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In my own opinion, I think its bad for a man to hit a woman but we women should be cautioned too; a man is a man, we shouldn't go to the extreme to provoke a man. Most times it takes the grace and fear of God for a man to overlook such provocation.

My dear, pls don't marry him if you are not comfortable with his weight. If you do, you will wake up one day and stop being attracted to him and that's where the real problem will start. It doesn't matter how long you have dated him. If what you feel for him can't cover his size, babe pls take a walk. Goodluck.

Babe just learn how to control those fantasies becos more we come. We all fantasize about people other than our partners all the time. You are not allowed to act on them cos they are not real ok. But trust me more are coming and it doesn't make you less of a good girl. It makes you human. Goodluck.

My dear, its now a general thing o, they call it trend. Why not take a trip to Bayelsa state then you will reconsider. Once an average bayelsa man sees you, what comes to his mind is sex. It doesn't matter how old they are or how old you are or how you carry yourself. They believe in the supremacy of money. I'm sure some people in other parts of the country have their observations too.

Good point! I think some of the reasons marriages fail are firstly, they are no longer in tune with the bible standard, God's standard. 2. Love has now become conditional; everybody now loves somebody cos of one reason or the other. 3. Most of us go into marriage for the wrong reasons. Most of us go into it with expectations, I mean let's face it, marriage is what you see is what you get. 4. Most of us ladies are more interested in the wedding and gold ring than the marriage itself. We forget that wedding is a day, marriage is a journey.
I think we should realize that God is the founder of marRiage, and marriages should honour and glorify God. Love should be unconditional; love shouldn't be manipulated with some kind of game neither should it have any formula. Unconditional love remains the same and guarantees forgiveness even when we fall short of who we should be.

@ Bee160; lol,,,, I know you are trying to help but pls I'm not emotionally wrecked ok! I'm too young for that buddy. If u read and understood my thread very well, I made it clear I don't want a boyfriend. I just want to find my way back, like go back to how things used to be......learn how to have fun again without wondering what happens next. Then, finally I don't think one's profession affects his/her personal life............. Things are complicated everywhere ok, the youths are compromised, no one is sincere anymore, no one believes in love anymore; its survival through deception; so how on earth is this world gonna be ok? How can people find love when we believe it doesn't exist? No brother, this generation can never be compared to that of our fathers nd trust me professions have got absolutely nothing to do with it.

@ Bee160; lol,,,, I know you are trying to help but pls I'm not emotionally wrecked ok! I'm too young for that buddy. If u read and understood my thread very well, I made it clear I don't want a boyfriend. I just want to find my way back, like go back to how things used to be......learn how to how fun again without wondering what tomorrow happens next.

@Dailynews; you just confirmed what I suspected. No no no, you are so beneath me, I'm not gonna waste my time on a puppy like you. Pls don't forget to take that bottle of malt and a bone too when you are done barking!

At Dailynews;;; whoa whoa whoa...... You really sound pathetic! If it makes you feel worst, I'm really beautiful, besides, every woman is beautiful and that really bothers you from what I can see. So you jump to the lagoon, I sip a cup of cofee, everybody is happy! Lolz....... Seriously guy get a life....if a stranger can stir so much sadness in you....then you need help!

nyere84: I truly undastand dear, because, i had a hrt break dat broke me into peices. I realy miss being in love, but sincerely, am nt yet ready 4 relationship, untill nxt yr. As for now, am enjoying all d attentions 4rm guys as a single babe. Enuf toasting & alwyz free lunch 4rm my place of work, church, house, road, facebook, etc. Infact, i tank my ex for walking away, i didnt knw life can b dis fun. Girl, relax nd get ova it, bfore entering into a new relationship oooo. Just my advice.

Thanks babe.....nd I'm so sorry you got insulted for trying to advice me. Don't take it personal ok, shit happens on social network!

Hey guys, I really appreciate those of you that made reasonable contributions ok....reading your comments got me rolling on the floor(lol). For those of you who chose to make this their problems by being sarcastic...pls get a hold of yourselves! Its a free world, I mean the sky is too large for all kinds of bird to fly. Thank you guys!

fluid26: Vivian, are you currently working?

