₦airaland Forum

ubunja:
stop rewarding women who have failed. You're discouraging those women who are making an effort to stay on the straight narrow path.

If you reward hoes everyone will be a hoe.

for good news sakes

2buffagain:
You are making a case against your point and you just don't know.

For example, with Obama all you hear about his father is "my father was a Kenyan".
And ofcourse you know he is referring to his BIOLOGICAL father. That's who you hear about.
The other guy played clean-up and supported Barack through Havard? I don't even know where he is from.
That's how insignificant he is, and that is how insignificant any side-dad is to that child when he grows up and starts doing things.

The impregnator will always get the fame.
Bet it.

Single mothers should be PAYING men to marry them otherwise the value proposition is waaaaaaay off.

Obama grew up with his maternal grand parents
and did not know his biological father like knew him


so your point here is not valid

Many many men out there acknowledge their step fathers who raised them as theirs

a case in point is puff daddy adopted son who is his oldest

even after the relationship between puff and his mum went south
he still raised that boy as his own for decades till date

And Puff is as his dad as his biological dad (I don forget his name sef something brown or something)

these things are not cast in stone
there are so many variables in play

pcguru1:
Bro I think that's a wrong approach to life mehn, sometimes you meet people who make you happy, I mean I see nothing wrong with a single mother or father as long as they treat you well and with respect. Do we say single ladies should avoid single fathers too ?

you spoke my mind

ubunja:
how hungry for love are you that you have to accept it even from a single mother?

Have standards. You make people with money look stupid

what kinda comment is this bikonu

ubunja:
you are just Mr Clean Up.

A woman screws up her life and you come running with that salary and that house and you save her. Smh

Imagine how blessed it would have been to find a chaste virgin who has kept herself pure in this corrupt world and then reward her with that lifestyle.

But because you've such low standards and you don't believe you deserve the best you go find a woman whom you don't even know how she got pregnant, and you reward her.

*spits*

Respect Yourself.

what kind of comment is this bikonu

AstroG:
As for me,ah can't date single mothers,though ah don't detest them.
Ah just don't fancy myself been with any..

a more logical and balanced stance

ubunja:
That's why I want a virgin. I will give her experiences that will mould her into the woman I want.

this is the silliest shit I have read this month


it's fine to want a virgin tho ......

nothing wrong with that

but thinking you can mould a woman into what you want

That Is the game women play, not men
our women mould us by trick and other means

Anyways when you reach that bridge
your eye go clear

akbahbah:
Guy I'm sorry for you and your naivety. I pray you don't learn in hard way. Many virgins are even worst in marriage than many single mothers who have retraced their steps. If you like, call it loss of self esteem to marry a single mother. Guy go live your life as you want. Experience is the greatest teacher. BUT IF YOU ARE A MAN AND NEVER MARRIED BEFORE, I WON'T ADVICE TO START YOUR LIFE WITH SINGLE MOTHER . That's just my personal opinion.

You have a point

Psoul:
My brother, you are funny.
U said there is nothing wrong in bn a single mother. There is everything wrong in it. Apart from the silly Western civilization that has tend to erode sound morality, there is nothing good in bn single parent.

If yours comes as an accidental pregnancy, yes u may have learnt ur lesson, but that does not remove the way ppl see that.
If u did urs intentionally,that mean u beliv that u don't really need men in ur life. For this why should the single lady complain of men bn scared of dating or marrying her. Only a no do good man will marry such.

Summarily, it is not our culture to be proud of single motherhood. Morally, it is not upright too. Biblically, it is a sin. Even the Bible said that no illegitimate child shall enter the kingdom of God even to his tenth generation. This is to show u how much God detest single motherhood.

JONNYSPUTE:
...Well,until you proof me wrong by giving me an example of any. From our celebrities and even those on the street. Meanwhile,Genevieve is rich but have you asked yourself why she has not picked a broke guy and marry?.

Rita Dominic is single, no kid and is unmarried

so it's not a single mom thing

it's a naija woman thing....

