₦airaland Forum

LordKO:
Stop being conceited. As much as there's nothing wrong with one having little or zero knowledge about something, because no human being has monopoly of knowledge, however there's everything wrong with one who's conceited - stop arguing about something you have little or no knowledge about or trying hard to gloss your ignorance with conceit. My submission is lucid for any informed person to understand. Also stop using yourself or the people you mentioned as standard for everyone on this forum.

pocohantas:
Very worrisome.

As for the stepmother issues, if we would be factual here, lots of them were actually older spinsters, single mothers or widows.

That is to also show that despite all the talk online, men marry the so called evening newspapers, single mothers and widows.

However, most young people would not just opt for that, all things being equal.

pocohantas:
Na people wey no get money dey always write nonsense na. Even Dangote in one interview said he was searching and might consider remarrying if he finds an ideal woman. The so called celebrities know that it is a whole lot harder to get that woman they need to compliment them, not random slay queens without values.

Yet all these boys on NL will be screaming money. In this same Nigeria with a high poverty and unemployment rate.

Whereas their broke asses are in relationships and chatting with their gfs while managing their weekly sub.

You no even fit come their house see light. Na to knack inside heat sure pass.

Only on NL.

MobilityExpress:
This is the most hypocritical question ever on Nairaland. Nigerian girls will date anybody that has money, or big abula, or both. And most Nigerian girls don't have much to offer besides sex, so they come to the dating negotiating table as handicaps and beggars. If Nigerian girls can date criminals, thieves, ritualists, armed robbers, cultists, yahoo boys etc, then why won't they date a single father? Nigerian girls that date married men, mtshewwwww, na single fathers go come hard dem to date ? You guys commenting here should continue deceiving yourselves. Go on social media, see Nigerian girls shouting "zaddy" with pride, some dey even date their ancestors, like Regina Daniels .

ornicus:
thats why some people say drug dealers are the worst kind of criminals.
plenty of drug abuse in the ghetto
its the same way that poor northerners have been hooked on codeine

and that is also why there is so much hatred for nigerians in these places. foreigners coming to sow human misery and profit off it, and flaunt it. same reason why people will be jumping from high rise buildings when the police are on to them.

drug addiction is a monkey you do not want on your back, especially if you are not rich. you will first sell everything you have, then that your friends and parents have, then you will start begging or stealing or prostituting

pansophist:
Yes its true, and it is what I have realized so far. Society consider women the weaker sex, but undermine their ability in decision making and going for the very best. The use their head not their heart,

Meanwhile, men, who are considered the rational and tough one, fall in love with heart not head, and are in more cases than not, led to the slaughterhouse by small girls

Wetin konji don use local man eye see eh? Chai.

madridsta007:
This thread -initial post- shouldn't have started.
You will not have any reaction on a non-existent thread. Why should men who choose not to be with single moms be termed as "scared"?
Women will have and write out a litanny of choices in terms of their future spouse. When men attempt that- in this era of equality- they will be demonised and derided.
We are largely an unserious generation.

JONNYSPUTE:
Isn't it funny how ladies don't want to settle down with single fathers but are against men for not marrying single mothers.Chai.This should be an eye opener for all those guys that were supporting them on the other thread. My own is that single father's should marry single mothers,chikina.@ugosample come see o.

Sard:
Thank God he was caught.
See all his minions defending him. How shameless can you people really be?
How on earth would you be defending someone who has ruined other people's lives?
God will continue to expose you.

showafrica:
Which people? Say Nigerians. Nigerians are enemy of themselves. Very wicked set of people, I have reduced my friends drastically. The less friends you have in 9ja the better for you. Most of them always wish something bad happens to you as soon as possible.

mmadu4:
your government has ruined more life than wire wire boys

caracas:
The truth of the Matter is no matter the innovations n inventions the government decides to introduce the problem would still not be solved. Why , because lagos is too populated n the more u invent n introduce the more ppl move into Lagos.
It is simple the Lagos state government cannot n will never be able to solve this problem. The only way to solve this traffic problems is to deliberately depopulate Lagos, and that can only be done by opening up other major cities n make Lagos less attractive.
Of course only the FG can do this.

princfred:
No be lie at the bolded.
Phony how men are regarded as unemotional brutes yet they are the ones who go into relationship more with their heart ( abi is it prick ?) than their head while naija women , regarded as soft , do more of the opposite.

JONNYSPUTE:
... Good. Thanks anyways. Gud9t bro.

