₦airaland Forum

interesting

Aidejay:
It's not freedom
It's a mental and psychological reset people under go when they travel to live abroad. In a place where things are way different from how they are done in Nigeria a place where order is the order of the day a place where things going right is normal a place where human rights are greatly guarded a place where personal resolve supercedes religious morals a place where Africans and Nigerian imperialistic mindset is dissolved to accommodate free thinking when you find your self there you automatically become a "ROMAN" (if you find yourself in Rome you behave like a ROMAN) dropping your third world limitations your third world environment has burdened you with.
That is why people who study, live or were born abroad especially in Europe and the 1st world are different
I don't know how but these people are different
Although I've seen some who showed no sign of difference
But when I say different I mean they have broken some invincible chain Nigerians are born with and now they are different

you have said it all

philip0906:
Sup Bro? I have seen a number of your comments...are you a feminist?

let's just say I'm sympathetic to the plight of women

Olu20090:
I don't know or have ever met any Igbo man that want to marry a yoruba woman....never.

you see what I am talking about?

from this, you have proven that you will attempt to scuttle your son marriage if he wants to matty Yoruba

and you say IGBO dey free on the subject matter lol

if you were born and raised in Lagos (not that you immigrated from elsewhere ) you will know that such unions are very common

I have Yoruba in law aplenty

blindjustice13:
Let's ask ourselves what was the man doing when she was busy hawking bread before the fame? Cos all I saw was a man carrying handbag everywhere she went ,if he had something going on in his life ,I doubt he will have time to be a handbag carrier. The truth here is that man is a lazy ass freeloader.

exactly

Lexusgs430:
Oga let's face facts and not sentiments........

When she was still selling bread, she probably never thought of divorcing him, she never had the platform to speak out.......

Now with fame & money, cometh popularity, endorsements, connections etc etc

The true pride of a real husband/wife, is to bring or assist the other party, to attain equal or much higher status, supporting themselves all the way.......

If you remember rightly when her story broke, i clearly stated this is the end of this marriage, if care and attention was not upholded........

nwanne listen....


By now you should know the way women behave


In a situation where she has no leverage, and the man is misbehaving, she will suck it up, but now the tables have changed, she is giving him the boot

I have seen this play out again and again in real life, that is why I am somewhat sympathetic to Jumoke.

Women with no leverage in relationships with typical naija men dey see pepper in many cases.
that is why when the opportunity comes to get even, unlike men, women are not that forgiving
they will get even ruthlessly

Thane:
Igbo's are very known for their freedom and space for women. You are supposed to be an undergraduate and educated, ask questions and observe before disgracing yourself in public. About female SUG president, its very funny to hear this because many SUG presidents in the east are females during my time. ABSU, Oko Poly, ANSU, MOUA.....

Igbos are known for what?

Lmao this is so so funny

Lexusgs430:
Money and Fame, the root of all evil.......

Her ex husband should see this as a challenge........ Let's hope she does not regret this action........

Marriage is not by Fire or Force.........

even you is responding like this?

I am surprised

Gratefulheart01:
No mind dem people. When she dey alone dey sell bread with kids, where the hubby dey? People are too judgmental, especially Nigerians.

Nigerians are the most evil human on earth.

I agree with your last statement

Olu20090:
I know you are most likely Yoruba because Yoruba parents like to interfere in their children's marriage or who they marry. And yoruba sons listen to them like babies. But this is totally opposite with Igbos; Igbo parents can never interfere in whom their sons choose to marry. They may advise their daughters but for the men, it's like man and man thing, no matter how powerful the father is, he lets his sons do as they wish!

lmao

they don't interfere my black arse

how many igbo mother's are happy with their sons marrying Yoruba women

I'm a Lagos kid, and I have seen this play out again again and again over the decades of my existence on planet earth.

The family will throw spanner in the works if the Igbo man want to marry his Yoruba heartthrob

It's even worse if the man is from anambra.

so what are you saying?

interference is an African patent palava

Jman06:
Nigerian women love to be controlled with money!

which brings us back to my point on UPBRINGING

how they were raised to see the world

soul95:
Seriously a lot of Nigerians(both male and female) have a terribly poor mindset towards basically everything, from social interactions, to business transactions to relationships.

