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RomanceRe: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 12:52am On Aug 12, 2018
weyreypey:
The kind of dad who'd not joke with the safety and security of the kids ...


Not all Nigerian boys who faced such made it out sane
Eeyah smiley
That's good
Very good
You made it out strong! smiley
Thumbs up! May God keep you strong always to see them through life, amen.
Smiles.
RomanceRe: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 12:39am On Aug 12, 2018
weyreypey:
Lucky you. I was on the verge of reporting such an aunty when she subverted me and reported that I was playing with electricity sockets.. oh oh oh... Some of us knew how to fvck before knowing how to wash even handkerchiefs.
Wow! Na wa o.
And your parents believe her? sad
Wow!
So what kind of guy are you now, as uv grown up?
RomanceRe: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 12:22am On Aug 12, 2018
weyreypey:
Like I said in my other post those guys are mostly damaged by molestations at very tender age by trusted aunties.
Such aunties are to be arrested.. That's very terrible! Children both male and female should voice out when raped! Men raped by women should also arrest such mentally unstable women
Women too should arrest such men who rapes. It's completely bad.

Parents should be close to their kids, so when such things happen, the children will easily tell their parents.

When I was very little, I should be 7years old then, my cousin who was way older tried raping me, he started with fingering me. I was like what's the uncle doing? He said I shouldn't tell my parents and he will buy chocolate for me tomorrow. In my mind I was like this is wrong, why is he touching me this way? And this guy came for the weekend.
Omo! Immediately my parents came back from work, late in the night
I ran to my mum and told her what happened. She was very angry, she told my dad and the cousin was really spoken harshly that night and sent off very early the next day. So parents be close to your kids, and they will tell u virtually anything or threats from extended family or strangers.
Such boys should voice out to their mums or dad. Cut off such evil quickly!
RomanceRe: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 11:58pm On Aug 11, 2018
weyreypey:
Nah. Sex must be consensual all the way. Check my other post
Sex must be consensual, I agree. But rapists do not have the patience for it to be consensual from the lady's part. They simple pounce! Which is completely wrong.
RomanceRe: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 11:56pm On Aug 11, 2018
insperyadyou:
when you said 'he is patient'. You know how to use words well
Smiles, patient means he didn't pounce on me for sex. Or he didn't force himself on me. He took his time, which I like. I do have panic attacks when a guy tries to be all over me, all at once. It scares the hell out of me.
RomanceRe: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 11:53pm On Aug 11, 2018
weyreypey:
I am NOT Am.
Great. But these rape cases should be carefully observed.... When a lady allows you to play around the point without going inside are you doubting she's setting herself up for rape?
But what if she doesn't allow you to play around the point?
Is her polite and courteous nature means she wants to get laid?
Is it bad to be polite and friendly?
Why is it when a lady smiles in one on one discussions means she wants sex?
Should she always frown ?to get the message across that hey don't touch me, cos I don't even know u that well?
FamilyRe: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by victorian(f): 11:47pm On Aug 11, 2018
Cooleasy:
Ha! I find your personal story very touching. You have already seen too much blood! I respect you and I feel for you. I pray that God gives you happiness and also that He decrees 'never again' to tears and sorrow in your life. Amen.
Ha! Have seen much blood that will last me for a life time.
I tell God when my second brother was about giving up in my arms, that God if I see another death around me, I will just loose it. I won't be able to take it anymore. Please let these deaths stop! Those periods was heartwrenching. I pray no one witness their loved ones dying on their arms.. It's a terrible thing to go through in life. The helplessness cannot be described. cry May God help us.

Amen and amen to the bolded. Amen Lord Jesus.. Thank you.
God bless you amen
RomanceRe: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 11:42pm On Aug 11, 2018
weyreypey:
Wish you well. Everyone deserves security..
Thanks.

Yes, everyone does.
Feeling secured is very important .
RomanceRe: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 11:40pm On Aug 11, 2018
weyreypey:
Thanks for the details. Are you still single?
Am not single.
RomanceRe: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 11:38pm On Aug 11, 2018
insperyadyou:
if all men are the same, how will you then get married?
Well am in a lovely relationship as I type.
Thank God my man didn't rape or attempt to rape me during our dating level.
He's patient and disciplined. That's why i said not all men but considerable number of men these days are not in their right senses.

Although it took me 5years before now to trust, with help of God and foresight choose wisely, start a relationship and maintain a stable relationship with a man.