PoliteActivist:
So it's over saturated with Nigerians like everywhere else. I don't know French, which is also why I hesitate

JONNYSPUTE:
.. Since such is the case,why should a young man full of life with potential neglect all the single ladies scattered everywhere and end up marrying a single mother? If women could be this selfish,doesit mean that men are not wise?.With this your answer,I can comfortably call any young man that settles for a single mother as a fool.Sorry I ve to be a bit harsh.

PoliteActivist:
Bingo! It doesn't apply only to single mothers

PoliteActivist:
But he's not talking about that. He was only saying they don't like to marry broke or struggling guys

PoliteActivist:
U r in Abidjan? Once stayed there about a week. Thinking of moving there. Speak French?

JONNYSPUTE:
. Ok. Waiting.

PoliteActivist:
Korllami007 is actually mistaken. What he is saying applies to women in general not just single mothers - they want a good provider

JONNYSPUTE:
.. The guy you just quoted Asked a question but you ignored it.Can you please answer him. Thanks.

Korllami007:
If I scold my children, my wife will never think I hate them. And my children won't disrespect me because someone that's not their father scold them. That's the difference.

No one has answered this question.
If single mothers are truly looking for love, why do single mothers do not marry struggling men or broke men even if their rich?

We all know the answer tho because their looking for someone to take care of them and their childrenbut not because they truly love the new husbands. Let the new man stop taking care of their children then you will see their true color.

PoliteActivist:
His bio parents divorced when he was two. They could have changed his name to anything and that would have been the name we know today instead of Obama.

franchasng:
stop castigating him for saying his mind.


So the only reason you grew old and struggled to become financially successful in life is to enable you become mature and rich enough to date and marry a single mother Just listen to yourself.

In as much as we should not discourage guys who feel comfortable dating and marrying single mothers, we must not make it seem like the norm because it is not.

You can still adopt or take care of fatherless children even when married to a single girl without child, so it must not be through marrying a single mother.

Before you marry any single mother ask questions about the father, what happened to the father, it is for your own safety and future; all road is not as straight as they appear to be on sight.


And have you asked yourself why rich single mothers don't date or marry broke or average guys

Have you also asked yourself if that single mother you are dating or married to would have noticed you if you were broke or struggling financially

To them it's about a man to cater for them and their child but to men like you, its all about she is mature, she loves me more than the single girls, says who

betterpikinn:
If the baby daddy is still alive, then it's a pity that you are dating a wasted cúnt.

Why date a live leftover?

1StopRudeness:
because a person is a single mother doesn't make her of good character either, she might have even got rid of many like the other ladies and decided to keep the one you seeing now...there's no fast rules to any of these things...single mother drama usually exist ....guys don't like it ....if u can avoid it and marry a single lady like you..it's better......
Why even pick a person with a child or even children when u have endless of picks of single ladies,,,,for crying out loud this is even unfair on ladies who have not had any chance to even have boyfriend, let alone have sex

Dreal1247:
Individual opinions differ. This is a forum comprising people from different background. Everybody is commenting from his or her own perspective, background, understanding, experience, known and conclusion. For this reason, the best thing to do is to read and learn from other people's points of view. Nobody has the monopoly of knowledge.

IN DELLTA, IT MAY BE ADVANTAGEOOS TO BE A SINGLE MOTHER FOR MARRIAGE, WHILE IN IGBOLAND, IT IS A SIGN THAT YOU ARE NOT QUALIFIED FOR MARRIAGE, UNLESS SHE IS WIDOWED.

PoliteActivist:
U r sooooo wrong. U gambled I don't know Obama's bio. Well, u lost. Obama was raised by his maternal grandparents and not his step father. The only reason Obama's bio father is remembered is because his mother and grands chose not to change his name - which was what happened with Ford and Clinton (both of whom u craftily did not mention

wifeesnatcher:
this is a relative question Op.


I can marry a single mother but on conditions


* there won't be any secret communication between her and her baby daddy*

*she will pack her loads immediately I caught her cheating on me either with her baby daddy or with another man

*she will be engaged with something

*the child must be 3years above


if there are single mom in the house, don't be ashamed of yourself, we are all one way or the other victim of circumstances but in different situation


single mom ready to mingle can DM me

madridsta007:
Aren’t men entitled to their choices— like all human beings?

Why are you trying to demonise men as “scared” for making a love-choice in avoiding single mothers? Is it just women that are entitled to choices?

pcguru1:
Seems it's Hypergamy you are broaching here well you do have a valid point but in this case, I don't have enough info to know if that's the case here because there have been some married people with money marry from lower backgrounds while with kids. It doesn't mean all women with money would behave like that as you mentioned, but then again everything is easier with money so that's even a pointless POV.

You might wanna be careful with those MGTOW Philosophy you are wielding