An average Nigerian man will consider money as his only card to play in a relationship and reason thus:
Make money, Impress one kain girl, Have sex with her or wife her.

An average Nigerian female will reason thus
I Have sex with him, that's all I have to do, I am automatically entitled to everything about the man. That's why they go to stupid extremes to get no dey only to waste it impressing women rather than doing something concete with it in their lives

Some even carry this mindset into marriage, the only thing they are bringing into the marriage is their bodies, that is why you will hear don't give a man sex so he will not get tired of you and be forced to wife you, like you are dangling sex like a carrot, any man in my own opinion who marries for the sole purpose of being legally able to have sex with a woman is not worth his salt.

Yeye people

But thanks to the ones that have sense

you have spoken well

megareal:
Terrible generalization. Just as we have men who become Lord and master the moment they make it, so we also have some women who may not handle success well.

From my observations of women who changed after becoming rich, their husbands maltreated them psychologically and emotionally when they were housewives. Some abused them verbally and often ill treated them when they needed some cash. So they tend to not care anymore when they make money, a situation the man may now term as non submissiveness and disrespect.

this happens to be the case quite often

MajorJeffery:
Bush man's mentality but again, sad experience must have made him think the way he did.
Some ladies, as soon as they receive their first paychecks as Registered Nurses, they start to disrespect everyone including their husbands forgetting that their husbands have been receiving same paychecks for long time without causing drama at homes.

it's a matter of upbringing and where the woman is from

when I tell our igbo uncles to stop marrying from the gutter, they will not hear, it's the same thing again and again.

A woman who has always been well to do will not disrespect you BECAUSE of financial /success standing

She could disrespect you for other reasons tho depending

these men should STOP marrying from the gutter and trying to prop these ungrateful women up, they will not hear

Bridget95:
why talking this shiiit.How many states in Nigeria have allowed a woman to be a sitting governor by chance like the person of Dame Virgi Etiaba except in Igboland,infact Igboland is the only single zone that have produced the highest number of women representatives in the national assembly in both chambers such as uche Ekwunife,Nkechi wogu and so many.Igboland have produced one of the highest number of woman in our nation's history that have made footprint in the development of Nigeria such as Ngozi okonjo,Oby Ezekwesili,Dora Akunyili,Onyeka onwenu etc.women are respected and recognized in Igboland and are allowed to hold positions.

Pls always verify facts.

We know in our heart of hearts that what the guy you quoted said is right
We are Igbos, we know what goes on, why are you pretending that you don't know?

OlawaleBammie:
Am just lookin at some unmarried, too Young to knw life situation here comentin and a dey laff

All dis boys dat are saying d op is sayin trash are just sayin it to impress ladies in d house, ladies beware... these are d real egoistic fellows as experience would hav it.

Success is not limited to being in comand of money alone pls knw dat...

Pls i need someone to answer dis question(s)...

1) How many men can handle it when people dont knw where u re but ur wife is bein made d chairperson is every occasions u heard of

2) How many men can handle it wen u only reciv three calls in a day but in a moment with u ur wife recivs like 47 calls not to talk of missed calls a dey laf a swear...

3) How many men can handle it wen people knock on ur door many tyms and as d man in d house, u go out to meet dos persons and dey Hannover an invitation envelopes to giv to ur wife but u hardly reciv one in a while

Chaiiiiiiii....pls save d coment for now, wait til u marry na, dat is wen u wil feel d heat ur self

4) Can u manage it wen ur wife keep gettin appointment upon appointment to d extent dat she hadly hav tym for children not to talk of husband??

5) Can u manage it wen u feel like havin a day with ur wife and u hav both agreed and sudenly she got a mesage dat shes urgently needed in Abuja whereas u re in lagos, and dis wil b repetin itself cus u can tell me a successful women sit in front of tv at home.

it's a question of upbringing, not a question of "too young to know life'' thing; because some of us disagreeing with him are NOT kids.


