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ekea2001: nice post here..days are here when Akpors is on the street with guyman's jacket.Let us hear word,let him investigate!

I no fit laugh..... Na wa... Ha! Guys...I hail Una....

It breaks my heart... I will feel so sad ... Cause a man is not meant to cry... Av not seen my dad or any male in my family cry once... Maybe they will do it within closed doors? I don't know.. I can't even imagine it sef .... And I don't wish to see it.

it's not like , am encouraging obesity... But someone that is a natural Orobo... What can we do?.. .. And especially when the bf or spouse, says he loves you like that, but don't become shapeless... We simply relax, be mindful of our diet and enjoy... Like moi... I drink green tea every nite ... It's a must for me... It removes excess toxins and sugar from my bloodstream, but still maintaining my fresh plumpy look.. If Olowo ori, no complain ...why shud I?

We are the ones sorted after by so many ... E easy... Go girl!... Orobo to bad

From experience, it's only wealthy guys and celebrities that's goes for very fair pretty babes.. ... No offense intended, but average and poor guys always shy from us... So , what shud we do, remain single and die old... No way, dudes.... When the big boys comes and woo... Why shouldn't one accept?...

Pls, I need to buy a clean white torch 2 or 1, asap... Thanks...

Ok , noted... But how much does each one of them worth in dollars ..

My guy,chrisbrezzy.. choose one nah ...

You are welcome, op... Wish u best of luck in your home.

At Op, try to remove your mind from the fact that your hubby bought a car for u , in his name.. The bottom line is , he bought a car for u to conveniently move around, take the kids to crèche or school without hassles. It's natural for one to buy his or her spouse such gifts, and not placing the receiver's name on the receipt..it's his money..that shouldn't bring up doubts abt his trust or love for you. Haven't u seen some homes, the husband will have fleet of cars but the dares not drive any, and they still live peacefully . Secondly, stop exchanging hot words or replying with snide remarks, when talking or laying yur ideas across. For your husband to say , all these... He is getting tired but that does not mean he wants to quit or that u shud quit.. He simply wants u to realize that he gradually turning his back and that u shud change some certain attitudes u cud av displayed at home.. All he wants, is for u to change your attitude at home and stop doing irritable things.
Think back, how u were behaving, while courting..and the things he use to mention that he admires abt you... Think back and retrace your steps..
Then about getting a job? Leave job out of it, due to sexual harrassments.,I will say buisness is better, like learning a skill alongside , the degree u av . A skill that will be compatible with your home, like dressmaking, interior decor, making of hairstyles etc. I know lots of housewives that are into these skills, packaged it in such a way that will make your hubby, friends and society at large proud of u .. Sell the idea of any of these skill to your husband and let him how serious u r and how u can be able to manage your home , kids with him.. Without anyone suffering.. Then with prayers , his heart will soften...
Best of luck, I hope it works.

Siga: But I still dont understand why una dey fight over this woman matter....we stand to gain nothing whether she lies or tells the truth....all I know is those US interviewers can be ridiculous at times....they issue visas to some people one cant even offer a gateman job and deny a whole GM of a bank...lol...whoever God is going to favour...e go hard for hin visa to be denied ooo....

Cos most Nigerians hate successful true life stories... All they want to hear are stories filled with regrets, divorce cases, tears, Lamentations and shame..... O ma se o ... And this same people will troop to church m every evening and on Sundays.
The op says , she has gotten her visa, just be happy for her.. Not trying to play James Bond, and look for loopholes, where there are none..

Lord have mercy.....! A model? ... Ok , noted, but not from Nija.

Silent treatment? I don't try it at all, likewise my hubby too... We can't stand malice in the air..sharp sharp, apologies comes up and end of mata..phew !...so relieving... I hate silent treatment like crazy, can't stand it.

It's not improper... I actually display my mum and I , hugging each other with our native attire...in a portrait on my desk... it gives me a soothing feeling, that she's there with me, even though she is late..

He still has to care for her... It's not abt sezz or no sezz... The issue is, yur dating someone , u both love each other.. Both of you should be there for each other, when its rough and gloomy. I have female frnds that means the world to me. Why? Because they are always there for me financially, and otherwise... Likewise me too.. Am there for them too.. If am broke tmrw, at least one of them will help me out either with the full amount of money I need or almost all of my frnds will give me some cash , differently that will add up to what I need... At least we don't have sezz , we are friends, more like sisters that knows when someone cud be down. Not every day is Christmas . That's what am saying..because if in a relationship, no partner is helping each other, when the other is down financially, what kind of relationship Is that?

I will say, A Cold fake relationship.

Some Empowered women here are always screaming, they don't need a man's money, they can take care of themselves, while dating.. All na lie.. For how long, will u continue to always buy things with your money without him, giving u anything.. His job is to have s3x , eat your food, smile a toothless smile, saying u r the best of them all, then dust yansh waka... Story. .. Some women should stop fooling themselves. Op , if the guy is stingy.. Pls drop him, cos u will be the only one caring for yurself, even after marriage.. Av bn in a stingy relationship before. I was carried away by love, saying but I earn my own cash, y depend on him. Few weeks to finalise our marriage plans , I asked him a simple question.. That, dear u know av never asked u for money since we have been dating and uv not given me a dime since we started dating. Lets assume, am broke during our years of marriage, will u assist me? Will u help me out? He told me , with a straight face, No I won't... I was so shocked.. I asked why? He said because I have a job, that's better than his, so why shud he give me money, if am down. Can u imagine?
I angrily told him its over between us, to he'll with his marriage plans, am out. I cried throughout that nite sha o. But
Thank God , I made that choice... Am married to another guy , who is among the best of them .. Nice, caring.. Doesn't care abt my money, and sure takes care of me ,,our home financially....
Op, he is not worth the stress..and also be very careful on how u handle yur phones.

byvan: There are no two ways to the fact that your man is very stingy kinda guy.common!this is not about some blackberry babe seeking a BB,is more like a woman expecting some level of assistance and sensitivity from her man.Love naturally comes with giving,you don't force yourself to give,you just give.

