability Project, Adetokunbo Mumuni , said it was immoral for former governors to be given life pensions .
He noted that the Revenue Mobilisation Allocation and Fiscal Commission had approved payment of 300 per cent of basic salary as severance allowances ( N6 .6 m ) for political office holders on leaving office .
He said , “ The fact that you become a governor of a state should not make you entitled to all those mind -boggling emoluments . ”
Mumuni said some former governors , who ended up becoming ministers or senators , were collecting pensions and allowances that accrued to their new office , an action he described as immoral .

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Ex-Chief of Defence Staff, Alex Badeh, murdered

A former Chief of Defence Staff , Air Chief Marshal Alex Badeh ( retd .) , has been killed .
It was gathered that the retired military officer was killed on the Abuja -Keffi Expressway on his way back from his farm .
He was said to have been shot along with his driver on Tuesday .
Until his death , he was standing trial for alleged diversion of funds meant for arms purchase .
The Director of Public Relations and Information of the Nigerian Air Force , Air Commodore Ibikunle Daramola , confirmed the incident in a statement .
“It is with a heavy heart that I regretfully announce the unfortunate demise of a former Chief of Defence Staff , Air Chief Marshal Alex Badeh ( retd .) , who died today , December 18 , from gunshot wounds sustained when his vehicle was attacked while returning from his farm along the Abuja -Keffi Road .
“On behalf of officers , airmen and airwomen of the Nigerian Air Force , the Chief of the Air Staff , Air Marshal Sadique Abubakar , commiserates with the family of the late former Chief of Defence Staff over this irreparable loss .
“We pray that the Almighty God grant his soul eternal rest , ” the statement read .
The late Badeh, who was 61 years , was commissioned into the Nigerian Air Force in 1979 .
He was born in Vimtim , in the Mubi Local Government Area of Adamawa State .
He attended the Vimtim Primary School. Vimtim and went on to obtain his secondary school certificate from the Villanova Secondary School in 1976 before proceeding to the Nigerian Defence Academy .
Badeh was admitted into the Nigerian Defence Academy as a member of the 21 Regular Course on January 3 , 1977, and was commissioned as Pilot Officer on July 3 , 1979.
The retired military officer was promoted Air Vice Marshal on January 3 , 2008 .
He was appointed Chief of Air Staff by President Goodluck Jonathan in October 2012 and was appointed Chief of Defence Staff in April 2014 .
Badeh was being tried by the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission for allegedly diverting billions of naira meant for weapons, an allegation he denied until his death.
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ABUJA – IMMEDIATE past Chief of Defence Staff, Air Chief Marshal Alex Badeh was shot dead Tuesday in Abuja.
Badeh, who served under ex-President Good luck Jonathan, was killed Tuesday evening by unknown gunmen,while reportedly returning from his farm.
Two of his aides were reportedly kidnapped after he was shot.
The Nigerian Air Force confirmed the death of the former Defence chief in a statement by its spokesman,Air Commodore Ibikunle Daramola.
The statement, tagged:”Death of former CDS Air Chief Marshal Alex Badeh,read thus:”It is with a heavy heart that I regretfully announce the unfortunate demise of former Chief of Defence Staff, Air Chief Marshal Alex Sabundu Badeh, who died today, 18 Dec 18, from gunshot wounds sustained when his vehicle was attacked while returning from his farm along Abuja-Keffi Road.
“On behalf officers, airmen and airwomen of the Nigerian Air Force, the Chief of the Air Staff, Air Marshal Sadique Abubakar, commiserates with the family of the late former Chief of Defence Staff over this irreparable loss. We pray that the Almighty God grants his soul eternal rest. Details later. “
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2018/12/breaking-ex-chief-of-defence-staff-alex-badeh-shot-dead/

"Ride it like you stole it."

Lizzie Velasquez​ stumbled upon a video of herself titled "the ugliest woman in the world" when she was 17 years old.  

Spurred on by insults about her appearance, the motivational speaker and anti-bullying campaigner has dedicated her life to talking openly about her extremely rare genetic disorder.

The 28-year-old can't gain weight, she has never weighed more than 29kg, despite consuming a whopping 6000 calories every day. She is blind in her right eye, which began to cloud over when she was four, and vision impaired in her left.



Lizzie Velasquez is a motivational speaker and famous YouTuber.

There's a problem with the aortic valve in her heart, a risk that it "might dilate to the point of abruptly rupturing," she reveals in her new book, Dare to be Kind.

A Thin Line Between Love and Hate Love and Basket Ball

A female condom (commonly referred to as an internal condom) is a method of contraception that's inserted inside of the user’s vagina before sex. Made of soft nitrile (a synthetic rubber), it's shaped like a long tube or sheath — with one closed end and one open end — creating a barrier between the penis and the vaginal canal. Similar to the male condom (commonly referred to as an external condom), the internal condom can help prevent pregnancy and reduce the risk of human immunodeficiency virus (HIV) and other sexually transmitted infection (STI) transmission when used consistently and correctly. And it’s great that you’ve asked the question, because knowing what it is, how to use it, and the pros and cons associated with it can help with making decisions about how to protect yourself and your partner(s) during sex.

The internal condom can be a bit intimidating to someone who has never seen or used one before. It can be easy to use though, once familiar with it. When looking at the internal condom, you'll notice that they’re well lubricated (for ease of insertion) and at each end, there's a flexible ring. These rings help to keep the condom in place once it's inserted. The fixed outer ring secures the opening. The moveable inner ring sits at the bottom of the condom to secure the tube in place. The end of the sheath is closed off so that it can collect ejaculated sperm.

