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I think she should tell the guy the truth about herself. But if I were the guy I'd dump her.......she is fake.

I appreciate affection/attention more in Nigeria.

1, 2, 4 and 5.

things I read on NL, nawa o.

Yes its disrespectful and its applicable to both sexes.

I think its very immature and poor judgement on the lady's part if she thinks every man that approaches her has the motive of asking her out.

"Hi, excuse me, pls do you know so and so place or how I can get there?".............."Hi, I know, or I don't know." I don't see a big deal in that. Then if the handshake wants to extend to the elbow, take a walk!

cdamsel: if he is good,his good manners cld rub off on d girl & she is glowing,sch means notin 2 me,u can b anytin u want wit or witout a degree,my bad 4 calling him a tout

Ok I get you. But for the record you cant be most things you want to be without a degree or going to school.

cdamsel: na only u miss me ohhh

Bt d guy sef,if he went 2 sch den he shd know dat intelligence isn't measured wit a degree,he is talking like a motor park tout,who cares if he/she has a degree,find wat u can live wit & live ya life,make babies & b hapi

No babe, he didn't do anything wrong imho. Intelligence is not knowledge, moreover we all have our standards.

cdamsel: he feels d girl go leave am run

Welcome back babe, missed you.


Yea there is a 50% chance of that happening.

You can send her to school while you guys date/marry.

I hate kissing threads! Now I just can't get "kissing" off my mind.


#leadmenotintotemptation#

NO!

Its not a big deal.

2sexy: Good for you... I thank God I am of her hook. Kai... That girl na Jezeebel. But today, na frustration, regrets is always written all over her when she sees me...

God is wonderful and I thank Him for what he has done for me in the 3 years she was busy fvcking d oda guy and hoping that he marries her... in the end, did he? nope! I doubt he has ever discussed such topic with her. In fact, they got tired of themselves. You that kind of relationship where non of the party tell the other to go, they just silently ended it.

HOW did I know... she told me and I guess she did that in hope that I will accept. God forbid. [size=15pt]MUMU, YOU GO WAIT TIRE TILL YOU GROW WHITE BEARDS FOR YA KINI[/size]

Sorry for what she did to you........but you gotta let it go. Shi...t happens you know? There is so much bitterness in your heart and its so scary. We all have our stories..........

Good luck my dear.

That guy is so disorganised and its not a good sign. RUN!!!!!!!!!!

okpara ugo: Am not surprised but am sorry for you. Repent before you perish.

The pharisees said Jesus was demon possessed yet he healed their sick.

LittleDon stop being Littleminded.

chaircover: Are you solely responsible for them? are your parents in the picture? if they live under your roof, then your rules and they are just going to have to abide by them. I dont think that shouting or beating will work; they will just devise means to get more clever at what they do. I discipline my son by withdrawing privileges but I dont overdo it or it will loose the effect.

as regards the going to friends thing, there is nothing wrong with them having friends so long as you monitor the type of friendship, what they do, who the friends are etc. so you may have to invest in finding out what is going on and making sure that they are not mixing with the wrong crowd. So if the friends do check out, rather than saying NO you cant go, you can say; you can go for an hour if you come back from church on time and after you have done XYZ chore.

Yea, I'm mostly responsible for them. Well, I will pull off my boxing gloves and do it your way. Hope it works........thank you.

I'd choose teenage boys over girls any time any day........my kid brother didn't give me this headache when he was a teenager. I laid some ground rules and he obeyed.........I didn't worry about him getting knocked up! I'd just go like " hey young man, if you knock some girl up you are so gonna marry her but not in my house!"

But these little rats? For where? If I go like "Nne, I know u wanna use a camera phone, but I don't want you on 2go, 2go is not good, so many people get killed cos of it (I even used Cynthia's case o)." The next minute she is on 2go. Whatever you tell them not to go, be ready to kill them there.

chaircover: vivian OK lets pick things one by one.

They come back late from church....OK! the next question should be why? What are they doing that takes the so long to come back home? do you go to church with them? have you given them chores that they need to do after they get back from church? who are their friends in church? have you considered actually inviting the friends home . . .that way you know where your sisters are and they are not in the street somewhere . . . . Have you laid down specific rules to say "young lady, I expect you back here by 2pm latest" Sometimes they need specific and clear cut instructions etc etc.

