₦airaland Forum

lloyds:
See the wife so set like a 17 year old undergraduate. . After 2 kids. .

Very few African women have such genes that makes fit.

And she will maintain that figure for May decades to come.

please desist from making statement number two

it's not nice

martowskin1:
The way Nigerians beg on social media is irritating

So shameful

9jaBloke:
Nigeria!! Once you are rich and connected, anything is possible. Thank God for democracy (no matter how truncated) and for social media.


CAN & PFN singing various tunes.

this above is what make a NiggerArea a failed third world shithole dump

the fact that one can buy his way through sensitive stuff like this so brazenly

Neoteny:
That's what Evans also calls his line of work.
The usual euphemism is "developer".

I'm.not a kidnapper nor a criminal
so.....

ViceChief:
Never been a fan of Canada. Team USA! Land of the free

the problem is
there is a straight path for Canada
but none for the USA
that is why people are doing Canada

EXLOVER:
I don't know if we all are created different, but i think kerosene is running through some humans body instead of blood, people too get heart. How can you behead your fellow human, not even poison.

I remember the last time i killed a ran, I really felt pity for the rat, cause the rat was pregnant and has kids also, how will the husband feel? how will the kids feel? what about the unborn child and friends and relatives of the rat?


Humans are really heartless, especially Nigerians.

its so sad

ademidedavid:
Na WA ooooo...... Everyone's Children are just graduating from UK universities, is it that we are now in different Nigeria? For this kind tough time!!!

na so we see am

Tina26:
Hustle well so your kinds wont attend fuoye or akungba

lmao

Neoteny:
That's because every single one of them is into one sort of crime or another

I'm an igbo man

and I'm not a criminal
I'm a business man and a portfolio investor

habzee1:
help me figure this out my father is an igbo and my mother is hausa/fulani but I love them all whom should I choose in time like this the war on social media?

just be yourself

You don't have to take a side

Esseite:
There are lots of Igbo beggars same as other tribes, although they may differ in numbers... but no tribe is devoid of beggars as no fingers are equal.

Although a typical Igbo man is far sighted seeing a bigger picture, he would rather suffer for 20years for a comfortable end he may not live to see, than pleasures and enjoyment of now that may not guarantee a future comfort.

I think an average Igbo man lives his life in fear of poverty or not being able to provide for his family. Also being majorly business men/women, your growth is 100% factored on your re-investment into your business and not salary earned. which in turn prompts for expansion and venture into other businesses such as real estates to store appreciable wealth it's not being greedy, it just a life of fear of poverty ingrained in their DNA. Which can aswell be found in other acute business men from other tribes.

You have said it all

I have seen igbo beggars
but not very often
but I have seen quite a number
Reno should not be making comments like this

TechCapon:
Mtchewwwwwww must we bring religion into everything? Ordinary afcon that's not even sweet with the empty stadium everywhere. I enjoyed the female world cup even more

Nothing wrong with what they did

and yea
the woman soccer was fun

JubrinElSudan:
As in Eh! If it were to be Americans that developed the App, we wouldn't be hearing about privacy.

Americans are less likely than the Soviets to be sinister
that is why pple are worried

rentAcock:
Very nice, so they also have challenge for apps. As usual, Nigerians create nothing but they are innate consumers of foreign innovations.

well

You don see am

Nostradamus:
Her death pained me to the bone!!

Such a fine chick,a First Class student...

She would have been the pride of her parents..



The ugly truth is that yahoo rituals is here to stay and,am afraid,the ritual killings are not stopping soon...

The annoying truth is that we ourselves play a major role in the ritual killings,we place so much importance on wealth in our society. Anyone with money to throw around is literally worshipped(without caring to know the source of his wealth). Anyone without money is looked at as an outcast and a misfit.now see where it has land,numerous ritual killings for wealth are now the order of the day.


The sad truth is,even the government can't stop the killings. despite the large arrest by the EFCC such yahoo+ killers will still not be deterred(same way beheading doesn't deter greedy mules from trying to transport drugs to Malaysia/saudi)

true that

mostyg:
May Almighty God safe us from these human parts and blood hunters.

May God grant the family the fortitude to bear the irreplaceble loss.

It's so unfortunate that our societies now hail and celebrate these sudden rich small boys. Somewhere in Ogun state, Ilishan to be precise, there is an association of women who children are involve in yahoo (Egbe Iya Omo Yahoo).

