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Real funny thread.... But seriously?.... Leaving work to go for quickies during mid day?..... Is your husband running away, op? Is he not coming back home in the evening?....don't worry when u get married... U will understand running home for quickies can be delayed for later... .... Buisness first, during work hrs..... Dont worry ,U go bleep , u go taya...try take it easy.

Like someone , said somewhere
Meet Someone------ Get Attached---------Get hurt---------Move on-------Repeat. ....

But life and relationship is a risk, no harm in trying.... It could end with smiles ... Or in tears...such is life..
So suck it up and trust again, then repeat

But Guys still chase...no mind their bad mouth here....they still chase and go gaga

She still got some Mary Kay concealer on....na today .?

chaircover: Did you say weeks and months? This isnt very healthy!

Do you make love during that period?....... I bet you, a man with chronic malice problem, will simply bleep, no romance...turn the other way and snore off.. Tomorrow is another day
Do you go to to church together during that period?....... He will go to church with u, but drives in silence, and come back home together in silence
Do you have kids? . . and do you have family outings with them?............He will go to family outings with u, gist well with his family, say some few words to u.. When going back home, he frowns and keeps a straight face.
Do you have guests during that period?...... He will see to the guests, u too must play along.. So that the guests should Not know what gwan.
Do you attend events during that period?...... He will attend events with separately of course, possibly drives in his own car and tell u to use yours, that he is late and can't wait.
Do you pray & fellowship together as a family?........... He simply tells u , he is tired ....sleeps off.... Or comes home late.....
Shikena.... Wetin u go do?






I am asking all these questions because even if you have disagreements, which is normal in every relationship, doing the above should propel/force you both into having to speak to each otheand once you start talking, then you can resolve the issue like adults and not playing childish mind games.

So it's easier said than done.... Some men have issues with their hormones..... Prayer works well too....

Men are indeed babies...u just av to buckle up and pet him...and be quiet.....he will come around after a while..

And poverty ravages nija like no man' s buisness.

True...

But issue joking expressed , is what usually in the hearts, but pple will say its joke.... Joke my foot... May GOD deliver the hearts of men from wickedness, amen. N

Guys licking kpekus, I saw online that their Is a new cancer of the mouth attached to licking it o ....I forgot the name, one medical doctor called it....keep up withe the lick ups ....
I read it online o..

Poster , what yur saying applies to all wives at home, not just Muslim wife o.... How many times in a day, have u ever seen a happy married woman? Can u count them? It's not as if , I castigating the men, and it's not like am a lesbian, but I deeply care for people especially women.. The good ones, do so much in their homes , but they're not appreciated , just a very few that are happy... A handful of married women are not happy, if u r observant and honest... It's good to be married but marry selflessly... Husbands make yur wife happy, and wives make yur husband happy..so that the home will be at peace... There is enough chaos out there , for one to battle with... How much more the home, u intend to build and make it last.

@ Omo_ tier, I don't give foolishly and abnormally to Pastors, as if my giving is to get a lottery nor am I expecting God to be money doubler... Thank God, am wealthy... I reside in one of the best neighborhoods in Lagos, I own a multi million naira buisness... Why do I need to even blow my trumpet here for small minded people like u... That thinks God or your pastor is a money doubler ... I shake my head in such naive , greedy ,blind ideas..
Upon everything, poverty still abounds in yur church... Abegi ..! How much can u boast of? How wealthy are you? Smhhh..
Also, u cannot even comprehend how much have given to the society, and invested in people's lives... So don't even talk on my post.

Dopefiend: Guess d $240 nd $100 he charged his members was not in vain

That amount is small, compare to the unbelievable and astounding miracles ,one will have if 50 people can sow a seed of 1000 dollars each, so he said, in one of his invite in one popular church I use to go to. I was shocked when I heard him, say 1000 dollars and guess what? Trust vain Nigerians, that want people to know they can give out such money.. A lot of people came out to pledge for 1000 dollars each. I just sit gere for my seat, they look in wonder... Nna mehn, the pastor made money that day... I then realized how far ... Nija I hail... Peeps I hail. Pastor mathew nothing do you
Keep up the gospel.

It's good to say, thanks love... Very yummy..most times, but not really every time.

@Pak, am sorry I can't say his name... He confided in me, when he was down thinking about it.. And it will be awful of me, to reveal his identity... I can't say more than this..it's just a true life example..that's all..

