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Cn you imagine the confusion in the business circle why do you think Brands take years to build and sell?The you let it all go at once?
If her biz cards read Ms.Brandname then she switches to Mrs Dragonfly!.Do you know tht in business people buy a product mostly due to the corporate brandname?? who will be interested in 'Dragonfly line of shoes or detergents anymore?? It loses 'value 'in a way.
Mmmh now I think she has to choose either marry the dragon and threw her biz or go on with her biz without mr.dragon

@ dyt
Yes she could be 'Mrs.Brandname'
BUT Mr.Dragonfly has no time for that 'nonsense'
He wants her called 'Mrs.Dragonfly'!!
You ask if change of name will affect biz? Imagine Oprah for instance or Martha stewart or for a guy Trump /Branson of virgin air.
Branding in business is evrything.especially a corporate brand like the 2 above.

You Brownjay you are overlooking several factors here.
Fine yours is say A(15) and hers B(10). Okay you total C(25). Then somewhere along the marriage, you mess and ur left with D(5)instead of A(15)!
she on the other hand works very hard and hers becomes E(20) up from B(10)
1.When you go separate? will you claim,A(15) or D(5)
2. Will she claim B(10)or E(20)??

That means,with a prenupt arrangement.,what you came with may may not  be necessarily what you leave with.
And that applies more to the person that came with more.He could still lose a lot and leave empty.
Then what
But if there was no prenupt,then what you have you share equally.

.Now Mr.Real

It sounds very justified but is lying in dating a good foundation for your future marriage? Dont light a fire you cant put off!!
I have read several posts about truth in confessing and imagine wht would happen if yeah the lies last for a while then the husband get wind of the truth.
To lie that the car hs been in the village?? lol unless they live in space where nobody will whisper the truth.
I think the reaction from the guy later might not be very good.
I insist whoever meets her must see her as she is with all she has.

Yeah we have all heard/met or read about them somewhere. She's built a business empire and her name is her corporate brand.
Her biz cards read Ms.Brand and without the brandname her business fails. Her corporate brandname has even given birth to Product brands.
In other words shes got 'Brandname line of clothes,Brandname line of detergents,Brandname line of shoes etc etc.
Now Ms.Brand name just met Mr.Dragon fly and they are getting married.
Mr Dragon fly says she must drop her name and take on his name if they marry,since Hes the husband.
Mrs.Brand says No way. Her name is her business.,
Tell me people should Mrs.Brand become Mrs.Dragonfly and see her business empire that shes taken years to build crumble or should Mr.Dragonfly stick to his ego as MAN of the house

BROWN JAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lOl Now you just openEd up a can of worms oops! sorry, not worms but RATTLESNAKES!!!!
What does the typical African man got to say here? lol
You seem to read my mind very well
Now somebody has this question already in their mind.

@ What does being one mean?If you want to marry me then what I own automatically becomes yours and viceversa.
@ Dont you think that a prenupt makes marriage a business contract

for those still trying to digest the meaning

If you are in relationship and it looks the kind thet will lead to marriage,then you bring up the talk about prenupt agreement, what do you think will happen to tha relationship? will you go ahead and marry with a prenupt signed? or will you walk out?
Rember the agreement is supposed to protect your assets.Good eg the hollywood celebs do it cz the women marry and after 6 months wnat divorce due to 'irreconcilable diffrences'.Then the wealth is split equally btw the 2 even though they styed 6 mths tgether.Ouch that bites hard.
To avoid all this,they sign and you must agree to thet b4 u tie the knot so tht fights over property dont arise.
Its catching ground here in Africa among sme people I wont mention names lol

@ MBG4REal
Ok Truce though I am more confused at whom you were directing your wrath too. But lets nt go there
I also misread that Drop for[b] sell [/b] but u know either way its putting it away just to attract men. Not very logical.
Imagine its you that just met her.of course with no car.
The moment she puts you 'in the box' then Voila! car emerges.Then you hear it was a gift from boss!! I would like to know hw u would take it.

