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Nigerian Man Who Died After Sleeping With A Prostitute Is A Lawyer And A Knight

The decesed is lawyer and a night in Church, meanwhile the video was released by detectives who were present in the video so that the public will see and hear what happened. The man has been identified as Barr Eric Igbedion Agboegbulem

According to Facebook user, Freda Okarevu:



https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=816499435530891&id=100015125258369


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GM_sOkL7hgU

nairalandankrah:
https://tvcnews.tv/bomb-explodes-at-ekiti-old-governors-office/

It was at exactly 7.13am. I was still in bed. immediately I heard the sound I doubted if quarry
activities could resume early at that time after checking the clock. And besides, there is no quarry around that area. There is a police command closer to that area. About couple of minutes walk from the barracks.

ednut1:
Another Northerner

He is not a Northerner but he's from the same state where Emefiele hails from, Delta State. In other words, the governor and the deputy governor of our Apex Bank are from the same state.

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emidika:
PLEASE FELLOW NAIRA LANDER KINDLY ASSIST, MY LITTLE HAVE THIS BELOW SSCE RESULT, WHAT CAN SHE BE ABLE TO USE IT For?

CRS= A1
GOVT= C4
LIT IN ENG= D7
CIVIC EDU= B3
ENGLISH= C6
MATHS= B2
BIOLOGY= B3
COMPUTER= A1
COSMETOLOGY=C6.

She really needs your advice pls.b4 now she wanted to do law but help check anything she can do with the above result. Regards.

CRIMINOLOGY AND SECURITY STUDIES

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jerry447:
SPIRITUAL AMOTEKUN

The beautiful thing about Ijare is that Aba Olu (Olujare) is the only king in Yoruba land that safeguards his town and it's presence is everywhere. He's like a Spirit. He travels overseas and he's also at home in His Kingdom at the same time.
Ijare Kingdom I Salute. You don't f**k with their indigenes. Spirituality is their pride and not wealth.

Mynd44:
The vans are JAC.
Lanre Shittu has hammered

Elizade Autoland...managed by Chief Ojo's son.

You can watch live videos on here...
You can also read live updates.
https://edition.cnn.com/politics/live-news/impeachment-inquiry-12-18-2019/index.html

The highly-anticipated heavyweight rematch is upon us as Anthony Joshua looks to recapture his world titles fromAndy Ruiz.

The Brit was stunned back in June by the Mexican-American and now faces the daunting prospect of an immediate rematch.

Joshua will know the ramifications if he loses and it will involve a long road back to the top with Deontay Wilder and Tyson Fury set to face off in at least one more fight to start next year – while a third fight between the pair is already pencilled in for the summer.

Ruiz meanwhile could conceivably kick back and wait for the winner in an undisputed fight should he prevail once more.

Here’s everything you need to know about the fight.
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When is Joshua vs Ruiz 2?

The rematch will take place on Saturday, December 7.

What time are the ring walks?

The ring walks are set for 9pm GMT – or 12am local time.

How can I watch the big fight?

You can watch the fight on Sky Sports Box Office, with coverage beginning at 4pm GMT. It will cost £24.95.

Is there a live stream?

Yes, you can watch a live stream through the Sky Sports Box Office app and website on mobile devices

MultiChoice Nigeria Newly Introduced Five (5) Packages Only For Dstv And Gotv Users

The MultiChoice Company has finally introduced new five packages mainly for Dstv and Gotv users to help pass a quality content for the coming festive season.
Many people ( Dstv/Gotv users) has find it very difficult to watch some of The channels being subscribed by them because some of them prefer watching sports or news channel while others might prefer watching latest movies and entertainment channels etc.
That’s why MultiChoice company introduced the 5 new packages which will take effect on December 1st 2019, these packages will help the Dstv and Gotv subscribers to make their choice from the five new packages. The 5 new packages is mainly designed for Nigerian user with new display/viewing experience.
Dstv subscribers has 3 packages to choose from, these packages are Dstv Yanga, Dstv Confam and Dstv Padi. Gotv subcribers has 2 packages to choose from and the two Gotv packages are Gotv Jolli and Gotv Jinja.
The MultiChoice Further added Gotv Max package to the newly 2 Gotv packages which include more channels and also make the channels to be more valuable and also affordable.
John Ugbe who is the chief executive of MultiChoice Nigeria said that the new packages customized for Nigerian will automatically unlock a new entertainment and valuable channels for the users, giving them improved choices and new Dstv and Gotv experience.

