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passionate88: Vivi no fight o... U b lady.. Cool ur temper

Its ok babe, temper cooled!

@DX and Lala; thanks guys. I'm crushing on you too.

@Badosky; pls forgive me. Let's make peace.

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Grossly misunderstood and attacked by the majority no matter how hard she tries to explain her stand. Steadfast and resilient and a never-say-die no-crowd-following-mentality. . . Greatly admired since i perfectly understand her. . . Her name is Vivian Chinaza[/color]

Wow! That means a lot coming from you. Thank you!

Mynd_44: Goodness. See as Vivian turned a perfect joke into an e-fight in the making.

That doesn't sound like a joke to me. Cos its way outta line. What has "vivian is a control freak" got to do with joke and what I posted earlier on?

malaria: Sorry 4 you kpele o! Nxt time be kiaful of those u invite 2 ur house.. All those mgbekes feeling funkie are not good 2 mingle with.

yea you are right. My dear, since then I became scared of ladies o. Especially the so called "funky" ones.

Mynd_44: This Vivian babe na real control freak

What makes me a control freak? Do you have comprehensive skills at all? I keep telling you, you are still a kid, until you grow up you won't understand some certain things.

Best man/maid of honour are honourable positions ok, its beyond putting on suit and dress on that day. In as much as ur signature appears on the marriage certificate, you have a role to play in their lives.

And I'm warning for the last time, don't ever make remark about me again, I didn't quote u, I wasn't referring to u. If my posts irritate you, move to the left.

Yes I have been, and I'm about to again.
My duties?
Before and on the wedding day:
I help in planning the wedding, running around, making choices, remind her of things she forgets. Then take care of her, make sure she doesn't stress herself much, remind her to eat and rest when necessary etc. In fact, she owns me for these 2 days, and she is permitted to boss me around.

Who buys my chief bridesmaid dress? I do.

After the wedding:
Its my duty to help her be the best wife she can be by not giving her the wrong piece of advise if she ever confides in me.
If I see her taking the wrong path that I know will jeopardise her marriage, I will call her to order. Etc.

These are what I have done for my friends, and I'm about to do again, and they are what I'd expect from my chief when my own time comes.

Sijo01: ^

Babe its not funny, I cried for that top.

Yes, I have. I met one someday who claimed her dad was Dangote, I invited her over to my house, stepped out to get her some drink and the chick stole my favourite top.

ogtavia: you should be a writer..i will be the first to read ur book...but btw..u didnt fight for mercy Johnson..u fought for ur dignity...

guy I'm a terrible writer, at least that's how I feel. Thanks anyway............but I think if I hadn't defended MJ, the crazy woman wouldn't have slapped me.

mekaboy: I REMEMBER IN MY SECONDARY SCHOOL DAYS, THERE IS A PLACE WE CALL "LAND OF SETTLEMENT " WHEN PEOPLE WANT TO FIGHT IN CLASS, THE FIGHT IS POSTPONED TILL AFTER SCHOOL. EVERYBODY MATCH'S TO THE LAND OF SETTLEMENT. SURROUNDS THE GUYS AND THE FIGHT STARTS.

SOMETIMES THE REFEREE WILL CARRY SAND IN THE HAND AND GIVE TO THE 2 GUYS TO BEAT IT DOWN, TO SHARE THAT THEY ARE READY FOR BUSINESS.

I WAS ALWAYS ESCORTING PEOPLE TO THE LAND TO WATCH, BUT I NEVER FOUGHT THERE.

Oya let's fight

mekaboy: HMM, SO U HAVE BEEN GOING TO GYM IN PREPARATION. AND THAT WAS UR OPPORTUNITY TO TEST YOUR MIGHT. I AM HAPPY U WON SHA

, No oo! More of too much of james bond and jack bauer movies . Well, I didn't win! I was mad at myself for allowing her to drag me down to her level. I'm usually very civil. Whenever I remember that incident I feel shame.
I'm very fragile in appearance and few times people take advantage of that......so I guess my appearance deceived her

mekaboy: HMM, SO AFTER THE 2 SLAPS SHE GAVE YOU, HER HAND DID NOT TOUCH YOU AGAIN, YOU WERE THE ONE BEATING HER TILL THEY SEPARATED YOU ?

Yea, cos she had injury on her face as a result of the punch and she was in great pains I guess........I don't know....cos I was no longer Vivian.........if I were me I'd stop and help her up......apparently she no even get #1 strength.

Mine was last year August *covers face in shame*

What caused it? Actress Mercy Johnson ..... yea I fought for MJ *hope she gets to read this*

The story goes like this;
My friend and I were making beads one saturday when her sister slotted in a home movie......I hardly watch naija movie anyway. MJ stared in that movie and my friend and I started talking about her controversial wedding. While we were at it, a lady came in and heard me saying "babe, let's not judge people by what we read about them in tabloids, no one actually knows the truth surrounding her marriage; if she really snatched another woman's husband......." The woman jumped into the discussion and took the whole thing seriously, she started calling MJ ashawo, that she pitied the unlucky man that married her.......I now told her she doesn't know anything about these people and calling them names was uncalled for. The woman took offence, said I was supporting MJ for snatching another woman's husband and I insulted her by calling her a novice.