@ Soprano.Phew thank you I had taken off before he catches me here
Now with encouragement am back.
@ Tom gosh ur friend gets slapped and washes what?   nkt.
Everybody here thinks exactly wht I was' kind of thinking'.Thts why I said there's a part missing in all this.
Infact this post reminded me of my village pit latrine.
If u go into a pit latrine,however smartly dressed you are theres that fly/flies (and dont say there r no flies pliz) that will somehow land on you not cz u stink or anything but coz you went into their territory  so they got a right to harass you.
I also thought traders meant smthing else.Well I love em traders but since they dont like her standard then she can leave that environ and go where her likes are.
I just hope shes got Character and humble regardles of wht shes got ie if she got it clean.

Good Lord,
Is it possible to Edit, summarise kind of thing?
The title makes one very expectant.
Dyt! lol you make my ribs ache .

mmmh.

You 4rgot one thing. Assume the woman is wealthier in the relationship.Will the man stick around the source too

@ kobikwelu.

Stop being funny now.
I am outtta of here b4 I get clobbered.
In case nobody sees me again,you all know the culprit.
Gone to intercede.

@MBG4Real

Are you for real?? First did you say am 18 and a baby?? oh pliz ok I wont comment on that.Always read btw the LINES before u pass judgement
By me saying am 81 let alone 18 as u hurriedly claimed.,Am trying to make her see that 28 is not very old since some women older are still on the field
Now you dont even know my age at all. sorry.
Another thing, are you saying the best advise is for her to SELL HER CAR so that she can get a man ?? Get real.
Cant you even see what some REAL men are talking about here?
Seriously evrybody here makes sense except .
Finally oops soryy I dont stoop low to the point of insult.I am way too mature for that.
Just asking are you like the NL chief whip or something?? I dnt know for real. clarify.I would appreciate.
I read the moderators names up there daily.

@ r321,

are uploading,or downloading and can u speed up pliz? we are waiting

@ikoha

u echoed my concern.I just dont know if 120k in lagos is comfortable or not cz am nt 9ija .Now you just clarified for me.

okay I need your minds on this and pliz think broad not just Nigeria.
For those that dont know,its a prenuptial agreement meant to protect your assets.

@okoyiinbo,
If you knew my kind you would be shocked. I am simply open in dealing with issues cz people just make life miserable 4 themselves and others.
We fail at times cz;
1. We are vain. we dont even know what we want.
2. We hate to hear and be told the truth.ouch it really hurts
3. We want to be what we are not and can never be
4. We feel inferior or superior than everybody else
5. We just dont know the place of God in all this life.

Just keep it real and simple.dont complicate life cz its complex as it is.

Now all you men wanting that lady will cause another thread to open.
I fear it may read 'Help!! All NL men want my hand in marriage! I need advise'!!
Poster tell the men to send you their resumes/cvs.

Arrghh!! pathetic.
NKT

LOL.

Answer brownjay it will make it easier.

bcoolings come on!!
At 22 and you say you will never love again??I think you need to hear some real life stories then you will understand what he did to you is NOTHING but usual. Suppose he deserted you with baby or left you infected with the virus
You are lying to urself by saying ul nver love again.Yeah we all say thet especially if its first time love.but we overcome.
When the wound heals ,you will meet somebody nice.Just dont turn him away cz a dude hurt you.It will be so unfair to him too.
learn to love again

Yes only if you are willing to take care of an 81 year old grandma with 17 grandkids. 5 in an approved institution and 6 of em gals expecting.
R u up to the challenge??

@ MMM

4 u I can understand. Now tell me how you can have a bright future when you are this blind.

Oh dear, I feel you. Now how old are you?
You seem naive and that's why the dude took advantage of you.
When a guy wants to break up with you and wants to do it gently he says. I quote you below.

