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Treasuredlove:
you see her every other day and yet you could not call her up offline to talk to her about her attitude but you prefer to come online to shame her.
Shame on you yourself.
One shouldn't have an acquaintance/friend/neighbor like you

My dear, don't bother yourself. He doesn't know me, and I don't know him either. he spewing pure lies .. That's why I didn't bother myself to reply him..its pure waste of time. And such time I don't on people who knows nothing about me. Today is 1st of August, will I start arguing with someone who doesn't know me?
No time.. So don't waste your time on him.
Let him say whatever he likes. The important thing is am living my life to the fullest.

Look at my dp, that's my office.. Do u think a broke lady will be able to afford such executive table? And chair? My office is very spacious, unlike the shop he said I have at Onipan.
I don't have my company at Onipan. I have it elsewhere. He says am single but I simply laughed. I don't need to make it public the day, month and year I got married. It's nobody's buisness, neither is it his own buisness.

Am not the type who will post her marriage pics online and everything that goes on in my life online. Am a private person.

Alot of people feel they are suppose to know my private life. Really? But am not the type who confides about my intimate life style or private life to the few friends I have.

So whatever he's spewing here online, is a figment of his imagination. He's talking of someonelse, not me!

And that's the truth.

Jasen1:
Because e don Tay it's now a normal thing abi

Uncle, where in my comment did I say it's normal?
Cause it happens every now and then in Nigeria doesn't make it normal or abnormal.. It simply happens.
It's now depends on the victim to either reject such nasty menace in where she's looking for her daily bread or fall prey.

It's a personal decision.

The boots is no no for me.

MajorJeffery:
The giving in this context isn't about sacrifice. The lady had money at the back of her mind after all the topic is about financial obligations. I believe if people marry their friends and not just lovers, there won't be dramas in marriage.

I hardly remember the name of girls I loved and dated in my early teen years but I still remember the name of my primary school good friends. You see what I mean?

True sha.
Cos with my best friend a female like myself, we give to ourselves everything freely without doubts or suspicions.

MajorJeffery:
So marriage is now about giving? I dey learn new thing today.

Well marriage is about giving And investing on each other. During good times and standing by during bad times as well. If no one gives, and both husband and wife hold on to their monies. what will then, sustain the marriage? Sweet mouth? Or maybe sex

She's already a junkie, the signs are glaring already..

Na wa o

Wealth and fame gone bad

Nobody is surprised.

Sexual favours in Landing And keeping jobs in Nigeria is just one of those things that happen in most places in Nigeria. So No be today.. E don tay

Elder001:
Victorian move along.

Don't reply me, please.

Stop clicking on my mentions.. I no hold your fingers..

Move on!

Am through with you, already.

Elder001:
Jesus is Lord

You spend on who social media has really tried for all these fakers.

This was how you were deceiving one young man early this month on this section that you've two companies and 3cars

You'll regret ever commenting that your imaginary stuff on this thread when I'm done with you

I'm not against your man footing all your bills.. Your life, your choice! But stop pretending here!

Fake life doesn't pay. You can't purchase sanitary pad with your own cash


@your last post.. Metoo , I cannot be with a woman who can't take care of me like a king

*yawns*


Is that all u can come up with?


Lol

Elder001:
Nairaland ladies and fake life, Tufiakwa.

Even the ones that can't purchase pant with their own money will turn to working class ladies that feed their boyfriends on nairaland

Weytin man no go see for social media.


Victoria it's like you think the people on this platform are fools

You said your man must take care of all your bills.

Your life, your choice but stop pretending here.


Please.

Lol if you feel am pretending? That's your headache.. I don't need to prove anything to u.

Tufia kwa! To your self. Yeye gold digger .. Keep digging o!


And least I forget he takes care of my bills, I never said he doesn't.. Likewise I spend on him too.. Believe or not. Am least concerned.
So think before spewing rubbish.. I cannot be with a man who cannot take care of his woman..

Elder001:
LMAO.. Even you too want to endorse her post too

You have commented more than 5 times on this section that your man must pay your bills... Seem I'll take some screenshots

Fake people everywhere.