Why did humans start wearing pants? To answer this question it’s important to understand two things - first, what were the earliest forms of clothing and how did they evolve into pants and secondly, why did a need for pants develop? It is also helpful to define what is meant by pants - specifically a bifurcated garment for the bottom half of the body which covers from waist to the lower leg. This definition helps to differentiate from the earlier leggings which were often pieces of cloth or skins which were wrapped around the legs and then tied on with straps. Leggings were comprised of two separate garments. Ötzil the Ice Man, perhaps the most famous archaeological find of prehistoric human remains from the northern regions, was found wearing leggings.

Earliest Origins
From archaeological evidence, it is known that the earliest types of clothing were wrap skirts or aprons for both genders. The oldest known woven example is a fragment made from woven reeds found in Armenia and dating from approximately 2900 BCE. While this is just a fragment the construction hints to what the complete style would have looked like with a waistband woven in the opposite direction from the skirt. This is likely stylistically based off of earlier versions made from hides which do not survive to the modern day. Even earlier examples were of so-called string skirts which were comprised of a waistband with strings or pieces of grass hanging down - these skirts often tied like an apron and depictions can be found in art dating back nearly 20,000 years. In the present day this style is still seen in southeast Asian and other countries, for example, the sarong, a traditionally unisex garment. In colder climates, these could be paired with the previously mentioned leggings and a T-shaped tunic. These are all very simple garment that requires limited construction and materials. [1]
The development of pants came alongside the domestication of horses and served as an indicator of class and profession. People who rode horses needed to have a way of protecting their legs and remaining clothed as a simple wrap garment would not remain on the body. Some early variants involved using the same single pieces of cloth and tying it through the legs to create trousers. Horses were. initially domesticated in Central Asia sometime between 3500 and 3000 BCE. Horses were a signifier of prestige, and in many cultures horses and the equipment used in riding them or in using them to drive chariots were included in the tombs of the elite. In these earliest horse riding cultures then trousers, as a form of clothing connected to horses, also served as a sign of prestige. [2]
The earliest existing pair of pants was found in China and dates to around 1000 BCE - within 1000 years of the time when it is believed horses were initially domesticated. These pants are constructed of wool with legs made of multiple panels. Experts believe due to the construction style of these garments that they were designed specifically for horseback riding rather than for warmth or protection from the underbrush. These garments show a more complex pieced construction than those tunics and skirts, with far more small parts stitched together instead of being a simple wrap or comprised of two simple shapes sewn to one another. These were garments which were specifically designed for a task rather than to protect the wearer from the elements. [3] In this way, pants helped to define a class and social divisions, as wearing them visually identified the wearer with the tasks which they completed.
While the development of horseback riding led to the immediate beginnings of pants they were not instantly accepted as a garment across the entire world at that time. Instead, they spread gradually and often faced challenges among cultures that considered themselves more “civilized" than those who were wearing pants.
Development in the Western World
Scythian warriors, both male, and female, from Central Eurasia, are depicted wearing tight fitting trousers in Greek art dating from the 6th centuries BCE. [4] Similar styles, consisting of a tunic and trousers have been found surviving in tombs. The Greeks wore a wrapped garment, the chiton, and viewed the wearing of trousers as something done by foreigners and females - some historians believe that the Amazons of Greek myth were at least partially based off of the female warriors of the Scythians. In these myths, the trousers come to stand as just one of the ways these warriors buck tradition. [5]
In the Roman world, the toga was the typical wrap garment for men on formal occasions. Casual wear consisted of a tunic. Earlier members of the military didn’t wear trousers, seeing them as effeminate like their Greek predecessors - however, the combination of being defeated by the trouser wearing Teutons, continued northern exploration, and increased usage of cavalry. The spread of the Romans also helped in spreading trousers throughout much of the area where they conquered. Many of these areas were at that point still wearing the separate leggings with a tunic and mantle - normally made of heavy wool. [6]
Men Wearing Pants in the Modern Era
After pants were accepted by the Romans they became a more standard mode of dress across the Western world. As centuries went on it became those who did not wear pants who stood out, such as Scottish soldiers who wore kilts into battle up into the 20th century. Even as in previous civilizations pants had served as a designator of completing a specific task for the upper class of later Western civilizations they serve to show modernity and how the wearer fits the mold of masculinity. By being prepared to carry out physical activities and not being constrained by tight clothing or billowing robes, new fashions showed a change in the cultural mindset as to what was appropriate for these men to accomplish. To show how this change occurred it helps to look at the specific cases of Imperial Russia and Regency England. [7]
As part of a mission to drag Russia into what he viewed as the modern world Peter the Great issued a decree, in 1701, on modern clothing stating that upper-class men were to follow these guidelines in regard to attire - “The upper dress shall be of French or Saxon cut, and the lower dress and underwear-[including] waistcoat, trousers, boots, shoes, and hats- shall be of the German type." This replaced the previous style of floor length caftans. The pants mentioned in this decree were the knee breeches popularized at the time by the French court. In forcing the Russian court to adopt Western styles, Peter I used clothing to highlight the larger societal change efforts which he was putting into place within the country. [8]
The final victory for trousers over breeches in England and those nations which looked to England for fashion was the rise of the popularity of the menswear suit as known today, heavily influenced by Beau Brummell in the early 1800s. Brummell popularized a style characterized by simplicity and good tailoring, in contrast to the most flamboyant styles of previous decades. Previous styles had featured tight fitting knee-breeches and stockings along with heeled shoes, styles which showcased the wearers high rank in that they were not practical for doing a vigorous physical activity. [9] On the other hand, the style brought to the forefront by Brummell with both its looser long trousers and flat boots and shoes allowed the wearer to participate in more activities matching a social change in the concept of masculinity. He also preferred dark colors, normally black with a white shirt, over the bright colors worn previously. This style was adopted by upper-class men and became the norm for western society through to modern day.

