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There is no secret I can't tell the man I love. Its better he hears it from me than having a blast from the past!

@ayobase; sorry if that came out wrong to you......of course I know u are catching fun, we all are. Life is too short right. That "twisted" thingy is just a joke.

Why is it that being a good person is being perceived as weak and foolish? most times it seems being good doesn't pay off anymore cos u will be exploited, ridiculed and taken advantage of while the wicked are being celebrated. Must one be ruthless in business in order to make profit? Must a student sort to come out with good grades? Must a lady sleep with a man to get a job or any other favour? Must a politician lie to get elected? Must one glorify himself or "join the trend" to fit in or be appreciated? Must one be manipulative to get what he wants in life? Must we all practice survival by deception? What happens to those who can't? Is there any hope for them? Does evil ever prevail over good? Why do we celebrate evil instead of good? I'm a firm believer of being a good person becos I believe for everything good thing I do someone is a better person because of it. But sometimes it seems it doesn't just pay off!!!!

ayobase: This one no be matter of wetblanket...she ordered for fluid and see what fluid is doing to her....she don forget wetin carry her come here...LOL!

Lol! Guy ur mind is so twisted!

For me its love.

I think I understand where u are coming from. I'd be scared too. You are scared cos u don't want to mess things up. Going into a relationship with a friend you really like is scary cos if anything goes wrong u might loose both the relationship and the friendship. My dear, somethings are worth risking,,,,,if u really love her and she feels the same way about u then give it a try. Just have a heart to heart conversation about this to make sure both of u are on the same page. Good luck........

@fluid26...........lol. Well, yes u are! Or at least ur posts and comments are! But sometimes its cool kinda.

gloriana: d no. 1 reason is sex. In d cos of my discusn wit som men,i discoverd dat most couples treat sex like a ritual wich must b fulfild. Dey dnt rily explore n njoy sex. D man goes 2 d woman at night 2 fulfil his marital duty while d woman lies down n alow d man access as d humble n obidient wife performin her wifly duty. Nobody want 2 b d bad guy instead d man prefers 2 do his adventure wit oda women n go as wild as he wants. Somtimes either 1 of d partners might b having sex related problem. Unhealthy sex life has bin d major cos of broken mariages after money n offsprings. I usualy recomend a particular suplement 2 dem after which u c dem smilin like a sophomor. Sex is ment 2 b enjoyd n nt endured.Somtimes dey fil dez no way out but cheatin.

Sis I totally disagree with u.........with due respect u make it sounds as if we are talking about marriages or relationship of the 70s. Come on,,we are in 2012 and we know better about sex but we still cheat! Young guys in young marriages cheat, most times ladies too! Even if one of the partners is inexperienced there is room for learning new ideas, that is what people in love do! And imo I don't think ur partner's sexual skills has anything to do with how you connect during the act. There is no moral justification whatsoever for cheating. A cheating boyfriend or girlfriend grows into a cheating wife/husband cos u are simply a cheat and its no big deal to you anymore. When I made up my mind not to cheat no matter how unavailable my partner is I didn't do it for him, I took that decision for my own benefit cos once u start cheating there is no going back.

@fluid26: good to have you here finally. I know u are full of mischief (I dodge my eyes sha in case u wan blow me), so u wanna be bad with me? We can accomplish a lot of things u know? Just bring a plan to separate those kiddos! So camera rolling.......and...action!!!!

@bendazum and yield: I'm a huge fan of love provided its not teenage love but if u guys don't take ur love nwa ntiti off my thread I'm gonna so spank u cute bombom.....lol.

@mynd_44: they don't actually need a referee so beat it bro. or my long cane finds u too.
Seriously guys, u actually think this will work? This is a disaster.....and u guys are supposed to be on my side not hers.

@fluid26: good to have you here finally. I know u are full of mischief (I dodge my eyes sha in case u wan blow me), so u wanna be bad with me? We can accomplish a lot of things u know? Just bring a plan to separate those kiddos!

@bendazum and yield: I'm a huge fan of love provided its not teenage love but if u guys don't take ur love nwa ntiti off my thread I'm gonna so spank u cute bombom.....lol.

@mynd_44: they don't actually need a referee so beat it bro. or my long cane finds u too.
Seriously guys, u actually think this will work? This is a disaster.....and u guys are supposed to be on my side not hers.

@fluid26: good to have you here finally. I know u are full of mischief (I dodge my eyes sha in case u wan blow me), so u wanna be bad with me? We can accomplish a lot of things u know? Just bring a plan to separate those kiddos!

@bendazum and yield: I'm a huge fan of love provided its not teenage love but if u guys don't take ur love nwa ntiti off my thread I'm gonna so spank u cute bombom.....lol.