Later, I Met my only one and only Chef, Mr Romantic, Easy going , works hard, balls hard, but with a sense of peace around him. Am fine but I will never forget the past. It pops up sometimes. Am human.
RomanceRe: Error thread by victorian(f): 11:19pm On Aug 11, 2018
lefulefu:
how many campus relationships in naija end up in marriage?.....very very few of them.in most cases u will see a campus babe dating a campus guy from hundred level and after graduation they will break up and the girl will go and marry a total stranger just because the total stranger is financially stable.i just dey laugh at male undergraduates wey dey carry university relationship 4 head cheesy.
Smiles, true..

So true.
RomanceRe: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 11:10pm On Aug 11, 2018
TimeManager:
Why would you demonize men by your shallow & myopic reasoning?.. Did you skip the part she admitted she still loves him inspite?
Why not address the issue rather than draw a gender line?
I'm sick of NL dumbheads.

kiss the truth!
Am not demonizing men.. That's the reality.

While I was living alone, I was almost raped three times on different occasions cos I wan marry!
First rape attempt! Was in my office! Yes in my office ,some years back. I invited guy wooing me, we've been chatting for a while. And we were like let's hang out. Let meet up at my office, then we can hang out. He came when I was about to close office. I showed him round, he had this innocent smile. I never knew he was a devil. As we were about to leave, I had a pressing headache, I was like u know what let's call it a night. Am not feeling fine. He said eeyah sorry. Anyways to cut long story short, he hugged me , relaxed then he wanted to kiss I pulled back. Come and see his hard grip, I was like pls stop. He had this mad excited look in his eyes. He said cmon? Relax.. I was so pissed, I was struggling, he was laughing saying am. Making him more excited by my struggles, then he pinned me by one of my tables, his hands were just like iron. I was scared, I then remembered security guard is not far from my door.. I said if u don't leave me I will scream and security will throw u out! Leave me now! Then I screamed, he thought I was joking. Security knocked at my door. Madam are u okay? . That's when he let go off me. With shaky hands, I opened the door Security walked him out immediately that's number one

Number two, after some months, I say make I date again. At least I can't be single But I will be careful. We met at my place. Foolish me.. I easily forget. That one sef also tried raping me, but I pushed him and ran out of my house with speed of lighting.

Number three, after a year, I say make I date again. Sighs.. This one happened in his family home. He said everyone will be at home and wants to introduce me to the family, whereas it was just him and his friend. God saved me. Immediately I notice no one at home. I became nervous and ready to run. Lol

And I did ran, when opportunity came.

Ha! God!.. Some men out there are evil. Ladies beware o! Be very careful and alert. Not all. Men u see walking towards u with a smile is harmless. Some are demons! And that's the truth!
FamilyRe: My Wife Lied About Her Genotype by victorian(f): 10:44pm On Aug 11, 2018
You've entered already. You can't leave the poor boy on his own.
Mehn I pity you bank accounts, in fact you and your wife bank accounts. Cause of taking care of a sicker is not a ride in the park. It's damned expensive, especially when crisis starts. I lost my elder through sickle cell. He died age 18. I lost my second brother through hole in the heart, he died age 24. Am the only left but with AA genotype. They both died right in front of me. Terrible past moments cry It wasn't easy . I had to spend on my second brother's health, cos our parents were old and gone, after some years back. I lost the battle three years ago. After spending alot in his treatments. Mehn it wasnt easy. I saw pepper!

And my parents spent fire to take care of my late brothers when they were alive.

Sorry op, you can't run away from your son. It's good uv decided not to have more kids with your wife. But please take care of your son. Some sicklers survive while some don't. May God see both of you through amen.
RomanceRe: After Making The Money,i Still can't Find These Quality Of A Wife Material by victorian(f): 9:23pm On Aug 11, 2018
Be patient op and open your eyes well. U will see such ladies. It's not hard to find. Also make yourself good looking , and a husband material, it attracts such ladies like bees .
Best of luck
RomanceRe: Error thread by victorian(f): 9:09pm On Aug 11, 2018
lefulefu:
There's more to this storycheesy. Maybe ur girlfriend has secretly agreed to marry this guy after she graduates and this might be the reason the man has taken fully over her finances. Yes some guys might help a lady or someone in need once in a while..nothing to dat. But that one random guy will be paying a girl's house rent monthly or yearly,buy her new phones every three months and pay her school fees just like out just because he feels like it...hmm. I know for sure he's not a philantropistcheesy. Buy the way does he not have responsibilities? Im no get parents or younger ones wey he dey look after? Bros op its either this ur girlfriend hoodwink dis guy with lies dat she will marry him or d guy dey chop ur baby steady without u knowing.shine ur eyecheesy.
So true!

The man will even end up marrying her.

He's protecting his investment and school boyfriend is still asking questions.