Conclusion
The development of pants allowed for a greater range of freedom and movement. While this initially was just for the warrior and lower classes, specifically the males in many societies, over history the wearing of pants has come to symbolize not only a necessity of movement (as seen when worn by warriors or working peasants) but the choice to be active and to enjoy physical freedoms. Wearing pants showed cultural and societal changes not only in the ideas of what is masculine and what is feminine but also in what is expected of all members of society.

ebukajay184:
IgbereTV reports that Nigerian Evangelist Dapo Soyemi has said no woman wearing trousers has ever seen Heaven and in actual fact will never see Heaven.

The Evangelist made the claim on Facebook saying, it no one's objection can change the truth of God.

He wrote; “No woman wearing trousers has ever and will ever enter heaven. Your objection cannot change the truth of God.”

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10221255414963683&id=1496027689



http://igberetvnews.com/1148774/woman-wearing-trousers-will-make-heaven-evangelist-dapo-soyemi/

Most of our men of God do not know the history behind wearing trousers by both gender.
It was not speculated in the Bible that a man or women should wear suit but we wear them. From achival records, male and female wore tunic and robes and with time trousers were designed for male and female and other accessories came into being. Female uses veil in the Bible and not hat.

WOMEN AND PANTS

What does the Bible say about women wearing pants? Well, nothing. You have to remember that pants had not been invented when Deuteronomy 22:5 was written and didn’t start appearing until thousands of years later. However this is not the argument, the argument is that pants were made for men and “belong” to men, and so should not be worn by women. Let’s look at the scripture.
Deuteronomy 22:5
A woman shall not wear a man’s garment, nor shall a man put on a woman’s cloak, for whoever does these things is an abomination to the Lord your God.
Now I could get into a long article about the word using in the KVJ word “pertains” and how the word is disputed is the Hebrew word keliy , which can mean either article or vessel or weapon, armor or instrument, which some say this verse is actually talking about women wearing articles of clothing made for war or carrying weapons, but I won’t (note pertaineth is not used in the ESV above). Instead we will use some basic reasoning to look at this scripture in context.
If a woman is not to have any article of clothing made for her to wear that was originally made for men, such as pants, then that should pertain to ALL clothing. This should then apply to t-shirts, which were originally made for GI’s in WWII and even more so if you are to take that this scripture is making specific references to garments of war. This rule should also apply to other articles of clothing originally made for men such as baseball caps, team jerseys, work boots and certain styles of coats and jackets.
Pants have historically been worn by both men and women in both Eastern and Middle Eastern cultures and have been perfectly acceptable attire for women. In the West when women went into the work force in factories when many of the men went to War, we started to see more women wearing pants because it was more utilitarian than wearing a dress; for the same reasons men wore pants and not skirts.
Today it would be obvious if a man wore women’s pants or a woman wore men’s pants because they are made differently. In truth this goes back to the heart and what we are trying to accomplish when we get out of bed and get dressed in the morning. The “thing” doesn’t make us sinful, our hearts do.
If we are going to go back to the law, then we cannot take ONLY Deuteronomy 22:5 and ignore the rest of the chapter. We must also take the rest of the chapter and make parapets for our roofs, not sow our vineyards with two kinds of seed, nor plow donkeys and oxen together, and we must make tassels on the four corners of our garments, and certainly we should not mix wool and linen together to make our clothes.
Deuteronomy 22:8-12
