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it's been 6yrs after graduation, mine is laying on my fridge, l have never had any reason to use it, after a few applications after graduation l gave on up on job searching. my professional experience in my field of study has kept food on my table by the Grace of God.

Hausaboy239:
Am still caught up in this!
Had this girl i was dating since 2015,i was 20 in my 300level and she was 18,we really liked each other so much but her parents got someone they thought was good for her, you may have an idea of how northern parents impose marriage on their daughters.
The man they chose for her was much older atleast he was up to 45 then although she didn’t like him but there was nothing she could do. We weren’t getting intimate before the marriage issue came up but we started having sex a month before her marriage,we even had sex on her wedding day.

Fast forward to after her marriage,we promised each other we were going to keep off each other but after some months we were back making calls and chatting though she was in another state and i was in school.

More than a year passed by,we were on and off but were fooling ourselves that we were just friends. Whenever she has problems with her hubby i will be the first person she will look for cause she can’t report to her parents(they’re blinded by his money).

Unfortunately i was done with uni and went to serve in Abuja and that was were it started again,she was staying there and the husband had traveled abroad and was staying for bout 8months there.

Cut the story short,we started seeing each other often and anytime we met it happened to the extent that we got used to it!
I finished serving 2017 and got a job in Abuja,she’s still with her husband but we still hook up anytime she’s chanced though it could take months sometimes but I really feel bad when I think bout it and i sincerely want to call it off!

Pls how can i do stop it?

naso another Man go take chop ur wife, you can't escape it, karma has always been a bitch

We no know am

If l have my partner's nude, it's nobody's business it's for my viewing pleasure alone. No big deal as long as you don't have any Evil plans

useless people, another cover up

Theoarhics:
You are not my type after eating my money for more than six months. I almost died.

sorry Bro. why you been MuMu like that? if you most spend too much on an average naija girl make you have tested the cookie first.

she is still sexual attached to her ex, Until you format her Brain with ur sexual skills, my brother you are just an assistant Boyfriend.a word is a enough for the wise

something must kill a Man

useless people

Love in the time of corona Virus

okoroemeka:
a very dangerous snake , stepping on one is like stepping on a land mine, if not treated immediately with antivenom the victim is 100% death assured,in our place it's called (echi eteka) which means tomorrow is too far.

yeah, it's the same interpretation in Hausa too

Olympus has crashed men dey try Ooh,

puff adder

yes, if it's not gonna kill me thou, l cannot go and kill myself. over a pussssy that another Man will come and enjoy if am gone.

McTobe:
Bros no vex o are you married? If NO las las Na you go dey run that you need your own little space and wifey will be saying what you just posted...You are an African man after all

it's not totally about Sex. A Man and his wife are supposed to be one.

it's a big "No" for me. why the fuccck did we get married in the first place, why the fuccck Should we be staying in separate rooms. if she wants to stay in a separate room let her go back to her father's house.

Petyprincess:
I will definitely choose a rich man that cheats,continue your cheating as long as you don't stop your financial responsibility in the house,i will deny you the honey pot so you wnt use promiscuous life to destroy my my life!!

Na una type dey sweet for money ritual

Kennedyiheme02:
was that what your wh*ore of a mother told your Beta father.. no wonder you're as foolish as he is...

My Mum die even before ur good for nothing Ass self was born. go and make ur life useful "Sir fuckeralot " you pusssy licking, shithole addict, Jobless Motherfucker. Sweet dreams Sucker no fuccck given, l just exhausted my last fucccck

Kennedyiheme02:
so was your mama.. don't worry i didnt take offence brother

Dad married Mum as a virgin. you Sucker

Kennedyiheme02:
Lol what this simply means is, its the alphas that use women and aren't ready to commit to a woman, then the women run to the beta's for a committed relationship cos she knows he's a simp and would quickly oblige... just take a look at ciara and russell wilson... She's being seriously rammed by future, had her slutty days with him, even has a kid for him, 50 cent had a piece of that pie too... but poor beta rusell wilson was the one that took the bait and settled for her used pussy.. damn.. betas are the providers.. .. I'll keep bringing that knowledge.. i know alot of people get informed from all this...

ur MaMa, was used too no hard feelings

as l will always say no stranger will stay in my matrimonial home for more than two weeks, you are a weak Man, your wife should choose btwn you and her soo called best friend both of you are irresponsible, talking from past experiences l won't condone such shit.

taylor89:
Una too small and young to marry

Bad Belle, don't go and plan ur life

Michellekabod2:
wow..congrats to you. Love is a beautiful thing.