To use the internal condom:

Hold the sheath at the closed end and pinch the inner ring so that it becomes long and narrow.

Gently insert the inner ring end as far into the vagina as possible, using an index finger to push up the inner ring until the finger reaches the cervix (similar to how a diaphragm would be inserted). Not to worry, it won't go in too deep or get lost inside the vagina. When in place, it'll cover the opening of the cervix and line the vaginal walls. A general indicator of proper placement is that the ring isn’t noticeable anymore to the user. The outer ring must always remain outside the vaginal opening.

Before sex, be sure that it hangs straight and isn't twisted. Then, add water-based lube on the penis or to the inside of the condom to increase comfort.

During sex, be sure to hold the external ring in place while the penis is guided into the vagina to make sure it stays in place.

After sex, twist the outer ring, gently remove the condom, and discard (don't flush it down the toilet).

If you choose this method of contraception, carefully read the instructions enclosed in the box before use.

Some folks like to practice inserting the internal condom a few times before having sex so they can become comfortable using it. Keep in mind that each internal condom can only be used once; a new one needs to be inserted for those feeling randy for round two (or three, or four…). Also, never use the internal condom together with an external condom. Rather than providing double the protection, using the two together can create more friction and make one or both of the condoms more likely to break during sex. 

Before using this method of contraception, it's also wise to consider the pros and cons:

Pros:

If used correctly and consistently every time, it can be 95 percent effective at preventing pregnancy (when accounting for potential user error, it tends to be around 75 to 82 percent effective).

Allows those with a vagina to take the initiative with a barrier method of birth control.

It helps to reduce the risk of HIV and STI transmission — and its use for this purpose is compatible with hormonal methods of birth control such as the pill, patch, ring, implant, shot, and intrauterine device (IUD).

It can be inserted up to eight hours before sex.

A full erection (for those who have a penis) isn’t necessary when a partner is using an internal condom.

It’s an option for those who have an allergy or sensitivity to latex or polyurethane.

No prescription needed! It can be purchased over-the-counter (and may be free in some locations).

There are no hormones associated with this method, which may be an option for those who are sensitive to hormonal birth control.

Cons:

Internal condoms can be more expensive than external condoms.

Some may find using them a bit awkward because the outer ring must stay outside of the vagina during sex.

Since the internal condom is inserted into the vagina, it's necessary to be comfortable touching the genital area.

It may cause irritation.

It's been noted that without enough lube, it may make some sounds (though with the newer nitrile material, this is less likely).

The internal condom is sold under the brand name FC2®, and is available over-the-counter at pharmacies, grocery stores, and online — usually wherever external condoms are sold. For answers to common questions and other information about this condom, check out the FC2® website(link is external) and Planned Parenthood(link is external).

What causes menstrual cramps?

Menstruation (often referred to as a period) is a part of the ovulatory cycle and involves monthly shedding of the uterine lining that is accompanied by menstrual blood. While the bleeding itself generally isn’t painful, many people find that they experience pain in their lower abdomen before and during their period. This pain may come in the form of cramping or throbbing, and is referred to as dysmenorrhea. Additionally, certain conditions may contribute to the pains. While some may find it just a bit annoying, for others these pains can be debilitating and interfere with their usual activities. There are a number of ways to alleviate the pain associated with menstrual cramps, and they're often determined based on the cause of the menstrual cramps. Want to know more about these pesky pains? Keep on reading!

There are two kinds of dysmenorrhea: primary and secondary. Primary dysmenorrhea occurs due to the process of menstruation in the body. During a period, the uterus is contracting in order to shed its lining. The chemical that causes this is called prostaglandin, which causes the contractions to occur. It's these muscle twistings that can, when severe and prolonged, contribute to menstrual discomfort by temporarily cutting off the blood supply to the uterus, depriving the muscle of oxygen and causing pain. Some other common symptoms of dysmenorrhea include vomiting, nausea, and diarrhea. These types of cramps may lessen as a person ages. Pain from primary dysmenorrhea usually begins a day or two before or the day a person's period begins and can last from 12 to 72 hours. On the other hand, secondary dysmenorrhea occurs when menstrual cramps are due to a condition related to the reproductive organs. For example, conditions such as endometriosis(link is external), adenomyosis(link is external), pelvic inflammatory disease(link is external), cervical stenosis(link is external), and uterine fibroids(link is external) may all lead to pain during menstruation. Pain from these conditions may last longer and begin earlier in the menstrual cycle.

There are a number of ways to relieve mild menstrual cramps at home. Over-the-counter pain relievers such as ibuprofen or acetaminophen may be helpful for some, especially when taken as soon as pain is felt. Additionally, placing a heating pad on or massaging the lower back and abdomen may provide relief. Some may find being physically active improve their cramps, while others find it beneficial to rest during their period. For those that find that their menstrual cramps aren’t relieved by methods they can do at home and seek the assistance of a health care provider. Depending on the situation, prescription nonsteroidal anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDS) may be prescribed. Hormonal birth control may also be an option for reducing cramps. Additionally, for those whose cramps are caused by a health condition, treatments for that condition may help alleviate the cramps. This may include different medications as well as surgery to remedy what may be causing the pain.