Taniteni: Please dear Daddy and Mommy, forgive me for bringing this here. am doing this because av run out of options and I don't have any other choice. My name is Kelly, I give birth to my boy Ayomi 2 years ago and since then it has been a rollercoaster of one event to another. My fiance abandoned us and I move in back with my parents taking care of my son all alone without any assistance even though he was always falling very sick all the time. I notice that he always feels discomfort when his trying to breath so I looked for money to take my son to the hospital. He was diagnosed with congenital heart defect, a hole in his heart, as the cause of his breathing problems. I've cried my eyes out but if only crying can solve problem. I can't stand to see my child in pain.
I've gone almost everywhere I can possibly go but no hope except for hospital. Doctors say that he will need to undergo surgery at UCH for N4.5million and my family with the help of some very kind hearted people have been able to raise part of N3 million. We have sold off almost everything valuable to us but it's not yet enough, that why I am appealing to well meaning Nigerians, if you're touched to save my son's life, please find it in your kind heart to extend a hand of help to him. Nothing is too small in the sight of God. Please am also calling upon any NGO that can accept my sons condition please. May God almighty bless you immensely and wipe away sorrow from your eye. Amen.
PornLegend: Read the topic. As for me, my own na this type of gown/dress Oh lord, if my woman wears this thing come enter room with me, I fit promise am anything I swear My brain wee kiss switch off
pansophist: Let's not mix broke with poor sha. The simple test you can use to tell the difference is her outlook. Hungry girls are externally looking (vanity over modesty) , while broke girls are inwardly looking (modest over vanity). A generalization sha.
So hungry girls need wealth and a wealthy man to further amplify their vanity, oppress their enemies and glow in the spotlight. They can't make money themselves, they need your money to shine.
A broke girl is circumstancial, her brokeness didn't affect her character at all, and will save 40k from the 50k you gave her to plait her hair. She may even have a job of 40k monthly while saving 5k.
So you may avoid hungry girls, since it's a mentality thing, but if she is broke, which is a temporary unavailability of material stuff, she can still make a good wife.
And that goes for men too.
Men always considering, but ladies will never or else she's getting older
Magnoliaa: When you guys are so chronically online, you're not far away from losing touch with reality.
As if the people who live in the slums and are the major contributor to our exploding population gives a fk about all of your 'don't marry hungry girls, don't marry broke boys' narratives.
Mtcheeeewwww.
A lady will never marry a broke guy unless she's getting older
thesicilian: But 99.5% of Nigerian girls are hungry na, what then do we do
Not all. Just that the don't give like white ladies. Daddy freeze is very right. Most 9ja men to just lower themselves a bit. The hungry ladies will still turn out to be a beast as time goes on
After daddy freeze message, I deleted 5 numbers from my phone. Seriously he is right. I will rather suffer to get those high class babes, they really worth it
Samantha124: I don't disagree with what everyone is saying, in fact I agree that the groom shouldn't be burdened with the responsibility of financially supporting his in-laws, but the wife should also not be expected to perform certain responsibilities towards her in-laws.
When they visit, they should cook for themselves whenever the wife is busy, for she's not their chef... And if one of the groom's parents gets sick and needs 24/7 care, the groom should care for his parent to good health, for his wife wouldn't have signed up to be a nurse when she agreed to get married to him.
What do you think guys?
So what ever works for you my love. I can't ask my won brother for money. But I'm comfortable to ask his wife. Infact the wife gave me 2 million laste year. I dash her money like mad. She always say I'm a good person, but she doesn't know he is the best
Onyiiobi7735: Reno is very right this time around.No man marrying from a particular family is responsible for carrying the burden of the in-laws.He should not emotionally blackmailed into becoming the meal ticket of his in-laws. Some in-laws are very excellent at emotional blackmail of the men marrying their daughters,but smart men won't fall for it.
I have not seen such. It depends on you, don't impress anybody from the beginning. Don't act nice. Talking from experience
Chibuzoripob: Their daughter is FREE to take care of her parents..It is not the husband responsibility to carry/shoulder his wife family burden on his head like gala
It's not easy as you think. If you are a salary earner you can foot bills on your own
LadyRosa2: As the topic implies, this is a true life story.
Although my knowledge of this family started around when I was 19 years old.