8 “When you build a new house, you shall make a parapet for your roof, that you may not bring the guilt of blood upon your house, if anyone should fall from it. 9 “You shall not sow your vineyard with two kinds of seed, lest the whole yield be forfeited, the crop that you have sown and the yield of the vineyard. 10 You shall not plow with an ox and a donkey together. 11 You shall not wear cloth of wool and linen mixed together. 12 “You shall make yourself tassels on the four corners of the garment with which you cover yourself.
Some religious groups hold that pants are scripturally and historically equivalent to “girding up the loins like a man” and even go so far as to say that this was “something women did not do”. There are several problems with this line of thinking. First it flies in the face of history, the Bible and it makes the jump that girding one’s loins creates pants.
What is girding one’s loins? This was a common phrase similar to “rolling up your selves” and meant to prepare for work. Historically, this was something done by both men and women and not just men. When a man needed freedom to work, run or fight, they would tuck the hem of the tunic into the girdle to gain greater freedom and movement. For women, they would lift the hem of their tunics to help carry heavier or numerous objects or to help them more more freely. In both instances it created shorts, not pants.
Does the Bible say that only men girded up their loins? No.
Proverbs 31:17
She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.
The passage above is the biblical description of the virtuous woman who was ready for work. If we are to argue that girding up ones loins creates pants, then a woman should Biblcally where pants because it makes her Biblically a virtuous woman and who is ready for work. This term was used other times in the Bible in reference to both men and women such as in Ephesians 6:14 and Luke 12:35. Peter also refers to both men and woman in the follow passage asking them to gird up the loins of their minds.
1 Peter 1.13
Wherefore, preparing your minds for action, and being sober-minded, set your hope fully on the grace that will be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ.
Sadly people often make jumps in scripture, without considering the Biblical context, the rest of what the Bible says and historical evidence to support their own misguided efforts to justify their traditions.
So what does this mean, are we to throw out the law, is grace enough without the law, is legalism a sin? The answer is yes. The New Testament is clear that if you choose to live by the law, you must live by all of the law and not just parts of it.
Galatians 5:3-4
3 I testify again to every man who accepts circumcision that he is obligated to keep the whole law. 4 You are severed from Christ, you who would be justified[a] by the law; you have fallen away from grace.
Jesus came to free us from the law.
Ephesians 2: 15-16
15 by abolishing the law of commandments expressed in ordinances, that he might create in himself one new man in place of the two, so making peace, 16 and might reconcile us both to God in one body through the cross, thereby killing the hostility.
Colossians 2:13-15
13 And you, who were dead in your trespasses and the uncircumcision of your flesh, God made alive together with him, having forgiven us all our trespasses, 14 by canceling the record of debt that stood against us with its legal demands. This he set aside, nailing it to the cross. 15 He disarmed the rulers and authorities[a] and put them to open shame, by triumphing over them in him.[/blockquote>
Justification is no longer through the law, but through the cross; faith that the blood of Jesus is enough.
Galatians 2:16
yet we know that a person is not justified by works of the law but through faith in Jesus Christ, so we also have believed in Christ Jesus, in order to be justified by faith in Christ and not by works of the law, because by works of the law no one will be justified.
The law creates self-righteousness, it seeks to avoid sin by blaming our sin on a “thing” rather than on the cause, us. We then try to be our own savior, our own god and manage our sins, instead of giving them over to Jesus Christ so that we can live as overcomers , rather than in condemnation, living in fear and avoiding our sins. Paul says that this makes the cross null and void. This separates us from a true relationship with Jesus, living by faith, and anything that separates us from God is a sin.
If you are interested in more of the topic of the law, grace and the power of the cross and what it means to us as Christians, I go into this in more detail in an article called “Power of the Cross ”.