'i got a text message from him telling me that he do not know how to say this that am a better person and i do not deserve him, i should move'

Do me a favour.Cry all you can.Then you know what.Thank God he left.Hes fellow that doesnt deserve you at all.
Is he the only guy on earth? come on,BUILD A BRIDGE [/b]over the [b]RIVER of TEARS then[b] GET OVER IT.[/b]
What you are going through is called LIFE.[/b]It sucks at times and trust me its not the end.
Now that you are wiser nobody should  take advantage of you again.Would you have been wiser had your heart not been broken. Good thing is this [b]TIME HEALS THE PAIN.
Now dont lock urself in the room all day long.He doenst give a damn so why look for ulcers? Get busy now.Engage a hobby,go out wth friends,just be very busy so you erase him out of your mind completely.
Wait till a nice dude comes along,you will be glad he left you.

Another important thing,
1.NOT ALL MEN ARE BAD.Dont hate men pliz. We need them anyway.
2.Leave God to deal with his arrogance especially towards his siblings and friends.He is the best fixer of such people.
3.Can u get rid of that curse and bless him? its the only way you will be able to move on otherwise u bound urself too.

DYT,

Anybody out there dating an animal coz ur BLINDLY IN LOVE?
I wish I could be blind really.My eyes are like the globe

you people are soo cruel and nasty. Please nevr tel a gal in her face that she aint beautiful
It scars her for life. Just dont say anything if she's not like you expect her to be.
And how do u even knw shes not. Shes not uploaded any photo  
And why not listen to her cry surely?

@ cork ur too late.
gay so, I cant share him with another man for the very reason that am straight.

LOL People.
It didnt happen to me. A friend I said.I am 81 years old anyway with grandkids.
Well the woman went back to her parents as I said b4 and the man is an emotional wreck.
Stiil in love wth his dude lover.

Oooooh.Okay thank you for that dear

Shes kind of past the 'age'but come on,28 is still young as there's women at 35 still searching. Am 81 and searching anyway.
Well if shes comfortable then she should live her life.
[b]PLEASE DO NOT ADVISE HER TO SELL HER CAR IN ORDER TO GET A MAN!! [/b]jeeeez! thats soo remote and cruel.Wrong foundation to a happy future.
What has a car got to do with marriage anyway unless you want to worship it more than your spouse.A man worth her standard will come along one day and will embrace her together with all she got.
Hes only coming to add value to her life not take it away and viceversa!!
Now are u telling me that its only market traders that live where she is the bank?? I mean tell her to get out there.
Ask her to place herself in strategic places and she will get her kind.
She spends all her hours in the market, then she will get market people cz they are the only ones noticing her.Dont blame them.
Do you have great hang out places there? I blve yes.Go with her every weeknd

@MMM

4give me 4 asking but what d your initials stand for?

[b]M[/b]an [b]M[/b]ade [b]M[/b]ad

There's something missing in this story.  A jig saw puzzle. Let me try.

I don't believe any reasonable /real man in this modern world would want to turn down a financially stable spinster that is good in character.
Its bad enough for her to be [b]desperate.[/b]How old is she anyway.Which guy wants a desperate woman however succesfull?
Could it be the reason she's bringing them into her apartment? Men can tell at times a desperate woman and they hate to be 'trapped'
Now now now.That car. I was waiting to hear she bought it. She needs to clear the air on that coz whether she likes it or not,if shes telling every guy she meets that it was a gift from her employer?esp.male?? well thy will judge her wrongly.
Tell her never to tell a guy it was a gift from her employer especially if it was a male.
Oh and finally.If say she's discloses hw much she earns and then she takes the guys to her house, a typical person me included will try to reconcile what I see with what she earns.You can't live like a King yet you earn peanuts you know.( btw,even in banks there are diffrent departmnts from managerial to cashiers).
I have a feeling that the guys are either intimidated or they are finding it hard to reconcile what they see with her position/salary in the bank.
Could she be living a lifestyle not worth her income??
Then tell her to stop bringing them into the house.Meet in some cafe.

Cheers and goodluck to her.

@ 190
Why are you adding sorrow to her already confused heart Now everytime she goes out with the dude shl think shes not good enough.That can be very damaging to her personality.
Help her out.

Simple.He knows what makes women tick.
Its the science of understanding a womans heart. Handsome/Beauty is just a cover or blanket.What lies beneath is what matters a lot and hes using that to his advantage.
Wise and lucky chap.