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at helping me. Chei! Mehn u all should help urselves first cos u really do need the help. I have got a lot of work to do menh.......keep killing urselves.

fresh_dude: Babe reduce your muscle abeg, no need to be patronising.

muscle ke? Where the muscle dey kwanu?

fresh_dude: Lol. I come in peace. I'm not looking for a fight it's just a funny thing to say. It sounds so somehow...

Ok, it meant we are done, there won't be a second date. Do you understand now?

fresh_dude: Wetin you wan do? You be ghost? You wan evaporate? Abegi.

Fresh dude you again? Abeg I no get strength to fight.

lalaosky: i've seen them....like kails said, untill we found ourselves in such conditions, we can't truly judge.but i will still handle myself better like my dad did.nobody is perfect so the women shouldn't push the men to the wall and the men should know that beating a woman can't be justified(at least to me).there are many ways to prove to a woman, that you are the captain of the ship and BEATING is surely aint one IMHO

Then are we not saying the same thing?

carefreewannabe: Vivian, you can keep repeating it but you are not saying anything that REASONABLE people don't know.
And it doesn't make your very first statement right or less DANGEROUS.

Carefreewannabe, why don't you go home, argue with your husband, hit him bellow the belt in the process then come back and tell us how it goes. Then you will make perfect sense.

Btw, carry yourself as a lady and you will be treated like one. Carry urself as a goat and will be handled like one.

lalaosky: na so but don' go all chris brown on her weak arsè...you can scold her with your voice or ignore her but please don't lay your hands on her.women will always be women.you don't have to beat her to pulp to pass your message across

Menh.....lala you are yet to see some women.....sometimes I wonder if they are really women? They are beast in women's clothing!

Most of them come here to type trash and still fall victims...rubbish!

I will keep on saying it.......men don't beat your wives.....wives control your mouths and actions!

sub_zero: When u were eatin his money, were ur brodas thr? What if he's a superior "NIGGA" dan ur brodas?

dude my name is Vivian Chinaza......and I can proudly say I have got my own money....I foot my bills ok and endure the ones I can't afford. No man! I repeat no man would say he is the reason I'm still living! So if I'm with a man, it is for the sake of love.

carefreewannabe: I am not fighting. It's just a discussion and I take it for what it is. I even enjoy it.
And I agree with you 100% BUT what you are saying is different from what she has said.
BTW, why are you telling me to stop arguing? It's her becoming aggressive. Never mind, I understand why.

Make all the argument you want but don't joke with my personality again.....not now, not ever! And this sounds as a warning to everybody that has called me names in this section.......I have chosen to let it slide but it should never repeat itself.

freecocoa: Vivian Nwanne'm
You know I love you right?
But mama I gatta tell you the truth.
There's no excuse whatsoever to beat up a woman, it can be understood in a case of self defense but nothing more.
Abuse of any kind is bad.
Women are usually more verbal abusive but darling, never tolerate a slap from any man because you think you were wrong.
What of if he slaps you whenever he feels you are wrong?
Nne please don't tow that line.

Men I won't tolerate a man beating and I wont push him to! That's quite simple.........no man has ever laid his hands on me........I have never pushed a man to the wall before. A man I'm dating has never even threatened to beat me. Its as simple as that! Let's not hide under the cover of "weaker vessels" and constitute nuisance, period!
Men should not beat their wives......women control you tongues and actions! Okwanu onye kpara nku ahuhu rioro Ngwerre oru o.

carefreewannabe: Your father deserves a lot of respect!
And no, she is not right because she never corrected herself on the "MOST TIMES" and "70% of Nigerian women" are guilty for men beating them up.
I won't agree with her and she should be smart enough to confess her mistake.
And unlike you, she justifies beatings with a person doing "something" wrong.
It's not possible to always control yourself, we're just human. Situations can get out of control and to err is human but to forgive is divine. However, there is no excuse for a man or a woman to be violent against their partner. Her statements are dangerous.

smart enough? Hey, I think its enough! Do you understand me right now? I have not out rightly insulted you.... Pls....don't you ever make such remarks about me again! Present your argument in a mature way....if u ever insult me again I will turn this thread upside down, and I will give you the insult of your life! Pls be warned! Sexkillz and mukina2 should take note!

Men don't beat your wives! Women control you mouths and actions towards your husbands..........simple!

IMO, it doesn't matter who loves more.

dnawah: wat if the guy is jet lee + rambo + undertaker nko?i pity ur bros o!

You know I don't believe in "move it or I move you!" While I languish in pains......hell no! Pains scare the hell outta me. If he tries it........my brothers will ambush him and give him the beating of his life! Then when they start their "move it or I move you!" Both of us will be feeling the pains!