Human corpses move around ‘significantly’ for a year after death, Scientists discover

Foreign , News / BY Rasheed Sobowale
The researchers at the Australian Facility for Taphonomic Experimental Research (AFTER) have discovered that dead bodies move “significantly” during the decomposition process.
The discovery made at a “human body farm” is likely to change the way death scenes are investigated.
Prior to the revelation investigators believed how a body was found was how it died, unless it had been moved post-mortem.
Researcher Alyson Wilson used time-lapse cameras to study a cadaver decomposing in the elements outside of Sydney for 17 months.
The time-lapse camera would film the bodies at 30-minute intervals giving researchers a clear indication of the decomposition process.
‘What we found was that the arms were significantly moving, so that arms that started off down beside the body ended up out to the side of the body,’ Ms Wilson told ABC News.
She said it wouldn’t just help law enforcement in their death investigations but also in disaster investigations and also gave a victim a chance to ‘tell their last story’.
Deputy director of AFTER Dr Maiken Ueland said the implications of the discovery would be far-reaching.
‘Knowing that body movement can result from the decomposition process rather than scavengers or original placement will be important when it comes to determining what happened, particularly if this movement is much greater than first believed,’ she said in a DailyMail report.
Another important discovery from Ms Wilson’s study was the revelation bodies left in the elements near or in Sydney would mummify under the right circumstances and at any time of the year, according to DailyMail report.
The body would also continue to mummify for at least three years.
‘It opens up the entire year for mummification in the correct circumstances, and it stops us from going down the wrong path (in investigations),’ Ms Wilson said.
The same site is also used to study animal carcasses in their various stages of decomposition and can also help train up cadaver finding dogs.