I will call this friend of mine Sarah, the first child and daughter of her father. This true life story appears sad, and in my quiet times, especially recently, I'm beginning to feel sympathetic to both sides of the coin.
A few days ago, around 6 am, Sarah called me, and our conversation went like this;
Me: Babe, how far, this one you dey call by this time? Sarah:I'm going to drop my papa at the park. Me: for what na? Person wey just enter town yesterday? You for allow the man rest small...
Sarah: no be for my house, I don drop am, pay him transport, and still give am 5k to hold the body for the road.
Me: Babe, I dont support this one, in less than 24 hours your dad dey the Road for like 12 hours.
Sarah: That one no concern me, no be me invite am come.
A day earlier her father had called her from their previous location, he must have gotten there only to find out his 'ex-wife' had moved out. He decided to call Sarah, and she picked up, accommodated him for the night and bundled him back to the next available bus to Makurdi.
Truth be told, the ex-wife no longer lived in the slum he visited. She is now in a duplex, paid for by his first son. Let's call him David. David is in Europe and through one of my kinsmen, had secured a 3-bedroom duplex for his mom. His father is not aware of this.
Those children suffered men!
Big Mama, Sarah's mom was abandoned by her husband when Sarah was just 12 years old. The same year, Sarah was brutally raped by a neighbour because of 20 naira, while her mother was bedridden in the hospital after child evacuation. The father left while she was pregnant with the 5th child. Sarah would hawk all manner of foodstuffs to put food on the table. When she doesn't sell, she sells her body for peanuts to buy pepper and oil to make even the cheapest dried akro soup.
Her father had remarried and stopped caring about their welfare, a federal government worker in a good money-spinning ministry. He got transferred to another state and started a new life.
When I knew Sarah, she already had a child, a small saloon and four more mouths to feed. She would work in the morning and at night she would visit lounges. Life was hard, and so cigarettes and drinks became her god.Sarah till date is a chimney and she does so even in the presence of my husband, he no longer minds.
One cold night a couple of years ago, after we shared drinks at my place. She narrated how she and her siblings suffered.
" Sis, say my brother travel abroad, no be my power,na say God don look us say we don too suffer. David go gather wound for his body, from one Lebanese and Indian company to another, na so machine go dey cut cut his body. So so blue ink full him body"
I watched with tears how she broke down completely, spilling her wine all over my tiles.
"Sis, na 20 naira e take to lose my virginity, 20 naira!"
", My father...Wetin' we do am?!"
Two years ago and some months , she got a huge break. She called me to follow her to Transcorp Hilton and made me promise that I 'behave' myself.
We met this man, well groomed. We were half into the conversation when she looked at me with a forced smile, and said to me " Sis, this is the man that raped me"
The spring rolls in my mouth turned into vinegar, my heart began to pound, and I could only see everyone but the man blurry. I eventually kept my cool but was silent the whole evening even as the man apologised profusely. My baby was beginning to cry, and I took the opportunity to leave their table because I was feeling sick and nauseated.
In less than 6 months after that encounter, he had secured a bigger and well-equipped saloon for her and had given her enough to travel out to buy hair.
Let's talk about David. David suffered oooo. I remembered one time I was going through her old pics and saw a younger version of David, sickly with his tummy protruded.
" My sister, na poison. My father come one day,, carry am go makurdi, na so person call my mother say make she come do carry her pikin before them kill am.My mother enters Moto, and as she stops for Keffi, she stand for Road dey beg for Moto wey go carry her reach makurdi, no money na. We carry am waka from one church to another before God just save that boy. "
I looked at the picture again and gently dropped it, still overwhelmed with internal grief. The first time I saw David in person after he graduated from the University ( he sponsored himself with the help of his sisters), I asked in bewilderment,
" So na this boy your father abandoned?"
Standing before me was a young man, fair, built and with a height I reckoned would be above 6. In inches. No wonder white women couldn't get off him as soon as he landed in Europe. He got married to one and life in that family changed in a flash. I enjoyed it for I got a cut from my father's kinsman when he bought a property.
Their father is no longer with the second wife, as she left him after three kids. He married a third and is now a retired pensioner.
Last night, while shopping together, Sarah was laughing and I asked, " Babe why you dey laugh"?