To answer your question yes I'm working......though now a white collar job. I'm a very creative person and creativity is my passion but my work is not where I hide when my love life sucks! By the way I'm a wedding planner......I'm into cakes, venue decoration, infact a total package to make ur day a memorable one and ur bride the most beautiful.....so give me a buzz when the bell rings for you! U need to understand that there is a space in one's life that work cannot fill right?

yuzedo: Sweerie, send two passport photographs and[color=#000099][/color] two 6 x 12 photos of yourself full-length (one in black & white) with supporting cover-letter to my e-mail box. I can relate to (y)our situation and i want to love you like fanta & egg. .

Like seriously? You cracked me up a little! I'm actually smiling amidst tears......but seriously get that mental picture of a hot body off ur brian! Lolz.....thanks anyway.

omega25red: aww pele. it will get better.

if you are still feeling like you dont even want a boyfriend, you should probably stay by yourself and work on your emotions and i think the time off from dating will ultimately do you some good [color=#000099][/color]depending on how long ago you broke up with the ex.

Thanks dear,........I know it will get better but its taking to long. Its been so many months since I parted ways with my ex tho. As for boyfriends.....I don't know. When u are beautiful (ladies) u really find it hard to get a true friend who is interested in your personality and not how hot you ur body is. I think being beautiful sucks sometimes!!!!!!!!!

I feel lonely most times and I try to fill that space up with activities and creativity but my heart keeps yawning for love; to really love someone.......I'm not even sure I want a boyfriend......I just want to be a part of something special. Sometimes I break down and cry, I don't wanna go out and I'm really tired of it. I don't know if this is happening because I'm still very much in love with my ex or another psychological thing. I know this is a phase I have to pass through but the truth is I don't know how to, right now I'm feeling kind of lost......how do I go about this? What should I do? Has any body in the house felt the same way........honestly if I don't do something I might just lose it!

Sorry babe,,,,,u just have to go through the pains, it hurts but doesn't kill. I'm still struggling with my own broken heart...... My ex put me through hell, lied to me, knocked some lady up and is marRying her meanwhile the mere thought of me being pregnant was like an abomination to him, the hardest paRt of it all is I'm insanely in love with him. I feel so lost without him but he looked me in the eyes and asked me to move on and I'm doing just that. It huRts less by day and u will surely be ok. If u guys weRe meant to be he wouldn't have left! Gosh we aRe guys such jerks!!!!

I like both complexion but a dark guy looks and feels better on me..........

I have been hurt severally by the people I truly loved and even right I'm nursing a broken heart, it hurts like hell but I ain't giving up on love. Not believing in it makes me miserable. So no, I disagree with you; love is not dead!

I really appReciate all of u that contributed, thank you all. Well, to answeR some of ur questions, the guy was a jerk, he lied to me about something about himself, I got mad, we broke up but instead of him to try and make it right with me no matter what he chose to jump right into another lady who he claims is already pregnant for him. I really love this guy to bits so I rejected his offeR of fRiendship, he says he still wants to be in my life for as long as it takes, that's cRap and we know iR and moReoveR I deserve more than that. I'm not gonna be a footmat for some jerk of a guy no matter how much I love him. But beside all this he is really nice person,,,he Really caRes about my youngeR ones who are kids by the way. They Really Really love him and all get excited about him hence my confusion about booting him out of our lives. I have heard all u said and I'm gonna do the right thing. Its just a matteR of time right?

I'm struggling to move on from a broken relationship....I loved and still in love with my ex but since he made it pretty clear that he is marrying someone else, I have to move on. I cut all contacts with him tho I still miss him a lot. One funny thing is he likes my younger ones and they love him too. In fact, they call him and all that. I'm tRying so haRd to be cool about it..... ShoulD I let them be friends or banish him from our lives? How can I be cool about this without meddling? Pls guys help me out .....