Am not supporting her

Read and understand

I said even bfs, that want to depend on babes cannot feed well, and girls are depending on them?
Any girl who depend on a bf at this economy situation will have long necks like ostrich that's what I said.
How many guys can feed well?

Let's be realistic? How much will they have left to spend on a babe.
That's what I meant..

My man still pays some of my bills and I take care of him too.. It's a mutual symbiotic relationship.. Not just him alone.

So read Biko and understand


Unlike you that live off and leach on an older sugar mummy in the south south region, you still get mouth to talk. Smhhh

Your fake reaction is as clear as Mtn.

Are some women still waiting for men to feed them? At this catastrophic economic level ?

Na hunger go kill such girl o.

Except she's into sugar daddies.

If not boyfriend? Her neck go long like ostrich!

babeosisi:
The man wanted to run away?
Nigerian men,always running from responsibility

Of course, he will run away. What do u expect before?

Nigerian men don't want any form of responsibility, just keep fuccking thats all they want in life.

Serves him right, he should rot in jail.
Thinking he's smart buying SUV for 500k.
That's how one useless he goat on car section, was pricing one of my cars for sale 100k.

I told him, he shouldn't even pay anything, make he come collect free of charge, Ole!
Am not desperate to even sell it.. Make I dey use my car dey go jeje.

Serves him right, he should rot in jail.
Thinking he's smart buying SUV for 500k.
That's how one useless he goat on car section, was pricing one of my cars for sale 100k.

I told him, he shouldn't even pay anything, make he come collect free of charge, Ole!
Am not desperate to even sell it.. Make I dey use my car dey go jeje.

Metuh:
Then what's stopping him from clearing himself?

He feels he shouldn't wash their dirty linen in public and that's maturity.

The internet doesn't forget. They've caused enough damage to their public persona. So it's best to keep quiet and save what's left off their family name.


Big ups! To Paul.

Na wa o


Sighs he looks sick, too emaciated.

Why can't he look like other artists who looks healthy, even though they smoke weed.

Money goes wrong #

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
This woman has a good Job in PH and she is the vibrant social type. Online matchmaking works for some though.

Ok but it doesn't work for everyone.

Cos the guy online u may end up matchmaking with her might be a great actor.

If it doesn't end up well? She will blame and resent you for setting her up with the wrong guy.
Just an advice..

I fear men online

Op be careful o.

Matchmaking for an aunt with a random guy online is very very risky.

Times are hard. Guys will just act a perfect script and clean her account after some months by promising her marriage..
Be very careful. She should try and socialize, dress trendy, look sweet and visit malls.
A friend of mine who's 40, was scammed several times online, she got frustrated, even travelled abroad to search for a husband, cos she feels Nija guys here are gold diggers and after her money . After staying 3months abroad, she came back. Saying Nija guys abroad are even worse! Do u know after 6months of been social in Lagos Nigeria, she met her now husband in a shopping mall, Shoprite. They dated for 4months, and got married. It's 3years now. They are still married. So dear, let her go out there and make her choice. Forget online matchmake. It's not real.

bbyby01:
You have no idea. Did you read the part where I said we had a quarrel and she cried for 2 days because she thought I was leaving her? And her friends began calling me? We hadn't met by then. And then a girl travels from another town to visit me you want me to tell her immediately that I don't like her looks? And for your information, I didn't even mean to sleep with her that first time but she wanted it. And I will never make a girl feel she isn't beautiful. She actually is beautiful, but doesn't have the features I like

If she doesn't have the features u like? U simply tell her we can be friends, nothing emotional. I simply like u as a friend on second thought. She will know immediately u are not feeling her looks. I don't pity and date. If am not feeling a guy on first date? No matter how much he tries to blackmail me emotionally that shebi I sounded so in love when we were chatting online before we met and how much he had fallen so in love before meeting me. I will look sad, feel sad but still tell him. Am sorry but seeing u one on one, am not feeling any chemistry and I would prefer we start as friends. If along the line something comes up and I start falling inlove? I will let u know immediately.
Have been in your shoes before as a lady but I don't feel pity and say because he wants me that moment, lemme fulfil his fantasy and have sex.
Even there is situation whereby a guy I met like in your case came and I said this and the next thing, his elder brother phoned me after two days, to date his younger brother, the guy but am sorry I don't want to toy with his heart and lead him on. Then still break up. It doesn't sound cool to me.
It is easier we break off as sex is not involved, than break off after having sex..