" When my father comes to my house, him dey ask me why I leave one bedroom go enter 3 bedrooms with my son. I tell am palee, this house no be rent o, na my house be this o."
" So wetin' him come talk?" I inquired.
"Wetin' him one talk again? Shebi waist pain wey my mama dey go through na say he left her when she was in her twenties. The woman has not seen Preek 4ck till today, because she carries church for the head. Woman wey him marry when she dey 17 years."
I choose to use the word ex-wife, but they never really divorced because the bride price paid is still binding. The fact that this woman who has suffered so much will soon be a mother-in-law to a German BMW Engineer in a few days is overwhelming. I wasn't surprised their last girl will end well, she's always looking like something out of foreign red carpets all the time. Like David, she is tall slim, surprisingly Conservative and intelligent.
Palee will be coming again to grace the marriage of one of the daughters he abandoned. Can't imagine his regret when he sleeps in a well-furnished duplex, away from the slum where he abandoned his children and wife many years ago, only to find out the first son from his loins bought that for his mother.
E go to pain am.
But one thing is certain or I think I noticed, David and Sarah still bear the hurt. The other kids have moved on, and don't mind being in their father's life.
I will advise every man to train a child outside his divorced wives kids. Very important. Whether Ur sis kids, baby man or village people kids. Nigeria divorced kids turns out badly especially to the dad
ThatCEO: A man makes money, he wants to marry a woman.
A woman makes money, she will say she doesn't need a man n all d men within her standards are suddenly below her.
The human male specie is the most foolish animal in our eco system.
Very true. But you forget most women are bisexuals. They feel comfortable befriending themselves. Their friendship is like husband and wife o. They call everyday. Their friendship is well defined o Try call your so called rich friend as a man. Omo him go the irritated. Come UK them plenty. With all the thousands of single lady in UK, you will still use your money and go to Africa to get a wife. U suppose no y. Before you marry a lady that earns well or have a good career, you must proof to her that you are not their for her money o( unless she's ugly), you go spend tire. Most rich ladies I met bounced me or give me rules and conditions. Upon I de earn block. But you see poor girls everyday on my dm saying hi,hey,fine boy, n so on. A ladies in Nigeria only need many desperately when she has nothing at that point
I know of someone who was frustrated by a university to the extent that she ended up with an HNC but now by the grace of God has graduated with distinction in her masters all in the UK.
Ladies carry UK master grad for head knowing fully well it's useless. I hardly see guys flaunting their certificate. They know fully well they will end up as care worker. So what's the point
babamadiba: Sometimes I wonder if na grandma they love pass real mama . So beautiful knowing that my mum and my kids have this kind of relationship.
I swear. My friend did the same thing to his grandfather. Bcus the mum gave birth to him at home and went n marry someone else. He built house for them when the signed for Slovakia
Cloggym: We started a relationship at the end of August. She was the who wanted a relationship, and I liked her too so I accepted since I’m single. We live just 1hr apart in 2 different cities in the east. So I wouldn’t completely say it’s a long distance relationship.
She visited, and I happen to check her WhatsApp while she was asleep. I found out she’s sleeping with a few other men, not a relationship cos I didn’t see endearing names or any romantic chats just stuffs like “ where are you? I’m at your house “ Are we seeing today?”
Should I confront her or use her for sex only , with protection of course
Oga 3 months is not a relationship is still situationship
So ,close to 20 years mikel stayed in England, common sense didn't tell him to help relocate some family members abroad, even if na one of him brother with all the money he was earning then.
Even Luis Diaz that joined Liverpool which day, hass started making plans to move his family over to UK
[quote author=Macnnoli4 post=127282679]Justice for short men. They even have it tough in oyibo countries. At this time where fat shaming women is seen as a sin and social offence, short men deserve their own Justice too.[/quotemen don't speak out. N once a man makes money every other thing becomes unimportant
Ballzproblem2: when you reach 40+ you go tell God make you just manage man with good heart
Most ladies want to be single this days. Why do you think when you travel, it's either you marry white or you come back home to find a wife. All ladies need is money then you will see her true self. A ladies wants marriage because they don't have money so, the pull up the attractive part of them, which is good attitude and ability to keep a home ( na poverty cause am).
SweetBuns: They say that "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder", but honestly speaking there are certain calibres of men I will never go near no matter how hard they try.