My friend has similar story as well.. She ended up marrying the other guy who's spending more on her, immediately after her youth service.
Her school boyfriend almost went crazy with the breakup, after call up letter to service. But shes now married to the other guy. He even owns a house in lekki, shes now a landlady at age 23. Well taken care of, her husband dotes on her .. While the school bf is done with youth service searching for job In his mum's house.
You can see the difference. And moreover she's on the big side, then also looks older than her age. Maybe that's why she chose to marry immediately and discard school love.

She had to choose the available over I love you. They both love her anyways undecided

So op, just move on Biko..
If she ends up bn yours? Thank God .. But if not? Move on.
FamilyRe: My Housemate Is Looking At Me As A Threat by victorian(f): 8:38pm On Aug 11, 2018
Guy! Free yourself jare.

Talk to both of them, your flat mate and his girlfriend. And let him know there and then, you don't have feelings for her but you just see her as a friend. So he should calm down on his suspicious attitude. Cause u don't have time to start feeling awkward at home, like you are walking on eggs of shells.
Then crack one or two jokes, and tell your guy to loosen up. Life no hard reach that level.
If after the round table talks and he is still behaving childishly, that's his problem. abeg free your mind and yourself in that house.
FamilyRe: Can You Take This As A Working Class Woman? by victorian(f): 8:22pm On Aug 11, 2018
Thank God, my man can cook even better than me sef . He takes it as a hobby at home.

I can't start pounding yam. I don't even know how to pound yam sef. Its something we would have made clear during courtship. I don't pound yams, sorry dear..
Except he wants poundo yam. I can't come and break down cos I want to please husband. He should know better.

Me, I can't do it, after am back from work. Oga sorry.
RomanceRe: He Forcefully Took My Virginity, Wants Marriage. I'm Hurting. What Should I Do? by victorian(f): 8:15pm On Aug 11, 2018
Eeyah cry

Sorry about the rape ordeal. I can imagine how u will be feeling all through.

I wouldn't advise you to marry him and I doubt if he really had plans to marry you. He simply deceived you, made you trust him, all for the cookie.

Na WA o. sad

Don't worry take heart, tell your parents about it and get him arrested. He shouldn't go Scot free.

And please next time, don't go visiting a guy without a friend or else same thing might still occur, if u don't play along with him.
Visiting a guy wooing u, in his mind, he is like..... You want sex! That's the truth. That's how most of their brains are wired.

Not Every guy out there will just seat back, smile at you in his home without wanting to touch and have sex. Please be wise and careful next time in the future.

God be with you.
CrimeRe: "Why I Cut Off My Boyfriend’s Manhood" - 17-Year-Old Girl Confesses In Jigawa by victorian(f): 8:04pm On Aug 11, 2018
She went extreme sha.

But next time, he will either stick with a teenage girl he has disvirgined and stop been greedy for another pussy.

He got served, even before conviction.

If the dick survives by surgery and miracle. He will never in his life cheat again.
CrimeRe: Man Offers N250k To Anyone Who Can Help Recover His Bag Stolen In Lagos by victorian(f): 5:28pm On Aug 11, 2018
justscorchone:
Nah to return the passport and laptop but that money don enter voice mail. And before I go return the bag na to receive alert first.
See you! Alert u are waiting for, will just land u in jail.

Through your bank account details u will be traced and gbam! You go vomit everything u steal, even with an imaginary 500k on top.

Lol.

Be wise, don't be greedy!


In between, Stealing is bad.
PropertiesRe: Can I Complete A 10 Bedroom Self Contained(student Hostel) With 7.5 Million? by victorian(f): 11:04pm On Aug 10, 2018
Harryfrosh:
Why are people like this?.... The lady only ask for advice and enlightenment here... And people are already dropping numbers.... Why can't you tell her here?....and to the op... I will advise you to open your eyes clearly... I wish you best of luck....
Don't mind them.
Awon desperados undecided

Aunty, shine your eyes well o!

Come by yourself and supervise the building.. You can complete it within a month. It's very possible. As long as the workers are not lazy.
RomanceRe: Meet 'The Sexy Grand Pa' 45, Who Has 22 Kids With 21 Baby Mamas And A Grandkid by victorian(f): 9:15pm On Aug 10, 2018
Truth be told, he oozes pure sex! . That's a machine! cheesy
RomanceRe: Society Did A Horrible Thing by victorian(f): 6:08pm On Aug 10, 2018
Pusyiter:
My Dear thanks o.....e don tay small i hear from you.
We go chat later just that work is stiff-necking in view of 2019 lol
Eeyah grin
Truly it's been a while . Will expect your chat.
Take care smiley
RomanceRe: Society Did A Horrible Thing by victorian(f): 5:15pm On Aug 10, 2018
Pusyiter:
Every man needs a partner
Every woman needs a cover
Marriage is a beautiful thing
The problem is our ego.
When you are egocentric, being single is the best.
Paddy mi cheesy You are here!