I

princfred:
Agreed though very few exceptions abound but this is not necessarily a prerogative of single mothers as most single ones play by same rules too.

how many WOMEN in Nigeria opt to marry those beneath them financially

I'm an igbo man
and I am damn sure that the number of igbo women who all marry a man who is struggling wilfully is negligible

that's why our brothers are catching bullets everywhere on earth
and they are bursting their arse in Alaba (for the legit ones)

so it's a women thing IN GENERAL

JONNYSPUTE:
... Lies. No single mother can agree to marry a broke guy because all she is after is your money. How many rich single mother have you seen getting married to a man they are richer than? Guys be wise.

women nature is women nature

The common denominator between a widow, single mum, and a spinster is that they are ALL WOMEN

Cancel the single mother from that statement

How many rich single women are in relationship with men that are less than them financially IN NIGERIA?

my argument remains that women are women
and it's a risk like I always say

even marrying a punk ass virgin is also a risk
Human beings change and you never know what will happen 15 years going forward


Many folks are just forming macho here

some of them never see life

princfred:
Single mothers are great if they have sense.

key word = IF

lenghtinny:
Shows how fvcked up Nigeria is
....

I keep telling anyone who cares to listen, Nigeria ain't worth sweating for, not to talk of dying for it. As long as the assholes are in the majority, the sane ones can't win this battle.

that is why the sane should leave the country for the idiots to further destroy

Lexusgs430:
If one is going to go against authority in Nigeria, use an anonymous channel........

We are talking about Nigeria, remember.........

it's a shame really

if the entire school protested TOGETHER and did not chicken out like cowards
this would not have happened

if we want a good country, the youths must be ready to pay the price

pansophist:
This thread really exposed the hypocrisy in women. Somehow, these women think it is okay to saddle a promising man with a single mom, but refuse to acknowledge the opinion from the male contributors, that single moms and single dads fit themselves perfectly.

Also, dismissing all the challenges that a man will experience dating a single mom with statements like, ''if they love each other'' etc, like really? How does love prevent the baby daddy from showing up and causing trouble? how does love rewire her sexual imprint to her new partner? how will love make the child accept the young man as his father? how will love prevent his innocent actions, such as scolding the child not to be interpreted as hate? How about the risk associated with raising up a kid that will never love you, or see you as a father?

In a romantic context, ''Love'' is the most abused word and a go-to convenience for irresponsible people without any shred of accountability in them. If we turn the table around and ask these women if they will marry a divorced single dad with kids and broke, I can bet my life that they will all flee, and even if they said yes, its virtue-signaling. They won't allow their sons, or brothers to do the same, but somehow, wants to guilt-trip young ambitious men to be with one. The only exemption that I will not be against a young man going for a single mom is if the baby dad is deceased, and even at that, he must have been a responsible man prior to passing away. Her previous partner is the evidence to judge her standards and the life choice she made, which is crucial in determining if she is worthy of a ring.

No man should save any woman. If you mess up with your life, you should bear the consequences that come with it. Special thanks to Ubunja, boss13, franchasng and other contributors for the dose of common sense.

I'm surprised you are saying this too


Everyone has the right to his own stand

Marrying a single woman is not right or wrong

There are so so many factors one has to consider prior to jumping in any relationship
ESPECIALLY with a single parent

it's perfectly okay for a single man to stay away from single moms
if They can't deal with it, it is fine

but what is fvcked up is people criticizing men who decide to give it a chance after weighing their options
that's wrong, and silly....


the only advice I give young men around me (especially those still in their early 20s ) is to USE THEIR HEAD when it comes to matters like this


that's right
use your head....

weigh in all factors prior to diving into a relationship

dasall.




and yea
Maybe because in CIV single moms get married ALL the time is the reason I'm surprised many Nigerians are talking this way

even the doctor that treats me has a live in boyfriend even after five kids (she is a single mom)

Well everywhere cannot be the same sha
but in CIV that I know of

it's no big deal

pimper24:
I stopped contributing in this forum a long time. Discovered it has so many kids .

so many shocking comments I read here

Lexusgs430:
Decide which part of the divide you want to be...... How has his whistle-blower activities, helped him........

He probably did not earn 1kobo from it...... All he got was a picture with the Prof...... ..