@mynd_44: they don't actually need a referee so beat it bro. or my long cain finds u too.
Seriously guys, u actually think this will work? This is a disaster.....and u guys are supposed to be on my side not hers.

I'm gonna divorce him period!.........cos my very fragile heart can't bear all that........ I will stand by a man when the going gets tough but when he goes out of his way to make life unbearable for me? We will be talking to our lawyers...... Alugburum onwem na di?

Honeymoon? Hmmmmm let me see.......The Carribeans! Gosh I love theiR very beautiful beaches, provided I will have my own kitchen there! Lol.......A girl can dream! Viv pls wake up.................

Amya: Ah the elder sister dilemmas! How old where you when you had your first boyfriend?

I think she respected you enough to make her boyfriend come to you first. Don't try breaking them up.

Advice you sister on how to handle her r/ship (no sex or anything that might lead to it) and tell the guy point blank that he shouldn't mess up your sister.

Chaperon them at all times.

Babe do you blame me? If in my mid 20s I'm still afraid of guys.....then I think my teen sisters should run away from guys. I think I'm closer to killing them than I am to chaperoning them but anyway I will do as u said. Thank you.

Ok.....this may sound cool but I'm not finding it funny! My 17yrs old sister's boyfriend came to seek my permission to date my younger sister!I Played it cool cos I was being civil, you know how strong teenage love can be! My sister actually thinks she understands boys better and I'm very scared for her. She has a very bright future and I don't want her to be messed up. If I openly fight her about this I could lose my relationship and friendship with her. So guys oya help a sister out.....people like fluid26 where una dey?

No........I just opened my palms and let him go cos I was playing the "good girl" card.

There are no reasons men cheat...they just cheat especially those that don't have the fear of God. Then to the question of do ladies get bored with just one man? Well, I'm not married yet, so imo as a single lady, when I'm not in love with a guy I get bored of even talking to him let alone doing it over and over....but when I'm insanely in love with a guy the "doing" gets better by the day........... I think cheating has everything to do with the principles and habit u cultivated as a single lady/guy. A guy/lady that cheats when single will definitely cheat mean maRried. That wedding ring changes ur status but sure doesn't erase who you are!

December

Hmmmmm............. Well I can do a quick perk on the lips.....but full blown kiss? I'd probably pass out! Lol.

98% of men cheat........its in their nature to cheat.

Tonight I celebrate my love for you......... Peabo Bryson.

of course she is cheating on you! Smh..... What other evidence do u need? Having stated that fact....let's now deal with it. First of all you have to realize you are man...could life get any worst? I know being betrayed hurts like hell but u need to get hold of urself, calm down and approach the matter like a man. You alone know ur standards, what u can or cannot condone. There will be no need bringing down the house cos a reasonable does not wash his dirty linen in the public, the act is disgraceful so don't humiliate urself any further....if u have kids this shouldn't be discussed before them....... Quite take the adulterous woman back to her father's house. But u need to figure out why she cheated on u......I know most of us are adulterous in nature but what you men don't understand is there are reasons women cheat. One of those reasons is payback, maybe u are also screwing the landlord's daughter or anyone else( pls don't blow my eyes o). But no matter what a woman should be a woman in the truest definition of it! I'm really sorry u have to go through this but pls try not to kill the woman cos u will end up in jail! Good luck......

of course she is cheating on you! Smh..... What other evidence do u need? Having stated that fact....let's now deal with it. First of all you have to realize you are man...could life get any worst? I know being betrayed hurts like hell but u need to get hold of urself, calm down and approach the matter like a man. You alone know ur standards, what u can or cannot condone. There will be no need bringing down the house cos a reasonable does not wash his dirty linen in the public, the act is disgraceful so don't humiliate urself any further....if u have kids this shouldn't be discussed before them....... Quite take the adulterous woman back to her father's house. But u need to figure out why she cheated on u......I know most of us are adulterous in nature but what you men don't understand is there are reasons women cheat. One of those reasons is payback, maybe u are also screwing the landlord's daughter or anyone else( pls don't blow my eyes o). But no matter what a woman should be a woman in the truest definition of it! I'm really sorry u have to go through this but pls try not to kill the woman cos u will end up in jail! Good luck......

Pot...... Gosh he is so hot and he rocked my world!

Love does exist........just that its not as rosy as we think! Love is pain but at the end you win!

I'm so loving this poster with the love of God! Best post ever!

In my opinion, the lady should come out clean and tell the truth cos lie will definitely lead to more lies. The lady must be heartless if she walks down the aisle with this huge secret. Whether she has to go for the abortion or not should be their decision together after the man must have calmed down. But if the man can't let this go which is understandable, then she should have her baby since she has the resources to take care of the baby.