It's It's matter of UPBRINGING
if one was raised the way I was raised (in a liberal home free from excessive misogynist views and all that)
you would have no problem with your wife doing very well.

it also depends on how SHE was raised as well.
if she was raised in a typical Nigerian house, then her success might be problematic to the husband, as she may act up.

but if she was raised right in a liberal home, that sees nothing special in a woman doing very well, then it will mean nothing to her too


A woman who will not respect her man would not respect him, where poorer or richer than him
she may pretend to (which I had found out that a lot of Nigerian men like) but when there is no more incentive to pretend, then the true color will show

I have seen this again and again

Jman06:
Many Nigerian ladies treat their men with so much scorn and disrespect if he isn't richer than them. That is why men would rather go for ladies who ain't richer so as to preserve their sanity and self esteem.

indeed

it's due to how they were raised


Nigerian women who think like that are victims of their upbringing and environment

Macnnoli4:
It is unfortunate some igbo people have this retrogressive mentality. Even the university in the east, I am schooling in, a good number of males are against having a female SUG President, busy citing that a man is the head of a home.

it surprises me nwanne

when I hear some of my extended relations talk, I'm like

Which kinf view point be this bikonu?

AntiBrutus:
He simply means, BUY SUBMISSION.

Why then do they cry when some women say they do not want broke men?

I don't even know why people are attacking him, he only said the mind of lots of Nigerian men. Wasn't it on this same Nairaland that one went on a 2k date, only to come back emasculated because the girl gave herself a treat.

If you see the average Nigerian man talking about his worth in a relationship, it ends at MONEY. If you see his female counterpart talking her own, it ends at WIFELY DUTIES (sex and domestic chores).

The man is scared of the woman having more money, because he will lose his hold, since he knows he has nothing else. The woman is scared of the man being a hit and run because she wonders how many more will hit and run.

Outside these things, they are totally clueless and useless to someone who desires and wants more.

Poco Poco

you have spoken well....

Too many mumu comments on this thread?

Some of the most ungrateful, problematic and entitled fools you can ever marry are the so called poor /low class women.

it's a question of personality not about success

A woman who is rude/problematic is problematic

Rich or poor.

Olalekank:
Good info, may God bless our hustle make we self stay for one of these cities.

Why separate San Francisco from the list and take New York as a whole list. New York is a state

San Francisco which is in California is in the list, how much more if the whole of California is considered.


















BTW, where's Lagos?

Lagos ke?

J9'burg and Mumbai no enter
na Lagos?

caprini1:
Nwanne ,like you young bloods used to say " Man U don caste".

lmao

na "Cast"

if this is true

then this is the reason where many govs fail

Beulah77:
Akon shot up there before thunder go fire your mouth there, I challenge you to return back to Africa and stay

funny enough he spends more time in Africa these days.7

Akon does not know what he is saying


Africa is better than America for the black man SOCIALLY because racism is not rife

but that is cancelled out by tribalism and myopia.


Africa is a rich continent in resources , but human capital is ZERO.

Angelfrost:
Boss tell them o... These plastic football fans and armchair analysts are beginning to get on my nerves.

half of that team need to be thrown out.

To me Pogba should go, Young should also go, and a few others

we need quality players

franchasng:
lol, I am not crying oh. I am just feeling pity for the ladies that will reap the fruit of the bad seeds sowed by some unscrupulous ladies, that's all.

Your sister, your daughter, your niece, etc may end up reaping the fruit of these bad seeds some ladies are sowing so when u see one condemn it cos even though we are guys, we all know ladies are more vulnerable and we have females too; either as daughters, sisters, cousins, nieces, aunts, etc, guys can treat them horribly just because of the bad things they read some unscrupulous ladies did to some guys, it happens.

Condemn evil when u see one

Yea

condemn evil when you see it


But the same society excuses men a lot for the foolish behaviour they exhibit

When a man screws a woman over, it's seen as normal

A woman screws the man over, una cry blue murder.

I heard the man was a deadbeat too, so what are we saying?

KingLennon:
I thought it is the man's fortune that will be shared as in the case of Tiger Woods. Make I follow find white girl marry o

the richer one gets screwed over in the event of a divorce

Sleevia:
But if it was the woman that was gaining from this divorce, you all will call for her head... mschwwww

no mind them

double standard dey naija man blood

Mailink:


Just divorce the wide hole and use the money gained to marry a fresh tight p

But don't try to file a divorce for that one oooo, or else..... Your wealth will also be shared equally

and the fresh right p

will divorce and collect her share


lmao

JasonScoolari:
Everyone is just beating them like drum.

Olé needs to work hard.

more like he needs to offload players