I'm.surprised you of all people are saying this tho

I'm really surprised

Just go abroad or something
leave this failed nigger contraption and it's shitty school behind write gre and other exams that could aid you getting a school abroad

This country is fvcked

Our institutions fvcked

Olorunfemi pls move on and find something else doing

You fought a good fight

too bad most Nigerians (students especially) are too fvcked in the head to support the movement


Move on to other endeavours

lilmax:
this comment makes you look stupid

there is no link whatsoever between Buhari and the invictus guy
I'm surprised he even brought his name up

mmadu4:
enough with this Invictus Obi bullshit already ,how many times have you criticize your president for what is happening in Nigerian ?? even here in the US no news agency is broadcasting this why do you Nigerians rejoice when your fellow country man has fallen shame on you people . evil human beings

Let's be truthful
the invictus guy deserve the heat and shame he is getting now
Let US leave our brain dead president out of this one first
his case is another one...

but this guy deserve to be shamed

FisifunKododada:
When ever you hear 'successful Igbo man' just know 97% of the time, its is criminality

I knew a foolish soul will say this

and I was not disappointed

for someone whose people refer a drug dealing ukpuf smelling junkie in Bourdillon

this reeks of senselessness

Lordwheez:
The bastard even gave a TEDx talk..... Fada lawd

he did ?

InvertedHammer:
/ FBI: 1. Suspicion (with probable cause) 2. Investigation (gather enough evidence). 3. Arrest. 4. Prosecution.
But in Nigeria:
Suspicion (with or without probable cause) Arrest, then start looking for evidence. Media trial Bail Court cases followed by adjournments Case closed
...next victim.
/

exactly

martineverest:
irony is that those dragging atiku and Forbes are also criminals or relatives of criminals that celebrate and worship criminals.

celebrating and worshipping criminals is a modern culture in Nigeria...

Nigeria: a country where abnormalities has become Normal

exactly

axponline:
The US will be whatever you make of it.
e.g my panel beater back home in ogba ikeja many years ago somehow came to the us. I met him at a function. Apparently he now owns a thriving motor body workshop here in Atlanta. Back home he had nothing. Here he probably makes more than many professionals from his business. One thing he did was to learn all the modern techniques in auto body repairs.

Nigerians in the US are known all over the country for their hard work and resilience. Lawyers, doctors, IT professionals nurses, pharmacists, mechanics, car dealers, night club owners, petrol station owners, grocery store owners, limousine company owners , pastors, cab drivers, uber, and of course people who still do menial jobs.

Many of them own their own house, send their kids to the best colleges etc.
every american in have come across will always tell me..... I know a Nigerian who ..etc . 100 times out of 100 its always the same answer. I have a nigerian friend or co worker or husband or friends husband etc.

Finally, when nigerians have a party in the US, both white and black people open their mouth in amazement at the clothes, food and drink.
Why do I say this. Because I know for a fact that Nigerians have made an ever lasting mark in the US that people from no o
other country can match (maybe India & china in terms of economic status but not socially)

true that

most counties in Africa are failed

South Africa in the gutter
Naija in the gutter
even Kenya that I pretending is not amy better

Bawss1:
Dude, there's no justification for living as an illegal immigrant overseas. Please stop misleading the gullible readers on here with that kind of talk.

I don hear you


I made my assumption based on what I have seen over the years

especially with relatives of mine....

They are more useful to their family back in Nigeria as illegal im migrants in America than they ever were in that failed shithole third world zoo called NiggerArea.

they send money via proxies at regular intervals to their families
bought cheap land and someone helped build small homes for them
etc

many Nigerians are redundant and useless to themselves in Nigeria
a walk round the streets will show you.

So please

AreaFada2:
Well, it's best to know oneself and do what one really wants to do genuinely.

To date a single mother, one must be ready to play a "fatherly" role in the lives of her kids.

If one is not ready or willing to play that role, no need dating her. It's bad for everyone. It can bring instability to the lives of the kids when they break up. And that cycle may repeat itself over and over again.

It's a serious matter involving young lives and nobody should be "shamed" or " blackmailed" into dating single moms or dads if they are not ready to.

The current economic situation is not encouraging either.

exactly

Chukapage:
bro those men had their choices, they are not us we are not them.They are Americans in the American society were talking of Nigeria !Nigeria! .you and I know that our society is not yet matured enough for young men to be taking that kind of risk .with the level of manipulation, pretense and infidelity in the Nigerian society a single mother affair is Risky very risky the worst starts when the child na boy sef.

you have a point
about the Nigerian society and the manipulations

I can agree

egbaguy2:
Married to one.....she has been the best thing to av happened to me.

That is nice

Chukapage:
I don't know it nobody makes any excuses for irresponsible men infact they're heavily criticized here in Nigeria society condemns them too the only problem is the weak laws and judiciaries in Nigeria to enforce child support but would you blame them? Even the president disobeys court orders.

well you have a point on the weak laws