Just be straight with ladies. Even if she calls her whole family clan to beg you. You are not into her and that's final. No sex, just call it off immediately.

Jesse25:
You are really confuse and stupid for leaving a girl because of her facial lookz

Don't mind him, he's still a kid.
That's Nija kind of I love you.
Quickly fork the babe after telling her lots of sweet rhymes, then look for flimsy excuse to bail out.. Assuming he didn't sleep with her series of times and he called it quits the first day they met cos of her face. I would be like wow! Do guys like this still exist?
But he has done all styles on her and he now realise her face is not perfect on her pictures online.. Lol

Smiles interesting

chigoziri2403:
it's not energy, its frustration, no joy in Nigeria

Heheheheheheheh

You got it! Real frustration!

bigpicture001:
...it's lastsam001@gmail.com

Have sent you a message. Check

bigpicture001:
[url][/url]...Jesús christ!!!!!!!!!!.... y didn't i.meet u ontym...my GOD is ur name Samuel..? u are exactly wired to think like me...

Heheheheheheheheh

My name is not Samuel o!

Am just Vicky!

It happens like that.. Smiles

You are nice person too. I can sense it from here.

Can u text your email here, so I can send you a message. My pm can't access mails.

[quote author=bigpicture001 post=69764617][/quote]Life can be unfair to us in different ways but only makes us stronger.
How to curb this issue of love and all. Just zero your mind off love. Focus on becoming friends with ladies of like minds and goals as yours, then choose the one whom u feel at least u are sexually attracted to and whom u feel is respectful , both of you can laugh over any issues, a sensible lady and well cultured too. Such ladies exist.

Choose your best friend out of these ladies coming around u. Talk about everything, including family life and see her point of view on roles of husband and wife. If it's similar to yours? Then uv won a jackpot. Then romance starts.

Also If she wants to settle down with you after a while of dating and romance ? Ask her , if she says yes? Both of you map out a plan on how to get things started.. Be open to each other about your salaries and maintenance of the family and home.. Talk about it, so no one is deceived into any scam of marriage.

You will be fine, just free your mind from love. All it brings is heartaches and sorrows.

bigpicture001:
...va in marage,u still don't luv ur man..?u said all u care abt is biz nd children....sorry u went tru all that..actually there are mny frogs than prince's but that doesn't mean fía are no princes......on behave of guyz generally,if u truly pass tru those emotional pains...I APOLOGISE!

Smiles on the apology but have moved on. It's in my past.

I like, care and respect my man. And am very caring in real life, and he appreciates me for that. He deserves it though, but I don't believe love exist. Humans are just too selfish and conceited to love. I don't even know how to love the opposite sex anymore, that side of me is dead way back
Cause for me, love can make one kolo.. . I mean raving mad, if wisdom is not applied.
I was almost strapped in Yaba left cos of this so called love, way back then

God abeg o! Love kwa? I don't think so.. Nah not for me.

Love is non existent anymore in Nigeria.

chigoziri2403:
hahahah, can you explain your third paragraph

I can't o

bigpicture001:
..vikky,ur mentality in relationship.it mayb from ur unfortunate experience, which mayb cuz ur chasing suppose wealthy guyz.trudt me with 98% of them,u get shit

I know most young wealthy guys are filled with shit and arrogance. I can never be with any of such men. Unfortunately in my past experience has always been with struggling guys and average guys. Have been very unfortunate in such kind of guys in the past. Ladies will say they dated struggling guys and average guys and we're lucky.. But mine was different. I just don't know where those devilish men Springed out from, but I thank God I was saved, am more confident, matured in my choices and aware of what I want in life.
My dear, my life even though I was born with a silver spoon, was filled with emotional turmoil and sorrows, caused by struggling or average guys. If not for God, I would have either committed suicide or been locked up in a prison for manslaughter or chained in pyschartric hospital. But Mehn, God saved me and I didn't allow the devil to take hold of my mind..
When I say have seen it all.. Trust me I have. Except prostitution, drugs and armed robbery. Have not done those three things before and I won't delve into them no matter what..