When I look at the responses on , what you will remember your dad for, it's very little, like 5 or 6posts? But for women, mothers... It's up to 4pages..! And at the end of it all, u read how some men talk so bad about girls with degrading words, and whom will definitely become mothers one day... But as a man, that will become a father one day too... Why can't the non chalant , and annoying attitudes of most men stop for once and be there and caring for their wives and kids... These two posts has made me realize, that men are too laid back in impacting a positive and long lasting values in their households.. A friend of mine, a guy says his dad has stroke, and he doesn't give a damn how he helps himself, cos he ain't going to the dad's house for any helping out... I was angry at him and I asked but why? Your dad is 60yrs and he has been calling yur number , u refuse to answer... He says because he threw him , his siblings and their mother out of his house when they were little and he can't forget those days, his mum struggled alone to cater for 4 kids..I told him to forget the past, forgive him. He was saying with emotions that he will be a good father to his kids and good husband to his wife... Cause little children have eyes and they don't forget what happens between mummy and daddy... He said passionately he wont let his family down... But I insist u must forgive him...there are so many issues like that...
Men , please try and be a good father , good husband, good leader to your families.. Cause it will definitely come back to either hunt or add to yur blessings at old age... It doesn't pay to be mean and selfish... Cause u could end up all alone.....it doesn't.... Peace out.

I remember my mum for her strength in keeping the family together, and making it possible to actualize my first love, my fashion, my upcoming empire...she actually sold her only house in Lagos, to setup my fashion world... Mama, you are the best ..... May her soul rest in perfect peace till we get to meet again, sitting beside God, and his angels....muah.... Love you till eternity..

Yeah wisdom speaks but not at this end time ... Op, follow their dad to his village with the kids. They are too young to be left alone with one parent, especially the dad.... How we wish so many bad things is not happening , even in the family sector... But it happens and the kids have to be chaperoned home... No long story... If anything happens, God forbid... U can't do anything to anyone... One will simply ,cry, grieve and life continues... Its not your portion but a word is enough for the wise.. Follow them home with the dad.

Op,u r unserious..... no use.

For Annie to stay when tuface had nothing, was due to these factors:
First Tuface is a fyne guy with a good heart, even when u r my African queen u could see the innocent and pure heart radiating thru his face, and I bet he must have treated Annie like a lady, even when he had nothing, and Annie been a good woman herself stood by him thru thick and thin..
Secondly, everyone knows when u av stardom, fame and wealth , it's so easy to feel so arrogant and turn deaf ears to families and friends that stood by you... Weak people who attains such fame and money like tuface will allow no one to hear word or will be a horrible snub...but look at tuface he is still humble, still himself,generous to his baby mamas, and kids.... Now tell me, why won't Annie stay and wish to marry him, when he still makes her feel lovey doves... Infidelity is in most men, so why crucify tuface that he has other baby mamas.... A lot of married have theirs hidden somewhere or publicly known... What matters is, does this guy still treat me like a queen when we are together.... Does he truly care about my welfare?
I bet more women will still wish to marry tuface, if he go gree ..... Cos we all know, how much he has spent to set each babymama and his kids, so they won't suffer... And why won't tuface continue to prosper when he brings joy into his women's heart.... How many wealthy or comfortable men truly create a smile in their loved ones heart?... Or even if one is poor, in your own
Little way, make our spouse smile....Mark my words, any man that brings smile in the heart of his babymama or wife or wives will always be blessed... It's a natural law..
So tuface, Annie, and your baby mamas ....make Una carry go.

You, all are the best....thanks for the prayers and best wishes.. I will believe again...I won't give up..!...I won't give up...!...phew!... I won't.. God help me, I won't...thanks for the renewed strength injected in me.. Una try o... blowing u all a kiss.. Yeah am back....! Let's take the bull by the horns..... No bad experience will stop me from fulfilling another prt of my purpose on earth...thank you ...good matured minds here...will be more careful and wise in my choices.. So help me God!

Guys mentioning deliverance, av done that already on various occasions, I even completed one, two months ago... And the Pastors always say , my way is free and open.. All I need is for God to bring my own husband to me and really good men are scarce and I should be patient. That God who created me knows when is the right time...I said ok.. Am not ready for another deliverance , av been delivered long ago.
@ maclantunji, I will take up what u said about a colleague, but pls not now...I need to relax and clear my head.
@lovemijeje and flytefalls, it wasn't easy... I used 5years to pray and meditate for healing of the mind and soul.. My pastor said am really lucky to be sane at this moment, that someone weak wud av gone bonkers... But am still firm and calm... It's by Gods grace... God has been kind and good to me.
@youngalex, am ok with just friends..... I need positive people without hidden agenders around me... I will inbox you.
@loveablesam, I know marriage these days , is about sharing the family responsibility with the husband. Times have changed, am not lazy.. And it will be burdensome leaving everything for the man...And I will never be a liability, likewise the man shouldn't be too....but play his own financial role.... I am ok, with a 50-50 relationship.
Thanks everyone for the advices, thanks for your support....but funny some people here think am a lesbian, or I have lesbian friends? That's not true o..... My few friends are straight and married but only one of them is happy in her marriage, the rest have issues in their homes, and I rarely have the time to discuss family issues except during my hols.
Thanks guys and my fellow babes

Thanks maclantunji, and wellwishers here.... I intend to go for further training next year and more branding in what I do..my job has been my safe haven and what brings smile to my heart...I meet with different women every month, due to my kind of work.. If not for my job and God......iI for don kolo since.... But I still thank God. It is well... As my pastor will say.

