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Na wa for marriage issues, the squabbles, hate, dominion.. I can go on and on.. Marraige sef is no longer interesting . May God change the heart of people to sincerely love and appreciate one another. I thank God, am still Single.

Human beings are not perfect, so there is NO perfect relationship.

Sad, but its true.

it happens,very sad and its due to envy and another strange reason too, is if a girl is the eldest and a boy the next. Some boys that are naturally evil and control freak, would wish they are the one before the girl, instead of the other way round. Forgeting that God has a reason, he brought the girl first into this world. Its a terrible and heartbreaking experience, u wont wish anyone to go through but its real.

I used to have this nice friend, who ususally comes to my office with her husband. And anyday they are with me, they all lovey dovey, as if person neva be in love before . I was like, wow my friend this marriage must be tight o.. She smiled and said its the grace of God. Then later, we got talking on next of kin and i told her, that mine is my youngest brother, cos am not yet married. i then asked her, i bet her own next of kin will be her husband. And she is hell No! I was like, what? but why? U guys are like peas in a pod? dont u trust him? And guess what she said- Vicky, dont ever make yur husband yur next of kin,instead make the kids when they start rolling in, instead of him. I had to sit down and i was like, this is serious.. So, who is your next of kin for now, since you guys are about to have a baby, She said her elder Sister, and thats how it will be until she starts having kids. We argued this issue, throughout that day, but she was adamant that she will neva place her husband as next of kin.. I shook my head and say na wa o.. ok o.. She shook my shoulders and said Vic, u better learn o. I replied, av heared.. So, poster whichever makes u feel comfortable and ease to choose as next of kin, pls do it.. No need to quarrel.

Definitely i will.

Not really... Our leaders are not from Mars or Pluto, they are born, bred and brought up in our society and environment. They are a crude product of most nigerians, sorry to say this but its true. Until Nigerians learn to be Selfless, True loving,Diligent in any career , one is into and enterprising. Then, one can say with all fairness that Nigeria will actually get better. But for whats on ground?... Hell, NO.. prayers aint going no where in changing the matter on ground.

@op , getting married to a widower with 3kids is huge and tough. Men, with only kid is a drama on its own,talkless of three. And the problems, cud start setting in, when u start bearing your own kids. There is no much love, u will give the other three kids that sometimes, they will not be appreciated. Its not just you giving the whole hearted love. How about the kids are they really ready to welcome you into their life for real and to stay for good. Will their dad avoid taking sides if touching issues comes up and sort the issues wisely and diplomatically? Will they also love your own kids wholeheartedly, when u start bearing kids. Its not an easy peasy deal. Think wisely. Do u want this next phase of your life to be peaceful or in complaints when real issues start coming up. Pray fervently, and follow your heart and intuition.. Best of luck.

@ poster, you go wait tire. Do you think, its joyful talking about being divorced? Try and be divorced and tell us , your own story first. Then we take it from there.

its peaceful but not sweet and not bitter.

@ poster, pls dont accept such name, cause u will end up lost. Some people here are saying it doesnt matter, its just a name. My dear due to experience, while i was once engaged to a man from my tribe but a muslim, which he didnt reveal to me until after the engagement thats when he said he is no longer a christian but a muslim, and to add salt into injury, he wanted to change my native name to Zainab, which i dont even like and its so foreign to me. Av bben raised a christian all my life, why should i then become Zainab , overnite?... hell...no... but foolishly i accepted the idea slowly because of blind love, until i became LOST within me. I couldnt connect to my origin. I was very lost, like the wind. But thank God, am back to my family, to my roots and origin. I feel more grounded and settled within me now. Dont sell your birthname or roots for any love.

@ poster, honestly this decision to have a flatmate could be regretable. Have seen different couples that have gone through this route and are now in tears, regretting their sincere motive, and ready to pay the new flatmate back , his or her money. But the person is not ready to accept their money back and leave. Its extremely risky living with a stranger, no matter how mature in thinking the stranger could be. Pls be wise.

at Poster, Who will foot the Tummy Tuck bill, like guys do abroad? Boyfriends or Husbands. To take a babe out for simple treat, na complain.

Yeah Ladies can easily get any man they toast, thats if they want flings or one day stand :Pand not steady relationship, A lady shud wait to be toasted.

RIP Witney, so so sad , Pls Be careful to whom you get married to.

Suffering and Smiling has always been Nigerians way of life but not all o, but majority. Well, i will say , pray he changes, and he must go for HIV test and uses condom if he is certified ok. U need to prtoect yourself. Have seen couples that died of Aids, who brought it in , amongst the two of them . no one knows, and their four kids are in the mercy of relatives, be wise, protect your body, your mind and being. Remember, one live life ONCE.

You need to be very very prayerful and seek the aid of a true man of God to help you, through all these, So sorry.

This is pure buisness relationship. i hope u get all the criteria , your looking for . But the truth , be told, you are simple in a dreamland thinking a lady with all these qualities will call you? Such ladies are not interested in online dating, Too risky , even for buisness relationship, Best of luck in your ultimate search

@ poster, everyone even family blood relatives all have different destinies of when to get married, when to step up the ladder of career or buisness. You cannot tell, maybe this is your time for you to be peacefully married to your own God given wife. Its not common, getting a woman to love , accept and marry you, when she doesnt care if u have money to sustain the family or not. Other people have missed their chances to be happily married to whom they love due to situations that could be avoided through wise thoughts.
So, your elder brothers each one, have different dates they are meant to get married. Sit them down, talk with them and make them understand what you truly desire. They should listen and understand. Even twins have different destinies to arrive at a certain settlement in their life.
Its your life, Its your choice. We choose our joy or our sorrows, especially in the area of marrying the right person.

FOR CRYING LOUD, THERE IS NO HATING , I LOVE BEYONCE AND THE BABY IS BEAUTIFUL NO DOUBT, BUT NOT SHE IS NOT BEYONCES, CE FINI,

There is no Bad belle here at all. During Beyonce pregnancy stage , she didnt have the tell tale signs of a pregnant woman, even till the die moment. THE BABY IS NOT BEYONCE'S BABY, ITS A SURROGATE, END OF STORY, Why such a farce , if she's not ready to loose her shape due to having a baby, why pretend being pregnant. Everyone in the US , knows thats not her baby, They are just respecting Jay z and keeping mum, accepting it all, That baby has no beyonce look, hell no, but has got JayZ nose.

i felt dissapointd and simply cut off d relationship . I cried to God and He helpd me out, as always. And i thank God am standing firm wit Him.

This post made me flash back to lastyr, when i was completly broke & buisness i s was tryn to complete was in standstill & i cudnt even afford to buy drugs,when i was ill at that time. So, i called a friend of mine that i thought was my good friend & asked him to borrow me some money & i will pay back in 3wks time. He bluntly refused & said, he is sowing his salary for 1st fruit & dat he cant give to me. I felt so bad & i askd him, if i was dying, u will prefer to let me die & sow yur whole salary as 1st f
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thanks koseepaaro, its now working , so relievd. i will store yur number,

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I learnt almost everyone in Nija is corrupt. Only d very few av conscience. Some fuel stations stil sell at 141 or they lockup and sell through blackmarket, using unemployed youths, what a shame.Nigerians change and be a better person, when it comes to principles, ethics and truly caring for your neighbour.

people clamouring for all mother of strikes tomorrw, will be shocked when soon citizens that are tired of the strikes, hungry at home will rise and fight other citizens that are blocking or disrupting their daily livelihood. like play,Nigerians will start fighting each other. Because some wants to go back to work while some prefer to protest and laze around. Its a pity. Nigerians shine your eyes!