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@MRbRown; for the purpose of learning giving someone benefit of doubt is quite diffeRent from trusting the peRson. Benefit of doubt has to be with pRobability..as in giving someone a tRial....trust has to do with certain! U see when someone passes these trial u pRoceed to tRusting this peRson! Let me answeR ur question yes I could go to a guy's house (that I just met) foR dinneR..... Because I don't tRust him yet I might go with my gun,,,or opt for just a drink. While I was at his house I will be very obseRvant of him. The way he comport himself will determine if theRe will be a second visit oR I will come back with my gun the second time. Once he earns my trust I will stop going with my gun and maybe staRt sleeping over!
With due respect sir, u are the one confusing and contradicting urself. In oRder to drive down my point the moRe; you applied foR a job and ur cv/qualification say u are the right man foR the job....the company cannot trust u immediately to be the Right peRson......until u have been inteRviewed! That interview is giving u the benefit of doubt hence the trust (appointment) if u prove them right.
So one moRe time......when I meet a man I give him the benefit of down, when he proves me right I proceed to trusting him.....the same thing is applicable to the man.
Haba oga this is quite simple!

@chrisbenogoR: lol,,,,dude....it takes moRe than beauty challenge and online RemaRks to get me angry! I don't have to prove anything ok.....if u wanna see my pics u gotta ask nicely, I might consideR and let you get a peep! Lol......*winks*

@MRbrownjay: sorry for uR lack of comprehensive skills in this matter. Now let me break it down foR u.
1. I tRust a man I'm in a relationship with cos he eaRned!
2. BefoRe I start tRusting this guy I have given him the benefit of doubt and he pRoved me right hence my tRust.
3. I give everybody the benefit of doubt iRrespective of the gender, this means foR instance I believe that whatever anybody tells me is the truth until they give me reasons not to believe them again.
4. I'm trust woRthy, but human beings aRe not spirits oR soothsayers to know this until I eaRned it. People only give u benefit of doubt until u eaRned theiR trust! Benefit of doubt is a probability while trust is certain! So yes when I deal with people I expect them to tRust me......and I try not to make it difficult for them me.

Yes Mr. When u don't know people, u can't tRust them, u only give them the benefit of doubt and let them prove themselves to be tRustwoRthy! It also depends on what u are tRusting for! E.g There aRe boyfRiends u can't tRust with money but can trust them in other aspects!
I believe what I wRote is self explanatory, so don't blame me for ur inability to digest. Thank you.

@chrisbenogor: lol..... If this is a plot to dRaw me into beauty and sexy contest, guy u failed! Cheers buddy!

@mynd_44: yes I am, my word is me and I am my word!

MRbrownJAY: can someone pls ask our NL sistas the important question:" if they dont find it withtin their battered hearts to trust us, WHO are they going to trust then?! donkeys, computers?!

I can tRust a man only when he has earned my trust. I give everybody I meet in life the benefit of doubt until they prove me wRong! And oh yes I expect people to tRust me cos I know I'm trust woRthy but I have to eaRn theiR trust too!
MoReoveR, trust is easieR when u actually know this peRson and what u are trusting him oR heR for. FoR instance I love meat.......lol.....and u can't tRust me over meat....lol unless I made a promise neveR. to touch it.

@slimyem: I respect ur opinion ok but I disagRee with you on the paRt of "most supeR sexy beautiful women allow their physical to get into the betteR of them and they become the most valuable asset they posses." The tRuth is as women we chose our part irrespective physicals.....most times our backgRound/upbRinging play a huge role in this. Kim chose to be who she is.....celebRity, fame, fast cash, etc.......Michelle also chose to be who she is...family, a wife, a mother. Their looks played no role in the life decisions! I have seen women who don't have the look like Michelle but they aRe worst than Kim, and I have also seen and been with women who are super sexy and cute but even betteR than Michelle.
As a gRowing child wheneveR I see supeR sexy beautiful women that aRe homely, decent, intelligent, humble, educated, etc it humbles me and I would be like "if this woman despite heR beauty and super sexy can be like this then I wanna be like heR and even more than her" and that has shaped me into the woman I have become today! Do I acknowledge than I'm beautiful and sexy? Yes! Do I allow it get into my bRains? No! Not that I can't let this beauty and sexiness get into my head, but I have chosen this path of life and it has been working for me. So whateveR we do with ouR lives is the choice we have made, it has nothing to do with looks!

vivian chinaza: WhetheR rich o or poor an ugly guy is a no no for me! He must not be movie staR handsome ok but that doesn't mean he used look like monkey. I wanna be comfortable around him not terRified biko. I'm allergic to ugly guys!

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WhetheR rich o or poor an ugly guy is a no no for me! He must not be movie staR handsome ok but that doesn't mean he used look like monkey. I wanna be comfortable around him not terRified biko. I'm allergic to ugly guys!