@ n.oxide, yur saying if I plan to stay alive I should marry, when my ex fiancée nearly used me for ritual... It was God that saved my life that day...that was someone, I was engaged to...and has come to see my people... We didn't know, his plan was to kill me spiritually and use me for money ritual.... Thank God, my guardian angels r with me... The nite it happend , he shouted and ran out of the house pleading, I should forgive him, and that he planted a coffin at the backyard for certain things against me...I was so shocked... I couldnt move, I couldn't scream... Well, it's a long story, that's why it took me 5 yrs to trust and want to date again.
So you say, being married will make me live long... I simply smile and shake my head.....If only u know the hearts of some men.

@Dyt...all these experiences have made me stronger and calm...and I have the believ that if am destined to be married, I thank God, if not? I will live my life, be there for my few friends and family... Av cancelled regrets from any decision I take... Av already had so many regrets in the past... I won't have more at this my latter age...it's sad, no doubt... But such is life.

Thanks everyone for your positive advises and also the sarcastics ones... Have always wanted to get married way back in school, my main was not be a career woman, until I got engaged to a very abusive man, I had to call off the whole marriage, cause my life was at stake at that time, and I got to know , he is into cults, not school cults o.. It took me 5yrs praying for healing for my mind and soul, after the breakup.. Am a kind of person that believes in being committed and seeing the good in someone until proven otherwise. After 5yrs, I entered the doing game again, it's not like I flaunt my wealth... I don't even have a car, but I have a natural look of someone who lives well and who is wealthy...my clothes are not adorned in gold. I don't gather my neck or ear or Hands with gold jewellery. I just feed and drink well, and compose myself well in public,so from a distance, i glow naturally, its a gift God gave to me , that is now making me to think, should I look haggard, wear torn dirty clothes for gold diggers not to come near me?.... But if i start looking haggard, my buisness will suffer, cos am into fashion and u have to look good to draw up customers, but I tone mine down. :
It got to a stage, I said to myself or shud I lie to guys that woo me, that am a student of unilag? What if one decides to say, I want to visit u in yur hostel?... How will i be able to quickly plant myself in one of those hostels, so he can see me... But am not used to fake life... I hate lies, deceit.... Phew...!.... It's not easy getting a sincere guy... Initially, they claim to be sincere but quickly they start with saying they r so broke to even call? as if me.... I rarely get broke?
There was one , the mother, sisters were already calling me their wife, and quickly the mother starts saying how broke she is and difficult to even eat?... And their son was also claiming he is broke too...I gave the mother some few cash on me to manage, then later the sister was using style to ask for money... I was like? What?....abeg....am managing myself o...I don't have money growing on trees...i had to cut off that relationship, cos all I hear daily, am broke, am broke... And me, my parents are late, I take care of my two younger ones and I will then add another guy expenses to my responsibility?
Honestly, I can't....my blood pressure rose yesterday when I was analyzing it to my aunts... They simply said, God will give me a good man and that I should wait on him than to rule out marriage..
Have heard, am not a spring chicken but am in my early thirthies... Am just tired of the whole game...I honestly need a break and rest... It's tiresome.

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Thank you.....and am at peace with it.

With the experience av gone through, it's not worth getting married....I can't be a man in a relationship and also forthcoming marriage... I know my capacity. I can help but not be an overall breadwinner.

Relationships these days, is nothing to write home about.. Initially when I see posts of men seeking to have kids only without being married, i often think at that time, that they could be making a huge mistake.. Like someone said marriage is not for everybody. 98percent of my relationships are with guys, who I thought are hardworking , good heart and have prospects, but unknown to me they are just coming to get what they can, also to make one's life miserable after marriage.... I wonder how a guy who claims works, will be asking of recharge cards?.... How to eat your food..? Claiming he is so broke at this time to even buy a meal...there is no day, he is buoyant to take care of himself..... Am not saying, spend on me... But please take care of yourself... Don't carry your load and place on my shoulders, cause u feel society expects me to be married.... Well, society expectation, is different from my peace of mind.
My most cherished and peaceful moments , is when am single....oh lord, the peace and money I usually save , then is incomparable....marriage is not for me, cos I can't be the only one taking care of my kids, the lazy husband and my good self.....nah, I can't carry that load... Married peeps, I hail..l. But count me out of being married.. At least, I command respect at my office, my environment, my church.. People hardly know am not married, unless I tell them so...
Am not in for all this cat and mouse games , between men and women.... Peace out.
Thses are my thots tonight ,while talking to my aunts that has been pestering me to get married...... Feel I have to share it, with my fellow Nlders.

Why meet in a hotel? If the uncle doesn't have the intention of telling the receptionist to direct her to his room.... All he had to say come to my office, if his intentions are clean... But as it is office sef is also no safe ground....am always wary , when am in contact with a guy..... One nearly raped me in my office, as I was rounding up to go home...I had to warn him with a stern voice that I will scream so loud, the guards will come up,and beat him up, before he lets go of me...