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Togolese President, Faure Gnassingbé Photo: AFP
Togo ’s parliament has voted a constitutional change allowing President Faure Gnassingbe, whose family has ruled the small West African country since 1967, to run two more terms and potentially remain in power until 2030 .
In 2005 , Gnassingbe succeeded his father , General Gnassingbe Eyadema , who seized power in a coup more than 50 years ago and ruled with an iron fist till his death.
All 90 lawmakers present voted late Wednesday to approve the change . One other lawmaker was absent .
The new law now caps presidents to serving two terms, but also means Gnassingbe can stand for the next two elections , in 2020 and 2025 , as it does not apply retroactively .
“The President of the Republic is elected by universal suffrage… for a term of five years , renewable once ,” the new text of the constitution read , which also made the presidential election a two-round race .
Gnassingbe’s party hold two- thirds of the seats in parliament, but other parties are also close to the president . The main opposition boycotted elections last year .
In Togo , constitutional changes are adopted if four -fifths of lawmakers – 73 or more — vote for it.
Lawmakers also changed the rules for their own mandate , meaning they can now hold their seats for two terms of six years each.
Before, they had a mandate of five years but with an unlimited number of terms.
The opposition opposed the reforms, and last year , demonstrators demanded Gnassingbe step down during dozens of marches .
But the 14 -party opposition coalition refused to take part in December elections , condemning the playing field as skewed , leaving parliament in the hands of Gnassingbe’s party.
Togo becomes the latest in several African nations to change the constitution to extend presidential terms .
Separately , Togo ’s government on Thursday also announced that local council elections will be held on June 30 , the first time elections for the 1 ,527 positions have been held since 1987 .
The mayoral post is appointed directly by the national president.
( AFP )

Umahi rattled as Ebonyi Perm Sec hopefuls fail to recite national anthem
Published May 8, 2019

Governor of Ebonyi State David Umahi
Governor David Umahi of Ebonyi was rattled when several permanent secretary hopefuls in the state failed to recite the national anthem , even as they had no clear idea of the states and their capitals , among other questions they were asked in an interview session on Tuesday .
The News Agency of Nigeria reports that the oral interview, which came after a written test , was supervised by Umahi and his deputy Mr . Kelechi Igwe , who was the chairman of the interview committee .
The interview session was televised live by the state ’s television network and watched by hundreds of people across the state and beyond.
Two of the permanent secretary hopefuls , who are top civil servants , failed to recite the national anthem , while another two could not recite the states in Nigeria and their capitals.
A particular candidate said that the capital of Kwara is Kwara and that capital of Lagos is Lagos ; while another said that the Anambra capital is Anambra .
An amused Umahi jokingly told one of the interviewees to ask her children at home to teach her how to recite the states and their capitals .
The governor noted that two persons each from the 13 Local Government Areas of the state were selected , making them 26 , including three serving permanent secretaries .
“The appointment of new permanent secretaries will be based on their performance in the exercise , as my administration is poised to reform the state ’s civil service .
He noted that only intelligent and resourceful candidates would be selected to assist in re - positioning the civil service .
NAN reports that the candidates , numbering 40 , were given 42 questions to answer five each; and were expected to score not less than 60 per cent .
The Ebonyi civil service had been run without permanent secretaries since the inception of the Umahi administration and the development had elicited diverse speculations , especially from opposition parties in the state .
( NAN )

Part of being a twenty-something means having engagement announcements pop up on your newsfeed constantly. Once you’re a year or two out of college, engagements happen so often that it becomes a normal part of your day to scroll through your social networks and see who’s the latest to put a ring on it. And although we’re now at an age we’re marriage is becoming more normal, it’s still extremely intimidating. Weddings and marriage used to seem like a fun and whimsical topic when I was 18 and it all felt so far off. And even though I know that I do want to get married eventually, it’s become a little more terrifying now that I feel like it’s all around me all the time. Here are 15 reasons why I’m scared to get married someday.

1. I won’t look the way I look now in 30 years. Or even 20. Or even 10. And neither will my future husband. The person you marry today won’t be the person you’re married to years down the line – physically or mentally or emotionally. Marriage is a gamble. You’re gambling that your love for the person you marry will grow and adapt as your partner grows and adapts. It’s up to you how to handle the change, but it’s still scary nonetheless.