I don't mean to probe into your personal life with my questions but wanna have an idea of what it feels like to be in a committed relationship (as I intend to go into one soon and its also long distance)
1)who initiates the call/text? You or your fiancee?
2) how often do you see physically based on the distance? (In my case we are 12-14 hours apart)...

I know every relationship is unique,but I assume you are speaking from experience and your response will give me clues on what to expect.

it wasn't really easy at first, she was just 22years( 100level) and l was 28years( just rounded up my Nysc then). l meet with her parents after 6months of constant communication and commitment. the condition they gave me was that, l would let her finish school before marriage which l agreed, because I new shez my wife, it's been rough and good, we've had our ups and downs, with every misunderstanding and quarrel we had, we got a better understanding of each other. many people told me she will dump my ass after graduation( even on this forum) but God is helping Us.

to answer ur questions.

(a) at first l do more of the calling and texting(she was not the type that was into much calling and texting. but she changed as we got deeper, the calling and texting was on equal balance. we have a special sim CUG we use for that soo we can talk up to 5hours if we want too, sometimes we talk for 2hours straight( subscription is just #600 a month and you can talk all you want that has helped alot)
(b) she visits or l visit when we are both chanced, maximum length of months being apart 4months, if you are both sexual active, it's important you both see each other to Bond once in a while since you are both committed and not dating other individuals.


for a long distant relationship to succeed the followings are very important.

(1) you both have to know what you want and try to be on the same wave length.
(2) Love,understanding and commitment is vital
(3) communication is vital too at list 4 times each day, you both shear how ur day went and all
(4) always discuss about ur Future together, the things you hope to accomplish, how you picture ur family and all
(5) avoid external interference. there is no ultimate formula for a successful relationship just know what's morally right and stick to it.
(6) encourage each other at all times.
(7) keeping too many male or female Friends will make you both loss focus( too many distractions)
( avoid that so call bestie scrap it usually spoils every thing
(9) quarrel once in a while it gives you a Better understanding of Who you are hoping to spend the rest of ur life with. that should be done with wisdom Sha no fights( if you observe or see what you know is not morally right speak out soo ur partner can have a better understanding.)
(10) it's Ok to be wrong we can't be right all the time. there is no point in winning every argument.
(11) always respect ur partner, in his presence and absence, don't do things you know both of you won't condone.
(12) the truth is, love is hardwork, but when you both are committed there no mountain you can't climb.
) always commit ur ways to God and He will definitely see you through.

Beckysexy:
Lol
Who's your bae?

you are a Bae Sweedy, Bae, Could mean girlfriend, friend or a sweet psycho like you senorita

Beckysexy:
Who is this one again ? Sigh

Bae is sweet psycho less l forgot

Beckysexy:
A normal sex should be between 1 to 2 hours
My perspective tho.

well done Ma. you will be marrying super Man l guess. don't go and kill someone's Son Ooh

Oga food

when them born Mami water now, they will wondering what happened

lordprogress:
Another religious fool who believe the isrealis are the holiest

you can go and kill yourself for all l care.

every enemy of Israel is an enemy of God, the Arab nation will forever be confused, they will turn against themselves by themselves

NeedAdvice00:
I don't enjoy my conversation with her. She thinks the problem is with me. Me too think the problem is from her.

I don't even know. Conversation is the problem. Don't even know what to discuss with her.

lol it's like new to this dating thing, you don't have to have a topic of discussion, you just need to be spontaneous, there a whole lot to always talk about

twice is Ok! for me, if she doesn't pick, l'll take it shez busy. l will give it some hours before trying again. l only call repeatedly if there is an emergency