When I saw the argument was getting out of hand, I kept quiet and concentrated on the beads I was making but it angered her the more that I ignored her and she rained all sorts of insults on me, called me all kinds of demeaning names. I said to myself "when she's done ranting she would shut up" so I concentrated on my beads while she ranted. But to my uttermost surprise a slap landed on my face, I looked up cos I was sitting down while she was standing, I thought something fell from up, so when I looked up another slap landed again but this time she held my hair. I didn't even say anything, I just managed and stood up while she was still holding my hair, I turned around, with the rage in me I gave her my own thunderous slap. She staggered and before she could find her balance a punch descended on her. Ouch! That punch hurt cos I wore a ring that day but it injured her and she fell down and kicked the hell outta hell. I almost killed her that day if not for neighbours' intervention cos rage possessed me and my friend couldn't hold me...................the rest they say is history.
I don't know MJ one on one, I'm not even a fan but I fought for her....crazy huh?

It was a very embarrassing day for me and I wished I never went there. I wished I could take it all back. Menh....some women are just crazy.

dubem3: No offence but i just need less than 24hours with you to point out to you that we all lie just in varying degrees. believe me, am honest in a stupid way but i lie...its just things that aint relevant you know...if you stay with kids, you'll equally find that to keep 'em happy sometimes, u have to lie...

Sorry I don't need to lie to kids to make them happy.

Miss_3v3: Thank you for the response. Yes you are very right. We have had many talks and infact i have compromised so much. Truth is my bf is not the type of guy i usually go for but i gave it a try because he was such a nice guy etc. I plan to talk to him face to face when i go and see him for the holidays and if we are still not on par then i guess it may be best to break up. Its really is hard because we do love each other but i believe it is not just about love but other things example compatibility as that is someone i will be with for the rest of my life so we need to be on same level

Just take it easy when you guys talk, talk to him with love, don't give him ultimatums ok?

Good luck.

Ok. The issue here is not your different background.....rather both of you are very uncompromising. Have a heart to heart chat with him, both of you should find a common ground.........if you can't compromise in a relationship.....I'm sorry you are wasting your time.

Una no dey tire to define love?

Mrs.Chima:
If Chima was to abuse me...I would leave. No matter how much I love my husband...I love myself even more.
you

Ladies...some of you chicks can't fight so if you are in an argument with your man and he walks away...LET HIM. Do not follow him around and rolling your neck. You have no idea how many men can't walk away...consider yourself blessed. If you have to defend yourself by all means do that but do not intentionally provoke a man when he is clearly trying to do the right thing.

Just saying.

I love you, you know that right? I'm not gay o btw.

D-Explorer:
Ok sweets Oya interpret na

ok. "I'm fine, welcome back, I have been searching for u"

9jagobetta: well, what if she felt her heart is broken and her life is shartered making the world so cruel to her?

Geez! She had family and friends for crying out loud! Did she ever consider her mum? Her dad? Siblings? Friends? Etc. People who unconditionally loved her? What about the person that made it possible for her to be in UI? What about people she influenced by just living her life? No matter how miserable her life was? Or didn't she know that no matter how miserable our lives are, we give people a chance to live just by living?

She was not only stu...pid, she was weak and selfish! I have respect for the dead btw but this? I'd flog her corpse! Rubbish!

D-Explorer:
WTF! This' the only thing you do that i hate

I'm sorry dear....... oya smile na.

Suicide is a very selfish act, I don't feel sorry for her!

Mynd_44: I don hear na

We no dey fight na.

malaria: Nne m o, I went on a self discovery mission . Buh am back NW. Hope I no Nma.

Nne m, anom nma o. Nno biko, ejim anya na achohari gi.

How come I'm the only lady that doesn't like tall guys?

Mynd_44: hmmm

Yes na.

I,d cry, hurt, be in denial, accept the reality and move on.

seunajia: Responsible!
A mix of both worlds; independent modern woman and a wise levelheaded natively-intelligent woman. Salute!

I hope there are lots of you out there o. Lemme quickly grab my copy

On a more serious note, if we all behave responsibly as you say you do, there would be less divorce proliferation. If we watch our actions, and are considerate, both sexes, the cases of single parenthood as a result of divorce would reduce too.

PS: Inasmuch as I agree with almost all of your points, I must also not forget to remind you that the chances of having a relationship with sb from an entirely different background without misunderstandings is rather far and in between. In the end, just like you said, it all boils down to our being circumspect and responsible.

PS1(): Man don't EVER raise your hand against your woman, woman don't push your man too.

Yes, I agree with you on the "background and misunderstanding" part..........like I usually say, our actions keep it together or blow it out of proportion.