But my eyes don see pepper! I know what marriage entails and I know what it means to be single. Nobody can deceive me otherwise.
So the yarns of rich guys? Forget! There are some rich guys that are more or less angels than the poor or hustling guys. And I made the final choice of accepting a rich guy, years back which I don't regret till date.
Am really unlucky with hustling guys, before I get to love madly and spend so much on them, something will happen and their well played script will burst, boom! Right infront of their eyes. And I will be like what!? jeez! What have I gotten myself into?
There and then, it's over.

Then about making it? I started early in life, cos I graduated early at age 22 and delved into buisness afterwards Everything in my life was accomplished early but I was almost destroyed by poor and hustling guys everytime, cos I love simplicity.

And exes, whom I felt was suppose to be real to me, were not real even to themselves. With anger and frustration I placed curse on all of them but later after so many years I had to free them, so I can be at peace too.

Then thirdly don't even say I was flashing my wealth, cos I wasn't.. I simply look flashy, no matter how I try to tone down my looks. I still look flashy. Even I don't wear earrings, or brazen good chains or revealing clothes.. Am still flashy, almost everyone must stare. then it was so annoying to me, cos my looks was attracting gold diggers.
But today I own my looks, I don't care of my flashy looks anymore. Love me or hate me, I no longer care. I simply live my life and be the best I can and associate with humble well to do females and males.
The only thing I take serious is business, and children, every other thing is placed at the back burner. That's me.

chigoziri2403:
its same everywhere, when i was in Nigeria ,my ex who dumped me for a Malaysian based dude, still pesters me for money for feeding,as her flame is always running from the police, most guys over there still depend on people down here, don't fall for them, its not always easy, especially if they are jobless, we have loads of them here

Thank God, you've left this country for something better.

But even the ones with jobs, suited up with tie and coat is the same story.

Nothing there.. All they have to offer is to Fork with incredible energy as if their lives and survival depends on it! but to maintain, capital zero.

Anyways may God help the jobless ones and the ones with jobs who are still struggling to make ends meet.. Amen.

chigoziri2403:
why diaspora,? what's wrong with the men at home

Lol, you still dey ask?

Men at home, that cant feed themselves and their babes. Go to family section and read how a newly wedded man is complaining about feeding his wife and entertaining visitors who came to wish them well on their marriage. Cause of food, he wants to run away from home.

And mind you, he's the one who relocated to the wife's base o, which means she is the one paying their house rent but ordinary to feed his wife, is a serious issue for him.

A lady wanted to fry four eggs, her fiance gave her a hot slap. Just because of 200naira eggs.

A neighbour of mine died of malaria, and typhoid cos her boyfriend hid in one corner saying he's in another state, instead of him to send 2k for her drugs. She's an orphan but work as a cleaner.

With all these scenarios, trust me marrying a Nigerian man is not appealing.

Nope I won't.

He's not the only man on earth, I will dust my assz and move on. No need allowing him to waste my time.

Op don't be scared u won't have a better man, even though u may feel older. It's better to marry a guy who has a job, than someone who doesn't. Cause a time will come u will get fed-up shouldering all the financial responsibilities and end up fighting him then calling it quits.. That's when your eyes will clear. Stella damascus tried such with her second husband Nzeribe, she thought she could handle it but after two years or so she got fed-up taking care of the bills all alone, then he became nasty towards her as if he's entitled to all her money
She then filed for divorce.

Now she's married to her third husband who earns money as well. So please don't try it at all. The marriage will be dead on arrival. For me? I will never in this life try such.

Acidosis:


You see, this is the exact way faceless people come here to destroy families. He's been here gallivanting from thread to thread about how he cooks for an imaginary wife.

Thanks dear, I refuse to be confused, lol.

Don't mind him. I was shocked when he said he cooks for his invisible wife everyday.

Wife who doesn't exist. Such a pathological liar!