@Op,why did it take 4yrs for you to realise thisIs this the only few instances where he did not offer any assistance??is he usually self centered??are you very demanding??in as much as I don't suscribe to over dependency,it is not wrong that you expected assistance from a man you plan to marry.

Don't ever think that he will change,you either accept him wax and all,or let him go for good.Your case is similar to that of a BB friend who is now opting for divorce because her hubby contributes nothing to the house welfare.The man has been very self centered during their courtship days but at 31,she was desperate to settle down.She hoped on change,which never came.After 5yrs of marriage and three kids,she wants to call it Quit.

My point remains that you either be ready to care for your kids alone or let go now that you can.Don't think you can manage because forever is a long time.A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.

Right, on point..! True words.

Does he really care , how Lola feels? with his stupid utterance?

Lord_Reed: Under Sabi, take correction with grace, we all learn some time.

U could think its a mistake on my part, but the issue is this, must I imitate other pple foreign language? Can't I have my own...for me, it's not a mistake ..its from my own foreign slang.. I ... Take it or leave it....yawns" ...so what next dude?

jennykadry: Lol I no talk am. People trying to act current but fail woefully at it.

How hard is it for people to admit they made a mistake?

Oh lord have mercy... ..when both of you are done , with the beef... Una taya... .... Av said my own...ain't a. Mistake.....
It's my foreign language o.... I said , it's my foreign language, or lemme repeat again.... I am simply saying its my foreign language to some pple that cant understand simple sentence.

What's ta ta..... Lord of mercy? Mere pronouncing it , is annoying to the tongue......Cha cha sounds better in my foreign language.

...yeah... Go Kim....haters to blazes..

Lord_Reed: Its adios not arios and ta-ta not cha cha. If you are going to use foreign terms get them right, no dey fall your own hand.

Over Sabi.. Am using my own foreign language...don't get it twisted. ...
I don't imitate.

@ 25yrs, I was scared of having sex, talkless of getting ,married... How much more a 14yr old or 16yrs... The parents of the girl and the husband is unstable ,mentally ... Nija

@ Shinatu, For the records I didn't marry the Muslim guy. ... It's the traditional marriage , I did with my Christian husband

And yeah it's working for me... Hectic and interesting.. no doubt. .. And av accepted this phase of life as a compulsory and necessary stage of life.. Av waited long for this phase..

Submission means obeying my husband, especially when he is right.. And if he is wrong, I will tell him calmly, the reason why he should see to my own reason and idea.. Thank God, am with a man who listens ...Am not ready to compete with him, neither am ready to show I over Sabi or quote law.. If he wants certain things to be done , at a certain times, I will try as much as possible to make it happen, especially as I am my own boss at work. And if he wants egusi soup instead of oha, I will prepare it, instead of preparing something else for him , giving excuse that u know , the weather is cold, lets take pepper soup and yam instead.. At least that few examples I can say for nw. Also, his clothes are always washed and ironed, except his suits, which he takes to the dry cleaner.... Household work is done by me... And am not complaining.. I see it, as a normal thing to do...and if he wants me to see his mother due to certain issues, I will see her pronto.. No delays or procastinations... That's me...

Sorry It's a ,grammatical error ... Its an inbuilt virtue, and av been trained from childhood to be very submissive to whosoever I marry ....and my friend are also submissive to their husband s too, even though, they are well educated.. U can't try , not to be submissive from my father's compound.. It's just there...
Thanks bukatyne.

Op, certainly not true and not in all cases...Its an inbuilt thing to submit to my husband, it's not done.. Even my married female frnds that are very well educated are submissive , so pls don't generalize...not fair

I can't be a full time house wife... I can never be a full time housewife.... It's not like ,it's a crime to be one but argh..! ... My brain is always active, my body can't stay put in one place... I can't be one.. And i want my own money.. I want to be able to buy anything i need and support my hussy , when the needs arise... Without asking for permission....Op, yur trying... It's good... It works for u... But for me?, nah....except it's few months to delivering my baby , then I can sit at home...after giving birth, am off to work.. That's one agreement, I and my spouse first touched before I said Yes... Some women are trying.

Blame the girls that wants to be confused, not the playa... It's not hard to say NO! Get off my sight..!

jennykadry: Its better you leave than stay here and continue to post lies just to prove a point . Please find your way into another thread and stop deceiving people with your made up stories. Imagine the shock when I saw 72million. You have been arguing here as if Kim paid you to do the work for her, all I ask is that you get your facts straight before posting here.

I mean no offense, I just don't like it when people try to act current and fail woefully while at it.

Clap for yourself .... What I mentioned earlier were not lies... I just don't have the time , u guys have to start analyzing peoples life, especially Kim.. Whether she paid me or not , is none of your biz.. But I know , what I said is facts... Take it or leave it... I have other things to take care of , than creating an argument here.. Some pple don't have a life, sha.. . Sorry but true.

buJu-234:
What abt her Father that helped start her career; the man that resigned his job to focus on her music career from the beginning.

what has she done for him. I will like to know.

I am nt against what she has done for her mother oo

She sacked her father from being her manager, cos he was embezzelling money... .. They had to keep it quiet, cause he is the father.