2. I only want to do this once. I understand that divorce is part of reality, and that plenty of people have no other choice, and that sometimes, it’s a necessary part of life. But I want to do everything I can to avoid any possibility of that. I want to be with one person for my whole life. But there’s no guarantee. You can do everything in your power to work on your marriage and make sure it lasts, but there’s no Magic 8 ball that can tell you whether or not your marriage will make it. You just have to take a leap of faith.

3. I can see how easy it can be to get caught up in the excitement of planning a wedding. Weddings are beautiful and happy and loving occasions. I love going to them and I love how they leave you feeling hopeful – like there’s still lots of joy out in the world. But I can see how they can be dangerous. How you can be so caught up in the idea of a perfect wedding and of having the perfect dress and pictures and venue and everything else. I’m sure it can be a slippery slope in terms of becoming obsessed and letting the wedding consume you. I don’t want to get caught up in all of that and forget why I’m doing it in the first place – to celebrate my lifelong commitment to someone else.

4. You have to be selfless. And that’s really, really hard. It’s easy to say the words and remind yourself of them all the time: “Be selfless. Put the other person first. Make it a team effort, not an individual effort.” But actually putting those words into action is the hard part. I understand the concept that marriage means sacrifice. But it scares me to know there are things I’m going to have to do that I won’t want to do, in order to make my marriage work. I know that may mean moving to a new place, or putting his career in front of my own sometimes. Because he’s going to have to do the same for me. I realize that if I’m going to expect him to make adjustments to put me first, I will have to do the same. But knowing that doesn’t make it any easier.

5. You will, at times, have to carry a burden that is not your own. And I worry about how I’ll handle that. Marriage is always about give and take. It’s about balance and sharing the challenges and working together. Sometimes one person is weak and the other person will have to be the one to carry all the strain, and vice versa. I know that when I’m going through something, my future husband will be there to help me carry the load. And I know that when he’s under stress, I will want to do everything I can to help him. I just sometimes worry that my strength will be inadequate.

6. I’m already having trouble figuring out my own career, and my own life. And I know that marriage means handling all that, as well as the life of someone else. Not to mention kids, if you’re eventually going to have them. Sometimes I feel so confused and uncertain about who I am and what I’m doing, that I feel completely overwhelmed and paralyzed. The idea of handling all that while trying to build a new life with someone else is a lot to think about.

7. It’s going to be a challenge every single day. I want it so badly to work, and I know that in the really tough moments, I’m going to have to fight through it instead of giving up. I’ll have to admit when I’m wrong, and hold my ground when I truly believe I’m right. I have to find the right balance of being strong and holding my own, while simultaneously putting another person first and doing everything I can to support them. You can read as many books as you want, but there’s no specific answer key for your marriage. Everybody’s is different. I know the only way to learn how to make it work is just to do it. Ergo, I am scared shitless.

8. I treasure my independence. And I know you can still be independent when you get married. But it’s a very fine and difficult balance to keep, and you have to work at it every day. I think some of the strongest marriages are the ones where both people maintain their independence while still working on a strong partnership, but I worry about how difficult it will be to keep my own life while forming a new one with someone else.

9. I’ve seen what it takes to have a good marriage. I’ve been lucky enough to have an incredible example of a strong marriage from my parents, but it still looks harder than anything else I could imagine. Their relationship is so solid and strong and incredible. But I’ve seen them both make some really, really tough sacrifices for each other in order to get it that way. They had to make a lot of decisions that weren’t easy. They were no-brainers of course, but that doesn’t mean they were easy.

10. I’ve also seen some really rough marriages. Some from people I’m related to. Some from my friends’ parents. And, of course, the celebrity marriages that are reported on incessantly, that we can’t seem to stop reading about. I’ve seen how a marriage can destroy a person, and take everything out of them. I’ve watched people turn miserable and hopeless. I’ve seen people become shells of themselves. You always think “that won’t be me” but it’s still hard knowing that it’s a possibility and it happens to real people.