To get straight to the point,
1. Short men Oh my God.... I don't just know what to say about these sort of men. If I'm taller than you as a girl, then sorry but I can never see you as my second piece. You'll always be like a younger brother to me. No hard feelings. Short men also have this irritating attitude whenever they see girls around, as if they're trying to compensate for their low height. And some even go to the gym and gets muscles.... But it just makes them look shorter like a 5 litre jerry can and irritating Also, why in the world would I pick a short guy over a tall guy? I literally feel so protected and safe when I'm with a guy that is wayyyy taller than me (I'm 5'2 so my height is kinda average)... So ofc I'd want a tall man and not a mini man. Imagine hugging a man and he's hugging your waist cause he's short ugh. I wanna stand on my toes whenever I kiss him and strain my neck just to look at his face. No more no less. Tall men also stand out more, they're far more attractive and I also want taller sons and daughters. Who should the short guys date then? I dunno... But not me. The bar starts at 6'0, but If you're like 6'2 or 6'3... I want your babiesss
2. Bald men The only age where I think baldness is acceptable as a man for me is if he's like in his 50s or 60s. But if you're in your 20s-30s and you're already going bald.... It just irritates me low-key in a inexplicable way... Like why will a young guy have a hairline that receeds all the way to the middle or back of your head? Where did all your hair go? Gross I also read somewhere that early balding is genetically inherited so that means my children too will suffer the same fate? God forbid. My man ought to have a head full of hair well into his 60s, then we start talking about hair loss.
3. "Oju yo Bo" people I didn't know the English term for this so I had to Google it. It's a Yoruba term for people whose eyes pop out of their sockets like that of a wall gecko. This is also something I don't like in my man.... I want his eyes to be like that of Henry Cahill... Neatly tucked inside and having small slit like opening.
Addition: so I just googled it and it's called prey eyes. I prefer the hunter one since it gives my man a piercing gaze and I just wanna hug him immediately.
4. Eyebrows A man MUST have thick eyebrows. If you don't, I can't take you seriously
5. Men with bad posture
6. Men who supports man U
That last one was a joke but I'm dead serious about the rest. And I'm sure other girls will agree to some up there too.
Chingyyy878: Weddings are so expensive nowadays. To young people that want to start their lives, go to court and have a small dinner with your close friends and family. You can do the party if you’d like years later.
Thanks!
The problem is the lady not the guys. Omoni know some that spend over 2 million for both traditional and court plus bride list. She cancelled everything bcus the guy refused to do wedding. So don't blame the guys. Especially when a lady I a bit rich. She will be commanding you like you are not human, any small thing she will threaten you with ending the wedding. Now, I realise that lady have to be lacking before she will be loyal, either financially or agr wise. If she's getting older she I'll behave as well, if she's ugle she will behave as well. This gender sabi calculate like primary school children, nothing mature for their head o
A polytechnic. By mainly fellow students in the hostel and around the campus for my looks and that such kind of looks doesn't deserve to get what I want. This is the worst kind of bullying I have ever received. It has reduced my confidence and my ability to study. I used to be a programmer but they eventually spoilt my PC I believe. And you know I need to be okay to work with a PC especially Since I was interested in Algorithms and problem solving. I am not the same person I was before. This is the worst academic environment ever. I just wish I could leave and find my true self again
Zonefree: This industry just dey favour only girls. Efe that won big brother is now selling loud in Warri while Mercy just dey buy cars like pure water.
Jennyclay: I regretted worrying so much about finding a right partner this year. Nigerian men don’t worth the stress Abeg . They are all the same abeg
There is a lot to the world and life besides finding a partner. Life is not about finding your partner. It’s about finding yourself!
I understand you my dear. You see in Nigeria, that guy you want that is rich. Has 500 options. Talking from experience. Try and look for someone that is a builder, painter, carpenter, lecturer, pastor and start up a live with. Don't look for a jobless fine tall man o. You will still complain. In Nigeria today once you make money as a young guy, ladies will be too much on you because their body language now is money. But mostly jobless or average ladies. A rich girl will still reject you as a rich guy o
Travel / Re: 11 Reasons Why You Must Japa From Nigeria by vickydevoka(m): 1:52pm On Dec 11, 2023 
when you reach 40+ you go tell God make you just manage man with good heart