Thank God foR wheRe I come from, we don't discRiminate against osu even tho we acknowledge that they exist amongst us. So once I'm certain theRe is no hereditary sickness oR disease, oR bad trait I will definitely maRRy him.

@slimyem: Don't you think a girl could be sexy, hot, head turning yet decent and homely? OR is there a rule that says hot, sexy and head turning ladies are automatically bad girls?

I'm a little bit of both. I'm moRe of a Michelle........with a little trait of kim.

I can only trust a man who has eaRned my trust! But once in a while I give people the benefit of doubt and brace myself for the consequences.

Your girlfriend could actually stay for a week without calling you? Are u kidding me? Dude she is not in love with u. No lady will be in love with u and not call u atleast once in 2 days. Pls move on already she doesn't deserve u.

Happy birthday dear!

fluid26: ^^^ I ain't no lady!! However, I'd say I'm fairly inconsistent with the 2nd.

Of course I know u ain't no lady. Lol....... Well I was just pulling ur legs.

@fluid26; lol......hmmmmmm no I don't. Do u?

fluid26: Hmmm...lemme see...

* Constructive thinking
* Culinary skills
* Organizational skills

Lol at culinary and organisational skills

Oh boy........no matter how high I dey I no fit raise hand slap my man ooo or any other man...... Hehe.....where my mouth go na? I go dey shaRp while legs are ever ready foR a marathon race in case holy spirit wan move thRough his hands. Lol.......... On a serious note, any woman that slaps a man should expect the consequences.......if he hits u back better, if he doesn't and walks away u aRe just lucky.

1. Sexkillz..... He sounds intelligent but too seRious.
2. Fluid26.......He is so funny, intelligent and full of surprise
3. Mynd_44 ..... He makes sense sometimes, still sees a better world
4. Idowuogbo.....Girl u no fit kill me with laugh lai lai.
5. Slimyem.......She sounds cool, no pretence.
6. Onila ........Sounds cool too
7. Ikekings 1....Badt guy.... A little bad won't hurt...lol

These aRe my favourite NL names foR now!

The first and only time I fell in love my world changed. Whenever I look around all I could see is just the two of us, nothing else matters and no one else exists. That's serious trouble! *singing* .......if this is the kind of love that mama used to warn me about, I'm in trouble, I'm in real big trouble.......someone pls call 911..............

Mynd_44: No. I am marrying her cos I love her and not because I want kids. If I want kids, I could just knock some broad up

I just love you for this!!!!!

@pDude; youR post is so irrelevant.........try something useful ok.

@mynd_44; the post did not say "give oRder" it said "asked". Trust me no man will order me unless if its to shut up. Lol....u know how women mouth dey Run na .......

@mynd; ofcouRse he would ask in a polite manneR, he won't command me, that way he recognises I'm an adult. I can respect a man but he will not loRd oveR me all the time. I can allow him lord over me sometimes cos I want him to feel in chaRge. But I must be in love ooooo, I can only do this when I'm so in love with someone cos I'm so stubboRn that it takes only love to contRol me. If I'm not in love with the man he is just wasting his time peRiod!

@mynd; He will. In fact its what we practised...........we both use blackberry but we don't ping when we are together. Make calls anytime...........but no pings.....if there is a need foR us to stop then why not. I once left a guy cos we woke up together and he didn't bother that we exchange "good morning" he just gRabbed his BB and pinged away, then afteR 3hRs oR so he now shouted "good moRning baby". In my mind I smashed that BB and then demonstrated it by smashing the relationship.

@mynd_44; I understand what u mean ok lol........... I'm a very firm person, I don't easily loose my ground. He knows me better. I just believe he should feel safe while he respects me. Moreover, the last time I checked love and ego don't work together.

@Rully 2: you are right! But blackberry pings is a huge distraction and very annoying to some men especially when u are addicted to it. And that's the only reason a man/woman would complain about it. People even forget themselves on traffic cos they aRe pinging. I have worked in a place where use of phone is prohibited. So he wouldn't ask me to stop if it wasn't necessary. If I could do it for my job then I can sure as hell do it for the man I love.

@Mynd_44; Read my post very well, I said it depends on the seriousness of the relationship; it could be marriage or something close to that. Moreover everybody does not come with the same system softwaRe; what works for u in ur relationship might not work for me in mine. I will always choose the man I love over a blackberry anytime anyday. I have actually listened to ladies brag "I will never do this" or "I will never do that" when they even go through so much more to keep these men in their lives. And that "submission" thingy? As a woman you will never really understand the true meaning of that woRd untill u are properly in a man's house. And oh yes we are in 2012, all men appear to be modern but trust me there is still a tiny thread of 1930s in them! If that's the reason u wanna shoot uRself pls use my gun!

How do u expect to find true love when u don't believe it exist?