11. I want my marriage to be the main priority in my life someday, but I don’t want it to be my life. There are so many things I want to be besides a wife, and I know that I’m going to have to work very hard to make sure those things happen. I know that the only way to make a marriage work is to make sure I don’t get distracted by petty things – money and success and my home and my social status and everything all need to take a backseat to my partner. But it’s also important to me to make sure that in addition to being a wife, I’m a lot of other things: a daughter, a sister, maybe a mom, a friend, a coworker, maybe a boss, a role model, and a lot of other things that contribute to my sense of self.

12. Getting comfortable with someone can be wonderful, but also very, very scary. They know everything about you. The passion is still there, but it doesn’t feel like this all-consuming, head-over-heels, can-barely-breathe-or-think kind of love. It’s more of a solid, dependable, deep, genuine kind of love. Which I know I want. But still, it’s scary to know that once you get married, you will never experience that falling-in-love-with-someone-new thing ever again
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13. It’s not my story anymore. It’s our story. Which, in many ways, is exactly what I want. But after twenty-something years of telling my story, it’s an intimidating thought to know that someone else is going to be a part of it for the rest of my life.

14. I don’t want to screw it up. And when it comes to marriage, there is an abundance of ways you can screw it up.

15. I have to trust someone. I have to count on someone. And they have to count on me. I have to love them at their worst and they have to love me at my worst. We have to stick by each other when things are ugly instead of romantic. We have to trust that we can rely on one another through anything. Which is at once everything I want and simultaneously the scariest thing in the world.

What course did you study at school?

NapoleonBonapor:
Hello guys I would be 24 in August. I really want to further my education more. I got my National Diploma in 2016 with Lower credit but I went to hustle instead of furthering more. Now I don't want to go to polytechnic, I want get my degree.

My plan is to go for Msc abroad after getting my degree. I am contemplating on 3 options now.

1. thinking of going to private university in Benin Rep (it's an accredited uni) because of their fast programme.

2. Or do DE to a university in Nigeria.

3. Or forget about getting degree..

Can I go for Masters in America or Europe with a Benin Rep degree? And which university can I go for DE with Lower credit in Nigeria (even a private uni?). Please I am getting depressed on this, I am regretting my late decision but I am the one sponsoring myself so hustle first.
Please I need a serious advice, this is my future..
Am I too old for all these?

August 7

My name is Tyrone, 33, single, a Yoruba man, employed, hardworking and intelligent. I would like to make friends with interested women. You can reach me on 08026240324- call or Whatsapp.

aylagos:
Car Dealers And Auto Mechanics In The House Please "Acura Mxd 08 Or Lexus Rx330

Please Nairalander a friend need to choose between this two suv, please one would you advise with reason please.

ACURA MDX 08 shouldn't be compared with RX330 but rather RX350.
I use Acura MDX 06 and it's AWD and the off road features can't be compared with that of Lexus. Acura uses Premium Fuel so you might need to buy Octane Booster each time you fuel your tank. It's a good ride compared to Lexus RX 330. My friend who uses RX330 envy me a lot. The fuel consumption is averagely good for an SUV with great speed. The MDX is a speed demon. You'll love the car.

sugarbae12:
hi
anybody in Ado Ekiti?
am a Corp member serving in Ado

hmmmmmm

Bimsake:
Hello everyone, I'm looking for a responsible man willing to co-parent with me. I'm a divorcee with one child hoping to have one more before I turn 40 which is around the corner. I haven't been fortunate with love so I'm not really looking to remarry. I'm open to a civil partnership without undue pressure. Otherwise I'm fine with you being in your child's life only and doing the needful. If you're out there hopingto have kids without the pressure or commitment of marriage,do get in touch. Cheers.

DM me or send me mail.

AliEsq:
i hope registration will be extended even for one or two weeks.

No forget sey NOUN no be Telemundo...