The truth is that you are going to have to try and understand the things that make them tick, the things are important to them (which as teens are most probably different from yours) and steer them down the right path cos if God forbid they fall by the wayside, you are going to suffer the consequences too. What I am saying is that not all things work by using brute force and you may have to come down to their level sometimes and steer them from there.

CC decode na, ah ah, I don't wanna type in black and white.


To answer your question, our family friend(that has kids too) live around my house, we are not really much of "friends" people. Yes I attend church with them and I have also laid some ground rules but they just choose to defile those rules and that drives me crazy.

Modified.

@chaircover: Thank you, really appreciate. I hope I don't kill them before I apply these words of wisdom.
For the record, all the part they are threading I never threaded! I often ask them "where did you learn all these?" "Have you ever seen me did this".............. They say being the first daughter entails setting good example for the younger ones, so why are they not following my lead?

To be so frank, I don't think I'd keep my cool when for instance they go to church and come back by 4pm instead of 12pm. Especially when the 14yrs old is involved? So how on earth am I supposed to hand them a glass of chilled juice and "talk about it?" So yea I'm usually closer to killing them than I am to talking about it with them!

A friend of mine told me that at this their age, that I should pray they outgrow these things without serious damage.......but I'm so so scared they are about to ruin the life they are so eager to live.

Sometimes too I force myself to pretend I don't care, but the truth is I truly care, and I want them to be the best they can, and even better than me. If there is anyone who should ruin her life to protect them it should be me! There is nothing I wouldn't sacrifice just so they become better, and they are aware of this! So what in God's name is wrong with them?

I should keep my cool and "talk about it" with them? Done! I'm gonna try my best, that's if I don't kill them first!

okpara ugo: Chinaza, are you married

Your point is............?

NEGZY: Too many immature minds with irrelevant opinions in this forum. When serious issues re brought up,if u dnt av any tangible thing to offer keep quiet or just use a smiley to express urself instead our pouring out nonsense

My dear I tire o.

Thanks guys for all your contributions. Honestly, I have talked, taught, come down to their level, advised, played, beat but none is just working! Its just so frustrating! Two of them are partners in crime.
They are already technologically grounded............

Well, I have resolved to separate them, send the older one home to stay with mum........I just hope this method and all your suggestions work.

Thank you once again.

2sexy: I guess that is the same thing my ex will be wishing by now...

Her ex number 2 don fvck her for 3 good years and no marriage plan, which she probably left me for, on the way... lol!

[size=16pt]You gurls got FISH BRAINS AND BLIND AS BAT[/size]

If that's ur story good, well, good for you!

But as for me, I won't come on here and talk ill of the two people that once meant the world to me, no matter what.

maninmood: My subjective judgment:

Your ex number 1 is now a rich, wealthy guy with a befitting mansion on Victoria island and a range rover
Your ex number 2 is still a wretched guy trying to survive

Sha I lie?

like seriously?
Ok, if you must know..........
My first ex was the "wretched trying to survive" guy but he was a great guy and we were perfect together. Well, not everything you touch belongs to you. .
My second ex........he was stinkingly rich but very humble. Long distance thingy.

Still very much in touch we both of them.

Pls, I need new ideas cos I have run out of one. My 2 teen sisters are driving me crazy.......and I'm this close to selling them! .....prospective buyers pls indicate your interest.

To my ex 1: If I could turn back the hands of time, I wouldn't let you go.
To my ex 2: I have nothing to say to you.

Mynd_44: Believe me, my intentions were not so serious. I meant see as you organise everything together into one cohesive post and you flared up.

Chill girl nobody is after you.

Well I guess I am sorry is in order and I will not refer to you anymore.

Apology accepted.........you don't have to blame me, your choice of words were not so good coupled with the fact that you are used to calling me names, that I overlook it doesn't mean its ok by me, I'm very sensitive to words.

We are good, but I just wish there is a way we could disagree without names calling.

I'm sorry too for flaring up.

passionate88: me na GUY o... me get am 4 abunna

Omg! I'm sorry ok.

Idowuogbo: And u are my thermostat, u no dat rite? Oya squeeze me! Ouchhhhh vivi! It will tear o!

Omg... *hides under the bed*

Idowuogbo: I have forgave and forgoven u. Oya turn ur yansh let's have make up sex.

you are therapeutic, you know that? Well, I'm crushing on you too.