If you ever collect money or enjoy patronage from these yahoo boys, you are part of those encouraging them.
You are part of those pushing them to rituals.
You are part of Nigeria's problem.

I pray they won't use any of your families and associates for rituals.

You have said it all...

It's too bad our society now celebrate wealth without work

alienvirus:
Oshodi. Home of Lagos touts. There are three specific places that I can never live in Lagos. OSHODI, MUSHIN/FADEYI, LAGOS ISLAND.

Even the new bus terminal is a resting place for Oshodi boys. Even that Oshodi shrine is a haven for them. Those boys rob with absolute confidence both morning and night.

It's a shame

lexy2014:
But d value system promotes success without sweat. It rewards it. We promote it everyday in our music, movies, programmes, politics& what have u. No one cares. Those days d part of success was clear, go to school, get a job& work hard. Today, it doesn't matter. U can apply 4 BBN& tomorrow u are a millionaire. How will people take life serious?

too bad

pocohantas:
Thought he debunked it at some point?
Congrats to them.

I thought same too

Penisinpenisout:
Blacks and Blacl Americans made this guy rich. Check out his products and see the people that use them the most

well maybe

I can't say for sure

But what I can say is that these guys get a lot of customers

Soul47:
The phrase 'sustainable wealth' struck me.
God help us in this country.

The wealth being built and flaunted in Nigeria and most of Nigger Africa has no sustainability

How do you explain the wealth where there are no solid industries and companies across the sectors of the Nigerian economy

Excess wealth in a society with near zero productivity, squandering resources in importing the luxuries you enjoy as a "big man"
.black man no get shame really

but I'll sound like a hater
so let me just keep quiet

These are men that have built sustainable wealth

can't say the same for most nigger rich Africans

Apart from say dangote and mptsepe

the others are just rapacious rent seekers

more respect to the rich in the world who got there via value addition

SonofAdoke:
This is the height of unprofessional display by the Police Officers involved in the operation. They ought to have saved their lives after disarming them and not beating them despite the bullet wounds. The other boy was even shot at the back! That’s an act of cowardice by the police officers. May Their Soul rest Peace! This should also be a lesson to youngsters out there seeking over night Wealth that Crime Does not Pay!

crime does not pay indeed

gaetano:
Crisis is looming. Hunger is in the land.

it's a mix of greed and hunger and a failed country

pansophist:
Like the old saying "no one can make you a slave without your consent", and that rings everly true in the situation at hand. She has left, disrespected the integrity of your shared matrimony, and as far she is concerned, released herself from the obligation to commit to you. She has proven that the marital oath of "for better for worse" is void, a symbolic rehearsal instead of a qualitative virtue. My friend, you've done your best, leave her to her vices and play your cards to exhibit strength.

In every human relationship, the one that needs the other most has all the power. The power dynamic is favouring her, since you're the one begging for her resumption to the union, she has all the cards, hence, you're emasculating yourself by being the party who needs her. She is cashing on your desperation and ignorance of game dynamics.

Hopefully, you should have learnt by now that just as women accuse men of seeing them as sex object, they themselves see men as success object. Your value to her (and women generally) is not intrinsic, but extrinsic, she likes you base on the man you've built yourself to be. Women do not love the male (a biological prerequisite), but the man (self-built). Its sad that you have to loose your financial capability to reach this timeless truism, albeit, it is never too late for you to get a better, younger, more beautiful woman because unlike her, she has already depreciated in sexual market value, while yours is sharply on its peak. Go make money, improve your life and have fun with other ladies. You're under no obligation to be faithful to a union when the other party have broken it. Live a life worth admiring and I guarantee, as I've seen over and over, she will come begging but then remember, a leopard can not change its spots.

Women values relationship more than men, men value short flings more than women. You probably married her young, and she is under the illusion that there will be unlimited amount of men queuing to wife her up if she signify her availability status, well, she will learn a bitter lesson, and when she does, do not be the "captain save a hoe", in life, there are consequences, and she must live it. If there is a perfect time to man up, it is now.