Tell them as e dey hot! smiley

In between For me? Marriage is the next best thing I could ever wish to have in my life. Being single for life is not a great idea or path to choose. Companionship and family is a deal breaker, anytime, anyday. Simply marry the right person and like u rightly typed, people should just lower their egos and make it work.




How's work today? smiley
CelebritiesRe: Richard Mofe-Damijo Feeding His Wife, Jumobi, Palm Wine At Wedding (Throwback) by victorian(f): 4:58pm On Aug 09, 2018
cheeyoma:
Have some respect please. The woman is long dead. That you can type doesn't mean you should let go of your senses
Jeez! shocked Jumobi his wife in the picture, is not dead o!
She's stil alive and kicking strong.

Biko take am easy with false news.
CelebritiesRe: “How To Make A Woman Submissive” - Lilian Esoro Shares Relationship Tip by victorian(f): 10:18am On Aug 08, 2018
nonjebose:
I expect all manners comment here.
You are right. It escaped my mind. I forgot am on nairaland.
smiley
CelebritiesRe: “How To Make A Woman Submissive” - Lilian Esoro Shares Relationship Tip by victorian(f): 10:00am On Aug 08, 2018
Bizibi:
not in all cases, some ladies love the adventure and most of the lesbians started the act way back in their teenage years and it happens mostly in the all girls boarding school days.
Yes! That's another reason too. I didn't think of it initially.
All girls boarding school! I remember have heard cases of such too.
That's another disadvantage of enrolling a child in either all boys school or all girls school. I won't try such with any of my kids.
#Team no boarding school#
CelebritiesRe: “How To Make A Woman Submissive” - Lilian Esoro Shares Relationship Tip by victorian(f): 9:54am On Aug 08, 2018
Hanseel1:
Shut up!

Poor women be disgracing the feminism ideology since time immemorial. You said no woman in her right senses will leave a rich man.


The only thing I denoted from that line is that you're poor..

Poverty has re-setted your brain to the extent that you think a woman can't leave a rich man under any circumstances.
I don't interact with wild animals.

Carry your wahala go.

Eranko!
CelebritiesRe: “How To Make A Woman Submissive” - Lilian Esoro Shares Relationship Tip by victorian(f): 9:52am On Aug 08, 2018
nonjebose:
I totally agree with you in the area of "a wise woman". Some foolish women do not have submission in their genes. They may pretend to submit when things are okay, but let the man make a mistake or suffer some lose then the tigress in them is let loose
God bless you jare.

You can read, understand and decipher what am saying.
Money spent on your education was not wasted.
You are the first human being with correct sense, am interacting with today online.
CelebritiesRe: “How To Make A Woman Submissive” - Lilian Esoro Shares Relationship Tip by victorian(f): 9:40am On Aug 08, 2018
Donjazzy12:
Can you imagine what you wrote? So following your line of thought Men should turn to Homosexuals when treated badly by women?
You are a Lesbian! Stop pretending and lying to yourself. Lilian is wrong.
Typical of a Nigerian man, always in denial.. That's why your relationships and marriages pack up , at the end you bring your frustrations online.

Come and turn me to lesbian. Oga Gay
CelebritiesRe: “How To Make A Woman Submissive” - Lilian Esoro Shares Relationship Tip by victorian(f): 9:37am On Aug 08, 2018
Hanseel1:
You just ended up disgracing yourself.

The fact that your poor to the extent that you can't leave a man when he cheat or abuse you because he's rich doesn't mean you should type senseless stuff here.

In the western world people are dumping rich men everyday
Who call you?

I didn't end up disgracing myself cos am not a lesbian and am in a fulfiled relationship.

You are the one disgracing yourself by taking it personal and starting up with insults. Typical of guys here. You people cannot type a sensible sentences without insults.

Read to understand? You won't! And u will beat your chest, am a graduate. Simple words, you can't even comprehend.. Smhhhh

Carry your frustrations off my mentions!
CelebritiesRe: “How To Make A Woman Submissive” - Lilian Esoro Shares Relationship Tip by victorian(f): 9:36am On Aug 08, 2018
Hanseel1:
You just ended up disgracing yourself.

The fact that your poor to the extent that you can't leave a man when he cheat or abuse you because he's rich doesn't mean you should type senseless stuff here.

In the western world people are dumping rich men everyday

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