What even makes you think I can't beat some men? Check my siggy joor....

passionate88: that's havin FUN

Yea, but the fun comes with a huge guilt.

"I wanna be with you cos you are different from other girls" I hate this sentence with passion and if a guy says this to me on our first date? He will never set his eyes on me again.


When a guy who barely knows you starts singing your praises? You are about to be buried.........just have your attorney draft your Will.

Se...x.

Mynd_44: You seem to go about this the wrong way.

Hitting anyone, woman or man is unexcusablle and you have no right to do it no matter how angry you are. What every they hell happened to grab some headphones? Lock yourself in another room.

It is a crime and you should not do it unless it is in self defence

I agree with you........but both parties should share the blame when shi..t happens.

I'm protected all round from women battery. The law protects me, I have got parents who will kill for me, I have brothers who will bury a man alive if he dares it...........but that doesn't mean I should go about being silly.

I'm not troublesome, I try as much as possible to avoid troubles but that doesn't mean I'm scared.

Menh.....I don't know why some women allow sentiments to cloud their sense of reasoning.

Where in my comment did I actually justify a man hitting his woman?
That I don't justify it doesn't mean I shouldn't tell the woman were she went wrong!

I once belonged to an NGO that fought against women battery....in as much as we blamed the men we also cautioned the women. There were seminars and conferences organised to deal this. Should a man beat his wife and vice versa? Hell no! Should a woman push her husband to the wall and vice versa? Hell no!
In our course of research we found out that some women actually push men to the wall. Its as if they beg and long for these men to beat them. Some women are crazy and they pull a lot of crap......for instance, when you are arguing with you husband and he says ok its enough but you wouldn't just stop, he keeps quiet and it angers you the more, he wants to leave and you block his way......you won't listen until the man does something terrible and then you finally shut up and listen........now my question is what do you stand to gain? Why wait till the man does something terrible before you come back to your senses? Is prevention no longer better than cure? Yes, we are weaker vessels and the law protects us.....should we then throw caution to the wind? Everyone should take responsibilities for their actions and that's what some women fail to do?
Anger is a terrible thing, and we all try to control it and our spouses should make it easier for us.

@itsmodella; my dear your attitude either brings out the best or the worst from people around you. You deserve better and so its ur husband.

yes its a felony in Lagos, so is it in US but we still hear cases of it.
we want it totally eradicated!

mynd you are now twisting my argument. did i ever say its not an offence? did i ever support it? i only said women should control their mouths period.

bigot society my cute azz. you dont need society to teach you common sense.

wife battery is a serious issue..........and it should be dealt with. both men and women should put their hands on deck for it.

mynd i have seen you type about this you 'self esteem' and i think you have a narrow definition of it.

self esteem is very broad ok.

low battery, will continue tomorrow.

candieangel12: Ive seen it happen n Ive done it before but that still doesn't warrant the man to beat her. When me n my bf argue, n I would block his way, he would just tell me that he isn't going to argue with me anymore n just ignore me till i get tired. Nothing a woman does should warrant a beating. There was even a couple times he would just pick me up and get me out of his way and then leave.

That's your boyfriend.....try it in ur marriage.

uyiekpenm: Vivian chnaza u are a very reasonable woman.

No one should support and/or condone physical abuse. At the same time women/men should not provoke their partners.

Simple!
Someone like me that pampers her skin.....menh...I go use rope tie my mouth provide it will save me some ugly incidence.

carefreewannabe: How many?

A lot! Just be an eye witness someday.

candieangel12: When a woman and man are arguing and the woman says somethings to anger the man, the only sensible thing a man can do is just calmly walk away. That right there differentiates a real man from a coward because a coward will stay back and beat the woman.

Yes, but I have also seen women who go as far as holding their husbands or blocking his way not to go out. Haven't you seen it before?

Shollypopz: Your level of st*upidity or should I say shock of ur mental slavery is so dumbfounding! Almost unbelievable!

Now, it's st*upid to say a woman should tiptoe, do as her husband says at all times, to never get into an argument that could result into trading of insults because she's trying to prevent him from hitting her. Is she a psychologist??

Why do u think she's the one to fix the problem of low-self esteem, anger issues and psychological problem that resulted from her husband watching his father beat his mum?? Is tip toeing and not trading insults the cause for the husband's tendency for violence??

Is tiptoeing going to solve the real mental and psychological issue the husband has??

Go and learn how to fight fair and win! No woman agrees with her husband all the time but it shouldn't degenerate to insulting him.

I guess that will be a mirage to you cos in your world is all about "fucck yous."

carefreewannabe: Why should I insult my husband? My mama taught me better.

I'm happy about that........but u can test drive him to know what he will do? He might give you a gold medal you know?