All the best mate.

you have a point

Beey:
Based on your explanation, I can see you dipped your feet in hot water.Being a woman myself, I believe a woman’s job among many, should be to cover her husband’s weaknesses while he does the same for her.I don’t know her side of story but I see some serious issues.Seems like you married a woman who cannot cover her household.She Cannot keep her mouth shut & will say all sorts of things about her husband to anyone who cares to listen. Issue number 2 is that she’s her mother’s puppet.I have been rebuking the spirit of momma’s boy.None should should come telling me stories.Woe unto you, you got yourself a mommy’s girl.It’s now as if you married her mother because your wife cannot make any decisions independently without her mother’s input. Number 3 she’s a character assassin.By the time she’s done dragging your name in the mud, you’ll know you didn’t know her as you thought you did.Number 4 is that she sounds materialistic.All was ok till you lost your job.I don’t know what religion you belong to but I know in Christianity couples vow to be together for better or worse, in sickness and in health & in poverty or riches.These days those words have no meaning.People don’t think whether the sickness could be either physical or mental.At the 1st test they are out the door, no commitment.With that said, I’d suggest you go to your wife’s home with some elders.Enough begging already.Let her know that you are giving her a deadline .Let her know by what date she should be home, failure to which you & your people will no longer consider her a wife & will start filing for divorce.Should she come back, I think you’ll need marital counseling classes. Good luck!

you have an amazing point

megareal:
No, you spare me the crap.

The OP has admitted on different pages that he bullied her verbally on most occasions. He repeatedly affirmed that she is well brought up. He never said she answered or abused him back. His frustrations at losing his job probably had him behaving that way. I don't believe money is the issue here because OP was also responsible for the family upkeep even when out of a job while she was teaching.

Don't stay in your blind environment and assume without evidence that the woman is wrong. The fact that you are a man and you hate women shouldn't make you too close minded to realities and truth. In marriage most often, women are blamed even if they are saints. The men behave far worse yet are praised and supported.

The woman is staying away just so he can have sense but he is too proud and still holding unto his cocky and condescending attitude towards her. That's why he is making half hearted efforts at getting her back. The woman knows he hasn't changed, that's why she is not budging. Jeez. How difficult is it to understand that?

Finally, if a woman verbally abused a man repeatedly, you would be the FTC on Nairaland telling the man to separate or divorce because the woman does not love him and lacks home training. Just, just, stop operating the double standard, it stinks.

What is this one saying?

making assumptions left and right

you are the one assuming the woman is NOT at fault, which is a fallacious ideal people like you hold....
He has his fault, she has hers

none is above blame here

LordAdam16:
Cut the sh*t out!

Virtually all romantic relationships are business contracts.

Financial pressure is by far the biggest challenge committed relationships face. And this is factual with studies affirming same. Trust me, you (and no guy) wants to find out if their lady would stick around or be their usual self if they lose their current financial standing for an extended period of time.

That's when you'd know marriage vows and proclamations of love are empty words.

-Lord

you are largely right

megareal:
Why is nobody seeing that the OP verbally abused his wife, got angry and impatient at her for the slightest things? The woman probably had enough of being viewed as less than nothing and vamoosed to get a much needed peace and self pride back.
If you guys know just how terrible verbal abuse is, you wouldn't be blaming the woman. She probably is smart enough to have realized the effect his words were having on her emotionally and psychologically and made that decision.

OP, forget the myopic and one sided advice from blind and moronic individuals here, go to your wife and tell her what she really wants you to say; a promise that you will not abuse her in anyway again. A reaffirmation that she is human and can be prone to shortcomings but that you still love and respect her with all that. She needs you to change your condescending attitude towards her, you are just too shortsighted to see it.

so the solution to "verbal abuse" is to pack out of your house for 10 months

do you know run verbal abuse the man himself us getting from her and he IS enduring?


the woman is largely at fault here

the man has lost his job
And I know how many wives get when a man loses his job

so spare us that crap

the op should try to salvage his marriage

but IF she is no longer interested

he should take a walk

jeez women

Jaqenhghar:
Niggerian shothole logic 1. not enough doctors in facilities 2. Yet there are shitloads of doctors who are unemployed and 3. They should not migrate to countries where they will be employed
SMH

you don see am na

joshepade:
As a matter of fact, it's more than 40%, around 60%, and about 30% not gainfully employed.
Plenty Doctors walk aimlessly on nigeria streets, I know of one that didn't see a place for his residency, he is working with a private hospital, earning 40k as salary.
Many are now emergency 'entrepreneurs'.
Nothing works in Nigeria, absolutely nothing!

the country has collapsed totally